Hello, call me Abby =] I'm eighteen and a senior in high school this year. I've always had great advice, I'm just not so great at following it =P Feel free to ask me anything, I'll do my best to give you an answer.
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yikes
i have everything i need
i got vd
i have boobs
and i have hips
and i have hair DOWN THERE ,lol
but yeah
whats wrong with me
will i get it soon
i get vd a lottttt
help
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Relax! All girls get their periods at different paces, and its not uncommon for a girl to get her period when shes seventeen. It sounds like you'll be getting it soon though, as you sound like your developing normally. But enjoy not having your period, because it will soon become a bit of a hassle :P
You just told me you were very active-
Im hoping you mean like sporty sort of active lol well if so than yes being physically active can deffinitely slow the rate at which you recieve your first period.
-Abby
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I was thinking of asking my principal to start an advice column for the school. Maybe like a small group of people get together sometimes and maybe there could be a school website for kids to go to and ask their questions and this group of kids could answer the questions, but no one would know who they are. How exactly would that work? Does anyone know of a school (middle school) having an advice column ? Also, how could I bring this up to my principal? And do you have any more ideas of an advice column or something like that for the school ? Thanks ! (link)
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Ive seen advice columns in a school paper, but never on a website. But that sounds like a good idea. Or maybe an advice box in the cafeteria. Bring a friend that you want to do it with, and present the idea to your principal, or talk to your school paper. Let them know you are serious about this and really want to help the student body, and that you can handle it all on yout own. That should impress your principal and hopefully let you start your own column!
Good luck!
-Abby
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15 f
i'm looking for a cute and sexy tankini that i can buy online (not in stores becuase i dont wanna wear what everyon else is wearing)
preferably with a push up built in bra and under 60 dollars
any good websites you can think of? (link)
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Victorias secret's website has some great tankinis, and I think they recently added new ones.
www.victoriassecret.com
good luck!
-Abby
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Has anyone been to a Christina Aguilera concert before? Especially one on her current tour?
She's coming to my city and bringing the Pussycat Dolls. I'm booking a limo and the show starts at 7:30 but I don't know what time I should get the limo driver to pick us up. He says he needs at least a ballpark. Thank you. (link)
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I have no idea, but Im also going to a christina aguliera concert! In april, so I cant wait! I imagine it takes time to drive to the theatre with the city traffic, and add in time for the unexpected, and time to get your seats and or any souviners/food you want, so im guessing atleast an hour before (depending on how far you are from the theatre)
Have fun!
-Abby
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I have this friend whom had a baby late last year. She was so sweet and nice before she got pregnant, like I could always tell her anything. But ever since she had her child, she has been a major b**** lately. The other day I told her that I disliked relationships because I am always getting dumped, and since she has a boyfriend, she says, "well whatever about you. I gotta boyfriend so I am happy so I wouldn't care" or something like that. Also, I left a bulletin on myspace about this video about pre-marital pregnancy (she's 17), and she got so offended, she was going off on me. I told her I didn't mean to do that, but it was like a funny video and it didn't matter who you were you can laugh from it. And I didn't put it out because of her. Merely because I wanted to show my friends how funny it was.
Also, awhile back, I left a bulletin about everyone getting pregnant recently, and how it disgusts me. She leaves a message saying, "It's not disgusting. It's a precious gift." I felt like telling her what she did was a mistake.
Now she is mad at me for what I did recently. I don't think I want to be her friend anyway because how easily offended she gets all the time, because everything I seem to say relates to her problem indirectly.
What can I do? Don't just simply tell me to stop saying stuff that could hurt her because it's everything I say, no matter what it is.
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There is nothing that says teen pregnancy is wrong, but it's just not a good option for most women. She might have thought that, but no matter what age you are, you love your child. She might be offended by you talking about teen pregnancy with a negative view because of her situation, and because she doesn't think anything negative about her child, and if she never got pregnant she wouldn't have her child. It might not have been great timing, but she loves this child more than anything, and attacking teen pregnancy probably feels like an attack on her daughter.
