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Q: i've had my period for about a year and a half now. i've tried using tampons but every time i do it hurts soooooooooo bad!! i can barely even get the tip in and i know i'm putting it in the right hole. i need tips on how to put tampons in because i want to use them not stupid pads. (

Go to this website http://beinggirl.com/en_US/pages/goods_tampinsert.jsp

... they even have a little movie showing how to put it in and everything. Hope it helps.

Q: a few days ago my best friend(a girl)asked if i wanted to go to the movies.i said sure and i decided to invite my boyfriend to come along too.he has done things with us before but never said what he said to me.he told me he didnt want to go because he didnt like my friend and he never has he was just too afraid to tell me.now i am really upset because my best friend is upset. we cant do things together nemore. i am really close to both of them and now i cant even talk about them near each other because i know they dnt like it even if they dont say nething.what should i do?

Did you acutally tell your best friend that your boyfriend didn't like her? Because that was kind of an ass hole thing to do.

Q: i need help about a friend....we have been talking on the internet and like we have gotten so close...its unreal...but i lied about my identity...its not that i don't like the way i look this picture was a lot better...now i feel like a loser cuz i really want to tell him the truth but i am afraid that he won't talk to me anymore...and i really don't want that he is too fun@ HELP PLEASE! I will RATE REALLLLY HIGH!!!

Well, it sounds like he will never acutally see you, so whats the point in telling him? If there isn't a way for him to find out don't worry about it.

Q: Ok i am moving...and i live in one place and im moving to another and im only moving 10 or 20 mintues away and all my friends are really sad!Im not gonna be going to there jr high next year either... and i dont know how to react to it can you help me!!??

Oh my gosh, so your moving and you live in one place and your moving to another, that crazy, is that even totally possible?

Q: ok so a couple of days ago my chrch went to camp.. jst the middle school people... so i think i really changed but when i came back i broke up with my boyfriend and i just don't feel liek hangin out with some of my friends like that go to my school. iu mean i don't feel liek hangin out with my best friends and i don't know why.. most of them go to church or are vistin churches but i don't know whyn i don't wanna talk to them or hang out with tme even though i love them all to death!! i mean it feels liek im doin the right thing but how can i be doin the wrong thing when i'm not talkin to my best friends?? i just need some help so if someone would!! i rate high!!!!!!!

Are you mentally retarded? Oh wait your Christian that explains everything.

Q: My boyfriend and I are currently long distance and often find ways to masturbate together. Recently I had an issue where there was some bleeding unrelated to my period. I figured that since I was a virgin my cherry may have popped; it wasn't thick like I had really torn something, just sort of dark pink and watery. A month or so afterward it happened yet again. It didn't lead to an early period (in fact my period wasn't until a couple weeks afterward), so I'm pretty confused. Is this normal?

If you were putting something 'up inside' you could have just torn the sides. Try not to be so rough.

Q: I've tried using tampons and I want to be able to use them for the summer, but everytime I put them in (i know the right spot) it gets stuck after a certain point, even when I use slender, and it doesnt go up anymore. Help!

Take a stick and push it with that.

Q: Im not fat or chubby but i want to tighten my muscles in my thighs. Do you know any exercises that help target that area? Also, of course i need some of the healthiest foods to eat so im not taking up all of my energy so can you do some research on exersices and Dieats and everthing I need to make my diet book. Thanks...
Ill rate high if you help and make a good workout for me.
p.s. dont leave out any details!

Jog. But if your too lazy to research exercises and diets on your own I don't think you can acutally do it.

Q: I have a friend you always says she's really depressed. At first i really was worried and i belived her to the fullest, but now its like she does it only for attention!! I hate it! She wont even eat anymore! I try to get her too but she refuses to! I dont know how to act around her anymore, cause she always takes everything the wrong way, Please please please help!! I'll rate high i promise!! I just dont know what to do!

Don't give her any attention, don't try and make her eat, just act like you don't care.

Q: I had a dream that my guy friend & I were "doing things" & I know I'm really starting to like him. Should I trust this dream as like a sign that we should start a relationship?

Haha! Maybe your just horny. So you should just sleep with him, because then he would know that you like him and you wouln't be as horny.

Q: i have this friend,we'll call her sandy. Sandy always copys me..she likes my bf..she is wicked mean to me..she brags and brags..she says that shes ugly ONLY so me and my friends tell her that she is not ugly. Im slowly breaking away..i dont want to be her enimy i just dont want her to be my friend...

