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can i have sex
? i am nine years old.
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No. No you can not.
How did you even get to this website? Go play on the playground.
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Please don't tell me that I'm too young to get married. My fiance and I have been together for almost 4 years. We got engaged when I was 17 and he was 19. He's leaving this August for the Navy and he's going to be training as a SEAL. My question is when would be the best time to get married? It's either before his basic in August or after his first deployment which is 3 years from now. I know there's not very much leave time during each section of training and I don't want to get court house married. I would just like some input from others. Thanks :) (link)
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Is he signed up in the Navy already? Get him to ask someone about housing for his wife/family. Sometimes the military will pay for the spouse's housing if you're married before he signs up.
But if that ship has sailed, wait until at least after his basic training.
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Hi my boyfriend wants to have sex but i keep telling him no we are to young and he says if i dont he will break up with me and i love him what do i do? (link)
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Let him break up with you. You shouldn't be forced to do anything you don't want to do and that you know you shouldn't be doing. You have a lot of years ahead of you, don't waste them doing stupid stuff when you're young.
Go watch Sixteen & Pregnant on tv. Do you see how difficult their lives are? Remember that when your boyfriend is trying to get in your pants.
Be strong. If he loves you like you love him, he won't force you to do anything.
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I smoked weed a lot this summer. I enjoyed it a LOT. I'd smoke two or three times a week and I just loved it. I had a bad high once or twice but it wasn't a big deal (I have generalized anxiety disorder so I figured this would happen sometimes).
My anxiety got really bad after that summer (I'm talking panic attacks and depersonalization, which I'd never had before), so I stopped smoking for the three months that my anxiety was very bad for. After it cleared up I tried smoking again, and it was nice, but it wasn't that great content feeling I'd had before. I mean I laughed and had fun, etc, but it wasn't that great.
I don't look forward to smoking and honestly I don't want to do it much, maybe on occasion at a party but not often. Most of my friends like to smoke multiple times a week and love getting fucked up but I just don't. Drinking is okay and so is smoking but it's not something I'd go out of my way for.
People thought I was a lot cooler when I smoked all the time. I want to enjoy smoking again. I don't know how. Ideas? (link)
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Smoking weed isn't necessarily a bad thing in the way that smoking cigarettes is because weed won't give you cancer (as far as they know currently). But weed IS illegal.
You don't have to do all of the same things your friends do. In fact, your friends should love you enough that you can stop smoking and they'll still love you. Talk to them about this.
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how can i grow a bigger butt (link)
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You can't exactly grow a bigger butt any more than you can grow bigger boobs. Exercising helps, though.
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me and my bestfriend have decided we like eachother in a way that most people thinks wrong. we're both girls, i'm fifteen and she's sixteen, and we've ended up making out and doing little things when we're really drunk but we don't know what else you can do? we're going to try doing something sober to see if it's for us, but we don't know what to do, as we're both slightly uncomfertable with going down on eachother as its just a bit weird, and like, i don't know. we just need something to do but we're unsure of what girls can do with eachother. suggestions welcome! thankyou(: xxx (link)
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You've heard this already, but don't drink. Fifteen and sixteen is way, way too young to drink. It's illegal, for one thing. It's dangerous, for another thing. The problems that you'll encounter if you get caught drinking by someone in authority will be much bigger problems than "what do we do in bed?" problems.
BUT on the other note, go slow. If you're comfortable, then keep going. If you're not comfortable, stop.
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Hey so I know my boyfriend likes being on top (during sex) and he knows I hate being on top yet whenever we have sex he refuses to be on top. He says he's too strong and I'm too small an he'll "go too hard" and hurt me. Would it actually hurt...? I'm 5'5 110lbs and he's 6'2 185. How can I show him I can "handle" it? Haha (link)
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I'm with Abby.
Just tell him to try it just once, nice and slow. Remind him that people all over the world have sex with different size/shape of people and they're just fine. If by "too hard" he means "too rough" then just remind him to slow down.
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well me and my boyfriend love each other! and we slep together alot of times. but whenever we have sex i always get worried and afraid that im pregnant! but it always turns out to be false. well last time we slept together was in beginning of april. i took a plan B pill right after and got my period a week later when my regular period is supposed to be like... today? i took a pregnancy test 17 days after having sex and it came out to be negative. but i didnt get my period yet. i got a huge fever yesterday and so im really dizzy and headaches and cramps... i dont know im really worried. cause im really young and my parents would kill me! please help :/ (link)
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Okay, you're going to get this response from someone so it might as well be me. Live by this rule: If you're old enough to have sex, you're old enough to have a baby. If you're old enough to have a baby, you're old enough to take care of a baby. If you're not ready to do one, you shouldn't do the other. I don't know how old you are, but you said "really young" so I'm going to go with saying that regardless of your love for your boyfriend or vice versa you should be more careful about getting so serious so young.
Okay, now that my lecture is over I can say that you're probably just worrying yourself to death. If you are young and have only had your period for a couple years, your period might still be off a couple days here and there. If the test said no, it said no. Don't let shows like 'I didn't know I was pregnant!' scare you- the chances of that happening is slim slim slim.
I don't know where you live or how possible it is for you to get around but you should also consider going to Planned Parenthood. Contrary to some people's beliefs it's not just for abortion services- they do general services for women and their bodies. What they don't do, they can suggest places for you to go for help.
Protect yourself. You have a lot more years to live and to have sex to mess it up now.
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