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I've got a particular interest in sexual health and sexuality. I know a lot about fertility and pregnancy - and firsthand now, as I've just had twins. I'm also an accredited sexual health worker.
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ok so my boyfriend did a lot of stuff with a lot of girls about 5 or 6 years ago...when we weren't together. About 2 or 3 weeks before we started dating he did something with this other girl that I was and still am extremly jelous of, because she liked my boyfriend the same time I did but he chose me (him and I have been together 2 and a half years and we are getting married in october) I didn't know that he did anything with this girl until he and I were together for about 6 months ( around the time we started to have sex) but last night and a few other times I just had the worst feelings and images. I sometimes just zone out and picture him with her and I can't get it out of my mind. I know he doesn't like her and I know the reason he had sex with her wasn't the most romantic...but I hate the feeling that I felt.
I guess I am asking if anyone has ever had that happen to them and what way did you find the best to get rid of the feeling. (link)
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The thing is, everyone wants to be the first, the most special, the best sex their partner has ever had. The reality is that as people get older, you are highly unlikely to find someone who has not had sex with or messed around with other people.
I do understand it can be crazy-making, even though you logically know this all happened before the two of you were together.
I suppose you've just got to remember that out of these other girls, and out of every girl he's ever met, he's picked you. You've successfully weathered over two years together, and you are both willing to make a commitment to spend the rest of your lives together. You need to keep reminding yourself of this.
You can also talk to him and let him know you've been thinking about this stuff. Chances are you'll get some reassurance, and it might help to share your feelings with him anyway.
The only warning label I place on this situation: Sometimes this sort of feeling isn't about being jealous. It's about some part of a person not completely trusting their partner, or perhaps not wanting to be with them anymore. Examine your feelings carefully, and don't forget to involve your brain as well!
If you feel you still love him and just want to move on from these feelings, then it's possible. You just have to make a choice about whether you will focus on the here-and-now of a strong relationship, or dwell on the past that you were not a part of.
I wish you the best.
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I just found out today that I have genital herpes. I'm only 15, and it was my second time having sex with the same person. Don't tell me I'm too young or whatever. I know I was ready, and we've been together for a really long time. I'm really scared though. I'm having a hard time like, dealing with it. He thought he didn't have anything, but, I guess he did. I wasn't his first, but he was mine. My mom thinks he cheated on me, because, both her and my doctor said if he had it before the second time we had sex, I would've most likely gotten it sooner. What do you guys think? I'm so scared. Please help. I also just need ideas to help me cope with this. Wow. Who thought just one stupid mistake could mess my life up forever? (link)
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Herpes is transmitted from skin to skin contact, and there's a whole lotta skin the condom doesn't cover. Herpes is also only likely to be transmitted when someone has visible sores. This is called an outbreak.
Coping with this will be hard, because you will have herpes your whole life. However, it's not as bad as it sounds. The first outbreak is often the worst, and many people have very long gaps between outbreaks. Some people very rarely have them again.
It is your responsibility to read up and gain as much knowledge as possible, as well as having more chats with your doctor. You need to know about this condition and how to protect future partners from getting this infection from you. Your doctor can also offer you advice about the different creams or medications available to help you feel more comfortable during an outbreak, or to reduce the amount of time you have visible sores for.
Herpes can be quite uncomfortable, but they are somewhat manageable. You may want to consider having a full screening for all sexually transmitted infections, if you have not had one already.
You'll also need to figure out where you stand with your boyfriend. Someone could have herpes for years without ever knowing it, as they wouldn't have had an outbreak. There is every possibility your boyfriend did not cheat on you. If this is something you have worries about, then you need to decide if you can trust him. If you can't, it might be time to move on - a relationship won't work without trust.
As for your own emotions, you might consider seeing a counsellor, sexual health worker, etc. Or just talk to your doctor more about it. It's a lot to deal with, and it's okay to feel scared, angry, confused, or hurt. Journalling, music, gardening - whatever you enjoy, now's the time to get your emotions out and pamper yourself.
I wish you the best.
