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I can't gurantee that my advice will always be right. And some things I might not even know. But I will do my best to answer any questions :] I'll tell you exactly what i think, so if you don't like it, dont read it!And lately, i've discovered that one of the best answers for relationship problems is communication. talk. explain. share. it does wonders.
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I have so much on my plate right now. I'm a junior in high school. I'm constantly thinking/worrying about the SAT, college, my weight [even though I'm thinner than average], my GPA, the graduation test, my first job, my first car, my future career, my friends.. I worry about everything. It's like I have an illness because I can't stop worrying for one minute.
One of my classes really scares me because I'm not good at it. I'm scared to the point that I feel like I'm really cold and my teeth won't stop chattering and my body won't stop shaking, all because of a speech, or a test, etc.
I'm also anorexic. I'm 10-15 pounds lighter than I should be, but half of me is saying "Who cares what the average weight is? my stomach is humungous" and the other half is saying "Everyone thinks you're too skinny and you are". I lean toward the "I'm fat" side and regulate everything that goes into my mouth.
I think that my eating disorder and extreme worrying are causing me to have depression. I'm never happy unless I'm with my friends. Once I come home, I start the worrying process. I also have experienced serious panic attacks. I hate how I'm never happy =( I'm 16 and most people my age don't worry about anything except what to buy at the mall. I've gone to 3 therapists. One helped, one was okay, and another didn't, so I don't rely on therapy anymore.
What do I do?
wow you're just like me. only i'm a senior now and things still haven't gotten any better. pretty much everything i had to say, the person before me did [an excellent job too]. i talked to my friends about it and they told me to stop worrying, because right now i ought to focus on one thing at a time instead of my whole life. Cars, career, job... that comes after college so i should focus on college first. Take things one at a time, not all at the same time [like i did once] and have a panic attack [which i have frenquently]. also, talk to your friends. It'll definitely help, especially the ones who already graduated or are doing their college apps now. :)
For your class, you should definitely stay after school/class and talk to your teacher. He or she will probably help you a lot in explaining stuff you dont get and helping you on homework. If you're still not completely confident, then get a tutor, especially one that's near your age and has taken the class recently and did well on it. You should be able to find one through your school, if not, just ask around. chances are one of your older friends might be willing to help you.
Just like you, im never happy unless im with friends and once i get home i just start panicking. Trust me, a lot of people your age are starting to freak out about college and their future. On SATs, there are so many types of SAT prep books and classes you can take now. You can definitely find one in your area if you want to be extra-prepared [i took SAT classes since i was in 7th grade.. mostly because my mom made me]. Take your SAT and SAT IIs early, not towards the end of your junior year/start of senior year, because it'll just add to the stress. Try to get it over with as soon as you feel prepared.
As for college, dont worry about it till end of junior year and summer. Because that's when you start looking at colleges and stuff. Dont stress out too much [like me]. Just make sure you start your applications around now.. end of august, instead of last minute. About your car and future, dont worry about it now. First apply yourself to school and your SATs. Then college and the applications. After you get accepted to your college of choice, then you can worry about a car, though you probably wont need one if you're going off to college. A car isnt that important as of yet. I know so many juniors and seniors who dont have cars and are perfectly fine, especially if they have friends they can mooch rides off of. Your career comes after graduation, so dont start worrying about it till towards your end of college/graduation school.
As for your daily overdose of stress. breathe. if you cant handle it, talk to someone. Thats what i do and it always calms me down when my friends show me how irrational i'm getting to be. if you need someone to talk to, feel free to IM me on AIM or MSN or whatever. Just message me. I can definitely relate to you and if you need help on SATs, college, and whatnot, i'll be glad to try to help you =)
I`ve been reading a lot of questions about lucid dreaming, what is it exactly and how do you do it?
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Lucid_dreaming
^ thats pretty much the defintion: 'the conscious perception of one's state while dreaming, resulting in a much clearer ("lucid") experience and usually enabling direct control over the content of the dream.' the page should be helpful :)
what is the special k challenge and what are you suppose to lose by doing it? (how much weight, inches in your waist and for how long?)
here's a website that should help :)
http://www.specialk.com/challenge/
what does it mean when someone says you're blind? (not literally, obviously) they think they're so wise and stuff and when you ask them what they mean they say "you'll know later"
when people say 'you're blind', they pretty much mean 'you cant see what we're mean'. Like when a real blind person cant see anything, this means you dont understand 'or see' what we mean... depending on the subject, it might be something only known to one age group and you'll find out when you get older or something.
I need a list of horror creatures. I want to write a story for theatre class and I need a creature for my horror story. Thanks!
the only things i have coming off from top of my head are werewolves, vampires, ghouls, goblins, mummies, zombies.. im not sure if thats what you're asking for.
there is this website http://www.horrorwatch.com that might help you if you look around?
