Hi everyone! I'm andi...better known as sparkle26. im a female in my teens. here's some things about me...i love music...especially rock n roll and i play guitar. i'm also an artist-in-training. ive been painting at an art studio since i was 4 or 5.i'm also a runner. my philosophy is to always look at life at a bright, lively perspective. feel free to ask me a question any time!
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Due to my own lack of trying, I was dismissed from college before I could begin my second semester. I failed four classes and boy was my father was upset, and with good reason too, of course.
He told me to find a new job or else I'd have no car, no phone, or Internet, all essential things for me, or I could join the guards and retain that. Not an option for me. So I found a new job, and I now hold down two.
But then, today, he said that if I don't work full time, which is impossible with two jobs, that I will be walking to work, which is also impossible as both places are miles away, and it is Winter.
How do I handle my dad and fix all of this? (link)
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I would talk to him..tell him that you deserve a second chance. Tell him that your 2 jobs aren't flexible enough to work full time.Tell him that maybe you'll try to apply for college again, and work extremely hard to not fail classes. You could even go to a community college for 2 years, like a practice run for a real college. If this doesnt work tell him you want him to still love you, despite you faling your classes. I hope this helps! Good Luck!rate me if youd like!:)
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My boyfriend and i have been dating for almost a year. He always would rather play games and hang out with his friends with me. But yet when im not around he goes out of his way to hang out with other girls and then says there just teases so i have nothing to worry about. What does he mean by their just TEASES???? And how do i get him to be more interested in me then them?? All you guys out there plz give me your insights. thankyou (link)
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If he doesn't like you for who u r, chances are you should tell him how you really feel. He probably is preoccupied with being a boy, unfortunetley you can't make anyone like you, but you can speak your mind. Ask him if he still feels the same way. If he rejects you, and doesnt make eye contact when your telling him this, do not get discouraged. There's plenty of other guys that are probably interested in you. If he doesnt like you for who you are, dont change, change the guy your dating. If he isnt understanding and sympathetic when your having a talk with him, hes probably nervous. Or he feels embarrassed to show his feelings for you, and tries to not hang out with you. If he does feel this way, try to tell him, you shouldnt be embarrassed to show his feelings to you, tell him your here for him. Bottom line:if he really does like you, and hes too shy, be there for him, be patient.If he doesnt like you for who you are, theres always other guys in to u.I hope this helps! Good Luck! Rate me if youd like!
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We'll I had a bad childhood an I've seen alot of stuff a kid shouldn't. See and I have really bad flash backs of things and it seems to make me very paranoid what do I do PLEASE help i also have anexiety (link)
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I would try to clear your head about things you enjoy and get your mind distracted. Talk to your friends, listen to relaxing music to get you off of the topic. If that doesn't work, you should talk to someone ur closed to or go to a guidance counselour. Think of all the positive things that have happened to you despite your childhood. Don't let your past take controll of your like. Look to the brighter future you can have..it isn't your fault you had to go through bad things. You can take charge of your life, the only person who can take control of your life is you. Dont think its your fault that you know things you shouldn't.I hope this helps!Rate me if ud like:)
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i am 13 years old, i want to get my cartdilage peirced on both ears, my mom will let me. But does she legally have to be with me? Can if i wanted to go to the mall with my friends and get it peirced there, with just them there? Do i need parent consent? Because i know u need parent consent to get your tragus peirced. (link)
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I think you do need your parents' consent. If your going to claire's or the peircing pagoda look up there number and ask if you need to bring a parent. If you have someone that's 18 or older and they bring you, it should be fine..but i'd call to make sure first.I hope this helps:)rate me youd like!
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I was with my boyfriend today and we went to the store to get some snacks, right when i went to get out of the car, my dad pulls up next to us so i put my hood up and my boyfriend drove away. my dad called me over and over so i didn't answer until i got home about 3 minutes later. He texted me saying that i'm lying and that he'll never buy me a car or anything like that. I'm 16, my bf is 17. I think i have the right to do what i want at my age. I live with my mom, so i don't get why he cares what i do when its not his visitation day. Ive been with my bf for 13 months. Should i just tell my dad or should i keep hiding it? I plan on moving in with my dad next month, but now im scared. He said he'll kill any guy who touches me, blah blah blah. and the thing is, that he's serious. how should i handle this? i'm so scared :( (link)
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The best thing is to talk to your dad and speak to your dad in a gentle, mature manner. He'll sort of get the vibe when you talk like that that your growing up, and you need more freedom to decide for yourself. Tell him that your getting older, and that he can trust you not to make any bad decisions..Tell him that you want to hear his opinions, you just don't want him to decide for you. Tell him that he raised you right, and that he should be able to trust you. Tell him that your a responsible young adult that deserves more respect. Don't be scared. It's part of growing up, your dad should understand. I hope this elps!Good luck!Rate my advice if you'd like:)
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So there is this cute boy that I am attracted to. We don't talk because we don't really have a reason to. However, one day I was around him in the class he was in and he kept glancing at me and days after, he would constantly steal glances at me, in passing in the hall or when I'm with other my group and he's with his I will notice him quick look over at me. Sometimes they are even long stares, to the point that one time he almost stumbled over the person walking in front of him because he was to busy looking at me. Now, today, my friend (she's in his class with his best friend) and I was talking to her outside of their class as he and his friend were sitting there waiting for the bell. She later texts me and said that the boy's friend had said "poor (my name)" and they started cracking up laughing. I don't know why they said that and she didn't hear any more of their conversation. But that just proves to me that maybe this cute boy isn't attracted to me. I don't know what to do. I am 16 band female, he is 17 and male as is his friend.