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16/f.Lately ive been trying to masturbate while watching porn but I just cant get turned on. I used to get aroused really easily, even when watching a tv show. Ive tried different places, different techniques and I noticed the right atmosphere helps..but then when i start getting turned on its like I remember what Im trying to do and it just goes away..and when i try to masturbate my mind constantly is jumping to other thoughts, like 'this is stupid' or 'nothings happening' or 'im wasting time'. Also, I kind of know Im putting too much pressure on myself so Im not doing it spontaneously enough. Its like im consciously ordering my body to enjoy itself and reach orgasm, but I just cant. I also have never reached orgasm so Im not sure what to expect. Porn just isnt having the effect on me that it used to, but I noticed that girl-on-girl action is much more appealing than a guy's sexual parts involved. Whenever I feel slightly turned on and a guy's cock(sorry to be so frank) comes into the picture, I lose all stimulae whatsoever, not like there was much in the first place. Thanks (link)
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The easiest answer I can give you is to only masturbate if you are already turned on. Setting aside some time to 'force' yourself to masturbate just won't work. A huge problem many people have with sexual arousal and orgasming isn't from their bodies, it's from their minds.
If you feel pressured to perform, worried about what's wrong with you, or have a grim determination to just keep going - it's not going to work. If you're masturbating and just don't feel like it anymore, stop. There's nothing wrong with that.
Hormones fluctuate a lot during the teen years, and women's arousal levels also change depending on when in their menstrual cycle it is. This is normal.
Wait till you're turned on, alone, and then you can see what you like. If porn doesn't work for you, you could tailor make your own sexual fantasies - using your imagination. That way, you can visualise whatever people you want!
Men are generally more turned on by visual stimulation (though of course women are, too), and women generally are more excited by fantasy. Give it a whirl.
If you are worried about your sexuality, that could also have an impact on your sexual functioning. If girls are more appealing than boys at this point (in fantasy OR reality), so be it. Try relaxing and just accepting yourself and the situation for what it is.
I wish you the best.
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I'm so virgin it's not evevn funny.
I've never had sex, never fooled around, never had a boyfriend, and I've never evven had a first kiss with anyone other than my Grandmother.
I've missed my period for over a week. I looked up the signs of pregnancy and I have them all...?
It sounds so silly for me to ask this but it's bothering me.
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Many of the symptoms of pregnancy are identical to the symptoms of PMS - sore breasts, cramping, moodiness, etc.
You cannot get pregnant if a boy's sperm has not been in or on your vagina. It's not possible.
Things that can affect your period and make it late include stress, long distance travel, not eating enough, too much exercise, etc.
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Ok well I just got this HUGE cut on my foot three days ago and from the first day when I cleaned it up, I used this type of cotton that dentists put in your mouth for bleeding and put a band aid over it.
Then later when I took out the band aid and tried to take out the "cotton", it was stuck and it hurt so bad that i couldn't take it out so I used scissors and just cut out as much cotton as I could. But there's still this pretty huge piece on my skin...about slightly bigger than the mouseball from your computer mouse.
It's really gross and now it looks like it's merged or stitched into my skin and I'm terrified that it won't come out. My dad told me that something like that happened to him once and that when it starts to heal or scab, the cotton/tissue will just come out.
But then today he was looking at it and said "damn, maybe it'll be with you for your whole life...”
What should I do?! IM SCARED! And the piece is like yellow, I can’t have it here forever! it's right at the back of my heel/foot so it's visible to others! (link)
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There are a few things you could try. One of these is sticking your foot in a bowl (or bathtub) of warm water for a good few minutes. Any initial scabbing will soften, and the cotton will soften as well.
You can then gently try to remove as much of the cotton as possible. If you know it will be painful, you can always take a low dose of painkiller - about what you'd take for a headache, no more.
If you are squeamish, you can ask a parent to help you.
Of course, the final and best option is to see your doctor, who can help get it out.
The cotton is very unlikely to stay with you your whole life. The body rejects foreign items - which is why people with surface piercings (like an eyebrow ring, for example) will eventually need to repierce. Leave something long enough, and the body will push it out.
It's probably in your best interests to get as much out as possible, though.
I wish you the best of luck!
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is it weird for me and my bf to be curious and explore things..such as fingering my butt? (link)
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As far as sex and sexuality goes, anything that you enjoy that doesn't hurt anyone is okay. It takes a lot of exploring to see exactly what you like - and maybe what you don't.
Make sure you keep things clean and safe. For example, after your boyfriend has fingered your butt, he will need to wash his hands with soap and water before touching your vagina.
The human body is full of all sorts of areas that can feel good, and there's no shame in trying to figure out what you enjoy!
