Hi, ok well my names mandy and i'm 19 i'm currently a student at uni studying medicine. I logged onto this website because i saw how much help lots of you need i am here to support you and give some great advice so i'm there to answer yours or even you can ask me a personal question too!!!
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So me and my ex boyfriend are having alot of problems right now. I love him to death and want him back. vice versa. But we dont want to get back together until I sort out my problems. For some reason I keep exploding on EVERYONE and taking out anger that I shouldn't even have on everyone. I don't know whats wrong with me. I've been like this since I was raped at 7 years old. Its like I don't want to let anyone into my life. or i dont wanna have anyone stay in my life. I havent even been able to keep an actual friend for more then 2 years. I just ruin it all by being a bitch to them or just shutting them out. It's like as if the rape ruined my entire life and i cant fix it. and at first I didn't think i would need couseling cause of how long ago it happened. but i think i need it now. Though I dont have the money for it. I really need advice so I can have my ex back and so my life can get back to the way it was. please help me. (link)
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Hi Sweety,
I agree you need to sort this out, i couldn't imagine nhow you feel after being raped at such a young age. You may not be able to fix the fact you have been raped, but you can patch things up with your ex, and relieving anger and rape problems.
Just because it was long ago doesn't mean it won't affect you now. The best thing to do is talk to a close woman such as your mother or aunty about it. Ask them for money for counselling, i'm sure they'll help you out, but in most cases you don't even need to pay. How about your school? Every school has a counsellor if your in high school. Ask there.
Does your ex boyfriend know about your rape? If he doesn't talk to hima botu it. Sort this out by going counselling, and even anger management to relieve stress and yoy anger towards other.
This can be fixed and will, don't worry you'll get their, and your ex will be sorted, so you'll be together again.
Good Luck!!
Mandy
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Hey! I'm very worried here! Me and my boyfriend were making out on top of each other, i had pants on, he had pants on but neither of us had our shirts on. We were making out and when we finished, I saw a little stain on his pants, now I'm scared that I might be pregnant.
Ive been waitin for my period and stressing a lot!
I waited for my period to come and it finally came, but it was light and it only lasted 2 days, also i didnt have any cramps or anything.
Could this be implantation bleeding?
Could I be pregnant? (link)
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Hi Sweety,
No highly doubt it it is almost impossible well it is impossible. The stain would of just been from him ejaculating if he got an erection. and your light period is because of your stress about if it will come or not. I'm sure your definetely not pregnant. Try to calm down and relieve the stress now, so your periods will become normal and not irregular now.
Mandy
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Do women body features change once they start having sex, like their waist getting broader etc? if there are changes what are the changes we can figure out? (link)
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Hi Darl,
Well not really hip changes and things like that already would of broadened when they go through puberty, but it is extremely difficult to tell. There aren't any changes that you can tell when they have sex, unless it's changes inside the body like vagina getting bigger from the penis, during sex but nothing you can physically tell.
Mandy
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there is this guy, i know he likes me and i like him too, but the thing is i'm not very good at communicating my feelings so i don't think he realizes i like him back... so are what are something things (or flirting) i could do/ say to him to let him know i am interested? (link)
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Sweetheart,
If he wants you and you want him, just go ahead and tell him you have feelings for him. Trust metell him straight forward and your problem is sorted. I bet he'll be relieved. Dn't waste time with someone you like a lot.
Mandy
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16/f
okay im not sure if this guy is playing me or not..
he was my boyfriend for 6 months and people made up rumors that i was cheating on him, when i wasnt, this girl told him that and she liked him and now there going out. (the girl is my cousin)
this guy has been talking to me and saying stuff everynight to me since they have been going out about how he miss's me and wishes we were together and he talks about how he miss's sex and shit because my cousin is i guess prude..
last night me and my ex were at a party and we only went to 2nd someone walked in.. and hes scarred someone will tell his girlfriend(my cousin)
he asked me if i miss him and i said of course and he said he missed me to but then he said "dont worry soon it will happen" but that same night his gf left him a comment and it said how much she loves him and he responded saying i love you more than anything and then the next day(today) he is still saying he wants me back..
so i have a couple of questions.
