about

hello fellow advice seekers, my name is Johanna and I'm currently a student about to enter high school. My days are spent with my friends, family, music, and camera. I've been known for my advice and don't turn down any questions. Feedback makes me happy, so I can give everyone the answers they want.

in my point of view, i accel in these topics:
-friendships
-relationships
-school/work
-ideas/helpful tips

and who knows? maybe ill gain some knowledge by actually thinking of new situations.

it cant hurt to get my opinion, now can it? so ask away my friends.

sincerely, ask_anything

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ileant my mum 40 pounds and she wont give me it back cause she think i stole it out of her purse I DIDNT

just tell her you didnt and say you think it hurts that she doesnt trust you. plus- does she have any effidence? =\... hope you get your money back!! =] -ask_anything

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HELP! how much money should i give my friend for her Sweet 16 tonight?

depends how much you're willing to give away... if you do what we call "joking around money" give her 16 dollars and one to grow on... but if you're doing it the serious way- depending on how much you can give her it could range from 20-100$... some people really spoil their friends... it's up to you. just dont forget to make something home made! [card ;) ] =] -ask_anything

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Mkay.. im 13 and i am really falling in love with my boyfriend. Like i want to be with him for the rest of my life and ive never felt this way before. How do i know if this is really true love? Is it to eairly to have a serious relationship?

p.s. my aunt found her true love in Jr.High. they got married so maybe it will happen to me!

because im not you- i really cant tell you if you're in love or not. depending on how long you've gone out can determine if you really are in love. if it's been like a week.. i wouldnt count on it- if its for a really long time, then you never know! some people are very lucky and find their person really young... if he feels the same way about you- you've got it made ;) i cant tell you if you are or not, you'll just "know" at some point... it's like a woman super power lol...=] -ask_anything

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my cousin is in my school, he made it so easy for me to fit in there and im soo happy for it..he has so much going for him and now he smokes pot like alotttt he didnt as much before..but i really want him to stop b.c my mom and sister are messed up like that and i dont want it to happen to him, hes an amazing soccer player and everything...how can i talk to him or get him to stop w.o sounding like a health freak?

telling your cousin to not do pot- does NOT make you a health freak at all. if you even mention it, that's being one of the strongest people that person can have. you could be a reason your cousin doesn't get in a lot of trouble and get hurt. anyway talking to him will NOT make you a health freak no matter how much you think you do sound like one. ... actually- just dont lecture... then you would lol... but talk to him face to face or however you feel comfortable. you're just concerned, that's really good. =] -ask_anything

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ok, i named the brown puppy Brownie, i named one of the black ones Walker, cuz its always walking around, and i named another black one Tiny, cuz its the smallest of the litter...there are still two unnamed black ones who are fat and always together, as if their twins....any ideas for THEIR names?

bear and belle [if boy and girl] ... depends on gender i suppose! aw good luck with the pups! i love puppies! =] -ask_anything

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My friend amy has a boyfriend named Beau! They are what like 13 years old and 13 years old.. They havent been going out very long, but Beau wants to go n a shower with her n i dont want this to happen.. what should i do

ehh... i definitly doubt your friend amy will let that.. he's just prob. one of those kids who wants something beyond his age... WAY beyond his age. im almost 90% sure your friend wont let this happen, unless she's crazy. if you're worried tell her not to let him do that stuff because you're way too young... i mean com'on... shower is wear you are supposed to be unDIRTY!! =] -ask_anything

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I am just getting to know this really nice girl. She told me something about her best friend by accident though. Her mother abuses her. She has the capacity to kill her one day. She broke her leg when she was four. I really don't know what to do because I really like this new girl but I don't wanna seem like I'm betraying her just at the beginning, you know? And I don't really know the abused girl but my friend would never lie about that. What should I do?

-- Scared

=/

Well im not sure why you would be betraying her... Some people have it worse than they should- and it's good this girl can trust you... even if it was by accident. there's nothing wrong with being friends or more with her, and her friend that you dont know, shouldn't affect the relationship too much... not sure what you mean when you said you'd be betraying her... but you can ask more if you want just ask one for my inbox. dont be scared- things will be fine. =] -ask_anything

