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ok so i thot (im gonna make up names) melissa* was my best friend but she thot emma* was her best friend emma* thot jessica* was her best friend and no i thinks im there bff but anyways melissa* said shes my best friend now because emma* was being mean w/ jessica * jessica* is being a meany and being just soooo mean 2 melissa* because jessica* thinks melissa did sumthing but melissa told me she didnt so i dont no who 2 beleive help me?

wow. its not worth it. don't pick sides at all and let them work it out on their own. this all sounds like immature drama so don't get your self involved.

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I was referred to as an "amazon lady" by someone recently and I don't exactly know what that means. I am a tall woman- 5'9"ish and I think it is a reference to my size but I don't know. I am just curious as to whether or not it is an insult? Thanks!

An amazon women is a tall women of larger build, not to be mistaken by fat. It is a compliment to some women who are proud of there height and dominance. However some women who are self conscious about there height find it rude. I for one think its a compliment. So kudos to you!

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I'm 15/f and starting about two and a half months ago I've gotten a headache basiclly everyday, ive told my mom and she won't take me to the doctor. She may not be concerned but I certantly am, and since I'm only 15 I can't take myself to the doctor, I was wondering if anyone could help me out, and give me some ideas on what could possibly be wrong?

I started to go through the same thing. The head aches could be one of many things...
Do you have long hair? If yes, don't put your hair up in a bun because this can trigger a headache.
Do you have a good diet? If you go all day with out eating, this can sometimes trigger headaches.
If you also have an infection or another pain some where else, this can often trigger headaches.
But either way that many headaches is unhealthy for a young girl. You should seriously talk to your mom about taking you, because headaches are not a normal body function that should be taken lightly. If your mom again refuses, go to another guardian or adult in your life whom you trust. You should get to a doctor soon though. Good luck to you and i hope everything is okay.

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Hey im 18/f and i've it occured to me today that i really dont believe in heaven or god/jesus. It just seems unreal you know. Somebody today told me you could just replace the word "angel" with "aliens" and people would believe it. One of my old classmates died a couple months ago and i kind of want that peace feeling that hes somewhere good you know. I went to church when i was a kid up until i was about 12. I suppose i just believed in it then because everybody else did. But ive came to the realization that i dont believe in it. I think its all bogus. I really want to believe in it :( but i just dont see how that could be real, i think we just rot in the ground, nothing more, no after life your soul lifting out of your body none of that. Can anybody "inspire" me somehow or convince me that there is a higher power. I really want to believe in jesus :(

Thanks A TON!

im the same as you. it really is all bogus lies that are ment to control people. dont worry about wanting to believe in it. religion is a joke that dosnt have to be associated with spirituality. its not worth it. live a life you want to and treat the people in your life good. Be happy. Dont spend your life dwelling on whats gonna happen to you when you die or where we came from. All i can guarentee you is that we all came from the same place and were probly all gonna go the same place. and about jesus. We know jesus was a real man. He lived. And he spoke about treating people with respect and love. thats all you have to believe in. it dosnt matter if he was the son of god or born to a virgin, all that really matters is what he preached to people. the bible wasnt written by "god" or even jesus. it was a couple of dudes. dont waste your time with it. All i can say is that you have a lot of life to live. Things will happen in your life to make you believe different things. just always keep an open mind and heart.

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hi over my 13 years of life i only did 2 sports which were wrestling and swimmine but what are the benefits of wrestling because after 2 years i didint see much results because im still kind of chubby so what sport should i do to lose weight? and what should i eat?

you should probly do some type of sport with lots of running, since thats one of the best ways to lose weight. im suprised you did wrestling without losing weight cause thats a hard sport, so its probly your diet. eat 5 small meals throughout the day, all healthy (breakfeast, snack, lunch, snack, dinner) make all your proportions smaller, and cut out fatty foods. drink lots of water and get lots of exercise

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Alright so I'm 18/m and I want to take up a new sport before it's to late. I have played Rugby since I was 7 or so and am getting quite bored of it.
Some things that might help in finding something new:
I am around 5'9
I weigh 152 lbs

yeah i would have said lacrosse. you sound perfect for it. but i dont know how much they have it in new zealand. So try soccer, if you like running it would be good for you

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im going to quit travel soccer soo i can do more dance. my coach always would say im going to loose you to dance one day. he like loves having me on his team. but i just want to do dance. how do i tell him??????

yes just be honest, and tell him you really love dance and it would make you happier. since hes an adult he should be totally cool with it. If not then fuck him, do what makes you happy.

