Iam 14, and pretty smart I guess, and wise (and humble about it too :)
I am really into peoples feelings but i still tend to tell you like it is, theres plenty of people out there who are always a pain in the butt and making everyone around them feel like crap, i dont want to be that person.
I awnser a wide variety of questions even ones i dont know anything about, in hopes i can help maybe even alittle bit, but dont ask me retarded stuff i dont want the drama queen stuff, im here to help if your not here to whine.
Also dont ask me gross sex problems im a christian and i dont know anything about 'blow jobs' so dont ask me about them...also if you dont like the awsner i give you then dont read it.
And just for the record I could care less about the rating you give me, so if you got a negative comment send it to someone who cares, and low ratings are good for me there showing im saying it how it is.
In all christian love, 2tammy2
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15/f
Just to clarify one thing:
I'm a vegetarian not because I want to lose weight but because I promote animal rights. And I plan on turning a vegan when I turn 18. [No one seems to know what goes on in the animal factories. It's living h*ll for the animals and we as people certainly do not need meat to survive.]
I basically run 2 miles in the morning and walk 2 extra miles and do some target toning exercises for 40min the morning or an hour of pilate [sp?] I need to lose weight because I have fat on my stomach and down below all the way to my calves. I need to watch my caloric intake, and to do this, I cook for myself most of the time, because 1. I'm the only vegetarian in the family 2. I can control my food portions to the right amount and 3. Because I cook my foods in a healthy manner [steaming, boiling, baking. No frying or stir frying in oil, etc]
My parents "worry" about me being a vegetarian. To tell you the truth, they worry about everything I do because they think I'm not well knowledged in things I believe in. So basically, I can't get through to them that I'm a vegetarian because I choose not to be part of the society that fuels the animal factories & NOT because I want to lose weight. So this is the weird deal with them: they tell me that I need to get slimmer yet they say that I don't need to "diet" They automatically assume that running = eating whatever and how much ever of it. My parents pretty much eat portions that are meant for two people. Not one. So when I do eat food for one person, they think that I'm not eating enough or something.
So, I was wondering how can I get through to them that I want to cook for myself in a nice way but still a strong way? How can I get them to stop worrying about everything I eat and that I can take care of myself??? They won't get off my case and they're making it hard for to lose weight because they keep criticizing me about what I eat!!! And usually they're making me stuff myself to death by pulling guilt trips on me! (link)
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ok i seriously understand the vegitarian thing, i didnt eat meat for over a month in attempt to be a vegitarian but it is difficult to do for me because it is expensive anyway... and if you walk 4 miles everyday that is like insane wow im impressed and if you eat small portions of food vegitarian or not then i guess you got to accept who you are and embrace your womenly curves, besides me 18 year old brother says he likes chicks with extra fat it dosent bother him and most of his friends dont mind either, and i did notice though that vegitarian food seems to be higher in fat than non vegitarian food maybe tell your parents that lol if theyre convinced your trying to starve yourself, and i guess just talk to them more because it sounds like your trying to communicate with them already and just let them know how you feel and congrats on the whole vegan thing to impressive!!!
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i want to lose weight over the summer. im not really that fat, im just heavier than i look. but its really annoying when my parents keep hinting that i should work out. they say they dont think im fat but im like.. why do they keep telling me this? its really annoying, cause then they say that i eat too much which i do sometimes, but im still not fat, nor have i ever been, really. i mean, im black (not american, like my parents were from africa) and black people naturally tend to have heavier bones, whether they appear to be fat or not. or some people say its muscle? i dunno. anyways, what are ways i can work out? like im 13, but how can i tone my stomach, butt, thighs, and arms before school starts? im also a girl. i mean i kinda want to be more fit too, i just dont want my parents to keep bugging me when i already know. i tell them this yet they still do it. i want to train like really early in the morning before my family wakes up, so i can get used to it and during the school year i can also train then. so what can i do?
um im thinking of trying out for my soccer team in the fall, but i didnt sign up yet though tryouts are in a month. sign ups ended like in june, and there was another part of the form due in like 2 weeks. ummm do you think i should give it a shot that they'd still let me try out? and im not even the best soccer player. i love that sport but.. my family is complicated now, since my dad is working in a diff state for some time, and my mom said this year we'd have to sacrifice a bit since my dad cant drive us to places sometimes. i still really wanna get in that. i like to play mid, halfback, and fullback, but i also need better skills in offense which i totally suck in. ugh, our school is really tuff. last year i tried out and didnt even make the b team. i dunno what to do anymore.. but please help. i also wanna do dance, but its harder to drop me for that than for soccer. :(
and its not like i dont eat healthy foods. my parents make lots of cultural foods. my mom just stopped buying bread.. we have like no snacks except for fruits like bananas and apples and junk. its annoying but when sometimes i just feel like eating for no reason, though im not that hungry. and when theres nothing to eat, i either eat too much fruit, too much food, or i binge on something else im not supposed to eat.. i know im not supposed to eat it, cause my mom told me not to eat it yet. but its like.. i dunno i guess i think that it would be the last time but it keeps happening. sometimes i even eat random stuff like sugar... i know its bad but.. i guess i have a problem. my mom keeps asking if i have a food problem and i say no.. please help me here i dont want to go to some wacko like psychologist. im sure my problem can be fixed
thanks!
