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Q: Okay you know how you can get the boombox for your aim profile.... well can anyone give me the font and letter that i can get it?!?? THANKS

ok the font is webdings hold down alt while typing in 0186 hope i helped if the code didnt work drop one in my box ♥

Q: i took a pg test and it said i was pregnant but then i started to bleed a couple of days later and then i took another test and it said negative but my periods are shorter and my mom says i am gaining weight and i have been feeling bad

its not that commen but you can get you period if your pregnant it sounds like you in fact are pregnant .. the second test could have been wrong && the first right -- deff. ask your mom to go see a doctor ♥

Q: my dad left my mom about 3 years ago.. I don't hang out with him or anything.. and when I see my friends with their dads having a good time..I always get jealous and wished i had a dad to have a good time with..I also watch shows and get jealous to..what can I do to not get jealous of people cause they have a dad and I don't? It ain't no way I'm spending time with my father.. I don't like him..

i know how you feel i havent seen my dad for eleven years.. he moved away when my mom came out of the closet.. just wonderful and i always get jelous but i never show it if you wanna talk im me at risktakerx3 ♥

Q: SORRY ITS LONG i think im becoming anorexic because i never eat and well i eat but not alot.Yesterday i tryed to throwup on purpous but i couldt.Im scared for myself also iv been getting depressed latly and thinking about cutting i used to cut but i stoped because one of my ex friends told the school. I would never kill myself because i dont want to go to hell. After i cut myself i always feel so bad but i think i just feel that way because i dont want to get caught again.Boys and girls are always saying how hott i am but i dont think i am.I think im fat and ugly and i hate myself.It started around the time i started going out with my boyfriend.I cant brakeup with him because hes suacidel and i like him a real lot also he says i love you to me and i need to hear it.I need help! i need someone to talk to.DONT say my mom and dad because my mom has a deadly sickness and they have unuff stress and i dont realy trust any of my friends because i dont want them to tell like befor.Ohh ya i love to get hurt because i love the Sympathy and so i make when ever has happened worce. THANXS

you have a lot going on maybe you shoulf ask you parents to see a physiatrist [ i know i suck at spelling ] or if you have any brothers or sisters you can talk to them.. and if none of that works you can talk to me because ive been through most of that i went to a mental hospital for three weeks the whole school knew that i did i cant throw up
&& i get way to hungry so just come talk to me if you have a screen name IM me at risktakerx3 on AIM ♥

Q: out of opinion, would you say that 5'4'' was tall or short for a 15 year old girl?

thats about average then again im 5'3 and im thirteen and the doctor said that was average to ♥

Q: I think I'm gonna pierce my own ear.

I have it pierced twice and my cartilage...but yea...how do I make the needle or w.e clean?

rubbing alchohal
peroxide or
putting it over a flame ♥

Q: im 13,and i want to make some money any ideas???

babysitting
watching/walking dogs
for seniors helping with shopping
chores around yours/family members houses
mowing lawns ♥

Q: u told me how to make them but a few question what kinda of a triangle? how big of a triangle? n what do i put in the middle? Thanx

about maybe 5" long and the width gets smaller and smaller & put a tooth pick in the middle so it keeps a hole ♥

Q: Is it true that if you print out a picture, can you iron it on to a shirt? I would think it would burn. o.0

yes you can but you need a special paper .. you can probably find it at either a craft store.. micheals or joannes fabrics or a computer store.. office max or staples ♥

Q: k so my mom is FINALLY letting me get highlights.(at a salon) :) my hair is like, a medium brown so i was wondering what color highlights would look good. i was thinking like,a reddish brown color or maybe light brown? i have no idea what color i should do. what do you think would look good?

a reddish color or a nice honey blonde ♥

Q: for high school, we're aloud to carry around a backpack during the day. do you reccomend this (because our classes could be in seperate buildings & i don't know where my locker will be related to my classes)? also, where are some places you can get backpacks that are cute and not to big? or, what are your recommendations for types/styles of backpacks? thanks

I get a LLBEAN bag every year its got a garentee on it so if you rip it you get a new one free .. or i have a sholder bag from hot topic and i decorated it with pins and stuff its cutee ♥

Q: i dont have alot of money to go out n by new clothes n new jewely.im 13 n my mom doesnt give me money. does anyone have any fahsion tips for old things or makeing jewly?? Thanx

i learned how to make jewlery when i was little .. you take a strip of paper ( a paper with two colors looks good like black and white ) now cut it into a long triangle put glue on the middle all the way down next roll the paper from the big part making suree everything stays in the middle ... this makes one bead but they look really cute if you make a bunch ♥

Q: I'm a female, 13 years old, and I wear 34b for a bra size. Is that big or average for my age?

im 13 with 34 b so its average ♥

Q: im really depressed and i take medication but still suicidal and i cut
i know cutting is bad and can kill you but i really want to stop
ive asked other people who have cutted but their advise wasnt so great
i just want to ask how can i stop??

