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I just saw a video on youtube of some guy ranting about how we should "leave Britney alone," I'm pretty sure you know what I'm talking about (blonde guy). He was hysterical, crying, screaming...it looked like he was serious. But was he? Or was it some joke in order to get him noticed/famous on the internet?

His name is Chris Crocker, and he has many videos about various things. He basically worships Britney Spears. He is serious about everything he says.
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i really like this guy who probably has every aspect of a near-perfect person: he's smart, extremely atheltic, not popular but kinda known b/c of his sports, goodlooking, and friendly. my problem is that he's just so out of my league. honestly, not to sound conceited, but the only thing i could probably measure up to him on is intelligence. otherwise, i'm a completely average person. i know they say it's okay to dream and whatnot, but is this too far of a dream to even think about? and did i mention that about 10 other girls like him too? i talk to him occasionally, but i don't think i'd consider us friends yet. anyway it just seems like i have a zero chance, or even worse than that. should i just move on (although it would be insanely difficult)?

Don't give up! I'll bet you're not as "average" as you say you are. When people like other people, they tend to make them seem much more great in their own minds than they actually are. There is no such thing and someone being too good for someone else. Just try talking to him a little more and let him get to know you. All you can do is try!
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so i really like this guy and he really likes me. and when i talk to guys or basically just like mention a guy he doesnt know, he will get jealous. and if i talk to someone he doesnt normally talk to, like on AIM, he starts talking to them too. that part makes me a little mad, but whatever. but lately, ive been looking on his facebook and myspace and there's this girl .... thats definately flirting with him. and in his AIM profile, she is in it. but he flirts with so many girls and i dont know if he realizes it, but it seems like they like him because of the way they flirt, and he flirts back. and this girl was moved from not even on his myspace top friends, to wayyyy up on his top friends. and this one comment she sent him on myspace was "i lovee you too" which means he said i love you first. and its making me really upset because i dont want to lose him, or for him to do things with her, like kiss her or something.

From what I understand, this guy isn't your boyfriend; he is just a guy that you like. I understand that it sometimes makes you angry when he gets jealous, but that's hypocritical considering you get jealous too. Maybe he doesn't realize he is flirting with these girls. Basically all you can do is talk to him and ask him to be honest. If he realyl likes you, he will try and tone it down when he sees that this upsets you.
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i am seeing the guy i like this weekend, and we will be together for most of it.
we both really really really like eachother. and we're both a little prude, other then a few kisses. but i want to go further than hooking up with him, i want him to maybe feel me up. how can i possibly make that happen, without putting his hands on my boobs?

I actually just answere this question for another girl, so I am going to tell you the same thing. Your first step would be "making out" with him. While you're kissing, kiss him deeply and long. Kind of touch his elbow while kissing and gently nudge it towards you, but not too obviously. To tell you the truth, some guys get turned on when girls take control... So that idea of you putting his hands there might not be such a bad one.
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how can i get the boy i like to feel me up? WITHOUT putting his hands up my shirt, or me putting my hands down his pants. or without me asking him. thanks in advance

Your first step would be "making out" with him. While you're kissing, kiss him deeply and long. Kind of touch his elbow while kissing and gently nudge it towards you, but not too obviously. To tell you the truth, some guys get turned on when girls take control... So that idea of you putting his hands there might not be such a bad one.
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whenever me and my boyfriend mess around he always tells me "oh this is turning me on so much" but he never gets a boner from it. what can i do OR SAY to make him really be turned on and not just saying it.

What turns my boyfriend on his kissing his neck and toughing his penis through his pants. Also, I run my fingers along the inside of the waistline of his jeans but don't actually go in. It's kind of a teasing gesture but it gets him excited. Then, I'll run my hand over his area outside of his jeans. It works for me.
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Okay so when a guy pops your cherry what exactly happens? Like does it just bleed right there and then thats it? like how much will it bleed? or does it like consistantly bleed for a while like a period?
like what is it like exactly?

When I lost my virginity, I didn't bleed at all. It is different for different people. A couple of my friends bled their first time, but from what they told me, it is not fluent like a period, nor does it bleed right away.
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hey. im 15 and want to have sex with my boyfriend i have been going out with for a year. the thing is i have heard it hurts your first time. are there any masturbation techniques or objects i can use to make myself be able to be pleasured? this way, i figure, i wont be as tight and it wont hurt. please none of the " your too young to be having sex" speach. i dont need any of it.
thanks in advance.

Masturbation and pelvic stretches will help you. I was a highschool cheerleader, so I did stretches regularly. There is not a certain technique of masturbation that I know of to advise you to use. The only thing I can think of is a vibrator or something to losen you up. When I lost my virginity, there wasn't much pain... It just felt like pressure.
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OK. this is kinda long, BUT I NEED HELP!!! I've had this gf for about two months now and we've had sex and all, but shes kinda 'picky' i guess you could say.
Like:
She dont like me too look at her
She dont want it from behind (just front)
She dont like me to take off her clothes
She dont want me fingering her/eating her out
She dont like being on top.
plus some more....
but im an extrememly slow typer, and this isnt working out for me. lol.

but yeah
i guess my question is,
why is she like that? and how do you get her to like new things? She says she doesnt like to feel uncomfortable, but i wanna know how to tell her to more things with me. I was a virgin until i went out with her, and i wanna try new things.