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ok well im 13 female and in the 8th grade. the preoblem is, i dont look it or act it when im not in school or with my friends. at school, i wear girly clothes and cute shirts and skirts and stuff from like aero, abercrombie, or ltd 2.
but when im at home i stray away from that stuff and wear tee shirts and ugly stuff. part of this is becasue i dont want to seem like im growing up to my younger neighbors who i play outside with and my dad i think has an especailly hard time with this (growing up). also at home i act different like im younger.... i am afraid to grow up and have a bf,wear makeup, etc becuase i dont want to seem older to my family and neighbors. i do really like two boys in my school, but i cant tell anyone at school or to my fam becuase i think they would be surprised. i dont know how to break it to my fam that i am really 13!!!!!
PS. it doesnt help that i am really small 4 my size!!
confused in lebanon, pennsylvania

well at school it seems your not acting yourself. you're portraying an image you think is most appropriate to maintain. at home, you feel more comfortable and can be yourself it seems. some people dont want to grow up- you might just be delaying your growing up because you're scared? dont be afraid of growing up- it's one of the best things in life. dont be afraid to have a boyfriend, wear makeup, or anything- no body says you have to do it right now, but later on you will have fun doing it all! life is made to have hearts broken, emotions experienced. having a crush on two boys is sooo normal, dont be afraid to tell anyone. your family wont be surprised you're 13 ;) ! they should already be ready for it! your height can make you feel little, but i know so many girls who are small, but they still act like they're 13- and im sure you will to! you cant stay young forever- get out there and have fun for what teens are supposed to do! learn from your mistakes, fall in love, break hearts, have you heart broken, have fun and grow into a person you can look back at and say 'i really did have the best time growing into myself' =] -ask_anything

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my friend's boy friend just broke up with her. This guy happens to be my X boy friend... (2 times might i add) She is torn, he has called me every night since and he's been flirting wiht me a lot, and always wants to see if i can do things with him. Things between me and him and I are getting to strong but my boyfriend isnt taking it all too well. My boy friend, well hes great hes a cute and spontanious guy, but sometimes i feel like there are better epople out there. And i know that my X and i have broken up 2 times beforee, and that i shouldnt trust him... but the thing is both times it last for so long, and the ending was always because of distance and being too young, after all im only 15... i started going out with him for the first time when i was 11... maybe im crazy, but i dont know.... If i brek up with my boyfriend he'll be so upset... if i go out with my x, my friend will hate me.... and most of all i will hate myself. I let myself down, I let the one thing that ive worked so hard to stay away from work its way back to me. I've made what i hate most a part of me... WHAT SHOULD I DO =(

well this guy seems to be jumping back and forth with you. and if your friend just had her heart broken from him AND you already have a boyfriend. id say wait this one out for a while. firstly because your friend needs you around without him until she can move on to better things. secondly, what is so different about going out with your ex than before? wont the distance and age still bother you? if you dont want to hurt your friend or boyfriend, FORGET ABOUT THIS GUY. he's just going to play you all over again. who wants that? i hope you dont. stick with what you've got now, or at least wait a while. if letting this guy back into your life makes you feel horrible- then dont let him! let him flirt all you want, it doesnt mean you have to feel bad about yourself or the decision you make. YOU need to do what feels GOOD for you. not what makes you feel bad. make your decision for the best interests in you. my advice- forget your ex. =] -ask_anything

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im a freshmen and i made varsity soccer, im the only freshmen on the team and im loving it. But, my friends are all on JV and my two closets friends are "jelous" of me as i hear, yet they all seem like they are having a great time with out me... and they always seem to ignore me when im around... they say that im getting to close wiht the upper classmen who drink and smoke and that im not really good enough to be on varsity. I dont understand whats wiht alla this... theyve never acted this way before...they say there reason is that they think im all in to smoking at stuff... but im not... im still the same old brat i always am... how can i prove to them that im not doin this stuff... i really wanna be friends wiht them still

congrats on making the varsity team! well it's understandable that your friends might be jealous. they are acting like they're having a great time because they dont want to seem jealous- even if they are. jealousy is HUGE with girls, and boy oh boy does it suck. they might also be worried you are going to only be with the upper classmen and ditch them, becoming "too cool" ... which is prob. unlikely. well obviously they cant say you arent good enough to be on the varsity team because well... ehhem.. you DID get picked for it fair in square right? so from what you've said i kind of think they are not only jealous, but feel like they might be losing their friendship with you now that you're "in" with the upper classmen. you might want to spend some extra time with them, do something really special with all of them so they understand you still are their friend. and most importantly.. TALK TO THEM face to face and tell them you'd never do that stupid smoking and drug stuff. if they were understanding, they'd forgive you for whatever feelings they had. it's not your fault you got into this, you just had what it took to be on a high ranking soccer team. congrats on the placement, and best of luck on your friends- whom i bet will get over this silly situation. =] -ask_anything

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hey johanna you know me but not very well, i dated your best friend and im not gonna say who i am. I just broke up with you friend and she seems kinda upset i wana be friends with her and all but theres another girl that i like. one problem. They know each other. Is it okay for me to go out with this new girl? or will it just crush your friend?

