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Q: Well i have this friend that i've known for years, he's been with this girl of his for a very long time and even though she completely despises me, is a complete ditz, and couldn't come up with something interest and indepth to talk about to save her life , he's stayed with her, mostly out of the inability to break it off and the fact that he doesn't really care one way or the other since he wouldn't gain anything by leaving. needless to say he;s indifferent and putting just enough effort into it to make sure he still gets a fuck every once in awhile, besides she's too stupid to see through anything like that. He's told me a few times he's in love with me but we always agree its better not to really talk or act on those types of emotions since we're both in relationships. Besides i could never imagine being in a relationship wih him so hasn't a clue what i feel since i never intend to tell him. Well anyway today while i was in class he was playing with my hair, which he usually does, then he rested his hand on my shoulder and started rubbing his thumb across my neck, then he moved his hand and cupped my cheek and i heard him sigh from behind me. I don't really know what to make of this, so can somebody help?

One word.
Creeper.
Don't let him do this to you ever again. Or atleast not while he has a girlfriend.
If he doesn't care enough about some girls feelings to break it off with her before he goes around messing with other girls and flirting with them what makes you think this would be any different if you went out with him.
You can't be around him 24/7 you don't have his phone to look through to see who hes texting and you don't have his myspace password to see who hes sending messages to and what about.
If you can't trust him then you shouldn't go out with him and I can tell you right now he isn't a very trusting or moral guy when it comes to relationships.
Let your imagination stop right here if you don't then your ship might just be heartrecked.

Q: everytime i keep going back to my ex boyfriend who always keeps cheating on me and stands me up. and today we finally started talking again since the summer. i dont know if i should go back to him or not. this would be the third time i went back if i did.

Hello?!
Do me a favor and re-read your question right now.
..
If this were someone else what advice would you give them.
Exactly. I'm sure you'd say break it off FOR GOOD.

I'm not sure but I'm just guessing that you don't like to have a boyfriend all the time. Someone to hang out with that enjoys being with you and vise versa but you need to learn to stand alone and single for awhile.

Leave this jerk. If he wants to cheat on some girl don't let it be you... again.

Three times and your out only works in baseball not realationships.

Q: Okay so for the past week i've been dating this guy. We havent hung out yet, weve only been texting, and talking on the phone. But he always sent me texts that were cute and made me smile. Starting this sunday, he was being very distant, and either responded with 2 words, or didnt respond at all, OR took 4 or 5 hours to respond. Hes been doing it for a long time now and i dont know whats up.
do you?

Well he might have gotten tired of just texting?
He is after all a guy.
He could have found another girl.
Why don't you make plans to meet.

Then again he could just be busy.

Q: these little pink dots appear on my body like everywhere. This summer I had the stomach flu(just diarreaha and upset stomach) and like two days or so before it went away, these little pink dots appeared everywhere on my body from like chest down to my legs, covered everywhere. And the went away a day after.
But recently I've gotten them again, only mostly on my legs. And ive noticed that when i dont feel well or im sick, i get these dots. Like last week i didnt go to school on wednesday bc i felt dizzy, headache, stomachahe, throwing up feeling, and i got them on my legs. And i dont know if these little pink dots appear according to when i dont feel well or even my emotions, bc ive been a little depressed a little this week and i have them on my legs again. I dont really know if its caused from emtion/stress? or sickness? idk..can any one maybe tell why this is happening? I also notice that my period is late this month, but i can feel pains and some cramps like everyday and my period still hasn't come yet..and its worrying me a little. my period was supposed to come around Nov. 25th, and im not sexually active so tht wouldnt effect anything. someone help me out here! haha thanks.
15/f/usa

You should deffiently tell a family member about this and go to see a doctor. If you don't in the long run you might regret it.
Go look it up on google.
But no one on this site is going to be able to really help you.