I dont wanna sound like a jerk, but she was raped not too long ago at a party, and i was wondering...could that be why?

She may just still be a little insecure. The terrible thing that happened to her also may have something to do with it. She doesn't want you to take off her clothes or try new things because it brings back the memory she has of being taken control of. Make her feel beautiful and let her know how much you care about her.
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Well, my parents never flat out explain things... so I'm hoping you can help.

1. I know guys can be horny..can girls?

2. What does it mean for a girl to "get wet"?

3. Is it actually normal for guys to get horny? If so.. is it a daily thing, or only for someone/sometime special?

4. Hold old are most guys when they start getting wet dreams?

5. How common is masturbating? Do girls masturbate too?

1. Yes, girls can get horny.
2. When a girl is sexually arroused, she gets excited and she actually becomes when in her vaginal area.
3. It's normal for a guy to be horny... I can't realyl tell you if it's daily or whatever because all guys are different. Hopefully it's just when he's with his special someone.
4. I would say about 14.
5. Masturbation is both common and healthy. Girls masturbate too.
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do girls bleed alot their first tim ehaving sex?
how much does it hurt?

Bleeding depends on the person, and so does the pain. I didn't bleed at all when I lost my virginity, but I have friends that did. If you have mastburbated, been "fingered", or are pretty flexible, it will reduce the pain. I was a highschool cheerleader, so I was pretty flexible in my pelvic area. It didn't hurt me much, it was just a lot of pressure. If you truly care about this person, the pain really doesn't matter to you.
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sorry this question is going to sound weird but when you have sex what do you do during it? like does he just put it up there and you just both lie there while its happeneing or are u kissing during it and stuff? it just seems awkward.

This really depends on the people. If you are really close with this person, it shouldn't be awkward at all... You should feel comfortable with them. Some people kiss during intercourse, and some people don't. Some guys may kiss your neck. It can also depend on what position you're in.
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K so i just found out that a friend of mine is inviting some people to hang out with her on friday. even my two sisters were invited! but i wasnt invited though. we are best friends so i dont no why i wasnt invited but im upset about it. i no she isnt mad at me but i still dont no why.

Maybe since you two are best friends, she assumes you know you are already invited. All you can really do is ask her about it in a polite manner.
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One of my friends has got pregnant what should i do to be there for her?

I feel like I can well answer this question. I am four months pregnant and all my friends have done a great job being there for me. They just tell me that they will help me in anyway that they can and that they can't wait to see my baby. Most importantly, none of them ever talked down to me... Like they never said "Your life in ruined, you're too young." or anything. Just be supportive.
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my sister and i always snoop out presents, so we know what we're getting every year. this year, the main thing i wanted was a new digital camera- a NICE one. it was the only big thing i asked for. [last year it was an ipod nano, which was then $200, and i got it.] the camera i picked out was less than $200. well, we were snooping and i found a digital camera. it's NOT what i wanted at all, and they know exact what i want in one. there IS a possibility it isn't for me, because another family member wanted one. but i'm almost positive it is.

so my question is, if it is my present, how do i let my parents know it's not what i wanted, without hurting their feelings? i ABSOLUTELY hate to sound like i'm not appreciative of what i get, because i am. but since this is the only big thing i wanted and it's not even really what i wanted, i'm disappointed. help?!

I don't think you should say anything at all. I think you should thank them for what they got you and at least try to act grateful. They love you, but they're not perfect... Christmas isn't about getting gifts anyway.
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What makes you believe in a higher power that plans your fate over random incidents?

i'm doing an essay in which i have to defend my beliefs (its not even a religous school) and i need one more idea

pretty much what im asking is;;
what is evidence to you that there is a god?


i'm sorry if you don't belive in god, adn di dont mean to affend anyone..but i dont want rude answers about it. if you don't believe, don't respond


thankyou so much!

I believe in God because of the miracles that happen everyday. People who live when they're told they won't, the miracle of birth, and love. Love is a miracle in itself. I believe that God is the reason I am still alive and safe.
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what are some good tips on giving a blow job?

Since younger people view this site, we can't really put things like that on here that they can access. However, if you really want to know, try Googling it.
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This is for either girls or guys.

What are your standards for someone you would date?

Sometimes I think my standards are a little too high, so I was just wondering about other people's. Looks; type of personality; color hair; height; style; family; beliefs etc. Not really your ideal person, but rather (Put bluntly) what MUST they have or be?

Thanks

A guy has to be at least somewhat good-looking to get my attention at first. The basic next thing that I look for is a good sense of humor. It is good not to set too high of standards, because you never know who you could be missing out on!
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I want to give my boyfriend head but im scared cause i dont know how to. Any tips? Also could you explain how to do it? THANKS!!

The person before me did an excellent job answering this question. Younger people acces this site and read the questions and answers, so we really shouldn't talk about this stuff in detail. If you google it I am sure you will find it beneficial.
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Have you ever gone out with someone (boyfriend/girlfriend wise) just for the hell of it? I know a lot of people who simply go out with people even though they don't like them; they just like the idea of being liked.

Is this common?
It seems so weird and pointless to me.

Thanks.

This is common in younger, less mature people. As you get older and develope a better sense of maturity, you realize that a relationship isn't just about having someone that likes you. It's about trust, honesty and communication. I suppose younger people do this because dating and relationships is new and exciting to them.
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