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hi, my names kathleen and I'm a little paranoid. I'm about to turn eighteen in a couple days and my boobs still seem to be very uneven. I kno its not breast cancer, but is there somthing I should do I mean ones about an a cup n the others a b cup. Should i wait it out or should i b concerned??? Thanx 4 all the help (link)
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Breasts are often uneven. This is perfectly normal, but can make buying a bra a pain.
One solution is to buy a little gel-filled breast enhancer, and use it to boost your smaller breast up to the size of the other.
If you are concerned, you could book an appointment to see your doctor. He/she can check things out and make sure everything is okay, and chances are they are.
Bodies are wonderfully quirky, and breasts rarely come 'perfectly' formed. Love the pair you've got!
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where EXACTLY is the clit? im confused, is it in the hole where you get fingered? or somewhere else? thanks :] (link)
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There are loads of diagrams on the internet, but they can sometimes be confusing. The clit is a fleshy little area - it is NOT inside any hole.
Basically, if you put your finger right near the top, where the lips start, and move it slightly down, you should find the clit. When you are sexually aroused, the clit can swell up and be much easier to find.
Still, by applying gentle pressure you should be able to find the area. It will be more sensitive than the rest of your vaginal area.
Most of the clit is actually hidden under the skin, and only the tip peeps out from underneath a hood of skin. Some women find it painful or uncomfortable to directly touch the clit for longer periods of time, so it's quite handy that it's got that special skin covering.
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I don't really know where else to put this question so it's going here. When I turn 18 I don't plan on going to college but moving from the united states to England or Germany. What do I have to do to achive this? I need a a work visa, right? And a passport. Assuming I leave all of my possesions here and just fly over, how do I become a citizen?
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You can find out all the relevant info on each country's government webpages. I can give you more detailed info on England, but afraid I can only point you to the German homepage.
An American citizen can get stamped in for a six month's visit at the border. This means they are not allowed to work, access public funds, etc. If you want to live here, you will need to do a lot of research on immigration procedures.
England, like any country, is more interested in immigrants who offer high level professional skills - like being trained as a teacher, doctor, etc. There are other ways into the country, and the home office website can let you know about them.
It's not as simple as getting your passport and flying over. If you are successful in getting a visa (which is pricy, so start saving!), this does not guarantee you can stay in England forever. There is a time limit; after this, you will need to reapply to stay in the country.
If you meet certain requirements and have been here a certain amount of time, you may be entitled to residency (and eventually citizenship). Each step is expensive and time-consuming, and you may want to consult an immigration lawyer.
If you have further, or more specific, questions please get in touch.
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Ok, so i am 14.
all my info is below, and im sorry if it confuses you, but my main question is what kind of mental issue/problem do i have???
I know im a teenager and with my hormones changing i have mood swings. But some of my friends think im bipolar. I think i have severe depression, but have not been to a doctor b/c i dont want to tell my parents. I started being depressed and went through a suicidal time, in 5th grade, but i KNOW my parents love me, so i wouldnt do anything, and they dont know i have a problem.
other times, when im not depressed, im really hyper, and have a ton of energy ,and im hyper.
and then other times, which is very rare, im hyper-depressed. which freaks out my friends.
I write dark poems, and i feel really out of place. I hate my life, but i know i have family, and a boyfriend who love me. I dont know, i just want to know what kind of mental issue i have so i can kinda get help.
Also to help you know more about me, (if you dont want to read this part, you dont really have to) i think logically sometimes, and other times my mind wonders, and goes off somewhere else. I am in the middle of finding my true religion, and i am strong in my beliefs, but im confused about it at the same time. My mind is just lost, and OH also, i have kinda pycicness. I know things, or have premonitions (that i dont know are going to come true, but they do...) and other times, i could be talkin about something, then something to do with that happens. so If any of this helps you, please use it. (link)
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Here's the thing: you say you want help, and I believe you. The way to get the most reliable, effective help is to see a doctor. The majority of people here at Advicenators have no professional experience in the mental health profession, and advice given could be not relevant at best...or distressing to you at worst.
Mental health is very important, as it hugely impacts on the quality of life. If you are concerned about your health, a doctor should be able to provide you with a good basic assessment. If needed, he/she can then refer you on for more specialist help. You may also want to try your school counsellor as a first step if you would prefer that to your family doctor.
If you are worried about what will/will not be mentioned to your parents, I would ask the doctor/counsellor about their policy on confidentiality before you say much. However, keep in mind that the more honest information you give a professional, the better service you will receive.
