about

my name is chassidy. but please call me chassie. i'm really outgoing and i love to have a good time. i like to party and get down with my girlies and we always have fun, no matter what. we're all pretty different. i cheered in high school, and i played volleyball. now i'm in college, living it up! i love most kinds of music and i love my car. my stang is my baby. i am with the love of my life, bobby. he is 24 and i'm 18! my parents and lots of people don't like us being together, but i just say fuck the haterz! i love my best friend, brandi. she completes me and i would die without her, she's my roomie along with candis and caroline. i like chanel. i love horses and riding fourwheelers. i'm a sexual person. i don't care what people think about me, and that's perfectly fine. i like to help people. i'm a secretary now at a bank. i love my family and my favorite color is pink. i love my hometown of new york city more than anything. i'm from manhattan, but i'm currently in texas. i love my boyfriend, friends, my job, family, animals, alcohol, sex, music, and my life.

advice

what color is auburn?

it's like a reddish brown. i used to have it!

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14/f i was wondering what people thought about nose piercings not a ring just alittle diamond stud..i got mine done awhile ago and i was wondering if people like them or not

i love them! i'm getting mine done for my 18th birthday, i'm super excited! so ya, i'd definately keep it. i like studs muchhh better than rings.

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15/f

Okay, well I have a wonderfull boyfriend who ive been with for a long time. I am a religious girl, and he is also a very religious guy. We have both agreed not to have sex until marrige, but we have talked about it and both agree on the subject of fooling around before marrige (pretty much everything up to sex) In the past couple of weeks I have been getting these urges, like that making out isn't enough for me anymore, but Im scared to go any farther then that. Idk Im like afraid that God will shun me or something. Yes I know we agree on fooling around before marrige, and yes to me it seems okay for everyone but me to do it! I've been reading some of these posts and some people suggest masturbation for these urges, but again, Im afraid of God hating me or something. So basicly I have two questions:
1)Is it wrong to fool around with someone when you aren't married?
2)What kinda stuff can you do, that isn't too extreme?

it all depends on what you really want. God will always love you and he will never hate you for what you have done. after all, everything happens for a reason and i believe God has a special plan for each and every one of us. I'm very religious and catholic, and I have had sex. I did regret it at first because I was scared what God and my friends/family would think, but now everyone knows and it really wasn't that bad. I pray to God each day and have asked for forgiveness, and God does forgive. just do what you want, but make sure that you won't regret anything later. good luck (:.

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does fingerin hurt the first time? & does it hurt a lottt? or a little? is it even pleasureable the first time?

it make hurt depending how tight you are. but most likely it's very pleasurable. sometimes the guy can get too into it and may become overly aggressive, i've had that happen to me. and sometimes it does hurt. and if that happens just tell him to tone it down a bit. the more gentle it is the more pleasurable it will be. good luck ;).

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So my boyfriend is almost positive he got genital herpes from an ex-girlfriend. However, he hasn't been tested and he hasn't had an outbreak. We've been having sex, intercourse and oral, protected and occasionally unprotected. I'm wondering what my possible chances of catching or having caught herpes are. Thanks in advance.

you should both get tested asap and if you're going to have sex make sure it's protected.

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okay, so normally i forget to take my eyeliner/ mascara off my eyes when i go to sleep. so i just go over it in the morning if im not showering.


is this bad? is it dangerous to my eyes??

thanks!

i do that a lot too, but it's really not the best. not cleaning your face may cause break outs and if you leave your eye make up on, then bacteria can get into your eye and cause infections.

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what if your boyfriend asks you to have a threesome with him and your best friend what would you do and what advice would you give to others in this situation?

only do it if you want to. not just because your boyfriend wants you to.

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ok...i heard that sex hurts yet feels good..does it?

it may hurt the first few times depending on how tight you are. after you get past the first few times it starts to feel reaaaaally good and you can try new things!