btw: last time i went to the doctors, like last year, i was 155 pounds, and 5'4". (link)
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ok first of all, im a white girl with alot of curve so i know how extra weight is, as for you being of that nationality it is totally normal for you to be curvy i dont know why, but feel sexy for who you are, and work it seriously for all those flat girls who would die to be you, and as for your mom tell her to go shove it, its normal for teens to have extra weight and eat alot. dont feel bad feel proud.
And as for the soccer team wing it if you were to late to sign up then try next year you might find with practice you have a hidden talent, and keep in mind its what your opinion of yourself that counts not your parents
and as for sugar 'binge eating' totally normal its probably due to hormonal changes in your body i usually want chewy and or sweet stuff right before my period and if your upset you might be hiding your feelings with food so make sure to express yourself
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Okay, I had this summer assignment to pick a book off this list and read it, then pick a responce question off of a list to write an esssay about. Well, This teacher is unbelieveably hard to please. Well, I've narrowed it down to 3 responce questions, and I need somebodys advice, somebody thats read the book. Here are the Three that I've chosen:
Novelists and play wrights have often seen madness with a "dicerning eye". Select a novel or play in which a character's apparent Madness or irrational behavior plays an important role. Then write a well-organized essay in which you explain what this delusion or eccentric behavior consist of and how it may be judged resonable. Explain the significance of the "madness" to the work as a whole"
Well, obviously this one would work because the whole book is about madness in one way or another. However, my teacher would accuse me of simply writing a plot summary (I've had this teacher before, she doesnt like the way I write)
"From a novel or a play choose a character whose mind is pulled in conflicting directions by two compelling desires, ambitions, obligations, or influences. Then, in a well-organized essay, identify each of the two conflicting forces and explain how this conflict within one character illuminates the meaning of the work as a whole"
Well, this one would work, theres the issue between Cathy between Edgar and Heathcliff, then Cathy (the daughter) between Linton and Hareton. but thats not nesicerally clear, and she could nail me for that.
"Many plays and novels use contrasting places (two countries, two cities or towns, two houses, or the land and sea)to represent opposed forces or ideas that are central to the meaning of the work. Chose a novel or play that contrasts two such places. Write an essay explaining how the places differ, what each place represents, and how their contrast contribuetes to teh meaning of the work"
Well, obviously between the Wuthering heights and Thrushcross Grange, The two houses, Wuthering Heights and Thrushcross Grange, are highly symbolic. The Heights represents a "storm," whereas the Grange stands for "calm." Lockwood explains the meaning of "wuthering" as "descriptive of the atmospheric tumult to which its station is exposed in stormy weather."
What i need to know is which would probably be safest, most compatable. Im sorry its so long, but thank you so much (link)
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hmm both sound rather easy maybe the second one it sounds more appealing to me... and maybe the teacher dosent like your work because she thinks you can do better and that you have good potential your not using? and maybe you dont work hard enough or long enough on things, my teacher in language arts liked me writing but didnt like the thought that i didnt use myself to full potential, and if neither are true and she just dosent like you then realize your great and her opinion of you dosent mean squat
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I havent seen my boyfriend in 2 weeks and hes comming home and we are gonna spend the weekend together. I love him very much, I am also a virgin, and I think I am going to lose my virginity this weekend. What else can I do to show him how much I really missed him? (link)
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good thinking remembering there are so many other ways to show your bf how much you care, first things first though do you really want to lose your virginity?
How about cook him dinner, if hes a sporty guy go to the gym with him, or go for dinner out and pay for it, or buy him something hes wanted forever, good luck!!!
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Since you called me a total freakin idiot thought id call you a fag and loser dont give me advice ok there pathetic (link)
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I am not going to get into a fight with you, sence you already know my opinion of you well.
If you dont want my advice then do not send me the question, i could honestly care less if you like the awnser i give you or not, im here to give you advice not make you feel good.
Please do not send me another response to this i dont wish to argue with you, nor do i care what you have to say.
In all christian love, 2tammy2
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Well i know this boy for almost 8months but his my online bestfriend im in sydney and his in victoria and i want to send him something but im scared is dosnt give me his address i really want to send it to him but im ton scared to ask himm any advice ? (link)
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dont do it, you could know him for 8 years its still just to dangerous, besides in order to send him a package you have to provide a address which you should not do if you already have then (no offense) your a total freaking idiot.
