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Q: Ever since I was little I've wanted to model. Being in front of a camera and having all the attention is what I love. The problem is, I have no idea how to get started. Does anyone know someone I could talk to or any website I could go to? Thanks a lot =]

P.S. I live in New York if that helps.

I'm sure you'd be great at modeling! Definetly go for it! You should find an agent. You can find one by looking online. Also maybe try a modeling class. My sister is now a model and got started by going to Barbizon School Of Modeling. They help alot. Here's the site: http://modelingschools.com/

^^Check it out. Make sure to have your parents help you too!

--Natalie

Q: i have an extra flap of skin in my private are and like it swells up sometimes and itches, could that be that i use scented tampons or could it be and infection or is the extra skin normal after having sex?

You should definetly see a doctor. Perhaps even a gynocologist. You might be having an allergic reaction to the scented tampons.

--Natalie

Q: 15/f

Hi, I am going to list a few facts about me in hopes that someone can list a few careers that interest me. My school career counsellor has a personal issue with me because my mom fired her daughter, so I am not comfortable with working with her.

- I am a grade ten
- I have a 4.0 GPA
- I excell in all of my courses
- I would like a job that has variety and is somewhat challenging
- Have considered being everything from a Kindergarten Teacher (to work with children) to an architect (to get rich - but I am not sure if I would like to work that many hours)
- I am good with people
- I am equally strong in math/science as english/socials
- I am interested and 'have an eye for' photography
- I love working on a team or with children
- I can be bossy and controlling
- I am a natural leader

Are there any careers or areas I would be best suited for?

Thanks! You may change my future. =)

I think you would be awesome at some kind of design Maybe even interior design. But, first you have to look at the things you love to do, make money doing that.

--Natalie

Q: 17/f.
So one of my best best guy friends and I had sex last month, (my first time) and ever since then he and I have been acting the same-platonic. we hang out all the time and I talk to him at least once a day. We're really good friends and I love spending time with him. But ever since we slept together we haven't even mentioned it. We kind of avoid the subject.
Here's my problem; I really want to be friends with benefits with him and have sex again. So how can I kind of hint to him that I'm "in need of attention" or something without seeming like all I want is sex? I'm almost ready to just attack him! lol. Please help. Thanks in advance!

Well you could say something that hints but lets him actually make the first move. You could try saying something about when you did sleep woth him, maybe telling him how much you liked it. Or how hott you are and would like another round.

Sorry this is a hard question!
Hope it works!

Q: ok, im 13/f. im auditioning for my schools musical on wednesday. im so unprepared. dont even have a song for it.
im not sure what im supposed to sing.
im a 1 soprano. but i have a large range.
does anyone have any suggestions for what i should sing?

thanks in advance.

:]

defying gravity. SUCH a good song to flaunt whatcha got. haha or you could always go for like a thing from phantom of the opera. if you can sing that you are a pro. but its pretty hard. im a singer and i can barely sing it. but email me if you need anything else

--natalie

Q: When you wear body spray, do you wear it before you put on your shirt or when your shirt is on? Because I spray it anytime before recess but then I was wondering if it would colour my clothes if I spray it too much and someone said you should spray it before you dress..which reminds me of the Axe body spray commercial where the guy sprayed it on his chest before he wore his shirt on.

yeah i would put it on before i put my clothes on and make a little after. JUST a little though because you dont want the smell to be too strong. if your a girl guys dont like it and if your a guy girls dont like it.

Q: Hi everyone.

I am going to make my Confirmation this year
and I need to pick out a saints name for it.

Does anybody know any sites that give out the saints name, and meaning.

I would like to have a saint that has something to do with singing, because I love to sing.

Thank you very much in advance :]

Oh yay! i went through comfirmation a few years ago. Methodist? =] umm here this is a site with saint names and meanings. http://wordbytes.org/saints/names-girls-ab.htm

i checked it out and the website works pretty well. hope you have a good comfirmation.

--natalie

Q: ok my girlfriend and i have been haveing sexual intercourse for about a month now.. I took her virginity and she took mine.. Well she was wanting a baby and i as well was but i was haveing second thoughts because i was worried about what our parents might say. Well i went ahead and did. And now i think she may be pregnant because she has so many symptoms of it. like for instance. Breast's being tender, Stomach aches, Random tiredness, Breast swelling, And moodyness. And i was wanting to know how i should go about telling our parents if she truely is.. Please Help Me..