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me and my boyfriend have sex a lot. we have been together almost 2 years. well the other day we had sex three time within a 7 hour period.
i had multiple orgasams and cummed like 3 times in a minute. but after that it got to a point where my entire body tingled and then went numb..i couldnt move at all and i felt like i was going to pass out. he even had to stop for like 15 minutes just so i wouldnt pass out.
i felt high and drunk at the same time and i couldnt even speak without like slurring my words..
is this normal?

perfectly normal, and awesome at that! haha. no need to worry!

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13/f

My names Shantae.. I have been dating this guy on and off for about a year now. I have a problem though. My parents totally hate him. He's 17 and he use to have a drug problem. My parents didnt know about it until I got really mad one night and spilled. Now, they dont want me anywheres near him. I'm inlove with this boy. When I see him the only thing I want is him to wrap me in his arms and hold me tight, i want him to tell me everythings going to be okay and he loves me more than anything. Right now, we aren't dating. My parents do not approve of anything about him, and I'm afraid that he's goin to leave me if we get back together because they wont let me see him, what do i do? Please give as much advice as you can PLEASE!!! :(

I've had the same problem. My boyfriend is almost five years older than me, but we love each other and it took a long time for me to make my parents realize that. he may not be the best person, but he's the best person for me right now. that's what i told my parents. i stopped fighting with them about it and just sat them down calmy and told them how much he means to me and that i'm really happy and that they should be happy that i'm happy. if you're boyfriend has changed, tell them that. tell him he's gotten better and he's going to try to be better for you. good luck!

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Ok..so this guy im talking to is too romantic for me. Like..hes just feminine i could say..he says overly nice things to me..and he just doesnt seem very down to earth and just fun. Everyone thinks im weird because truth is..i dont like the romantic type..i like the fun..outgoing..dont give a crap type. I guess its a bad thing. Am i weird?

it's totally not weird. i don't like it when my boyfriend gets toooo romantic. because i like them to be a little tough. but i do like it when he does random sweet things for me, just not weird creepy things. just don't let anyone treat you like total crap, there has to be a little sweetness in there somewhere =]. good luck with everything!


-chassie

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ok so i have another question to follow up from my first one

i havent decided if im going to make the dirst move yet, but your advice helped me ocnsider it.

if i want im to kiss me first, what are some hints i should drop, but without telling him to kiss me? like i was thinking about putting a song like kiss the girl form the litle mermaid or the song beauty in the breakdow by the scene aesthetic on my myspace. would that be kinda corny, or do you think he would even get it? and and tips on hints for him to kiss me?

i think that would be sweet, if he actually understood what you were trying to get across to him. but when you're together start out by holding hands, and just get closer and closer together. it's really easy to go into a kiss if you like, cuddle before. i always just kinda lay my head on my boyfriends shoulders & look up and just kinda, look at each other for a moment. then he gets it and leans in for a kiss. it really depends if he's able to realize at that moment that you want him to kiss you. and if he doesnt lean in, and you want to make the first move then just gentley lean in and kiss him, not aggressive, just softly. i hope that all made sense. but ya, if ya need any more help just ask!

luv ya, xcHaSsi3.

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I feel like I am loosing one of my best friends. We only see eachother in school... we are in two classes together and we hardly talk cause she is talking to her other friends. I feel like I don't know all of these things about her. Like i found out through a friend that she hooked up with someone last night for the first time. She didn't even tell me. I am really upset about this. What should I do?

i feel ya girl. my good friend caroline and i hardly ever hang out anymore. but my best friends name is brandi, and we are inseperable. as long as you have one good friend it's okay =]. but anways, if she's really your best friend then call and ask if she wants to hang out and see if she wants to catch up and talk and stuff. if she doesn't then that's not very friendly of her. i'm actually going to start doing this w/ my friend because we really need to catch up. ask to go out or see a movie or something. just hang out with her for a while. then y'all will have some stuff to talk about at school. good luck =].