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well i have been with my boyfriend 3 months and 3 weeks.& we have been talking about sex for awhile..& he said he is a virgin and says he wants to lose his virginty to me.When we were talking about sex i told him that i have never done anything with a guy but i LIED!i have been fingered before by one of my ex boyfriends.but i was ashamed to tell him i was.cause i would have never thought i would and i would tell people how much i hated fingering and that i would rather to just stick it in!& we might have sex soon and i dont want him to find out im a bit loose & that i lied to him!!!

will he find out if i have been fingered before,when he sticks it in???

he wont tell. theres no way being fingered once can make you loose. especially if your ex only used 1-2 fingers. its okay, but you should be honest with your boyfriend about what youve done. lieing in a relationship will always come back to bite you in the ass.

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23/f

ok so i have a problem getting into the mood. i do find my fiance attractive and i love him its just that i cant get into the mood. is there a problem with me?

no not at all. some girls have a hard time getting in the mood with their boyfriends or significant others. you just need to see if things are getting boring. is it always the same old same old. If this is true you should look into spicing up your sex life. Try differnt foreplays, roll playing, or just being spontaneous and doing it some where unusual. But no matter what you should communicate to him about what you want from him, and hopefully he'll do the same. good luck to you guys and i hope everything works out!

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Lately my life has basically been all about sports and school. A couple of years ago my life was all about going out with girls and hanging out and stuff. but since high school I got disconnected from my socialable friends. And almost all of my "sports" friends are in the same problem as me, they spend so much time in their sport and school work. I also go to an all boys school which doesnt help at all. Even though i do spend alot of time on academics and sports, its not like i dont have time to do stuff its that its been over two years now since ive done somthing with my "old" friends that i dont know what to do and how to get back into doing stuff. I feel like that when i left my old school for my new school i wanted to start over fresh, but my "start over" didnt involve doing anything outside of school and training for sports. And latley ive tried talking to this one girl i was always rly close with and took her to a dance once and lately she has been ignoring me. it feels like even when i try to do stuff with my "old friends" they have "new friends" to do stuff with. and my "new friends" are just like me. So what im asking is how can i get my friends attention. One thing i did was try to have a halloween party which was going to be huge over 500 ppl and a bunch of my old friends were going to be there so i could hang out with them, but before it happened the neighbors called my parents and it was ruined. So basically im wondering how i can kind of get their attention. I wouldnt even think about not doing sports anymore bcuz ive gotten several college sports scholarship offers from big time schools for football and track.

I sorta went through the same thing. Ive been playing lacrosse my whole life, and its always been a huge part in my life. In highschool it was easier to balance friends and sports and school work because there was still a lot of time, even though i played all year. Then I went to a D1 school to play lacrosse, and my social life became lacrosse. Between practices, weight lifting, conditioning, and games i had no time to party or have fun. I love lacrosse and i always will, but i wanted that college expierence. So I switched to just playing club. I got a lot of heat about this from players and coaches, and the term "waste of talent" got thrown around alot, but it was the best decison i made. As long as Im playing lacrosse im happy, and now i have time on my hands to do other things. So you should seriously think about what you want your college expierence to be like, and ask your self "is it worth it?"

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My bf of 4 years told me to take a break about three days ago...i dont understand why he would ask me that bcoz he was the one who messed up..we constanly aruged becoz his girl friends from school kept texting him, and it really bothered me alot..i even cried and told him that i dont appreciate them texting you and he seemed to not do anything about it...so we got into this really deep arugement about the girls texting him....n now he wants a break..i dont understand why he would want to take a break instead of trying to change and work things out for me....He thinks that since we been together for long and wanna get married in the future that its ok for him to take advantage of me and do wat he wants bcoz imma always be with him..idk what to do.....im just really mad that he taking a break with me...

Well it could be one of many things...
He could first of all be feeling really tied down and since you guys seem to be young, that can be a scary thing for a guy. He could also want to expierment with other girls, guessing that since you've been together for so long he hasnt been with other girls. Or he could just be tired of fighting over small things and simply just want a break. But either way, you shouldnt wait around for him. You should go out and see what else there is. Im not saying go out there and have sex with a bunch of guys, but go out there and meet people. It would be good for you. And you dont want to become your bf's door mat. You cant let him get the idea that he can go out there and hook up with other girls, and youll always be waiting for him. Be stronger then this. I went through this same exact thing in hs so i know how it feels.

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