Do you think he is and if he is, why do you think his friend said that?
Thanks! (link)
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He probably does like you...usually when someone makes fun of you and stares at you they're trying to hide the fact that there attracted to you. He's probably embarrassed to speak the truth. Try to be yourself, show off your personality more around him, dance around him at the school dance..stuff like that to drop hints that your into him.Then, if he does like you, he won't feel as embarrassed if he knows you feel the same way. Good luck! i hope this helps.
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Awkward question but my stomach is killing me. Yes I'm on my period. Any suggestions on how to feel better.... SOON (link)
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Try to get your mind off of it! Get distacted by doing what you love! Like playing outside or hanging out with your friends! Drink some juice or something...(seriously) or maybe some soda to soothe your stomach. Since its carbonated it will help your stomach. If that doesn't work take some tylenol...If that doesn't work then talk with someone you trust on the phone, talking and sharing how you feel about pain will help relieve it. Tell your parents to take you out and get your mind off of it if your friends arent home. I hope this helps!:)
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Hey
i dont get if im insecure or not.
I mean i am pretty confident @ talking to people
and just being myself really. But i feel so down sometimes. Like, i look around and see all these people that are so happy, and im not. and they're so proud of themselves over everyhing and im not. especially these; theyr all skinny, and pretty .. and im not. and everyones in a relationship..and im not. i get so sad about it! i feel like a loser! (link)
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Never feel like a loser.Go up to those people tell them that u wanna hang out with them sometime. Chances are, they've never have seen who you really are. Be yourself around them, if you have confidence around them so will they! Don't be jeolous, be proud of who you are and show it to the world! I hope this helps with your self image and anything else your having problems with. Good Luck!Feel free to rate me!:)
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Hey, so there's this guy I like and he's kind of a player. Only a little though. I was wondering what are some ways to play his game better? Anthing on this will help. Thanks! I'm 16 and he's 17. (link)
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Make jokes, laugh, be yourself! If you want to show off your style, go for it! he might just like you back! If not, don't get discouraged, plenty of fish in the sea! if he does like you back, take it slow don't get too serious too soon.BE YOURSELF!
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It's a bit of a long one!
I have two friends who I've known for a few years and in this time they've made their feelings known for each other which is fine by me. The trouble is, he doesn't know what he wants, where as she wants a long term relationship with him. She keeps asking me for advice and I'm just running out of things to tell her. I tell her that if something was going to happen, I think it would have happened by now. But then things do happen, like they kiss or he tells her he loves her and loves spending time with her but then seems to pretend like it never happened. When she asks him if they're going to get together he says maybe, I just don't know what I want. They're planning to go away on holiday together for two weeks in June this year and she wants to know if she should go all the way with him, but she doesnt want to ruin their friendship as she thinks he'll just pretend like it never happened, which will mean she will end their friendship because things haven't changed, which would also ruin my friendship with them too. What advice should i give her?
Thanks in advance! (link)
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Tell her to take it slow, serious relationships too fast can lead to heart break and bad things. Tell her if you don't think he's treating you right, there's plenty of other guys who would be happy to treat her the right way. Tell her easing into a strong and healthy bond with her boyfriend is the best way to do it: not a weak bond and unhealthy one. Tell her that you need to have patience and be understanding in a relationship. tell her if she or he's not ready, there's plenty of fish in the sea. I hope this helps!Good Luck!Rate me if you wat too!:)
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im a female andd i turn 17 in two weeks.this guy from my work whos 22 recently told me how much he likes me. which happens to be alot. since i started working with him weve always flirted alot and i just thought of it as flirting and am always constantly reminding myself he doesnt like me im too young etc. but now its much more complicated and my mom would not approve of us dating. he also says i remind him soo much of the first and only girl hes been in love with wouldnt that cause problems for us since im definatly not her? (link)
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I agree that it's too big of an age difference---but wait: tell him you would like to take it slow for a while until your a little older, and you are mature enough to have such an age difference. Tell him that you feel the same way, so you'll be an unofficial couple for a little while. If this doesn't work, tell him that your mom wouldn't be happy if you dated someone that much older than you. Be open to possibilities of younger guys liking you, and that you want to take it slow in your teens. Relationships are big sacrifices that sometimes you should date younger guys, that can relate to you more. Don't pick the first guy that says he has a crush on you. There's plenty of fish in the sea..if he gets mad at you for speaking your mind in a gentle way, then he's not understanding enough to be the one for you. Good Luck! I hope this helps. rate me if you want:)
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I have been seeing this guy for about a year. It all started as a drunk hook up with him, an acquaintance back then, and after that we started seeing each other more and more, until we became best friends and developed feelings for each other. I have had a rough year and he has stuck by me through it all. During the summer, I wanted to start a relationship. I told him that I didn't want to just be friends with benefits anymore, I wanted to take the next step and make it official. He was hesitant, but he agreed. We were official for three months. During that time we fought a lot, so we decided to take a break because it seemed like things were better when we weren't officially together. He told me that the reason he agreed to a relationship with me was because he didn't want to lose me, but I could tell that he didn't truly want to be in one. So we did the unofficial thing for another few months, nothing changed except we stopped fighting and grew even closer. Yet in the back of my head it really bugged me that I was not good enough for him, that he's just using me for the benefits of a relationship without having to put in any of the work himself. I talked to him about that a few times, and he said he just feels more comfortable being what we are now. So last night I finally decided to end it because I was beginning to resent him for that, I don't like waiting around and catering to him whilst he finally decides he wants to be in a relationship with me again. I told him that we should just be friends without the benefits. He said alright let's go for it, that he understands.