Is there even a question in that statement?

Q: In my school in Social studies we always have to do projects. And the teacher assigned us to be partners with somebody. I got this boy and ever since i have been working with him for a couple days and everytime we work he gets closer to me. I dont know if he likes me and i dont know if i like him. im all confused.

Your question is...?

Q: Alright! I really like this boy and he thought we broke up because i didn't reallt talk to him because when i sit near my friends and with him, i am more tempted to talk to my friends. well, he broke up with me and asked this other girl out who he said was annoying. My brother was talking to him and he told him that he broke up with me because he thought that if he went out with me for a long time, i would talk to him more but i didn't realize it. He said he doesn't hate me but he wants to be my friend. How do I get him to like me agtain????
I rate high!!!!!

It seems like you don't like him as much as he liked you in the first place if you talked to your friends more. Why not just leave him alone because is sounds like your just jealous of him anyways.

Q: I have been talking to this guy (we'll call him chris) and his friend (lets call him anthony) has been calling me and stuff. They are like brothers. Chris had asked me to go to the movies but i said i couldnt. and Anthony asked me to the movies too and i told him i couldnt either but i invited anthony to a softball game...and chris got mad at me and anthony. i dont know if chris likes me or something. and if he does i dont wanna mess up their friendship but i really like Anthony...what should i do?
*ill give u a 5 ranking* thanks

Why don't you talk to them about it? And if they both like you and if going out with "Anthony" will mess up their friendship then don't go out with him.

Q: ok we'll call this boy that is only a friend of mine Billy..my best friend Sally,my boyfriend Tod,and my bad friend Tiana. Well tod and i are close,and Sally's boyfriend is Billy. but today..mine and Billys conversation is --
Billy-hey i got to tell u something important
Me-ok..
Billy--i dont like Sally any more
Me-why? i think you should break up with her then
Billy-i need to tell you something else
Me-ok what..
Billy-i like you but you cant tell Sally anything i told you.
Me-umm i have to go by..
Well the thing is,the might not have been billy.it could have been my very worst friend,tiana. But im not sure. What should i do in this HUGE mess?

First off, why do you change the names? Do you really think that they are going to find out? Second, just don't do anything, let "Billy" and "Sally" work through things by themselves if it isn't "Tiana".

Q: i dont no what to do. my best friend/the guy i love. that "loves" me back. is moving to bosten(i live in ny) and i go to him "are you ever gonna come back to me"? nd he said no. then i asked him if he would forget me and he said yea. then i asked when ur like 23 nd out of collage are you gonna come back to me, nd he said no i will forget you. i dont no what to do im so sad. i cryed alot about it cuz i really really really love him. and now hes moving in 2 weeks. im crying right now. im gonna miss him alot, nd he is going to forget me. someone please tell me what to do. i need help

I RATE HIGH.

- confused

Whats your question? He doesn't love you, get over it.

Q: ok, so recentally i have been crushing on one of my friend's brother. I know she is really protective of him and i dont know if i should tell her or not. what should i do?

Don't tell her because as you said its only a crush and if you tell her she might not want you over at her house or anything close to her brother and it might come between y'all.

Q: Okay, well.. this was my first time having sex. but it was like a spur of the moment thing and i didnt even realize it was going to happen. but i was like no i cant get pregnant but he said that if he didnt keep it in long enough to ejaculate that there was no chance that i could get pregnant, is this true?

No that is not true. You can still get pregnant there is a thing called pre-ejaculate (pre-cum) which can contain sperm. But really if you didn't know that already you are probably too younge and not educated enough to be having sex. Go to teenwire.com for more information.

Q: Well..i have these two friends lets call themm Tina and Mellisa well Mellisa has been a very good friend of mine for a long time n she has been my bestestfriend for a while.. so the other day me tina n mellisa were hanging out n then mellisa was acting differnt around tina n i dont like it at all cuz they like talk n say its private n stuff, n i feel like there talking about me n now everytime we hang out it sucks cuz mellisa acts differnt..what do i do?

I think they just don't like the fact that you can't spell.

Q: ok so i go on holiday on the 25th of july. i am skinny but i want to lose weight on the top part of my legs. can any one help me? will i have to change my diet?
ill rate high for good answers.