I wish you the very best.
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Ok so I am planning on having sex with my friend and I'm a virgin. I am not on birth control (and there is no way I can get it so don't tell me I should). I need some good tips on how to not get pregnant. We will be using a condom of course but is that enough? Should he where 2 in case one pops? Anthing is good. I can't wind up pregnant or my parents will kill me (don't tell me not to do it either because I already made up my mind). Also, if you still haven't figured it out yet, I am a complete virgin. He isn't and I want this to be great for him (don't tell me to get ourselves checked either). How do I make it last and feel good (and by that I mean both of us having an orgasm) because I have heard that the first time usually hurts.
THANKS SO MUCH TO EVERYONE THAT CAN HELP. AND PLEASE HURRY BECAUSE THIS COULD HAPPEN AT ANY TIME. (link)
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Wearing one condom is much safer than wearing two - two condoms rub against each other, and the friction can cause them to pop or tear. Make sure that you have a clear understanding of how condoms work. You can buy these over the counter and practice at home.
The tip needs to be squeezed before and during the condom is rolled onto the penis - if air is left in this, the condom can pop from the force of the boy's ejaculation.
There is also only one correct way to roll the condom down. If you or your friend make a mistake and put it on backwards, you will need to throw that condom away and start again with a fresh one. This is because the boy's precum would have touched the condom, and when you flipped it around you would be putting that into you.
Also make sure your fingernails (or his) are short without rough edges, to avoid tearing the condom.
Your first time is likely to hurt. To reduce the pain, use lubricated condoms. You may also consider a water-based lubricant. Make sure you are relaxed and turned on, otherwise things could be more uncomfrtable than they need to be. Worrying about pregnancy can make you not feel excited, and your body may react by clamping shut.
Have you considered all your options for getting birth control? There are loads of different kinds, and depending on where you live you may be able to access services free and confidentially. A condom is fab as it can help reduce the chances of pregnancy AND the transmission of an infection, but backing it up with another form is always good too.
As far as not wanting to get checked, if you have never been sexually active (which includes oral sex), you should be fine. If your friend has had sex, you may want to consider him getting checked out. Various infections can make you infertile, be painful, cause death, or have different consequences on your body. This is your health and future, so keep yourself as safe as possible.
After sex, if you want to have another go, use another condom! It's best if the boy pulls out just after ejaculating, and he will need to hold the condom at the base of his penis to make sure it doesn't slip out. If this sounds complex, get a pack of condoms and a carrot or cucumber and try it out beforehand.
I wish you the best.
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when you answered my last question about my dad the whole ask another family member thing. I have done that before it worked for a while then he went back to his old ways and means. I have talked to him before about it to and he just got mad at me and told I was ingreatful and that I was spoiled. I know he does a lot of things for me but I want him to be a friend and to do things with me. Is there amy father son events in the colorado area that we could attend and try to start fresh. Just going up and asking him to do something just doesn't work. A event where we can both be comfortable but have a good time. My badi am 14 and a guy in case you forgot. (link)
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I remember you.
Have you ever heard the phrase 'you can't teach an old dog new tricks?' I think it could relate niely to your dad - he's stuck in his ways. It's promising that he has changed for a bit after other family members have spoken to him, because that shows he does care about you and want to make an effort. He's just settled in his ways.
Unfortunately, I can't tell you specific things to do in your area. What I can suggest is figuring out something your dad enjoys - a particular type of movie, sports event, etc. Google it and see when something related to this will next be in your area. That way you have something specific to ask him to; the key is that it's an activity he's already keen on, so you risk less chance of him turning you down.
There are some groups that focus specifically on father-son activities - or others, like the Scouts, that often have weekend camping trips or events for father-son groups.
I don't think you sound spoiled or ungrateful; you seem like a really genuine, nice guy and deserve support from your family. Things may not work out exactly like you want, but at least if you try a lot of approaches you could have less to regret in the future.
And speaking of the future - I'm not sure if you want children at any point when you're older, but if you do, you are learning lots of things about what kind of father you do/do not want to be.
I wish you nothing but the best.