She is also probably tired, cranky, and jealous. You don't get much rest with a child, and she has even more pressure on her because of her age. While your out there hanging with friends and partying, shes feeding and changing the baby. It's obvious she would be a bit envious.
But don't tolerate her rudness.
Be supportive of her and let her know you are always there for her. But tell her you dont appreciate her rudeness, and you never mean to insult her.
Good luck!
-Abby
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okay so im 15 and me nd my b/f had sex like a week ago and we didnt use protection. i no i shouldve but it was only for like a few seconds and weve done it b4 and nuthing happened but this time when he came out of me, he had cummed right on the bed like right after he pulled out..is there any possible way i could be pregnant? (link)
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Yes, there is ALWAYS a chance you could be pregnant if you did not use protection. Thats why you should always be sure and always protect yourselves.
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My bat mitzvah is coming up.
I need a dress.
My mom doesn't care what kind it is, but its my night to shine and be a princess.
What kind of dress makes your breast look larger or makes them get pushed up more? (link)
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Dresses with a corset top will deffinitely push you up. You can get a dress with padding or even ask a tailor to sew pads in, and you can wear a push up bra/padded bra with any dress to make it work. Theres also types of tapes and cups that can enchace your busst.
Have fun at your bat mitzvah!
-Abby
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People have told me that I've changed and I'm looking pretty now. I used to be really very nerdy and unattractive and now I've changed the way I dress and my looks. I'm really happy about the way I look now.
People do look at me on the streets now, but the guy that I like doesn't seem to notice at all and he is just so unaffected. Majority of the people around me are kind of affected except for my close friends and THAT guy. NONE of them said anything bout me changing and I personally think it's something that is damn pretty obvious! But I don't receive any compliments whatsoever from them.
But I guess I'm just not pretty enough for him. He only notices really hot girls and I guess to him I'm just an average plain looking girl who has no effect on him. I always plan what to wear and people (except for my close friends and THAT guy) tell me I look good. I mean really, what's up with that?
It really breaks my heart to see him smiling and acting shy in front of really pretty girls and just talking to me like a normal friend. All these just makes me feel that whatever I've done to myself is just hopeless. I just feel so sad everytime after I meet up with him. (link)
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I think this is actally a good thing. This guy likes you as a friend, and doesnt judge you on your apperance. Thats hard to find in guys. And your friends don't judge you on your appearence either, so they don't see a difference. If your personality hasn't changed, they probably wouldn't notice.
I had a similair experience. I went from being a bit short and chunky, but I got taller, my breasts got bigger, my butt wasn't big, it was now "bootylicious" (lol) and I felt soo much better about myself. I did get more attention, but my close friends didn't notice a difference. Thats because they never saw my size, they saw my personality. Thats probably exactly how your friends are, and maybe this guy too. Maybe he is focusing on the real you and feels comfortable around you, and just hasn't seen your transformaton. Well make it noticed!
Flaunt it! Im not saying dress like a slut, but try tight fitting jeans, a top that shows a little bit of clevage, try a new hairstyle and go natural with your makeup (mascara and lip gloss is all you need). If he really doesnt notice a change, maybe he just sees you as a friend. Not every guy will work with every girl (as sad as it makes us)
Whatever happens, keep being yourself. Just because your body is changing doesnt mean you have to. Its your personality that your friends and that guy loves, right?
Good luck!
-Abby
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23 Male
I got a phone call tonight. Old friend I used to talk to a few years ago. He wanted to talk to me about a friend he has; in particular, his own girlfriend. I like to help out my friends, so I said I would help.
He mentions a name to me. It rings a bell, because it happens to be the same name of my girlfriend, but I don't tell him that. A few minutes into the conversation I find out it is the same exact person we are talking about. I keep my big mouth shut.
