Basically, if you put your finger right near the top, where the lips start, and move it slightly down, you should find the clit. When you are sexually aroused, the clit can swell up and be much easier to find.
Still, by applying gentle pressure you should be able to find the area. It will be more sensitive than the rest of your vaginal area.
Most of the clit is actually hidden under the skin, and only the tip peeps out from underneath a hood of skin. Some women find it painful or uncomfortable to directly touch the clit for longer periods of time, so it's quite handy that it's got that special skin covering. [ alisonmarie's advice column | Ask alisonmarie A Question ]
thelaura answered Monday April 21 2008, 7:59 pm: Here is a lovely diagram!
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