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Q: okay so my aunt just gave my mom and i a waxing thing .. like that real stuff.. that the pro's use at the hair salon and stuff.. well my question is how do you use it? it doesnt have directions and i am thinking .. wanting.. to do my leggs. how do i do it? should i put lotion on before.. or take a shower or what? please help me ... and a.s.a.p i will rate you a 5 for any good answer!

umm just like apply some wax on your legs, and use the strip of paper and cover it over the wax, but when you cover the paper over it, make sure that you start at the top, one hand holding the paper at the beginning of the wax, and use you other hand to smooth the paper downward to cover the wax. take a few seconds to smooth out the paper on the wax, and using one hand, press down the skin under the paper and the wax, and use your other hand to pull the stip of paper. you should do this quickly, but dont pull upward, you have to keep the paper close to the skin so you can get the hair out easier. umm i dont know if you understand all this.. but.. i hope you do, lol

hope i helped :)

Q: What do you guys think is the appropriate age and/or grade to start wearing mini skirts? Also, do tall girls with long legs look good in mini skirts? Thanks!

well, i started wearing them in the 7th grade... and i think it's more appropriate for someone atleast 13 years old to wear a miniskirt. and yeaa.. tall girls with long legs look great in miniskirts. but not those long and very very skinny legs, cuz that wouldn't look too nice.

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Q: I have pretty bad back acne.. What can I do to get rid of it?

well, i used to have some bacne too, but when i started use Oxy acne wash on my back, it really helped and there's not a pimple on my back now. it's around 5 dollars for a bottle, and you can buy this product at stores like target.. walmart... walgreens.. rite aid.. pharmacies.. etc...

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Q: to lose stomach fat, is walking the same as running? im not very good at running and i really want to lose my stomach fat so can i just walk? will walking help me lose my stomach weight?

when a person runs a mile, and another person walks a mile, they're going to burn about the same amount of calories, except that the person running burns a little more calories. but running is a lot better because it helps you gain muscles and makes you look more lean.
walking can help you lose some weight, but i doubt it's going to help you lose your stomach fat. because when you're walking, you're just moving your legs, therefore.. you're only exercising your legs.
to make your stomach look less fat, you're gonna have to do crunches, leg lifts, etc... you can also eat a cup of yoplait light 3 times a day. that can help you lose weight and it'll probably take some weight off your stomach too

Q: What energy food/drink gives you the most energy and makes you hyper?

there's this religion called kabala(some kind of jewish religion) or something like that, and they have this energy drink that celebrities like Madonna and Ashton Kutcher and other kabala people drink, and it gives you sooo much energy. it probably gives you the most energy out of all the other energy drinks. i dont know where they sell it though.. and i dont think it's cheap either.. because there's also this Kabala water and its like 4 dollars for a bottle.
umm if you can find the Kabala energy drink anywhere, you can drink.. red bull, it gives you wings.. lol

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Q: what does drinking 8 glasses of water do for you? like will it help me lose some wieght?

it hydrates and refreshes your body and um... it's good for you. umm i think it can help you lose weight, like.. if you get hungry.. you can just drink a few glasses of water and you won't be hungry anymore. so instead of eating something with hundreds of calories, you can drink water with no calories.
you can probably lose weight by doing this, but you shouldnt do it the whole day because even though water is good for you, it's not going to give you any energy

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Q: Ok, Well today i went to the bathroom and i look at my underwear and there was clearish white jelly stuff on my underwear. . what does that mean.

that's just discharge.. it comes out of your vagina around the same time that you have your period, and sometimes it comes out brownish. it's totally normal for girls. you usually get a lot of it during the first 2 years of having your period.. i dont know why we get it, but we just do.

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Q: My life really sucks. The guy i like has this really popular and pretty girlfriend. All the people at school make fun of me. I do not have alot of friends. My family doesn't seem like they care for me too much. I even sometimes think of suicide.

At school all of the people make fun of me. I am no dork but people make fun of me the way i dress and just plain make fun of me. On my school lacrosse team people always make fun of me. Not to brag but i am probably the best person on the team and yet there are still people making fun of me of the things i do. On my soccer team some of the girls make fun of me too. I do not have alot of friends either. My dad always bothers me to have someone come over and he asks me the number of people i called and its only about 3 because i really don't have alot of friends to call. My family is always yelling at me to. I try to be nice but then my sister makes some smart remark and then my parents expect me to be nice to her. And they think she is like the perfect angel child that does everything right. My sister even sometimes makes fun of me by saying i have no friends. Suicide is also something i think about and life is something i want to take away because it really sucks. Please add some advice to this column. It would really help. Even if it is just about one thing. Please help.