well ill tell you i have no clue who you are... haha now im gonna be up all night thinking about it... anyways all girls [take that back- most girls] are crushed when you break up with them. you cant help who you fall in and out of love with. and sooner or later you will like someone who will be friends with your ex. before you go for this new girl, give your ex some time to cool off. she's gonna give your new crush some bad facts about you if you hit on her right away. so yeah- give it some time, and yes- it is okay to go out with an ex's best friend. [or from my point of view]. your ex's best friend might be a little cautious at first because 'going out with your best friend's ex boyfriend can be weird.' it really depends what type of person your ex was... and what her best friend is like. if your ex is over you, and moved on, she shouldnt care. if you want me to help you more specifically- IM me and i promise ill keep it all secret and help you still. hope things work out for you =] -ask_anything

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I watch alot of movies..well..alot of love movies. The movies where ppl fall in love. And the more i watch those movies the more i want that in reality. I want to be in love..does neone else feel that way?
Or am i just stupid for even thinking that :/

ooh trust me you arent alone ;) i hate it when i watch one of those movies and i cant say 'oh im so glad i have that too' because most likely- someone wont. :(. but yeah- everyone wants love, i especially want it :) but we'lll just have to wait and see i guess! =] -ask_anything

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Well i broke up with tthe guy i have been going out with and now he is making my life miserable! he is spreading rumnors about me and telling my secrets to everyoine and its pissing me off!!!! how do i get him to stop???

what a jerk!! he obviously was embarrassed/hurt when you broke up with him so he wanted revenge (so immature)... anyways dont try to get him back because things will get worse. i say you should just confront him and tell him how immature and stupid he is being and that you're asking him in a very nice way to stop. if he gives you crap about it- then ignore him or have someone else talk to him that he knows who will take your side. sorry this guy is being so immature and stupid for something so little. [im guessing it was little]... anyways- hope things get better and FAST! =] -ask_anything

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Hey Every1,
This is MiSSc and I have another question for yall. Ok, I still like BoB, Derek (YM Magazine), and now there's this guy named Reese. He's into acting too. He's really hot, and kinda looks like a sufer. He's also a junior, and i'm a freshman. The only problem is, is that he's a huge flirt. Like yesterday at school, he was going to walk me to class holding hands. Then today he was like, "Hey Missc!" and gave me the longest embrace. When he hugged me I thought my heart melted down to my feet. But then, he'll be with the upper class girls (which there are two of them) and one will be stroking his hair and then the next day the other will be sitting and his head will be on her lap and stuff. And, I would like to go on a date with him, but would he date me, a freshmen? (I'm not too sure how to spell that.) Also would he date me, or is it kind of just a fling.

this guy sounds like he likes the attention from all the girls. the grade doesnt really matter once you get to high school [or it doesnt seem to matter at our school], if he's a huge flirt, it might be hard if you actually become his girlfriend because jealously might be a problem. (i dont know you, so it may not too)... from what ive read from your problem he just seems like one of those guys who loves all the girls and likes being with them all- not having to worry about comitment... but i could be completely wrong too... it's a tricky situation... ill be glad to help if i think of anything else [just drop one in my inbox] good luck with reese! =] -ask_anything

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i like thisss kid
and i think he likes this other girl
but i dunno
what shall i do?

well, get your facts straightened out first... if you're not sure- dont jump to conclusions. ive done that and i got all mixed up in emotions [sad face]. and if he does like another girl... well... there isnt much more you can do than try to get over him until he has stopped liking her. but dont give up- make sure you know for a fact he likes her. ask his friends, people he knows, ask HIM! but ask me with more detail if you want more of a specific answer! =] -ask_anything

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its not going the way i wanted. at all. he knows that i like him, but what he says is that he likes his girlfriend and not me..but i'm not THAT stupid to NOT know this. but a lot of girls like him and are really good friends with him and i cant seem to get to know him because its now wierd talking to eachother..i hate this..its happened to me soo many times before, and i dont want it to go that wrong again. how the heck do i go through this again but make it work in the end? i love him. not ALL for his looks ;) but for his personality too..help!