I do really want to remain friends, because we do have a really beautiful friendship, but its painful at the same time because at the end of the day I still love him and want to be with him (I'm not sure if he knows that though. I've been pretty emotionally distant from him the past month or so). And I know he still cares about me but he just doesn't want an official relationship.
Did I make a mistake? Should I have stayed and waited some more? I really saw us getting married and having kids someday (he was even vaguely bringing it up), and I feel like I screwed it up. Should I tell him I think I've made a mistake?
When I've asked him why he doesn't want a relationship, he says its because of the obligations. He feels like he's obligated to spend time with me, so its forced on him. However, when we're not in a relationship, he spends time with me because he wants to. And what he said held true: when we were together, I rarely ever saw him and he didn't really pay attention to me. When we're not official, he's obviously happier and loves spending time with me. But what bothers me is that he's had girlfriends before so obviously that wasn't an issue in his past relationships.
The biggest reason why we fought while in the relationship was because I rarely saw him because we weren't taking any classes together, and I didn't have a car. Now we see each other every day because we have a class together and I got a car. So I feel like we won't have the same problems if we get into a relationship again.
Ugh. What should I do? At the end of the day I'm happy with him regardless if we're official or not, its just something that bugs me and eats away at my self esteem and makes me resent him. Did I make a mistake? Should I just talk to him about it some more?
We are both in college, and we have been exclusively seeing each other since we met. (link)
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No. You didn't make a mistake. I can see why you feel that way. He probably spends time with you like your brother and sister---not his best friend.He probably thinks that if you become a couple, then he's afraid you won't have that amazing bond you always have had, he doesn't want to break that relationship.I used to like my best friend who was a boy, we confessed we liked eachother...but we couldn't take not laughing with eachother the same way. i admit your in a sticky situation..but if you can't get your mind off of him, tell him that you want to be a couple, but be best friends at the same time. Tell him that we'll be even closer friends if we become a couple. I hope this helps. Good Luck! Rate me if you want:)
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I'm in 9th grade and I have this really cool guy friend. We share a lot of similar interests and I can't tell if I like him or LIKE him (you know what I mean). He's really nice and cute, and I could see us together, but at the same time I don't know much about love (I've been single my whole life don't laugh) and I can't tell if I like like him. I don't feel shy around him and we'll talk all lunch period about random nonsense. Am I falling in love with him? (link)
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If you picture him with you, and you picture you laughing with him, chances are your developing a crush. But no worries! If you have a school dance coming up, dance with him! He'll gradually get the message that you like him! There's no harm in exploring new things!but take it slow at first..you don't want to over whelm him, but at the same time let him know just enough that you like him.Be yourself.Let him realize that he might just like you too. If it doesn't work out..There's plently of fish in the sea!I hope this helps with ur first LOVE! rate me if you'd like:)
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Okay so i have this socials proect do and we have to make a civilization. But I cant think of names! I need names for sports and I need some help making sports because they have to be original and Holidays and I need a name for my civilization!!! Pleasseplease help and please dont put silly names that you know no one would ever use this a serious thing!!! Thank you! (link)
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Ok...you need a sport and a civilization name...Well, everytime I have a project I think of a base or a topic of the name which is inspired by my favorite things...or something based on your name..there's this picture book its called "Westlandia" the boy who created the world's name was Westley,soo..Jamodia?Music Mania? of you lik music..Sparklandia?And for a sport, take a sport you love and change up the rules a bit. If you like soccer, and you name your civilization jambidia, you could make up a sport called Jamball and who ever guesses a song gets to try to kick the ball into the goal? I hope this helps!Rate my advice if you want:)
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