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Q: I need help on fashion. I usually wear baggy clothes and I dont know how to mix n match things. I like cutesy stuff but when I wear it, it seems weird.

Is there any websites with fashion pictures? So maybe I can try to copy that look. What are some stores that i should go to? urban outfitters?

Urban Outfitters is good. Hollister, Abercrombie & Fitch, and American Eagle are also cute if you're into that style. They have pictures on those websites (hollisterco.com, etc.) of people with outfits on. If you're on more of a budget, some department stores like Kohl's might have cute stuff, Aeropostale, Forever 21, Wet Seal, etc.

Q: hey thanks for answering my jeans question so fast. i have another one for you.

i am like between 5'1" and 5'2", what is the average weight for a size like that

no problem.. it really depends on your build, bone structure, age, maturity, things like that. it's hard for me to tell you since i don't know you, but any where between 90 - 129 is average i believe [i read this on a website]. i hope i helped you!

Q: what are some good stores to buy jeans from?

do you know any good brands too?
thx.

I don't know your style or where you live but some stores that sell them are: Hollister, American Eagle, Abercrombie & Fitch, 579, department stores, Kohl's (alot of people think that they have really good jeans there) Aeropostale, Jimmy'z, and a lot more.

Brands:
Angels
Paris Blues
Mudd
& stores like Hollister carry their own brand.

Q: ok i was with this guy for a few months and we just kinda drifted apart... he was always in trouble even if it wasnt his fault, he was just in a "rut" at the time...well we still keep in touch he'll call me every month or so to see how i'm doin and he tells me how he's been stayin out of trouble, working a full time job, and has a car (which he didnt at first) and i very happy that he's turned his life around...but my question is...why does he call me...is he just being friends...or what? i'm so confused and feel like a jackass but i need advice. so please give me ur imput...thanks so much.

personally i think he's just being friendly, but i could be wrong. he probably calls you because you guys used to be close and he doesn't want to loose that.

Q: i know this is really weird but are there any bras who can make your boobs look smaller?

sports bras push you down a little more, but if you have big boobs [which may be why you would want to make them look smaller] it might not give you enough support. find a bra that is NOT padded (alot of them are) and not a push up (they make you look bigger, too.)

Q: im 15/f about 5'5",around 130 lbs, and on a diet. what would be a reasonable amount of calories to consume per day? thank you :)

To loose weight, I always try between 1200-1400.

Q: What exactly does "crunk" mean?

I assume it means getting drunk, or high...but I am really not sure.

Guess I am getting old!

To get "crunk" means to be crazy and drunk at the same time.

Q: Hi,

I recently bought some clothes from the Hollister at my mall. I am a 17 year old boy and think the clothes are nice.

When I got home and showed my 13 year old brother the clothes I got (a polo and a sweatshirt) he started screaming at me and said that only posers and gays were Hollister.

I know quite a few people don't like Hollister and quite a few people do.

I am wondering what people think of boys who wear Hollister?

alot of people answered this question already, and i don't have time to read everything they wrote, so if i repeat something, i'm sorry.

well, it's up to you to wear what you want to wear and not let others influence you. but as far as what girls and other guys think, too much hollister is kindof gay. it's not hot when a guy has everything from hollister. yeah, a polo or a shirt here and there is okay but just make sure you're not overdoing it. =]

Q: okay so i've liked this guy for like the whole summer pretty much. but one of my best friends has liked him for about a full year. i don't know if he likes me but he's really fun to flirt with. i don't want to like him anymore but i still do and can't help it! please help. thanks =]

well, first think about what's more important to you - your best friend [that hopefully will always be there for you]? or this guy that you might go out with for a couple monthes? if she is your BEST friend, then you don't want to cause a messy fight over some guy that's just fun to flirt with. even if you like him, ask yourself it's worth it to risk your friendship with your best friend to have a probably not long-lasting one with this guy?

Q: Okay well I get pretty bored with the songs I have, really fast. I'm into pop, hip hop/rock and stuff (not country or rap that much), could you guys give me lists of your favorite songs? Ones you think I might like? I'm into Chris Brown, P!ATD, Cassie, The All-American Rejects, and stuff like that, so any suggestions of music like the music they all play would be helpful :) Thankyou guyss.

i love rock so here are some bands; i know alot mroe if you want more:

Dashboard Confessional
Houston Calls
Taking Back Sunday
Something Corporate
Sugarcult
Motion City soundtrack
Jack's Mannequin
Blink 182
The Starting Line
The Scene Aesthetic
The Academy Is...
Angels && Airwaves
Daphne Loves Derby
Dave Matthews Band
Death Cab For Cutie
Goo Goo Dolls
Fall Out Boy
American Hi Fi
Hellogoodbye
Hot Hot Heat
Hoobastank
Weezer
The Spill Canvas
The Offspring
The Click Five
Plain White T's
&& alot more.

Pop:
Cheyenne Kimball
Jessica Simpson
Saving Jane
Vanessa Carlton
Tyler Hilton
John Mayer
Teddy Geiger

Q: I have big boobs and a small waist. So I have a problem with buying shirts. They either don't fit over my boob and the shirt ends up looking short. Or they do fit over my boobs but its all saggy and too big around my waist.