If i were you i would of totally waited. having a kid is not a good idea when im guessing you guys are in highschool? its a life ruiner. but i guess you cant go back in time. you should get her tested for pregnancy and if she really is go to plan parenthood. its great help. if you dont live one theres no other way but to tell them the truth. hope it all works out.

--natalie.

Q: Are we best friends or not? We have known each other since I was 2 and she was 3. We see each other almost every week, and have play dates and go on trips together. We get along very well but we randomly fight. Now she is in a higher grade and in a different school. That means we don't get to see eachother very much any more. And that stinks! Her b-day is next week and we are going ice-skating. So are we still bff (Best Friends Forever)??????????????

Yeah definitley. i think so. and if i didnt help you could always just ask her if your that much of good friends.

--natalie

Q: Ok. I just got my 3rd period. And I got the biggest stomach cramp ever, 2days a row. Its so bad. How do I make it hurt less or make it go away at all?

I already know about Mitdol, but its not an option right now, so please don't mention that.

the thing i do is always rest and drink fluids. i lay in my bed and massage my stomach and i go to bed. you can never feel it when you go to bed. i know you dont want me to suggest midol, but maybe advil? if that helps. cause it helps me.

Q: I know will be a hard question to answer but I'll take anything you got.

http://www.afo.com/Products.aspx?pn=480&Vid=E5BF731239028&t=Photographs&i=0

Thats a picture of the desk I have and I'm having the hardest time organizing it because it always looks over crowed. I have my computer and prinder in the same spots as they do. But I have some jewerly, phone, picture frames and a few lil nick-nacks. And I have no clue how to organize it. I know this will be a hard question but I figure it couldn't hurt to ask. I'm 15/f btw.

And thanks for any attemps.

okay for the phone put it in the left bottom compartment closest to you so you can access it easily. picture frame go in the top right compartment , jewlery get a cute case that matches your room and put it in the 2nd to top compartment above the phone. and the nick nacks just put them in a clear container or what not and put them in the 3rd to top compartment. you can add whatever you want to the top left compartment.

Hope i helped
-natalie

Q: Hey,so i feel completly akward asking this =[ but i know this was like the only place i could ask with people who might know. Okay so i was at the movies wit my friend last night.. and we were having a good times and stuff. and he moved my hand on his dick.. and asked would you.. from his opinion.. i had no idea what he was asking for.. can someone please help me =[ i just like moved my hand away and pretended i didnt hear him =[ pleasee help me

He probably means a hand job or blow job. most likely a hand job if you were in the movie theaters. and a hand job is (kinda wierd to say this lol) simply just masaging his dick with your hands. if goes any further just remember a comdom always helps!!

Q: is there any way to see someone's myspace when they have it on private without trying to add them? i found this website but idk if it really works or its a virus: http://seeprivateprofiles.0moola.com/index.html thanks

no not usually, and i wouldnt use that if i was you. usually sends viruses and icky stuff like that. if you really want to see the profile i guess you just got to add them!

-natalie

Q: does it hurt when first having sex,and does everyone bleed for the first time ..plz help i really love my bf xx

um usually it does. just because its you first time and nothing like that has ever gone in there. yes usually everyone bleeds the first time if the guy does it too hard. but make sure you where a condom. it may be less pleasurable but just think before you have sex.

Q: okay so theres this guy in my math class that i keep dreaming about, the wierd thing is is that i don't know him, he helped me out one time and tallked to me a little, but other than that, we aren't really friends more like aquaintances. I keep dreaming that we're dating, and that he's asking me to marry him, I have a boyfriend already, and these dreams are actually causeing me to have feelings for this guy. What do you think this means?

This happens to me too. sometimes it fait, sometimes its just a wierd coinsidence(sp?) i would make sure you fully know this guy you are dreaming about and you know you really like him before you break up with your boyfriend. just do what feels right. i know people hate it when we tell them that but its true, go with what your heart tells you.