xo cHaSsi3

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my boyfriend fingered me and ate me out for the first time the other day, hes done it twice since then, but everytime he does im always shaking like really bad. And my arm gets all tingly and i can barely move my fingers. haha that probly seems weird. But When im shaking its not like normal shaking,its like vibrating almost sort of..im not completely sure how to explain it..but anyways he said it was normal..is it? and why were my arms getting that feeling? i know i did hav an orgasm but i dont think that would affect my arms really

hun it's perfectly normal. there has only been one person who's been able to make me do that, and it's my current boyfriend. i love it. so enjoy it, it's not weird, it's amazing =]. have fun!

xo cHaSsi3

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My boyfriend and i have been going out for a few weeks now. I'm 14/f. Everyone knew we liked each other and we knew it too, but it was just a matter of him asking me. We talked about it on the phone one night for about 2 hours about how our 2 friends katie and paige said that i wanted him to ask me out. and i did. so he finally did on the phone that night. and i was so excited. ever since hen all i can think about it class is him and when i do i get butterflies over my wholee body and when i think about him i smile. we've been keeping it on the down low becasue paige has a really loud mouth and if she finds out it will be all over school in a matter of 5 minutes.

on the phone that night we talked about how we both like each other and we both knew we liked each other. it was kind of awkward but i loved it.

over the summer i kissed this guy in texas and one night my boyfriend asked me about it, and so now wheneveri talk about going back to texas over the summer he thinks im going to like make out with him. but i don't know if we'll even be together then still. and hes like you only want to go to texas so you can make out with that boy. and i tell him that what happens happens, bu i wouldnt kiss him if we were still together.

so i really like him, and i havent even kissed him yet! i dont know if he wants to kiss me, but all we've done is held hands and hugged. whenever i see him i just want to kiss him, but im scared to make the first move. and i dont want to tell him that i want to kiss him and make it awkward and he mighht tell his friends, which would make it even more awkward.

so i really want to kiss him, but i dotn want to tell him. any advice?
(sorry about the novel! i just had to get all the info out of me!)

i've felt that way before, it's all good! if you really think he likes you as much as you like him, then i don't think there should be a problem with kissing him. i think that's really lame of him to think that you'd come to texas just to kiss some guy when obviously you could just kiss him, haha. but ya, i think if you make the first move, it should be fine. don't worry. but if you do make the first move don't hesitate, just do it. he'll probably like it! i hope all goes well!



xo cHaSsi3.

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I am going to be getting braces over the summer of 2007. I would like to know if anyone had any tips, hints, or advice about anything about braces.

Thanks in advance.

i had braces for 3 years. i recommend doing exactly what they tell you. a lot of the times i'd miss appointments and i wouldn't wear my rubber bands when told, etc. and then i ended up having them 2 years longer than i needed them. brush them a lot and keep them clean. good luck!

X0cHaSsi3.

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The truth is, I'm a virgin.
13/f
But whenever i see a hot guy i think to myself "damn, if i got the chance i'd have sex with him." or i might back out in the end...
and it scares me because one day i will get the chance..
and want to do it..
HELP!!

i went through the same thing hun. it's perfectly normal. you're getting to the point where your hormones are become more overpowering, and that's fine. just don't rush into anything. don't just do something with somebody just because you're mind is telling you ya need to. just wait for tha right time. good luck!

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Me and my boyfriend are gonna have sex soon (both virgins both ready) any tips for the viran over here :P

1. use protection

2. don't just rush into it and don't be too aggressive on your first time. just take it slow.

3. don't let him be too overpowering. tell him what you want.

good luck hun =]!

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I'm not planning on having sex the first time for a couple years or so atleast but I'm afraid I will end up regretting it later on. I'm just curious about the average age girls lose their virginity.

So basically I have three questions..

1. What age did you lose your virginity?

2. Do you regret it or are you happy with your choice?

3. What age do you suggest? (Please don't say when you're ready because obviously I'm going to wait until I'm ready but I'm talking like what's too young, etc.)

Thanks

1. i lost it when i was 14, almost 15.

2. i don't regret it, but wish i could have waited until i found the right person. i was not in love with the person i lost it it, it was kind of just a fling. so that's the part i regret.

3. i suggest anything around 18. sometimes starting out too young can lead to a lot of problems.

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