They've been dating for a few months. I feel a deep hurt on the inside: we've been dating a few years. I find out the problem he is having and do the best I can to help him as a friend. I act as if I know her just as a friend and nothing more. This leads him to tell me more and more about them. I'm not reeling it out of him, he's just letting it all out. Should I confront her about this? She avoids the topic when I ask about him and my friend asks about their future. What is going on here, why does she avoid things, and do I need to tell her and possibly break things off? (link)
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You need to confront this girl-immediately. No matter what happens now, no good will come out of it. She made a bad decision that is going to hurt you and your friend.
(Calmly) talk to this girl. Tell her you know for a fact that she is cheating on you, and ask for any type of explanation. Tell her exactly how hurt you feel, how much you love her, and how much it pains you to see her hurt one of your friends. Ask what she plans on doing. Let her know you will not be apart of it if she plans to hurt both you and your friend. Make it clear that you cannot have a good relationship based on lies, and that if she isnt completely honest with you and your friend, you will be.
Decide wether this girl is worth it. Do you really love her? Does she love you? Is it worth your time, effort, and heart to fix things with her if she decides to stay with you? Is it worth jeoperdizing the relationship you have with your friend? Once you make a desicion, you'll need to talk to your friend as well.
Whatever happens, don't stay quiet about it. Though it sounds cliche, communication is key, and if you want to stay with these people, thats exactly what you need. Hiding this will just sting more when it comes out in the end.
I wish you the best of luck,
-Abby
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I like this guy and one of his good friends said he likes me buy my best friend had to burst my bubble and say that he didnt bc one of her good friends asked him...now i think he hates my guts and i think i hate his to but no one belives that i dont like him any more. Do you think what my friend said was true or what his friend said was true?? (link)
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Your friend might have just been jealous and said that to rain on your parade. The only thing you can do is just ask the guy! Sounds cliche, but communication is key.
If its a bit embarrasing, ask one of his best guy friends to ask for you.
Good luck!
-Abby
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you know when guys get happy and they (i dont think this is the right word) have a boner or something. well i think you know what i mean. how can someone else tell if a guy has one? (link)
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The proper word for that is erection lol. A lot of the times you can tell because it protrudes from their pants, but their attitude changes too. They act horny, may make suggestive jokes, or even be a bit more aggresive and probably are embarrased and want to hide what their little friend is doing so will most likely have their shirt streched over it.
Hope that helped!
-Abby
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So this guy hes a friend he asked me to give him an "elbow job" (he was kidding=]...) anyways so today i was checking his wall on facebook and someone called him an "elbow eater?" wat do either of those mean? (link)
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It's probably an inside joke with him and some friends, something stupid no one else will get :) (me and my friends have tons of them, we probably sound insane to others)
-Abby
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13/f
I'm going on a Carnival Cruise very soon and I was wondering if there are any particular ways to make friends. I have a lot of friends now, and I can be pretty outgoing at times. I will probably be going to the Club Carnvial program for teens 12 to 14, has anyone experienced this and what should I expect there? I want to make a few close friends to hang out with on this cruise. (:
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I just got back from club med, and I made a couple friends through their teen club program, so I think spending time there is a great idea. Just pick activities you enjoy, and you'll find other teens there who enjoy it as well, and thats already one thing you have in common. Be yourself, and see if you hit it off with other kids! I met six kids (all from different countries) just by talking to them.
Have a ton of fun!
-Abby
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oh key so my ex broke up with me like a month ago and i still really like him he likes this other girl alot but she doesnt like him. i want to talk to him,i can do it on AIM i just dont know what to say.. i also want to talk to him more, he said he wanted to be friends but we havent communicated whichi understand i jsut dont want to say anything to him, like annoying him so yea how should i talk to him, i want to tell him i still like him but w/o putting him into shock lol thanks in advance (link)
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It seems like your relationship with him was kind of cut off, so start rebuilding it.
Talk to him casually, about things like school, friends, etc. Try to make conversation as often as possible without smothering him, of course. You'll find things going up from there. Talking on AIM is great, because you can really get into a long and honest conversation (a lot easier than in person) Things will come naturally. Be honest, speak your mind, and ask him to do the same.
If it was meant to be, it will all happen by itself.
Lots of luck!
