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want sex but dont want to hurt
hey. im 15 and want to have sex with my boyfriend i have been going out with for a year. the thing is i have heard it hurts your first time. are there any masturbation techniques or objects i can use to make myself be able to be pleasured? this way, i figure, i wont be as tight and it wont hurt. please none of the " your too young to be having sex" speach. i dont need any of it.
thanks in advance.
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Masturbation and pelvic stretches will help you. I was a highschool cheerleader, so I did stretches regularly. There is not a certain technique of masturbation that I know of to advise you to use. The only thing I can think of is a vibrator or something to losen you up. When I lost my virginity, there wasn't much pain... It just felt like pressure.
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Okay, first of all I don't think that you're too young! I was 15 when I lost my virgenity and got pregnant! But back to you, your first time isn't the worst pain you could ever feel...it's actually a good pain i mean it's uncomfortable your first couple of times yea but after like 5 or six and you can allow yourself to have an orgasim it's great! Personally I wouldn't try to do too much to make your self not as tight guys like it tight! But make sure your boyfriend gets yu really wet before he sticks it in because if not it feels like they are raming their fist in you!..maybe have him eat you out and finger you a bit and hey if you're wanting your first time to be special spice it up! Do whatever he wants you to that you are comfortable with of course...you'll be okay hun!
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I heard it hurt too and I was afraid of that, but it didn't hurt at all for me. I think it's because those girls have never masturbated or got fingered much, or because they weren't ready. My friend tried using the end of a hairbrush to make her less tight. You just have to work on being less tight. You should let your boyfriend finger you a lot working up to 3 fingers or more, that's what worked with me. It does take weeks or months for you to be comfortable with that. It's best to not skip many days of that or you'll become tight again. So if he's not around, you can try masturbating? There's really no techniques, just be turned on enough for you to get something in [your fingers or an object]?
Also make use your boyfriend takes it slow. It's best if you don't think too much about it when it's about to happen. You don't want to be nervous because you may not get 'wet'. Just be relaxed. If your muscles tighten up, it will hurt you. So talk to your boyfriend about what you want, he has to understand that it may hurt for you and that he can't get lost into his own pleasure.. and go rough or anything like that.
Fingering should be enough, since usually all males have larger fingers than females do.
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Hello
this popping cherry being painful is one mof the most over hyped things ever. if you guy is caring and patient enough it will be piece of cake.
To help yourself, you can start fingering oyurselves while masturbation. One finger and so on.
Being in control of the entry for the first time can help to ease yourself. I mean if you could be on top, then you have control over the push and it helps a lot.
Cheers :)
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well u could have your boyfriend start off by fingering u some time or you could your self..Some sex toys would be great but they proly wont let you buy any but just try to finger your self;start with one finger then maybe add more along the way...hope i helpd a little
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