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Hey everyone,
What do guys love when girls say to them ?
Any ideas?
Please help!
Thank you lots!
Betty. (link)
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dont sweat it you'll end up looking like a total fool, just relax and say whatever comes to mind he'll tell if your faking it or trying to hard.
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I REALLY like this guy. [lets call him Frank] I've known him only for about a month or so but we talk alot [on myspace, rarely on the phone] and his friend told my friend that he liked me and my friend told his friend that I liked him too. [sry if that was confusing] So, I was happy and figured that if we both liked eachother that we would go out soon. That was about 2 weeks ago and then 'Frank' was talking to a different one of my friends on myspace and I don't know the whole convo but he told her that he didn't like anyone at the moment. I'm really confused, I really like this guy and I would have already asked him out or something but one of my biggest fears is rejection and i couldn't handle it if he said no. We've only hung out twice [he lives about 30 minutes away from where I do so its kind of hard to hang out] but a week ago I asked him if he wanted to hang out again sometime and he said yeah but not that upcoming weekend but maybe the next [whick would make that this weekend] we haven't really talked about it after that and tomorrows Friday. I'm just wondering, how do I ask him (again) if he wants to hang out without sounding desprate or something like that? Like, how would I word it?
thnx so much. (link)
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i suggest you look at questions under romance there is probably hundreds of questions identical to yours look at one of those, i know its fun to post your own question but it is not neccesary if there is hundreds of the same
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Okay well im a 14/f and i have a friend- ex friend now- but she texted me and was like i tolled everyone your secret! - and my secret is that im a lezbian- and she is the only one i tolled and i thought she was just kidding but she wasn't she tolled like veryone i know and so now everyone is like Oh god you are a lez sick your perverted , do you have a girlfriend , you should die lezbians and gay people shouldn't be aloud on earth ext.... but its starting to get to me and i dont know what to do can you help me??
love,
Stressed out! (link)
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first things first, its not tolled its told, also how can you be really sure your a lesbian when your 14 ppl including my hormones change all the time especially during my period, maybe your friend told everyone when shes actually insecure about herself? maybe you should be there for her just not tell her any secrets?
Ok and as told by the famous: Domonic Monaghan if you havent heard about him you must live in a box, anyway he used to go to school in spiderman costumes and stuff and the average person would say that other kids would make fun of him, but no, he said and its true that we (kids) make fun of weakness if somone is nervous or not proud of who they are then others will attack it and make you feel like crap, so if you really are and choose to be a lesbian(you dont HAVE to be a lesbian if you dont want, you are the boss of your life) be proud of it its your life not theirs so just pretend like the rumors she is spreading dosent bother you and pretty soon she'll stop, soz this is long
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ok my friend told me today that chris brown and channing tatum are gayy is that truee? (link)
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Does it really matter? is it any of your business?
Is it a bad thing? will it change your opinion of them? should you be worrying about it when it's not your business? ask yourself those questions
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ok my period started last saturday and tomorrow's friday so its been almost a week and its been heavy the whole time, and ive had bad cramps. is this normal? i dont want to go to the doctor so should just wait? (link)
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if it lasts longer than a week i heard its unhealthy you could visit beinggirl.com they awnser all those questions.
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I have two friends who have decided to become vegans/vegetarian. Please tell me if theres a difference. I've heard there is but I'm not very educated on this type of stuff. Also, thay keep telling me that being a vegetarian is way more healthy. I don't think thats true because they don't get protein from meat. I respect they're lifestyle choice and I'm not trying to say that they're wrong or anything like that but is it really healthier or what?