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i am 14 and i am a guy amd i dont get along with my dad and he doesnt seem to want to do anything with me. He always does things with my younger brother and when ever i am interested in somthing he is not instead of supporting it and making me feel good he just shoots it down and makes fun of me and tells me how stupid it is. I have tried to get alaong with him but he doesnt try. I dont know what to do and what are some father son things we can do or try at least to make up for lost time. I have not done anything with him in 14 years. I love cars love them and know almosteverything there is to know about them. I asked him to go to a car show with me and he told me no that is not his thing. I had to ask my grandpa instead and even though the cars they were showng werent his thing he still went. Je probably thinks i will fail in life and je never is proud an anything i do. Where should i start to improve the relationship i want to have with him (link)
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Well, unfortunately, relationships take two people. You sound really dedicated to trying to build a good one with your dad, but it sounds like he might not be as proactive as you.
Have you ever tried talking with him about this? Maybe he doesn't realise that the things he says, or the activities he skips, really bother you. He could have all sorts of assumptions about teenage boys - and he might spend more time with your brother because he thinks a kid would need time more than a teenager.
If you don't feel comfortable talking to him about this, maybe you could work it in casually the next time you want to do something. Such as - 'Hey, Dad, do you want to ____________ together this weekend? It would be nice to do something with you.'
Keep up with variations of this theme, and hopefully he'll get the hint. You may also consider talking to other adult family members to see what they suggest, or to ask them to talk to your dad for you.
Also, take some time to realise all the good points about you. Your dad may not be paying attention, and that's a downer, but even if he puts you down it does not mean you are no good. You sound like a great guy, and it's a shame your father isn't seeing it at the moment.
I wish you the best.
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i was just in the washroom and found some sticky white discharge in my underwear.. i'm worried cuz i've never had them likethat before. its like a really sticky clump that feels funny on your fingers and is almost completely clear. it reminds me of like.. flubber.. what is it?? i just got my period. (link)
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As your body matures, new things happen to your reproductive organs. Discharge, what you described you found in your underwear, is one of these things.
Discharge looks different during different parts of your monthly cycle, and may change in amount as well. This is normal.
Discharge is something to worry about it is not 'normal' for your body, or if it smells funny. It also can cause some concern if you also feel pain, itching, or discomfort in your vagina.
Every woman has discharge in varying amounts. It normally shouldn't cause any difficulties at all.
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ok soo i use to practically be obsessessed w/ this 1 guy>ryan. he knew that i liked him, i mean it was completely obvious. i never knew quite what he thought of me so i got some guts and asked him to hang out and we hung out once over the summer, nothing happend and then i just moved on completely. so that was over the span of last school yr. so ive gone out w/ a few other guys since and like last month he asked for my # and has been asking me to hang out. i just havnt been able to for awhile, and at first straight up didn't want to but now i guess i just wanna see what happens. i called him last week and we talked for a little while and ryan again asked me to hang out. i was busy tho-again...what can you do? ha
so we dont really talk a whole lot in school b/c we dont have classes together but today at practice ryan and his friends kept lookin back at me as they were going by. i smirked b/c i dont know, i just thot it was kinda funny how obvious they were being.
but do you think he actually likes me? just wanna be sure...and also, i dont really like him that much now so i kinda feel a little bit embarrassed b/c i use to be obsessesd and he knows so idk, its like he always has that on me...not sure if you get that. but at the same time im just like, "why not go for it?"
i dont know, do you think he likes me? and do you think i should give it a try? whats your take on the matter? (link)
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The main question I would be asking you is: how do YOU feel about HIM? That seems to be the most important thing.
I wouldn't be too embarassed that he knows you used to be obsessed, as that clearly doesn't seem to be putting him off. He wouldn't have asked you to hang out if he was freaked out.
I don't know how he feels about you, but there have to be SOME sort of feelings - at least friendship - to be calling you, asking you to hang out, and looking at you.
Therefore, it comes back to how YOU feel. If you don't like him in that way, then why bother? If you aren't sure how you feel, there's no harm in making some time to hang out with him and find out. And if you definitely like him, then go for it!
Part of me wonders if you're really that into him - after all, if you really really liked him, would you have made time to see him even when you were busy?
Basically, since it's the very beginning of things, your views are the most important. If the chemistry's not there, better to stop things now.
I wish you the best.
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can you get pregnant if you have sex while on your period?? (link)
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Every female is different, but a typical cycle lasts around 28 days. This means that within a typical cycle (which yours may not be, even if it does come like clockwork - ovulation may vary) you would ovulate on the 14th day of your cycle (and be very likely to become pregnant from Day 12). Day 1 is when your period arrives.