Q: so the first really long term relationship i ever had ended a few months ago. Lasted a year and i finally broke up with the guy, it wasn't a conventional break up though, i said ' i think i need to end this' and he just said 'ok' and nothing else i said 'ok ' back and hung up. last time i talked to him. Then a very very good friend of mine who's been reciting bold declarations of love for me for the past three years finally asked me out and i, of course, said yes. At the beginning it was great, only now whenever he kisses me in a certain way or touches me in a certain way it reminds me of my ex. I might have left over feelings for him but i would never want to be in a relationship with him again, i mean look at how he took me breaking up with him, as if it were nothing. I talked to my friend about it and he said i needed closure some how but i don't know how to get it. I can't talk to my ex because all he'll do is say shit like 'i've always loved you' and try and make me go crazy deciding whether or not i did the right thing by breaking up with him, which i so did. He's not a good guy nd he has a huge ass ego, he cant stand a girl just walking away, he wouldn't help me get closure he'd try to wheel me back in. what do i do?

1. Don't talk to your ex. Stop all contact with him. Delete him from myspace, facebook, and your phone.
2. Let your good friend know that you really like him and that your ex means nothing. You have to put his emotions into this equation.
3. Don't think about your ex. Keep yourself busy. Remind yourself of all the bad times is you do start thinking about him.
4. He sounds like a jerk. Who needs him.

Q: so, i really hate this and have been trying to lose some more weight so this dosen't happen at all, but sometimes when i walk and my legs rub together i get this almost like rash from it. my job forces me to walk a lot and it mainly happens when i work days and days in a row. is there anything i can put on it to make it go away faster? thanks

Work out. Eat better portioned meals. Don't snack. Drink lots of water. At night rub cream on the rash.

Q: Whats the difference between generall gymnastics and tumbling =S
Please help me

Gymnastics has more to it like bars,beams, and the one jump things, and floor.
Tumbling is just floor.

Q: Please do not judge me.
I have been Bulimic for
a year or so now,
and its become so that
i have to do it, its like in my
head, i feel horrible if i eat something
and dont throw it up...
i only do it once a day but
anyways...
my real question is
does it effect your birth control???
started taking it 3 weeks ago and i take it at like 1 in the afterrnoon
and i throw up after dinner which could be anywhere from 6-9 at night...
so does this effect the pill?
like is it still affective???

The pill should dissolve before then. But just to make sure I'd look more indebth. I'm sure you can call a doctor or look it up under google.

You should really get some help for you bulimia.

Q: i want to become a casting director... i know you need some education for that.. but if i went to college for it, what would my major be? (i've read that i should be a film/televison major.. but i dont know if that fits the job title)

You'd take a film/televison major.

You might have to.
If I were you I'd look up colleges and look into their majors and see.

Q: I would like to know if any of you out there have gone to study film/theater abroad...I am specifically looking at europe. I really love French Films and their style of acting. I know that europe is famous for turing out great actors. My top three places are (in no specific order) England, France and Scotland. How did you find the training compared to American schooling? How did you find the teachers? How did you find adjusting to the culture difference and the language difference (if any)? What about the costs? Are they reasonable? Are they free like most schools out of the country? What are some of your recomendations for schools? Thank you.

I know of one in Canada called Vancover Film school you can go on youtube and check out all the films their students have made.

It's really good work and I'd check it out even if it isn't in one of your desired destonations.

Q: Okayy, I really like this guy. in class he sits next to me (we have assigned seats) and he is always turned sideways in his seat facing me. he touches my feet or leg sometimes with his, and i catch him looking at me a lottt! sometimes he looks away and sometimes he'll just hold my gaze for like 10 seconds and then look away, and sometimes he'll smile at me. he's always making jokes and making people laugh and alot of times, he'll look at me to see if im laughing. if we stand in a group of people, he stands close to me, and his arm touches mine a lot and he doesnt move it! SEE! HE FLIRTS WITH ME A LOT! the thing is, he's really outgoing and flirts with a lot of people, but i really get the feeling he likes me, and ive never seen him look at other girls like he looks at me. please tell me if you think he likes me!! :D nand give me tips on how to flirt back with him subtly, cause i dont want to be too obvious! thank you! (:

1. He likes you
2. Why would you want to go out with this jerk. If he is flirting with all the girls now when or if you guys go out he'll probably be flirting with them then to.
3. If he isn't being subtle about flirting neither should you.
4. I'd play hard to get. When he touches you move. Show him that you don't give a crap.