-Abby
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ok well theres this guy...hmm we'll call him Bob and well he walks with me to all my classes and talks to me when we are getting our stuff outa our lockers (his is right beside mine)He sings to me in weird voices (just saying my name) and he messes around with me in Band (we both play the drums) he stands just about as close as he can get to me without people thinking things...
Do you think he likes me?!?!? (link)
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Does he act the same way to other girls? Or is this just you? If so, I think he is most deffinitely interested in you :)
-Abby
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14/f:ok so over the summer last year i dated this boy and i practicallt fell in love with him.we go to the same school and everything but i don't think he likes me anymore.im really in love with this boy and i can't get over him.i need to get over him and whenever i go out with some1 else i feel really guilty for loving this boy.how do i get over him????????? (link)
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If you want to get over this guy, dating other people is a great way to move on. But if you still feel attatched to him, you need to talk to him straight forward. Tell him exactly how you feel, that you think you still like him and want to give it another shot.
Whatever he says, its a step you must take to really get past this.
If he doens't feel the same way you do, be proud of yourself that you had the guts to do that, and feel relieved that things between you two are now deffinitely over, and you can move on without regrets.
If he does feel the same way, well, you know how that goes :)
Good luck!
-Abby
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How do you tell a good story? (link)
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That question is a bit vauge. Are you writing a story? Are you verbally telling a story? Are you writing/telling a true story, or are you making it up?
Drop me an email with the specifics, Im a published author and would be glad to help :)
-Abby
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how do you get rid of blackheads? i use products but im not sure im doing it right
i use hot water to wash my face to open my pores and wash my face first before using any products.. (link)
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Blackheads are my biggest pet peeves (i have plenty of them.)
I've used lots of products, none seemed to work that well. (Dont waste your money on the tapes or strips. Total rip off.) My most effective way to get rid of them are taking a long hot shower. Let your pores open up and the black heads loosen. Once you get out, almost immediately wipe your face off and go to the mirror. Find a blackhead, take both your index fingers and put them on opposite sides of the blackhead, and squeeze. This won't work for all of them, as some aren't ready to come out yet. But most of mine just come right out (it's kind of gross, really.) They recommend not doing this, but its the most effective way I've found. Of course, when your done, wash your skin with a black head remover and a normal cleanser, than rinse with cold water to close your pores.
Good luck!
-Abby
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I'm going snowboarding like without a friend tomrrow, and i'm kind of hoping to run into a hott guy. however, im so bad at like making the first move to talk to him. especailly while boarding if hes with friends. Whats a good way to aproach him, or even make him want to come to me? (link)
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How to attract a guy on the slopes:
Impress him. Snowboard right by him, pull off a cool move, and flash him a great smile. If he smiles back, he's interested.
Usually theres a lodge or a place were you can get hot chocolate or something, so find out when he's there (EVERYONE stops there) and follow him in. If your by yourself, casually walk over and ask if you can sit with him (unless he hasn't already asked to sit with you.) Hopefully you two will hit it off!
Have fun!
-Abby
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Okay, I have a problem... I love to dance, it's a great way to get excercise, but here's the sitch... I don't know how to move right. I look like an idiot at dances because I just don't know how to do these things! I have asked my parents if I can have dancing lessons, but they said no because the only place in town teaches suggestive dancing and has their girls wear skimpy costumes. How can I learn a modern style of dancing that is not advertising, but still looks cool? (Here's a hint as to how clean I want it to be: I am a Mormon.) Please help!
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Im also a HUGE fan of dancing, but Im one of the lucky ones who dancing came natural to. (Im a catholic as well.)
I never took hip hop classes (probably the dancing your refering too) I only took ballet and tap. That taught me how to move to the music, feel the rhythm, and improvise. Music is universal, if you can really hear the music, you can do any type of dancing. So ask your parents if you can take a ballet class maybe. Or see if you can comprimise, and talk to the dance teacher about your religion and what is and isnt appropiate for you to wear.
In the mean time you can watch music videos to learn some new moves.
Good luck!
-Abby
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