Last year at school things got really bad for me, i have depression and last year it got really bad. I mean as in my attitude got bad but i never talked bad against a teacher or anything... Now this year parents are saying that if i go to school they will pull their kids out. And the kids are making up things like i physically hurt them when i did no such things! Do i fight back or just let them get what they want and go to a different school?
i know we aren't supposed to say this but please?
thanks in advance...
it ends up being your choice. do you want to leave your school? While the plus side is that you'll make friends and start over, it's hard to go to a new school. If you're willing to fight to stay at your school, i say go for it, because it's your choice and not the other students or their parents' choices.
14/f. okay so i've been seeing all of these people suggesting people to use proactiv and that it really works. well i've always considered it and my mom said that if all else fails she'll order it for me. but if i use proactiv and it works, then won't i just have to keep ording it for years and years? because if i stop using it won't my acne come back? i've never had REALLY bad acne, but its enough to be annoying and noticable.
is proactiv worth it?
if i stop using it will my acne come back?
and how long do i have to use it until i can safely stop?
well, after a while your acne fades away. I think it has to do with age. Because i got acne when i was 14 and it slowly vanished after two years. Proactive is pretty good, so i would say yes it's worth it. If you stop using it right after you bought it, then your acne will come back. But if you use it continually for several months, your acne should stop... it depends on your skin. but i would say proactive is definitely worth it.
15/f
Hey I'm having a sleepover at my house and we are planning to watch tons of movies.
What are some good ones? (so far we have Thirteen, Mean Girls and She's the Man)
Thankss! :)
ooh she's the man is awesome! let's see, there's also 'confessions of a teenage drama queen', 'big fish', 'charlies angels', any of the 'harry potter' movies, pirates of the carribean 1? ... im pretty much naming whatever comes to my mind.
i have recently gotten really into cooking i want to know some good things i could cook for my family??? i don't need the recipe i just need some ideas.
thanks
depends on your family's likes? I would suggest different types of food such as chinese, italian etc or something as simple as lmacaroni and cheese. Some easy stuff to cook are fried rice, lasagna, or clam chowder/some type of soup. you can also bake too! pies and brownies are fun to make. hope you have fun cooking!
what color should ur gums be? & if i have bad gums, what can i do to make it better?
Healthy gums
* Are light pink in color (darker for people with darker complexions)
* Are stippled, much like the surface of an orange
* Are not tender or swollen
* Don't bleed when brushing or flossing
here are some websites that might help (where i got the info from too)
http://www.milliondollarsmiles.com/healthygums.htm
http://www.ada.org/public/topics/cleaning_faq.asp
http://drali.enana.com/gum/index.htm
hope i helped!
1)okay so this girl first asks for my email add then my phone number,then one day i waved at her in school and she was absolutely shy and looked down the whole time.Now we are talking on msn.so does she like me?or is she just naturally shy and wants to be just friends?
2)But what i don't get about girls is that you know how some girls are outgoing and super friendly?So she may talk to you a lot and like you or maybe just talk to you cause she is just being friendly to you as she is to the other guys.So is their a way to know?I mean,if a girl talks to a guy a lot,does that mean that she's interested in him?cause it doesn't really make any sense for a girl to talk a lot to a guy since girls mostly mix with girls and vice versa, plus girls mostly talk about girls stuff which guys know nothing of,unless he's gay.
:1: it sounds like she either really wants to be friends with you or she does like you as more than a friend. it's hard to tell from what you said, but it sounds like she might like you, especially since she asked for your phone #... but you'll need more 'signs' to be sure.
:2: well, does the girl talk to one guy especially a lot or all her guy friends? Usually even if a girl talks to guys a lot already, the way she'll talk to the guy she likes is 'different' in a way. There are other signs like blushing, stammering, etc that girls wont show around guy friends. I for one talk to guys a lot since a majority of my friends are guys.. so i guess it depends on the girl?
i'm a sophmore and i'm probably transferring schools next year. but, this year, i have to go to the open house/take enterence exam, etc. but, the thing is, it's the rivalry school of the school i am in now..... i don' t think the people in the other school are as mean or will treat me bad because of it. but, this is my oppertunity to start over. and everyone will know me because they are both private schools. but, i'm just looking for tips to make new friends and fit in and stuff
any ideas?
i appreciate it soooo much!
xoxo
I transferred to a new school in my sophmore year and it might seem somewhat hard to make friends since usually everyone forms groups or cliques during their freshman year, but if you start talking to people and just be friendly, it's not that hard to make friends. Talk to people in class, lunch, etc even if it's a 'stupid' question like 'do you know what time it is?', or 'what is the hw?'. Also, look out for people who are in one or more of your classes. It's easier to make friends with them, since if you see them again you can be like "oh! you are in my 'math' class too arent you?" This way you can also find someone to check multiple homeworks with. Basically, just be yourself and just act as if it's your freshman year and you're making new friends and such. It's not that scary and can be very fun.