aww... you sound like a really nice and sad person, I dont know why anyone would make fun of you. you're not alone you know.. there are always people that are being picked on, teased, and unloved by their family. some people have worse lives than you.. like people who have recently lost someone they loved. sometimes people who have bad lives actually do commit suicide.. but you have to be strong. how is dying going to help you? even if your family might seem like they dont care about you, deep down they care about you more than you'll ever know. since you're in school, you're probably still young, so you've got a long life ahead of you. your life isnt always going to be that bad. when you grow up, people around you will be more mature, and no one will make fun of you.
for know you just have to stay confident, dont take the coward's way out and kill yourself. you only get one life, dont go and waste it

Q: okay this isnt really a sex question.. but here it is. im 14/f and i dont have that big of a chest. At my camp, the guys are always making fun of me for it. My doctor recently said within the next two years i would be done growing.I dont want a small chest, but im afraid thats what im going to get. When i reach my peak with height, is the rest of my body gunna continue to develop? or am i stuck this way forever?

i'll rate high if i get good answers.

i'm 14.. and i'm pretty flat too.. and my parents, cousins, aunts, and other people make fun of me for it.. but i'm only flat cuz i'm skinnier than all of them!! >:(
anyways, umm.. i dont know if you're always going to be flat.. you probably wont. your chest size is hereditary.. like if your mom or sisters or grandmas have pretty big boobs, then you'll most likely have big boobs too. if they have medium sized boobs, then you'll have medium sized boobs. ummm i dont know if your body will stop developing when you reach your final height..i still haven't reached my peak height yet. if you want your boobs to get bigger.. you might have to eat more.. my family is always telling me this... and my mom's always telling me to eat.. papayas because she thinks it makes boobs bigger. it's probably not true..
having a small chest kind of sucks, but you shouldn't worry about it too much. my friend has pretty big boobs, and strange old men are always staring at it... and i'd rather be flatchested than have perverted men staring at my chest all day. one good thing about being flat chested is that your boobs wont get saggy when you're old. if you really hate your small boobs, you can always get a boob job when you get older.

hope i helped :)

Q: sumtimes i just cant stand my family..its like they dont even want me..im thinkin about running away!!!...should i?

noooo, definately no
sometimes i really hate my family too.. and sometimes they make me feel unwanted and ignored.. it makes me want to run away too, but i dont actually run away because i know i'll just come back home the next day.
even though your family might act that way towards you, it's not really the way they feel. deep down inside they still care about you, and if you run away it's going to hurt the both of you. what you should do is confront your family about how badly they treat you.. pretend to cry and stuff..lol. trust me, running away is the wrong way to do things. it's not going to solve your problems. you should just stay with your family, no matter how much it seems like they dont want you. when you turn 18, you can walk out the door, curse at them a little bit, and leave them forever.

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Q: ok so what if you do not wear tampons whatsoever-how do you take a shower. . .? thanks

ummm i dont use tampons.. and when i'm on my period, i just take a normal shower.. the blood might drip on the tub/shower stall.. but the water just washes it away

Q: i know im 13 but ive been held back and now im starting middle skool. im really nervous. wut if the other kids dont like me, or if i dont fit in. wut if i get my classes mixed up and everyone makes fun of me? all u guys are in middle skool so PLEASE HELP!!!

i just graduated from middle school 2 months ago. you're overreacting... my first day of middle school was really great.. i met a lot of new people.. and it was just a really cool experience.
you dont know if people will like you or not... i mean.. it's not like EVERYONE'S going to hate you. even if some kids dont like you, you'll still be able to have some friends. and there are many social groups.. like the popular people.. the weirdos.. the smart kids.. the shy and quiet ones.. the really funny people/class clowns...yadda yadda yadda... you're sure to fit into a group. and even if you do get your classes mixed up.. not everyone will make fun of you. sure they'll laugh for a short while... but that's it. not everyone is immature and mean. there was this kid in my 8th grade class that kept going to the wrong social studies classroom.. it must've happened atleast 5 times.. and even though people laughed at him, he laughed along with us. it's better to laugh it off than just let everyone know how embarassed you are.
middle school was really fun for me.. and i'm really going to miss the people there. you should chill out and be more laid back.. that way you'll have time to actually enjoy the experience instead of being nervous and worrying all the time.

hope i helped :)

