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Religion Vs. Urge!!!
15/f
Okay, well I have a wonderfull boyfriend who ive been with for a long time. I am a religious girl, and he is also a very religious guy. We have both agreed not to have sex until marrige, but we have talked about it and both agree on the subject of fooling around before marrige (pretty much everything up to sex) In the past couple of weeks I have been getting these urges, like that making out isn't enough for me anymore, but Im scared to go any farther then that. Idk Im like afraid that God will shun me or something. Yes I know we agree on fooling around before marrige, and yes to me it seems okay for everyone but me to do it! I've been reading some of these posts and some people suggest masturbation for these urges, but again, Im afraid of God hating me or something. So basicly I have two questions:
1)Is it wrong to fool around with someone when you aren't married?
2)What kinda stuff can you do, that isn't too extreme?
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it all depends on what you really want. God will always love you and he will never hate you for what you have done. after all, everything happens for a reason and i believe God has a special plan for each and every one of us. I'm very religious and catholic, and I have had sex. I did regret it at first because I was scared what God and my friends/family would think, but now everyone knows and it really wasn't that bad. I pray to God each day and have asked for forgiveness, and God does forgive. just do what you want, but make sure that you won't regret anything later. good luck (:.
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it really depends on what your concious says. you should try to stay away from going to deep when you are fooling around because that can lead to bigger things.
God will not shun you. remember to go to confession if you feel you went too far. in this book i have it says that you should only do "modest acts" (holding hands, modest kisses, embraces). you can make out, but that usually leads to bigger things. but it only depends on what your consious says. everyone says that kissing isnt enought for them, so they go on to oral etc...thats good that you are resisting for right now
hope that helped and good luck!!! :-D
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God Forgives.
And God dont hold grudges.
thats it.
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I'm afraid these are questions that only you can answer for yourself.
It would be wrong for me to say what you can and can't do safely because then I would be forcing my own beliefs onto you (which is wrong for anyone to do).
These urges you have are always there - the urge to do something 'bad' as such. But if you know deep down that they are something you shouldn't do then it's all a matter of will power over desire. If what you and your boyfriend have is special then just take things slowly and give yourself time, what's the rush? :)
I'm not sure how God will judge you or if He will shun you because my beliefs will probably differ greatly from yours (if they didn't I think I'd be in big trouble with God when my time is up) but the only real advice I can offer is to look in yourself and decide for yourself what the right thing to do is.
I'm sorry that I can't be of much more help.
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I used to be religious, and my boyfriend was too. He didnt want to have sex before marriage just because he was raised to think that way. I said that I shouldnt have to sign a piece of paper to be allowed to share something that romantic and intimate with someone I really love. He agreed, and we had sex. Before that, when he was religious, we made out a lot, he fingered me and i gave him handjobs and all. He was kind of shaky about oral sex, since its getting close to having sex. It all depends on how comfortable you are with it. It's definitely not wrong, it just has to do with your morals and outlooks on life.
hope this helped.
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I don't think that fooling around with someone you aren't married to is wrong, but it all depends on a person's morals. If you've agreed not to have sex until marraige, don't have sex.
I would talk to your boyfriend and discuss your limits as to fooling around. Do what feels comfortable for you.
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