This is not a hard computer question so don't get scared away - on my laptop, when I leave or go somewhere I wanna leave AIM up and stuff. To do this I have to leave my laptop open but my dad wants me to close the lid because it's healthier for the computer or something. When I do that, it logs me off (which I don't care about) but it also shuts off AIM. Is there anyway to adjust anything on the computer so that AIM will stay on when I shut the lid? Thanks.
Usually when you close your laptop lid, the computer automatically goes into hibernation mode or stand by. And when it does that, your AIM automatically signs off. For some reason my laptop is screwed so when i close my laptop lid and open it later, it's still open on my desktop... but i dont think theres a way to adjust anything on the computer so that you can stayed logged on AIM after you close your laptop lid. sorry.
DOes anybody know how to music on my myspace besides threw there music thing..I want a song on there that they don`t have..The only music thing i have is Rhapsody..
So if you help it`ll be greatly appreciated thanks
i dont think you can put any other type of music on other than the ones they give you on band myspace pages. sorry
Me and my friend have been friends for a while and recently she told me about her cusion. i met him and a couple months later we started going out. just last week he broke up with me suddenly because he said he wasnt ready for a girlfriend.(but i think it was someting else) then the next day he e-mailed me back saying he was stupid he did and he still really likes me a lot and misses me. now he is on vacation and he said when he comes home he will have made a decision about going out with me or not. I really really like him but if he ends up asking me out i dont want to sound easy and say yes but i really like him im just not sure if i say yes all of the time to him he is not oging to repect me. Also i've never made-out before and im dying to with him because he is the only one i would but now i dont know what to do!
help me please!
Hm, well you should take it slowly i guess. If he broke up with you once before, you shouldnt be so eager as to rush into another relationship with him because it might happen again.
If you dont want to sound 'easy', then dont immediately say yes when he asks you out. Tell him you want to get to know him more before actually having another relationship. this might end in no relationship at all, but on the other hand it will strengthen any future relationship and it wont make you sound 'easy'.
On making out, im not sure what kind of help you need on it, so feel free to leave me another message about it :) i hope i helped somewhat.
does anyone have some good songs from linkin park? i just need the names of the songs
thx
numb.
in the end.
breaking the habit.
somewhere i belong.
easier to run.
These are some of their good songs in my opinion (not that ive heard many anyway)
yesterday my boyfriend told me he was cheating on me which i was very upset about. i'm still with him and he is still cheating on me.he said he has been cheating on me for a year. i love him very much and he said he loved me too. but he said he wasn't going to leave the other girl and he said we could share him. i'm really thinking about breaking up with him. but i love him and i'm not sure what to do. should i break up with him or just keep our relationship still going? please help and thank you so much
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he says hes not going to leave her and you guys can share him...? uh break up with him!!
When you have a boyfriend, usually there are only TWO people in the relationship... not three or more. If i were you, i would break up with him and find someone better whos willing to be with only you. Don't keep your relationship going once you know you arent the only one in his 'love' life. After all, having a boyfriend means he loves you and only you, not you and another girl.
i recently got a small cut on the tip of my tounge. what would be the fastest way to heal it (putting air on it, ice on it, leaving it alone, etc.)??
Also i have braces, and they were just tightened. Is there any faster way to making them stop hurting so much?
Just leave the cut alone and try not to eat too much salty food cuz if it touches the cut, it'll probably really hurt (salt + wound = ow).
As for braces, when did you get them first? I've learned that after a while, the pain from tightening kind of fades away. But as for now, painkillers are really helpful. Also eating soft food that you dont need to chew too much to swallow. Noodles are a good choice for this.
i hope i helped somewhat. it's mostly a tolerance situation. after a while, you get somewhat use to it more. just dont try to chew on anything tough (like steak).
does the pad come with ddr for ps2?
well it depends. sometimes you can buy the ddr game with the pads, but normally i believe the pads and the game are sold separately. Because i remember buying pads because they didnt come with my ddr game, but it could be different? you could go to stores and check or go onto their online catalogs and check :)
Im considering going to sleep away camp for my first time. Im 14 & Female. Its a boy/girl camp and I was just wondering if anyone could tell me everything I need to know about going to an overnight camp. Its in 10 days so Im nervous. Do camps let you use cell phones? And also, I straighten my hair every day..what about that? Also, any advice on how to meet friends? What is important to bring or ABSOLUTELY essential to bring? Ill take ANY advice about going away. :] thanks!
yeah camps normally let people use their cell phones as long as its during the 'free time'. What kind of camp are you going to? If the camp you go to has plugs where you can plug in your straightener and if you get up early enough to use it, you can probably straighten your hair like usual.
On making friends, it's easiest to do with room mates and just be friendly and talk to everyone. chances are no one at the camp knows who you are so you can be yourself or make a new impression! But camps are suppose to be fun so dont be too nervous :)
essential to bring... SNACK/JUNK FOOD! in case you get hungry or the camp food sucks :P and probably other stuff too, oh well.