try reading this http://kidshealth.org/teen/your_mind/mental_health/cutting.html

and just ask your self these questions
do i need to
why do i need to
can i tell someone that i need to
& if you ABSOLUTELY have to make it as light a possible and be prepared to bandage your self up

this will help by not making everything as dramatic next time

or try this when you feel like you need to cut
get out a timer put 15 minutes on it and see how long you can go without cutting keep setting the timer for longer and longer and hopfully you will make it through the day/ nite safe ♥

Q: i think i have anger problems... yesterday, i got mad at my parents and i dug my nails into the palm of my left hand until it bled. now there is a huge chunk of skin out of my left hand. I am a cutter. I cut when i get depressed. any idea of what to do when i get mad other than drawing blood? i dont want to go see a doctor... because my parents dont think i have problems.

ok listen you do have a problem but its okay.. because i have had the same but now to deal with it i close my eyes think of gripping a knife and make the motions of cutting it gives me an adrenaline rush wich is what i got out of cutting but it doesnt leave any scars ♥

Q: Alright. So i think i might sort of have a problem. A while ago (this year though) I started kind of cutting myself, but i didnt think of it as cutting. I didnt actually use a knife so i didnt think it was cutting. I just scratched my self w/ something sort of sharp, until i started bleeding. I did it twice the first time, and then the next time three smaller ones, and then the third time one small & one normal one. But their on my arm where a cutter would cut. And i think people think i'm trying to look like i cut, so i havent yet, and even though i'm not planning on doing it again, if i do i'm just gonna do it on my ankles.. But is that really considering cutting anyways? i mean its not like w/ a knife. When i told one of my like good guy friends about it i was bawling, i felt like a disappointment to him (hes sort of like a brother) and i didnt know what to do, i felt like it was a mistake to tell him But he said its better then lying to him. now we like barly talk & our relationship has started to become distant, but i dont know if its all for that reason. i feel stupid for doing it & i feel like the few people that know, judge me because of it. it really is stupid and i know it, and i really dont even know why i do it. Its not like i do it b/c i cant control my anger, but it does help, like instead of freaking out its easier for me to just do this, and then as i do it i think about what happens. But now i have scars, and seriously i'm embarrassed by them. A few people can tell that i cut myself, other people like my sister fool around & like joke & say that it looks like i did, but i just say that i like fell into a fence, and stupid stuff like that. PLEASE HELP ME. i seriously dont know what to do.

it is concidered that i used to no matter what its still cutting just explain to your friend you didnt mean to dissapoint him and i highly recommend you dont tell many people that you did because stuff like that spreads VERY fast && people can and will make fun of you for no reason.. it happened to me ♥

Q: For the past few months, I've been feeling sad very often. I'm 15, female, and I guess I feel sort of alone. I constantly think about death, how I don't have many good friends, and how I don't have anything I really need to be happy.

I'm also on a diet, I've lost 20 pounds, because I think I need to be skinnier.

I guess what I'm asking is, am I depressed? And do I need some sort of help? My mom knows how I feel and she is always lecturing me about it. I just want to know what I can do to not feel this way.

i think you should go to a therapist just to make sure you dont have depression or borderline personality disorder ♥

Q: i know its more than one question - but its all the same topic so i just put it on one.. sorry.

1) if i reject a question - does it go to be public?
2) if i ask a public question [ like this ] - is their like a maximum number of answers?
3) is their a maximum number of favorite columnists you can have?

if you can answer all 3 - automatic 5.

nope - no - nope ♥

Q: how many colories how u supose to eat/have if ur 5'7 n weigh 110 plbs thanx.

probally about 2190 calories ♥

Q: I keep making plans for dieting. I try and give up im 13 yrs old 5'2 and 117 pounds.I need some inspiration. Please help!

if you have a friend that wants to diet to then you both can support each other.. keep a diet diary and write down what you ate and how much exercise you did.. call up your frined and see what he/ she wrote hope i helped ♥

bio

My name is Jessica ; i have brown hair, but i died it reddish ; I love my friends: ; my best friend is hailey mattson, idk what i would do without her. ; i love pink & green & black ; I love Hanging out with friends & Shopping ; i make mistakes. ; i have regrets. ; i hate being alone. ; i can't go a day without spilling something on myself. ; i hate school. ; i never call anyone back. ; i don't like being wrong. ; im a huge procrastinator. ; i act a lot smarter than i actually am. ; i hate being ignored. ; i cry. ; im shy. ; i can't start a conversation with anyone. ; i have enemies. ; i can't sing, but i try anyways ; i'm horribly uncoordinated. ; i laugh way too loud. ; i can't look anyone in the eye. ; many things just seem to get to me. ; i get annoyed easily. ; i'm not even close to perfect. ; i cut. ; i dont know how to deal with problems. ; i have low self esteem. ; i've been in two mental hospitals. ; i love the movies not like everyone else , augusta gone , && odd girl out. ; i'm such a sucker for lifetime movies ; i like the religion wicca.