Q: ok im not sure if its my period or like if i am going to die or something!!!! i came back from somewhere and just saw that blood was in my undiwear. it has been for like 3 days now. but every time i go to the bathroom there is blood-A LOT, like i have to change the pad (i gues). idk if this is my period or not. if it is, its the first time thats why im asking like this. but please, im really worried something might be wrong so if you could please explain what it is supposed to look/feel right, and what i just explained sounds normal or whatever! PLEASE ASAP! sorry for the length. bye

dont worry... you're not going to die.. lol. it's definately your period. I got mine during the summer after 6th grade. periods normally last like 4 to 7 days. sometimes even longer. the amount of blood varies.. some people bleed A LOT.. i'm one of those people. if you feel some pain where your stomach(or lower) is.. it's normal. those are cramps.. and almost woman gets it while having her period. sometimes it hurts like hell.. mine always hurt really really bad, but my doctor gave me some medicine to make the pain go away.. if you ever experience really bad cramps.. just take some tylonol or midol pills. and if you see like white or brown liquid that looks and feels like thick gel on your underwear.. that's normal... it's just discharge. usually girls have a lot of discharge during the first 2 years of having their period

hope i helped :)

Q: What are some ways girls can masturbate?? please be specific im very confused!!

lol, well, the most common way is to just stick your finger up your vagina, and move it in and out(as if it was a penis and you were having sex). but not so far out that the finger is outside your vagina. you dont have to use your finger.. you can use like other long things to substitute a dick.. like a vibrator, or a hairbrush handle, or the handle of a toothbrush.. or a chair leg. another way is by rubbing your vagina with your fingertips or something, really fast. yaa.. there's probably more ways to masterbate.. but this is all i know

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Q: Does anyone have any sad slow love songs similar to "All My Life" by KC and JoJo and "Have You Ever?" by Brandy??Please help me I'm going through a bad time right now and it would help me very much! I'll rate 5's thank you!

yeahh..

Bobby Valentino - Slow Down
Fabolous ft. Tamia or ft. Ashanti - So Into You
Bow Wow ft Omarion - Let me hold you
Ashanti - Don't Let Them
Ashanti - Only You
B2K - Everything(this is a pretty old song.. but i think it's still really hot)
ColdPlay - The Scientist(this is actually a love song even though Science has almost nothing to do with love, except Chemistry)
Mario - Let Me Love You
Usher ft Alicia Keys - My Boo
Nelly - N Dey Say

these are all love songs, but some of them might not count as "slow" love songs, but they all sound really good

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Q: I found black stuff on my tooth brush, that I keep in the shower. I use it ever night, and so I know it didn't just grow there. I had used it less that 24 hours before I saw the black stuff. Am I being poisoned, or is there anouther explanation?

it's not poison.. probably just some mold. i have some mold that look like black dots on the ends of my bath tub. you should probably change your toothbrush before the mold grows bigger. you're supposed to change your toothbrush every 3 months

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Q: wats cow tipping???

lol, it means to push a cow over.. tipping a cow. thats the easiest way to say it, but if you want a more thorough explanation, go to http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=cow+tipping.

and if you want more definitions to slang or whatever, you can always visit urbandictionary.com

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Q: how much does a used bmw convertable cost

ooh not that much actually. there are different convertibles, and the cheapest one is the Z4 roadster, and it's like 34,000.. the most expensive one the 6 series convertible.. which is like 77 grand. my brother has the BMW X5, but that's not a convertible.
i'd rather get a Porche convertible, but they're all like atleast 60 grand...

Q:
o1. What is foundation used for?
o2. What is the difference between foundation && concealer?
o3. What is better, bronzer or face powder?

--thx

foundation is used to make your skin look more even toned. you use it before you use other kinds of makeup like blush and concealers. it makes your skin look more healthy and even toned. but a concealer is used to.. conceal things.. lol.. like a zit or a mole or something like that. a bronzer and face powder are different things. bronzers just make your skin look tanned and it gives your skin a sunkissed glow. i would say face powder is better because it looks more natural

Q: Ok..i know this is sucha weird question..but have any of you people TRIED bloody mary? you kno where you go in the bathroom and turn off all the lights and say her name 3 times and shes suppose to come out?? or maybe i got it wrong..all i really wanna know is that if anyone tried it..and whats the story behind it and what do you do exactly to see her??? pleaassseee reply! i`ll rate high =)

i think the story behind bloody mary is that she was the daughter of king henry(i think thats his name, or it could be george) of england, and he only wanted sons. he also had another daughter, Elizabeth, and when king henry died, she became queen instead of Mary, and somehow mary died, and she's really pissed off..
i think my friend tried it.. and she's still alive. i doont think it works, and i think it's just something to scare the kids, but i havent tried it yet because deep down i'm a little scared to try it too. there's another myth, the candyman. you have to same his name in front of a mirror(doesnt have to be a bathroom mirror) 5 times, and he'll kill you with his hook-of-a-hand and a swarm of bees will attack you.. i saw the movie.. i dont believe that one either

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hii, I'm Christina, 14, and I'm from Queens, NYC. I live near a huge mall, which is great becuz i lovee shopping. If anyone ever decides to visit nyc, let me know cuz i can tell you where the hottest places to go shopping are.
Music is a HUGE part in my life, I especially like rap and r&b. and TI's pretty hot too..
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