1. should i tell my cousin hes cheating on her? ( even though its with me, i would want to know if someone was cheation on me, and i really do feel bad even though she is the reason why im not with my ex)
2. do you think this guy is playing me?
3. is it bad for me to still love him and want to be with him even though (he mights?) be playing me?
i just need some advice, or something.
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Hiya Darl,
Well firstly i strongly recommend you to tell your cousin. because it is breaking up your friendship. And also it's not right to cheat on someone i would definetely want to know if someone was cheating on me.
I'm not sure if he is playing you but if he is playing on your cousin. who knows how many girls hes playing with.
It's not bad to love him because you can't help who you fall in love with, ecspecially when you had something before.
Mandy
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like if once someone has a crush on you but youre not sure whether they do anymore..? because if someone liked you in the first place then didnt would it be possible for them to like you again? there must have been something there that they liked? (link)
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Hi Sweety,
Well that is quite true but sometimes feelings can just completely disappear maybe because the person has changed quite a lot, from what you liked in them. So really it depends on how the person is and on the person that had the crush.
Mandy
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while browsing through few sites i found, in girls, aerola shapes differs in every girls....does it indicate fertility in females? why do they vary? (link)
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Hi Darling,
Well aerola shapes isn't actually common to indicate fertility in females. It actually not really possible to tell your fertility by looking at your aerola.
The most common reason for the difference in females of their aerola size and shape is mostly inherited by genes and the characteristics of their mothers chromosones. Interessting question though worth looking into.
Mandy
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jus wanna know if girls sitting next 2 me masturbates or not, just curious...don know about her much, how do i get the answer? (link)
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Hi Darl,
Your not ever really going to find out unless you catch her masturebating or if you actually ask her. You can try if your desperate, but its pretty territory, she will get freaked out. Good luck sweety!
Mandy
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When you put a condom on, do you have to pinch the end? I didn't know you had to do that, it never said anything on the directions! =/
The condom never broke or came off though..
Please just answer the question. I have had sex multiple times. I'm also on another birth control. (link)
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Hi sweety,
You do have to pinch the ends of a condom when putting it on the penis so that the semen and sperm gets trapped in that spare area and doesn't build up a nd snap so for next time yes. As it never broke or came off i'm sure your not pregnant.
Mandy
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girls only please. so im 16/f, and though im of a somewhat light complexion, i think my private area is too dark. is there anything, if possible, like a cream or something, to make it lighter?? thanXx in advance. (link)
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Hi Darling,
No there is not any creams that i have heard of that makes your vagina lighter. The thing is every girls vagina is normally darker then the rest of the body its natural.
Mandy
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My boyfriend and I are both 20 years old, we've been dating almost two years. We have been sexually active for some time and never had a problem.
Last night, though, he seemed to be having some male issues. That is, getting hard enough to have good sex. He was able to keep it up enough to get off once, but it was pretty obvious there was a problem. He was very embarassed and I feel bad for him, it's the first time it has happened to us. Any advice on what I should say to him? Or what the reason for this could've been? Thanks (link)
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Hi Darl,
I'm not sure the actual reason as it was probably a personal reason. Don't act strange or weird in front of him there are two ways you can do it either ignore it and pretend it never happened or the better option which is to talk through it with him and sort out his problems for him as a girlfriend.
Mandy
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not sure if this is the right category but yah..
say this guy has a girlfriend and he lets another girl like give him a hand job but it wasn't really a hand job because he still has his pants on and the girl is just rubbing his dick from the outside of the guys pants,
and then the guy rubs the girls vagina but outside the pants..
is that considered cheating on the other girl? (link)
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HI Sweety,
Yes, sweety it is if you have any sexual contact with another guy or girl when your in a relationship that still is cheating.