Q: My big toe is broken. Plain and simple, it is definitely broken, please trust me. I haven't told my parents about this, because I am afraid to go to the doctor. It's been broken for about two weeks now. It feels like it hurts more and more everyday. Which might make sense, because since no one knows it's broken.. I am always the one having to go up and down the stairs for everyone and driving everyone everywhere. I never get to rest it. And it's disgustingly swollen. I just hide it like nothing is wrong, and no one would ever know. I just can't do it anymore. It hurts. So my question is, can anyone tell me what might happen if I go to the doctors? X-Ray? Height/weight? Think I might get a cast? Crutches? I am seriously very frightened. For the past two weeks I've felt like I'd rather live with this pain rather than face the music at the doctors. And another thing, is there any possibility the doctors might tell me it's best to leave it alone and stay off of it as much as possible? Could it "heal" on it's own? If I keep my mouth shut about it, will the pain eventually fade on it's own? What would be my consequences by not taking care of it in a proper medical fashion? Finally, I am over 18 years, and we don't have any sort of health insurance. How much would it presumably cost to take care of? Anything you can give me is more than I already have, so thank you so very much!!

dont be scared. doctors are there to help you not hurt you. just trust them. yes show your parents, dont lie to them tell them the truth about how you hid it from them because truth is the most important thing. they will check your height weight and give you an xray. simple as that. your pobably wont have a cast or crutches. no it wont heal itself unless it has something to support it. the pain will not fade because it will get worse and worse everyday you keep on walking on it.

Q: hi my question is how do you make a guy realise he made the wrong decision? i was with him for about 6 months then he phoned me one day to tell me he had a girlfriend.... but i've fallen in love with him and cant stop thinking about him...he made me smile and laugh all the time...now i'm just miserable all the time what am i suppose to do?? please help me emma (female) 20 years old from england please email me at emmabadrick@hotmail.com

I think you should just go out, go to parties and meet more guys. Maybe you could find someone you like. Then maybe the guy you like will notice you're dating other girls and be jealous. Try it. It might just work.

Good Luck!

Q: i have a lot of questions about the M&M ice cream that i just do not understand

1. how do they get the M&Ms all the way down into the midddle?

2. how do they inject the chocolate into the middle of the ice cream cone?

3. how do they get it into the perfect shape of a cone?

4. how come when you bite the bottom part off, the ice cream dosent melt through?

i tried google but it didnt work
thanx!!
love always
leona
and my bff Lorraine hoos w/ me now who also dosent understand this

go to ask.com jeeves will help yah...you have a very curious mind dont you! Thats good though!

--Natalie

Q: I was feeling really horny and so i called up my boyfriend to come over.(my parents were out for the night and im an only child) he came over and we talked and watched a movie but i could barely control myself. we made out on the couch and then he felt me up. He asked if we wanted to have sex and i couldnt resist. we went into my bedroom and he put his thing in and it hurt really bad, but when he cummed it felt soo good. we had sex for about an hour. after we were done i gave him a blow job because he asked for one. i had sex the day after my period and five days ago i was supposed to have it but i didnt. im SO scared because im only 13. i threw up all day today and i never want to eat. im SOO scared. please please please help me. i need it badly.

oh and we also did it up the butt. could i still get pregnant from that? we did it both way.

your 13?? wow hunny you have to get tested no matter what. no comdom either i bet? and you missed your period and threw up all day.im 98% sure you are pregnant. go to plan parenthood, they can help.

Q: My 16th birthday isnt until the end of August..but I really want to have one & start planning. I want to have a huge party (like on MTV) but the problem is - I dont know if I have that much money. I imagine those parties are like, 300,000 thousand dollars or MORE. I definitely dont have that. Any ideas for a good sweet 16? Themes? Ways to cut the cost down?

Also, how can my party stand out? Obviously, I want a band to come - like Copeland or Dashboard Confessional..but that really cant happen I dont think. I dont know, IS it possible?

okay you could have a color scheme as in pink silver and white, and have a dress to match. make your own cut invatations so you can save all the budget you can for the band. you probably need to try to raise money.The invatations can be on white paper, with a pink ribbon on top and silver sequence swirling down the edges. You can have the party at a hotel or go a different route and have it in a pretty big basement. You could have tables with white table cloth over them with big elaborate center peices (to match the color scheme.) You can have disposable cameras on every table tied with a pink ribbon. Pink and white streamers can be draped and twisted all over the basement or hotel ceiling. But remember the main focal point is the band so save your money!!

-natalie

bio

hi. my name is natalie, im 17 and im really good advice giver, all my friends say so. I've been through a lot so i can probably relate to you. Ask me anything, i wont judge or laugh just be honest.

I cannot give you the formula for success, but I can give you the formula for failure--which is:
Try to please everybody.

really just express yourself and dont care about what others think, its a waste of time and they're opinion is not as important as yours.

i truly hope i can help.

_natalie_