:(

well, if he loves his present girlfriend, you cant do much :(. love sucks, i hear you loud and clear. if this guy has girls all over him- its going to be hard to stick out. just stick with being friends for a while, it's gonna be realllly hard to get past the feelings, but he obviously isnt looking for someone right now. if things were meant to be- they will be, if not now- then later. if you really love him- someday he'll wake up and realize it. some boys just arent quite "aware" of the surrounding people yet. it's good it's not just for looks- i found the same thing over this past year that looks arent everything. all i can tell you is that you need to just be friends for now- if he isnt interested at the time, you just have to wait. trust me- many girls wish they could put magical spells on boys to make them fall for them instead of their girlfriends ;) ... but the world just isnt like that :( ... anyways, im glad you asked more questions because i am always interested in your situations of life - im sorry things arent going your way , tell me if things turn up at all =] -ask_anything

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so ive liked this guy on and off for like 2 years, and he has too. the only problom is i always like him when he doesnt like me and he always likes me when i dont like him. but this time, i think we finnally got it right, but its hard to tell. hes really really shy, but he flirts with me all the time. all my friends jeep telling me that he deffinatly likes me, and i think he might, but i dont want to say it and then have it not be true. and i can never really tell cuz hes really shy and hes not the type of guy to ask out a girl unless hes sure she likes him and he doesnt make the first moves most of the time either. but he knows i like him... so i dont know what to do.

wow, i know someone that is just like that too. if you've always considered this guy [2 years as you said], then you must see something in him that you keep wanting to come back to. ive gone through the same feelings before too. it's hard with guys that are super shy, because you never know what's going on in their heads.. ;) if you feel that you two have finally clicked at the right time, then you should definitly just tell him to his face or if you are too shy- then online, phone whatever. that way he hears it from you, not someone else who could have their facts wrong. if that doesnt get him going- then defintly dont be afraid to help him make the first moves by asking you out. basically guide him through the process.. it's kind of hard to explain, but he'll get it right- just give it time. it might be hard- but things will eventually work out, if they were meant to be. love sucks sometimes, but you just haveta let it run it's toll no matter how confusing or long it takes. he'll have to come out of his shell sooner or later, just let him know you'll be there when he does. =] -ask_anything

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Ok so i asked you guys earlier about my bf problem....So im going out with this guy that my dad doesnt like and i feel guilty everytime im with him! its not so much fun! And i dumped this guy that my dad likes and thinks is a good guy to go out with him! Well the catch is that i still have feelings for this other guy! what do i do?

your dad should respect your judgement of boys! it's your life, i mean... YOU are the one going out with these boys, you most likely wont marry them, so he should at least try to be respectful of your choices of boys. some dad's just want the best for their girls, so it's really normal. just explain to him [even if it's super embarrassing] that you like him, and he would if he gave him a choice [not sure if he really would, but its worth a shot]! hope things work out =] -ask_anything

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There's this boy that I've known for a few years. We talk on email every single day, and we see each other at school.
It feels like we're just friends, but the other day my best friend pointed out that it seems like we are "more than just friends".
I don't believe that, he's just my friend. He's weird, funny, nice, creative, and lots of other things, but I don't know if I really "like like" him or not.
Can someone help me out in trying to figure out my real feelings?

well only you know your feelings, but if you dont think you "like like" him, then most likely your gut thought is right! =] -ask_anything

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me and my best friend dwell over this one guy. I now have a boy friend and hes really nice and cool but i still like this other guy. Now my best friend is going out with him and dont get me wrong im happy for her, but he talks to me about her behind her back and never calls to her and doesnt talk her and its been about 2 weeks now of ignoring here... but little does she know i talk to him eveyr night and he calls me all the time and doesnt answer the phone when she calls... he tells me that he loves me and tells me that he wants me to break things off with my boy friend so he can break things off with her. And he said if i stay with my boy friend thats fine he just said that he'll break up with her anyways and win be some how. And i don't know what to do because in the end i could lose a best friend, or keep a best friend and have the guy i dont want, or have the boyfriend ive been waiting for my whole life even since we broke things off last, and lose my best friend... HELP!

well id first say, if you dont have feelings for your boyfriend you have right now- you might as well do him the favor of breaking it off. nobody wants a girlfriend who likes someone else ;) it's good you are happy for your friend, but i can see why you feel awkward about their relationship. this guy should definitly break it off with her if he doesnt love her, as you should with your boyfriend. if your best friend and this guy never hang out or talk- she shouldnt be missing much. but if your best friend is crushed, DO NOT go out with this boy for a while. hang out as really good friends [but spend just as much time with your best friend] and once your best friend has moved on, then start the relationship with the guy. that way she will have moved on and shouldnt care. [and this may be a while, so bare with it]. just dont pick and choose all at once. do one thing at a time, and go slow. this might either take a long time, or short- depending on the feelings of everyone in your situation. if you have more questions about my answer- please dont hesitate to ask again. good luck with your problem! =] -ask_anything

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