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Hey, my name is Anthony. I've been through a lot in life and I've found ways to solve most of my problems. So if you need help I'm always here.My forums. Come here to talk with me!
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Okay so I have really damaged hair. It's super short because I tried to cut off as much of it as I could so It wouldn't be as damaged. It looks terrible. Its two different colors because I don't want to dye it anymore. I want to get a wig until it starts to grow out and isn't as damaged. It just sounds embarresing to me, And I don't want it to like blow off or something..lol. Any advice on what I should do?
My best friend is in this same position and I know alot about hair and products for it. The best thing to do is to just NOT PUT ANYTHING more into it. Let it grow out and as it gets longer keep trimming off the damaged parts until your hair is completely new. I know it will take a long time, but you have to be patient or your beautiful hair will never come back. Just deal with the fact that it will look funky for a while. Let it grow, and condition everyday. No straightening, no crimping, no curling, no dyes, no hairspray if possible.
The only person I have left to talk to after everything I've been through...my best friend.
Well, I keep waiting for her to get up and leave like everybody else did. She's away at the moment (like on vacation away) and I wanted so badly to talk to her because I feel like I'm drowning over here. So she never called me back until finally today. I wanted just to pour my guts out to her, but lately when something's bothering me, I just physically can't talk about it. I can't form into words what I'm trying to say. I don't know why, I just can't. So I was trying to tell her but I just kept getting more and more frustrated (mainly with myself) so then I lashed out at her. I hung up on her (something I've never done before in my life), and then she tried calling back but I wouldn't pick up. I was just upset and felt deflated and ugh. And it wasn't even her fault. It was all my fault for getting mad at her and I feel awful about it. And when I feel awful about something, I go to her. But the thing is, I actually don't want to go to her. I almost feel like I don't have the energy to go to her and explain why I'm so upset all the time. Because I don't have the energy to find out why myself.
It's so confusing. Like, what I just typed up there, I could never say. It's easier to type something out than say it, but even then I'm not telling the whole thing because I can't organize my thoughts to just spit it out.
Sorry if this got annoying.
I know exactly how you feel. I've been in pretty much the same position. Just remember this. I know it sounds cliche, but it will pass. It's mainly just teen angst. In a week or so you will probably forget it, and in a few years it won't matter anyway. Just do your best to cope. In the long run, it doesn't matter.
get a phat butt? :)
The only way to get a fat butt without becoming fat would be through lipo injections, bassically, plastic surgery.
Ok so first of all I'm a girl and I'm really confused right now. Since I can remember I've always been straight but now I'm second guessing. Well here's the deal:
I masturbate all the time and I get a little turned on when I see nude pictures of girls.
So what does this make me?
HELP!! =/
This doesn't mean you are lesbian, or Bi. Every teenager goes through problems like this. Everyone gets confused. It just means your curious. Seeing girls nude turning you on doesn't mean anything. It's okay. Don't worry too much.
So I'm 15 almost 16.
My EX boyfriend was my first boyfriend, and he broke up with me the first week of our relationship, and then we got back together like a week later so we were going out with eachother for like a month and then I found out he asked a girl out while going out with me, and was gonna brake up with me, I wont forgive him, maybe I'll`forget. I have just gotten over it and im officially talking to him again, I kinda still have feelings for him and recently he told me its not gonna work out with him and his new Girl friend, I didnt realy care, but I do want him to be happy, So the other day he told me he still loved me and he did the wrong thing, and he asked me what I would say if he asked me out again, he didnt say he was gonna just wanted to know what would say, I said I didnt kow, and to drop it for now. I dont know what to say to him or to say if he asks me out again.???
Kinda confused, plus not many people want me going out with him.
I would say you shouldn't go out with him. He had his chance, and when he messed it up he has no right to get another chance to hurt you... There are plenty of other guys out there... Don't waste time with bad guys...
My phone contract is up August 15th and I want to purchase the LG Dare. But, is it worth all that money? If someone can help me in deciding to buy it, thanks in advance. In return, I will rate you back.
Get a voyager instead
15/F Chinese
I'm not very hairy in general and I've never shaved in my life. However my legs have become bumpy (nothing disease like). Also my knees are bumpy. Is there a way to smooth out my legs? P.S. Lotion doesn't really help.
The bumps are probably the pores where hair will start growing soon. Your probably about to start growing leg hair. Once the hair comes up and you shave, the bumps should be gone, but until then it just part of your body growing up.
Edit: To answer your comment, you shouldn't shave yet. Wait until the hair has actually grown, then you can start shaving.
is there a music mixer that i can download for free?
i'm in desperate neeeed of mixing/speeding up music for a cheerleading mix.
thank you! :)
Audacity is an amazing free program.
http://audacity.sourceforge.net/
Hope that helps.
I am 16 yrs old. Me and my boyfriend never have had sex with a condom for the past 6 months. Last month my period came on on July 10, 2008. Me and my boyfriend had sex a week later, my period was supposed to come on today which is August 10, 2008. I have not been feeling normal and been more tired than usual and been gaining weight. Could i be pregnant?