Mandy
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how do you make out/french kiss? (link)
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Hiya Sweety,
This is really hard to explain. So basically start of by little kisses then snogging and then add your tongue in and play aroumd with his tongue really feel it. You will soon get the hang of it with experience.
Mandy
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how do you get a guy to feel you up?
Thanks for your advice :) (link)
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Hi Darl,
First turn him on real good. Start by have a good old snog, then put his hands on your bum or on your breasts or even on your vagina if your ready for fingering. He will get the idea and go with the flow. Trust me he'll be thrilled.
Mandy
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I am a 15 year old female and a virgin. I might be a vrigin but i do masterbate, a little too much. I can't stop. I do it once a day or even up to 3 times. I just get so horny, and try to be active a do stuff, but my hand just drifts.
What can i do? Or is there anyway to enhance the feeling so maybe I won't do it as often? (link)
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Hi Sweetheart,
Masturebating is not bad or wrong. You can't help it that yout horny but i have to say it's a good thing you haven't had sex. Stay virgin until your in a stable relationship so for the while masturebate. The only way you can limit yoyrself is reduce it slowly each day until it gets to about a few times a week or month.
Mandy
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so, wat exactly does it mean for a guy to "fill you up?" (link)
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Hi Darling,
'Filling you up' means with sperm so when he ejaculates into your vagina for example he fills it up with his sperm during sex normally.
Mandy
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Ok so I really am a slut. That sounds bad, but here's my deal. About a month ago I met this guy named Dave. We talked for a week, until he took me to this party and well...I got wasted. We woke up the next day together and we'd had sex. After that we have sex all the time. The only problem I'm seeing this guy named Carson. Carson and I have been together for four months. Bad I know. But Carson and I don't really hit it off in bed. Dave and I hit it off well, but Dave isn't someone I am REALLY attracted too. But Carson I really like his personality he just can't perform in bed well. I don't know what to do. Should I be with Carson or Dave? I really don't like cheating on Carson like this, but I'm so unsatisfied. (link)
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Sweety,
You should be with Carson not Dave. Just because Dave gives great sex doesn't mean you should be with him, sex isn't everything and you can improve work through it. Work on it well and help Carson improves his sex start on erection then work on towards the right penis and hip action. Sex is great but you also need the right person to actually have the sex with.
Mandy
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I have sex quite often with the same person,we've done it mannnnny times.
Tonight i was on my period and he knew that but still wanted to do it.
So i didnt mind,so we started to do it and he pulled out with blood all over his dick
He ofcourse got extremly grossed out and ran in the shower and obviously wanted me to leave.
I'm scared that ,just that will change things forever.
Do you think that things will go back to normal? or Do you think he's that grossed out that he'll never wanna do it again? (link)
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Hi Darl,
The point is he knew you were on your period and he was the one who wanted to do it not you. So it's his fault. I'm sure he will want to have sex with you again when he thinks of the last fabulous sex you had. Don't worry he'll get over it when it's sex.
Mandy
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i really dont know or care, but someone asked me how a threesome works! how does it? (link)
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Hi sweety,
A threesome works when you either have two girls and one boy or two boys and one girl and you basically have sex together like you can basically play sex together. thats all.
Mandy
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me and my Bf has like 4 years thogether ,From the first time I did sex I really didn't like it at all but I just did it because off him
But now is extra boring and I really never want to do it ,...he asked me what was going on and I couldn't answer him
It's not that I don't love him anymore ,but I don't want to have sex
I even sometimes cry because I don't want to do it and if I do it and did want to ,...I ussualy cry afterwards in the bathroom
Is this normal ?
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Hiya Darl,
This is normal, once you have sex a lot of times it can get boring for you whaat you need to do is try out lots of different sex moves. This will get you and your boyfriend excited and it will also bring a lot of sexual pleasures. try out new positions try things like you on top then him on top, blowjobs, handjobs, you know your boyfriend 'eating' you or playing with your breasts something new.
Mandy
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