kthnx for the help, (link)
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A vegitarian is a person who chooses not to eat meat while a vegan will not eat any by products of any meat such as eggs, milk, butter that stuff, and i did not eat meat for a couple of weeks (3 or 4) i did feel healthier i feel more bloated and it takes forever for me to digest meat and i like not eating it, i wish i could continue on as a vegitarian but its not really practical
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i am 15 years old 5ft 4 inches and way 9 and a half stone. people tel me i luck healthy but i can pinch loads round by belly and under my boobs. i am over weight?? (link)
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thanks for sending this directly to me, i will do my best to awnser it, my math tells me that you are around 126 lbs. because were i live we never use the word 'stone' i didnt even know what it was, im not going to make you feel good by saying your fine, i cant tell by your description, i am the same height and slightly over 10 lbs. lighter and i can pinch fat 2, and it is totally normal, so if it bothers you so much then go excercize or something, and remember it dosent matter what others think of you, it matters what you think of yourself, and dont be so obsessed with yourself if your worrying that much then you obvoiusly dont have enough to do, go volunteer at a soup kitchen or something, that would help
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hi. I have an 11 year old brother and i can't stand him and i am 14. He makes messes and he makes me so mad like he is trying to make me freak out. I try to ignore him but that doesn't work. Sometimes i have to babysit him and i really can't stand that. Ok this is going to sound gross but it is true. About a month ago I had a dream that someone was touching my boobs. It felt real so i told my friend. Later my friend told me that that wasn't a dream my little brother was touching my boobs!I almost barfed. That is so gross!! I have not told my mom this because she wouldn't believe me. I really don't want to live with him. How can I explain this to my mom with her believing me and how can i make this all stop?HELP!!! (link)
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I have a older brother (17) and he bugs me to peices sorry it dosent dissapear in maturity, he sounds pretty normal to me except for the whole boob touching thing, i would def tell your mom about that my bro started slapping me and i told my mom and everything is rectified that could turn into serious business so i would deal with it now and as for telling your mom if she dosent believe you when you just tell her the truth and no drama and whining then i guess id lock my door
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at first i didn't pay her no attentions at all she was so in love with me but then out of certain we broke up. i do like her now but she told me that when i am really want relationship i should come back. i call her and beg her but she try to play me so i told her that i need her anyways the relationship should stay and she should get out of my car so she did and since then i don't call her neither her but the part of it is that she don't speak to me any more which i don't care but again she told me that she don't want relationship anymore i am cool but she don't say hi to me anymore so definately what going on and i don't have a problem with it either (link)
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Ok i can barely read your question next time please form it in a readable manner, from what i could gather, i think you need to let this chick go she is a clingy, selfish and a player who keeps messing with your feeing, if you got another girl then go for that one this one sounds like a total loser i dont think you'll have any problem getting away from her once you get the iniative
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So there's this guy who i've liked for a year now. I told him I liked him a month ago because I thought he liked me too. He didn't really respond. So now it's summer and we don't see each other. I should get over him, but I really don't WANT to. It's fun thinking about him, and he also never really gave me a response, so there's a possibility that something could happen next year. Is that okay? (link)
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ya i know how that goes i have liked a guy for like sence 3rd grade for like 5+ years and he dosent really like me back i dont think so i still like him so you dont have to 'get over' him, but seriously if you dont want to get over him then you wont you control your feelings and your life, so consider that 2
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i did an answer.. ive been bi sexual now for like 9 months .. i dated a girl for 7 months and now im with a new one.. but is this just a phase or not.. hoe do i know.. does anyone know.. can anyone help.. please.. thanks!!! (link)
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im almost positive it is when your a teen atleast my sexual feelings changed all the time. no im not a bi im straight thankyou and am currently enamored or however you spell it with any man practically on this earth well thats hormones for ya, and another thing dont ever feel trapped by your feelings if you dont like being a bi then dont be one
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i am 14/f 5'9" 136 lbs. how many calories should i eat a day to get to 130? (link)
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i dont think you need to you are very tall and many people several inches shorter than you are just fine with that weight, maybe try 1,000 that seems to be a populuar amount
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I bought a plant called Astilbe Rhythm and it's the second plant I have bought that had started to discolour and die! The soil is moist and it's gets some sun light, but I feel I have killed it! Do I cut the leaves that have died? Or is it dead and it can't be fixed? Should I plant it in the ground? I'm very upset. (link)
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yes use the plant food my mom used to be a plant waterer and she says that plants like to get really wet and then get dry and then get watered again my suggestions is do not keep it wet all the time bad idea, if its an outside plant then maybe plant it but i dont suggest it because that might put it in shock maybe just put it outside in the sun and dont cut off the dead stuff in my opinion it might afflict it somehow
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okay. so i'm 15. 16 in a month...
welllll you see i met this guy [he's the lead singer of my favourite local band] and we startedd talkingg and then it was every single day on the phone we'd talk. and we'd hang out once or twice a week..... well my parents met him, and they think he's okay. he's a good christian guy, and i'm christian as well.
well he asked me out, and we've been dating for about a week now. but my parents i think know we're more than friends? but i can't sit them down and tell them or anything. because they absolutely despise us..
you see the main thing is... he's 23. he's technically 7 years older than me, and graduated and has a steady full time job, while i don't have my liscence and i'm a sophomore in highschool. see i know i'm mature for my age, and not saying he's the most immature person, but he's not way to mature for me. we fit together. well. i know that it's illegal. but after i turn 16 isn't it okay?
anyway; my parents are concerned only about his age, that's all they think about when i bring him up. =[
i really don't know what to do?
i'm scared if i tell them, they'll never let me
see him or talk to him ever again. =[
sincerely;
lost in translation. (link)
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Im glad you love this guy and that hes a christian that is very important but as my bro puts it the 5 finger rule is important, i dont really think its going to work out theres just to much age in between you if hes actually mature he'll realize that
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