It is possible I guess. You shouldn't jump to conclusions until it's been about a week late. Buy an EPT. You really shouldn't be having sex without a condom. It's your fault if you are. Really, you shouldn't be having sex at all at 16, but at least use a condom...
14/f
freshman
i am a christian.
i have been serving god all my life.
and i have had plenty of christian and non-christian friends.
i try not to talk about religion a lot because i dont want to push my friends away.
i am not a rebel or emo or anything, but lately i have been wondering if i am two different people.
i love god with all my heart.
and that will never change, but i recently told my friend about my releigion and she said she had no idea that i was christian. does that mean that i dont act like a christian.
i go to church every other sunday, i read the bible and i love singing praise songs, and pray. but my friends didn't know that i did anything like that.
how can i be chirstian in front of my friends without pushing them away???
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confused about being 2faced
Dear confused about being 2faced ,
A lot of Christians have this problem. The bible says that one of the most important things a Christian can do is bring others to God. You should always be open to talk about it if someone else brings it up. When you talk to a friend and they say they are looking for weekend plans invite them to church. Wear shirts with christian band names on them, then when your friends ask about the bands tell them they are christian. Don't worry if some people think it's weird. If they do, just try to show them you are still a normal teen, and you are happy, it will make them wonder if it's as bad as they think. If your friend is having trouble with some thing, tell them you'll pray for them. That is HUGE!
Just remember, the world is going to end very soon. All the predictions for the beggining of the end times are starting to come true. God wants to take as many people home to heaven with him as he can, and he needs your help to do it.
I'll be praying that you find the strength to talk to your friends about Jesus.
P.S. Tell people Jesus loves them.
Do you think it's worth it to buy the iphone 3g just to use as an 8gb ipod? I would get the itouch but
it'salmost $100 more than the 3g. I wouldn"t use the at&t service because i already have verizon i just
want to use the ipod. And would the gps still work without service? Thanks.
I don't believe the phone would even work as an iPod without the ATT service, and the GPS would not work 100% sure about that one. I would say get a Zune, cheaper, better features, easier to use, and no DRM!
Microsoft Zune is the way to go!
a girl with a bf goes up to the mountains with a different guy who is just a friend who knows the girl has a bf.
she decides to get out to look out at the view and tells him to come too. Instead he touches her thing and says hold on. So she stops and starts to wait. he gets closer to her and begans to kiss her and she pushes him away and says, "what are you doing we are just friends and I have a bf?" he stops, apoligizes and begans again. then she pushes him away and tells him she wants to leave.
he doesnt take no for an answer and begans to touch her while she keeps saying no. she punches and kicks and all that. he doesnt stop. he gets his pants off and her shorts off.
does he get all the way in her or no? continue my story with details its for school. thanks!
This story is not appropriate for school...
okay, i have a black and white, plaid, pleated skirt. it is from hot topic but i am not punk at all. anyway, i was wondering how i could wear this. i'm not punk but i'm not preppy. im just... i dunno, somewhere in between. it is hot right now so any ideas of how to wear it? with what kind of top? also how could i wear it in the winter? i dont want to look like a little school girl!
If you don't want to seem too goth or emo you should try wearing it with a hot pink top. The colors will match and it will preppy it up a little bit.
I think Im depressed, and I have no help. I can’t see a doctor, and have no one to look up to or talk to. Long story not so short: When I was 5, my not so nice grandma moved in with me and my family. Our house has only 2 bedrooms and 5 people living in it. It may not seem like a huge deal, but its really affected me, and the way I choose to live my life. To cut to the chase, I’m 15 now, I don’t have many friends, never had a boy friend, I’ve never had privacy, I’m a huge introvert, I don’t talk to anyone about my problems or how I’m feeling. The reason I don’t have many friends is because I cant have sleep overs and have birthday parties. Its embarrassing when a friend finds out I don’t have a room. I think its just a waste. I want a normal teenage life. Its my first year of highschool, and I want to have friends, and boy friends. I need someone to care about me. My family says they do, but I don’t feel it. They don’t help. They don’t seem to see whats happening. Not only is this affecting me mentally, but physically also. I have been sleeping on a couch for 8 years now. Two years on a camp cot at the foot of my parents bed. I have bad hips, and its bad for your spine to curve to the shape of a couch. I have no choice. I live out of a corner basically. I only have a dresser for some clothes, and a computer to keep me sane. I feel numb. I have no emotion. I cry EVERY night. I am not some emo kid that wants attention. This IS real. This is my life I have to live, and deal with but I’ve been trying for so long, and its only gotten harder. The plan was that my family would build on to our house. They would add two additional rooms. They have been telling this to me for as long as I can remember, and they have done nothing to even begin the process. Theres always some lame excuse. When I try to express my feelings to my mom, she says “think about all the other kids that have to live in boxes, and don’t have families.” I have thought about that, but it hasn’t made me feel any better about my situation. I have to stop worrying about other people. I have to have a life to. Don’t I have a say in what I want in my life? They are focused a lot on my sisters life, and her college career, and money. Im very good in school. Its one thing im proud of, but its getting old and my parents expect even more. More than I can give them. To top it all off, my grandma is extremely racists. She is not in very good health at all. Shes depressed, she cant sleep at night, which means I cant sleep, because she is always up walking around and eating and making noises. No one knows about how this bothers me. My grandma has two other sons that have huge houses with plenty of room for her, but she had to come here. Its ridiculous. I try not to talk to her, but that’s difficult with the living situations. I have thought about cutting, burning, and suicide. Anything that hurts. I’ve been using a rubberband to slap my wrist to keep me from doing something more serious. I want to live and have privacy. I don’t want to have to go in the bathroom and act like im taking a shower, just because im crying. I’ve been having nightmares about this. Its really getting to me. This is so selfish. Im sorry.