Sperm can live in the body for up to seven days. So simple maths can tell you that if you have sex near the end of your period, the sperm would still be present at a very high-risk time for pregnancy.
Sex without a condom equals a chance of pregnancy, no matter when or how you do it. People actually take classes to learn how to accurately predict ovulation, it's not as easy as saying certain days are or are not safe. When in doubt, have him wrap it up.
I wish you the best.
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could you guys give me a step by step thing on how to put a tampon in? my mom just makes everything sooooo embaressing. and its just horrible with her. so is all i'd have to do is ask her for some, not have her teach me. please don't try to get me to talk to her about that. just a step by step please. (link)
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First things first, wash your hands. It's always best to not touch yourself with hands that are not clean.
Now, take a tampon out of the plastic package and have a good look at it. One end is the curved bit, which is what will go in. The other end has the string hanging out; the string will also hang out of your vagina once the tampon is inside.
You see how part of the applicator is skinnier than the other? This is because this bit gets pushed in - it's how the tampon gets pushed into your vagina, as well.
There should be a bit that has ridges on it. Hold the tampon with your thumb and middle finger (or whatever feels comfortable). Now insert the tampon into your vagina - aim it at your lower back, as your vaginal canal isn't straight up and down. When your fingers holding the ridge bit bump up against your vagina, stop. Then push the skinny end into the big end.
If a tampon is properly inserted, you should not feel it. If you do, you can use a finger to push it in a little further.
Be sure to read the instructions carefully, as they will give you information about how often to change your tampons, etc. It is important to NOT wear tampons unless you have your period.
Good luck! It can be a bit tricky at first, but once you get the hang of it, you'll never mess up again!
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is the clit where you pee out of? is that what you simulate to get an orgasm?? (link)
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The clit is the little fleshy nub near the top of where the vaginal lips begin. It swells when a female is sexually excited. The clit is a really important part of having an orgasm for many women.
You do not pee from it. There is a tiny hole, the urethra, below the clit. It is between your clit and the hole where a female has her period from.
It's difficult to see the urethra. Some women try by using a hand mirror to watch while they go to the bathroom. This can be messy, but it's a great way to try to figure out where everything is!
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ok I know i've promised my bf that id never breack up with him, but i need to know, IS he boyfriend material? It seems that EVERY two days, he's allways saying...well you don't need me, and i don't think i can do this anymore.then i remind him that he promised that hed never break up with me. so he stays with me. Well, i'm done with that. Another thing is, yesterday, he compleatly cutt me off. He icnored me, never returned my call, and never even botherd to freakin give a call. NOw in the mean time, my feelings for this one guy are growing stronger, and i know he likes me, but a part of me dosn't wanna let my bf go. So is my bf exactlly bf matereial? Or am I the crazy one here?Cause i just know as his over a year gf, I deserve to have my hand held-huged-and NOT shod off every five mins. Also a call every now and the, and an email, or note when he says he'll write me, and NOT to be yelled at when i ask about it. I'm open to any thoughts. thanks (link)
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People make all sorts of well-meaning promises, and there's a slight hitch with that. When you promised your boyfriend you'd never break up with him, it was a year ago. People grow older and apart - or older and closer! - but there's no actual way to predict the future.
If you are not feeling cared for or respected, I would suggest you've got some thinking to do. maybe have a thought about what you really want from a relationship. Communication, fun, honesty, trust, and love might be a few things. If you don't feel happy anymore, a promise you made ages ago shouldn't keep you with someone you are not happy with.
It can be hard to make decisions about relationships, particularly when it may mean you have to hurt someone you care about. It's also very awkward! Better to sort out your own mind sooner rather than later, because these things inevitably grow more confusing and painful with time.
I wish you the best.
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what is the diffrence of puppy love and real love (link)
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Only the person in love can answer that, and it's usually only answerable years after someone has first fallen in love.
I think 'puppy love' is the way adults describe what young people feel for each other - as a way to downplay the seriousness of it, or a way of calling it cute. Sort of a young love thing.
Young love can be very emotional, and is often more intense than that of adults. This makes it very special, and often very confusing.
Adults can forget what that feels like. On the other hand, they also have years more experience in the field of love and relationships, so what they have to say might be worth hearing.
I personally think that whatever the relationship is, it's down to the two people involved to figure out how they feel. There are no absolutes, and it's more about you feeling like you are in a safe, happy, and caring relationship.
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