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I am a virgin and i just want to know is it weird when u first have sex. Like how does it happen. To me it just seems akward when your having sex because what are you doing during the sex and stuff??? confused..please help.
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Well i just recently lost mine, but dont lose it to someone you dont care about or feel you dont trust. You usally get really turned on when your making out and kissing each others neck and body, and then when your boyfriend asks that question "wanna do it?" your heart will be the one to answer. Then it happens. You feel no shame of your body, and you'll feel comfortable but if you dont, then stop! because it isnt the right time to lose it. When i lost mine, my boyfrind went in slowly and it hurts more the deeper it goes in. Your grab on the blankets, and your head will go back, but it wont make you cry unless hes rough. Usally before sex, a man gets you really wet by eating you out or fingering you. and then you;ll feel ready
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I remember how confused I was about sex before I had done it too. Don't laugh, but I remember my biggest fear was how do you not go pee? The last thing you want is to pee on your partner. Before this becomes one of your worries... it is highly unlikely to happen.
The first and most important thing is to remember to abstain. Don't have sex with just any boyfriend you have no matter what your age is. My reasons are not just based on my religion but science and health as well. You certainly want to practice good morals by loving and respecting yourself enough to wait for that one man you trust with your life. It seems to me, if you can't make a commitment to this person, is he worth exchanging bodily fluids with? Aside from that, sex is like drugs... there are side effects. Pregnancy is the first one that usually comes to mind but don't forget about all the STD's. AIDS, gonorrhea, chlamydia, hepatitis, and a TON of others. It is a harsh reality that you are trusting your health to a little piece of latex. According to the CDC, in 2006 the ages of 15-24 acquired half of all new cases of STD's. Gonorrhea alone, there were nearly 650 women (not including men here) per 100,000 population between 15 and 19 who developed this in 2006. Many STD's by the way you have for life. They May have treatments but no cures. Wait until you completely trust the guy first.
Ok, now that that I have done my good deed for the day, when you actually DO find the right guy, and hopefully you are older... at least out of high school so you are old enough to deal with the effects should they occur, sex is actually not as frightening as you may think, under the right conditions. If you are with a man you love and trust you can start by being honest with him that you are looking foreward to this, but you are a little scared. He should understand that and respect that and go at your pace.
Sex usually starts out with foreplay. This is usually some type of flirting, teasing, could even be a massage, that kind of thing. Then there is usually some pretty heavy duty making out. Eventually after kissing and "feeling up" you generally loose your clothes and get in a comfortable location. After that... if you are thinking too hard about what is happening you probably aren't "in to it" enough to keep going. Humans have very few instincts. We blink, breathe, etc. by instinct. Sex seems to be one of those things that you don't really need a book, you just know if it feels right. If it doesn't, change positions. Your hormones and your enjoyment will just guide you through. There is no real right or wrong as far as whether your eyes are open or closed, whether you are on top or bottom... just whatever is right for you and your partner. And the great thing about being with the one you love and trust is you can actually say "please do this" or "is this good for you?". Eventually you learn each other's likes and dislikes and signs that you have quite obviously done the right thing.
I don't mean to sound cliche but it truly is one of those things that comes naturally. You know if it is right and if it isn't... by all means, don't do it. It should not be something forced.
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