The point is I don’t know how much longer I can live through my parents lies. I want help. I need advice.
Its one thing when you fall asleep crying, but when you wake up and tears are still falling; that’s a whole different issue.
I have no one to go to.
Please help me.
I am so sorry for your situation. I know some of what you are going through, I have 8 people living in my house inlcuding my Grandma (who is extremely racist and rude to everyone also) and aunt and cousin. I can't imagine how your life must be though. Heres one thing, I'm so glad that you had the courage to post this on here. Just talking to someone can help. So if you need someone to talk to, I could talk with you whenever you want. If you want to send me an e-mail my address is just1bigoxymoron@gmail.com.
Stop causing your self physical pain though. You already have enough pain in your life, causing your own won't make you feel better. It doesn't work.
Another huge piece of advice I can give you is this. Find the Lord. Jesus Christ saves lives. If you want to talk to someone about religion I can talk to you about that too. When I have problems, just praying gives me joy. Just know that there is a God up there who loves you and wants to see you happy. And if you really believe in him and pray he wants to help you. So I'm not sure if you have religion in your life, but if you would like to find out more about it, or just need someone to talk to, you can e-mail me.
ok so i know a few people who are mormons, i honestly didnt know what to expect when i went there, so what makes them different from other religions, and what about how they dress is it different/....?
Mormons believe in the Bible of the Christian religion, but they also have an extra book of other things they believe.
For example, they believe that if you are a good Mormon, when you die you will get your own planet. Contradictory of the Bible.
For more information you can go to:
http://contenderministries.org/mormonism/godchrist.php
hope this helps.
If you have any other spiritual questions let me know. I am a bit of a theologists and a devout Christian. Leave me a question on my column if you need anything else.
I have been looking for a job all summer but all i get is im not old enough. Im not sure what places hire at 15 and a half and i also wanted to know how old you have to be for Jcpenny, Kohls, and taco bell.
If you have other ideas for jobs please let me know.
thank you very much
The problem is, at 15 and a half, child labor laws prevent you from being hired. Any major corporation, (including JCPenneys, Kohls, and Taco Bell) are required by law to wait until you are 16 to hire you. The only places you may be able to find a job are smaller shops. Mom and Pop type places are sometimes able to get around the Labor Laws, but at 15 and a half, I would say be patient... Once you start working you never will stop probably, so enjoy the little bit of time you have left free.
What else Free Online Website Builder/Maker where I can make 2 or more website/s with just one user name like weebly?
Answer as many as you can
Tnx.
I know geocities is a good site to use, but you would need two usernames for two sites. I'm never seena site like what you are talking about... Sorry
how do i unlock a song that i have purchased on itunes
purchased songs lock so i cant download it to convert it to and mp3
how do i unlock the song?
iTunes is a very restrictive program in that way. The best way at this time to get rid of the DRM, or "unlock" your music, is to burn it to a CD, then REUPLOAD it to your computer from the CD. That should fix your problem.
15/f
So, just a few questions.
Where are places I can go to meet guys, other than school?
How do I go about approaching them in different situations?
What can I do to make hot, single guys more likely to approach me?
How can I attract older guys?
Thanks, xxx
Guys will approach you more if they see you notice them first. If there is a cute guy make sure to get eye contact and give him a flirty smile. That should give him the confidence to introduce himself.
I look at every time I'm out of the house as an opportunity to meet girls. There really is no special places. Just look at the world around you. They are everywhere.
okaay so i guess i should describe myself for this :P
15/f
I'm averagely tall and I'm normal skinny.
i have maroon coloured looking hair [naturaly] and my skin is very pale. basicly white.
I have quite big dark brown eyes and long eyelashes :) my hair is straight and goes down to my waist. I'm into this rock emoish style. i wear black eyeliner but very bright cloth like a pink tee with cute skulls lol
i also wear blush and foundation.
the thing is that i wanna look really good next semester so i'm wondering what would suit me well. i only wear skinny jeans. what can i do to make my legs appear longer? like what tops should i wear? and what colours would suit me?
you can show pics of clothing if you want
and how can i get my hair REALLY straight. is it the straightner or the blow dryer that makes hair so straight? haha
any other tips are appretiated :D
Well, first off I'd like to say, curly hair is much more attractive than straight hair, so I wouldn't straighten it if it's curly or even wavy.
Skinny jeans alone make your legs look longer. Spaghetti straps that are a little long on you also make you seem taller. Your maroon hair will go good with black mostly, but any color should look fine. I'm sure you'll look amazing when school starts.