Does anyone know any stores or styles that could help me out here?

i don't know if other people said this because i don't feel like reading what they wrote haha sorry, but Abercrombie & Fitch , Hollister and American Eagle all have longer shirts. you're lucky because longer shirts is in style so you'll proabbly find some there. good luck

Q: is it normal for people to cry over nothing? like seriously! i think something is wrong with me, maybe depression or something? but i can just sit here and start crying for hours. and so many things will just run throug my head.. do i need help?!

it depends. if your a teenager, hormones run wild and may cause you to cry over nothing. but if you fidn yourself thinking of ways to hurt yourselves you may depressed, or if you don't want to get out of bad all the time and you're ALWAYS crying, you may want to seek help because you may be depressed. but, yes, sometimes people just get sad/stressed and will cry over 'nothing"

Q: Me and my boyfriend were fighting a few days ago. We were swearing and stuff, and he goes "shut up you cooctie eyed bitc*. I don't really know what cooctie means and I tried looking it up but maybe he spelled it wrong so if anyone could help me figure out what he meant, that would be great. And I can't ask him because he's not talking to me anymore. Thank you.

maybe he meant cock-eyed.

Q: i mostly shop at ae, but now im starting to like hollister. if im a small in shirts at american eagle, what will i be at hollister? like are the sizes different or the same? thanks a lot:]

AE sizes run bigger, so you might be an xs or just a small at hollister. you should try them on to see.

Q: im 13/f and i want to start wearing make-up to school. i have greenish hazel eyes and red hair. and glasses. anyone have any suggestions as to what kind of make-up i should wear?

not too much. eyeliner (black or brown), mascara (black), eye shadow (pearlish color, light pink, light brown, light green but make sure its not too bright, etc - there are lots of colors of eyeshadow but make sure they're not too bright or distracting or they'll look stupid), lip gloss, cover up/foundation if you think you need it.

Q: on the first day of school kids are always hanging out with there freinds in litle groups they dont really care about the new girl and i dont want to juststand there by my self but i dont want to go up to them and be all you have no clue who i am but be my friend what do i do?

look for people in a semi-circle (it mean that they're open to other people coming up) and that are smiling and don't have their arms crossed. i know it might seem scary but you can just go up, introduce yourself and ask them about their summer. if someone came up to me and my friends and did this, we wouldn't think that they were weird - we'd just talk to them! people aren't as scary or mean as you think. and by doing this you'll make some new potential friends right off the bat - and, that way, if you see them at lunch or in one of your classes you won't be afraid to go up and talk to them because you already did it! good luck and if you need anymore help drop one in my inbox.

Q: What is the difference between saturated fat and fat?

saturated fat is a type of fat. for example, there is trans fat, saturated fat and unsaturated fat. trans fat is the worst for you, and unsaturated fat is the least bad out of the 3. saturated fat is not as bad as trans fat, but it can raise your cholestoral. hope i helped.

Q: Hey peoples

rachel is probably self-conscious and waits to see other people's opinions because she doesn't watn to be "different" and she wants to be accepted or whatever. try making her realize thate even if her opinion is different, nobody's gonna get mad. everyone has their own different opinion. you should hint to her about this, or if it "comes up in conversation" - like your talking about opinions or something, idkk - just say like yeah, barbara thought i was gonna get mad at her when she said pepporoni and i was like haha thats so crazy! or something

Q: Me and my 2 friends are all 13, and were going to the mall on saturday alone, like without a parent or nething. We all are probbly going 2 go into JC Penney's and get push-up bras lol so i was wondering if stores alow young people (like minors) to buy push up bras without an adult or older person there.

yeah you're allowed to, there is no law against that and they won't say anything about it at all - its against their "policy."

Q: so i have this friend and lately weve been getting into a lot of fights. basically she has a lot of problems with the way i look but instead of telling ME about it she always goes behind my back and talks about it with someone else or talks about it on a website. and i think she thinks im mad at her because shes saying all this stuff about me which is part of it. i mean she claims that she wants to help me but when she talks about me she uses phrases that could be put a LOT nicer so it seems like shes really just making fun of me. but like the real reason im mad at her is because she always goes behind my back and talks about it. its like shes afraid of me or something...like if she tells me theres something wrong with me im gonna murder her in her sleep. but now we arent really talking and i dont feel like talking to her if shes just gonna keep on going behind my back like that. i mean should i talk to her about it or just move on and find more friends who actually care about my feelings? (btw im 14 and a girl) thanks!

first of all, why is your friend worried about YOUR looks? it's none of her business. she sounds jealous & self conscious to mee. friends are supposed to accept you for who you are, not go behind your back and talk about your looks. because she's talking about you and being rude to you about it, she's probably putting you down to make herself feel better. if you want to try to talk to her, say something like, "look, i know you've been going behind my back and saying stuff. if you are going to say anything, say it to my face because that's really low and not what a real friend would do." if she denies it or is rude again, move on - you dont have to completley drop her but start hanging out with your other friends more and such. try and make new ones, too.