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Q: 19/female!

i'm soooooo damn attracted to my good guy friend joe. i've known him for a while and he's always tried getting with me but i never did, because he had a girlfriend or was involved with someone even though i wanted to. well lately he doesnt have a girlfriend and he would be like "wanna fuck" but nothing would ever happen! he thinks i'm a tease. but im not! i would have sex with him in a second, lately i've been horny like no other hahaa. and today me and my girl friends went to the sex shop and i was like joe i got cute fuzzy handcuffs:) and he was like let me use them! so then i seen him tonight and i was like okay we can share them and he was like let me have them first! and i was like noooooo, i bought them i get them first! and he was like your not even going to use them, and the whole time i was thinking I'LL USE THEM ON YOU!;) but it kind of made me mad because he never was like "we'll just use them on each other" or something like that, it's just that i feel like he doesnt want me anymore :( but i REALLY want him, when i see him i just want to jump on him ha. but i dont want to like say anything to him, and him be like woaaaaah, no. you know? i wish i could dress sexy and wear hot lingerie for him because i feel like everytime i see him i'm all gross! i just don't know how to bring it up.

if you want to dress up all cute for him do it. Then invite him over. show him a good time if thats what you want kiss him and see how he reaccts.

Q: i'm still living at home i'm 19.
i like this boy, whose 17 almost to be 18.
we both still live with our families but i want to show him how dirty and sexy i can be ;)
i think getting a hotel would be a little... over the top? but i want to wear cute lingerie and make him be like WOW! and you cant just wear lingerie out like its your clothes. any ideas? we pretty much obviously cant go to each other's houses and like i said i dont want to be like yeah i want to wear lingerie for you, yahhhh know? because i still dont know exactly how he feels about me. its confusing! any ideas?

You guys could rent a cheep motel. or wear lingerie under your clothes and park your car some place.

Q: ok im a 16 and femaile...my bf is 15... im about a week and a half late for my period....we have been having unprotected sex but we didnt do it half as much as we usually do but im late and iv had stomach issues lately but i donno im freaking out could i be pregnant or is it my stomach problems screwing with it? im never 100% regular. i know the stomach issues arent caused by pregnancxy...iv had them for a couple months... i was tested last month and it came back negative but is it possible that this month i got knocked up? please help i dont really know what to do and dont have anyone here to talk to.... thanks..
**Sleepiesheep**

well you have been having unprotected sex its totally positive you could be pregnant..

I took a test the end of june it said no i didnt believe it i went to a place it said no july 5th i took another one it was positive i didnt belive that i took another one it was positive so i went to the doctors and took another ans she said i was defintly pregnant.

Q: Okay i'm 14, and i'm horney like all the time..
i like this guy, but he's a little older then me?
i really want to have sex with him, but i'm scared of all the things that could happen, i've been finger and it's okay, but tomarrow i'm supose to have sex???? what should i do?

If you are asking online here for advice if you should have sex. Dont? You arent ready you are young.

Q: What does it mean when a guy says he doesn't believe in tittles? Like as in boyfriend or girlfriend

It means different things for different guys but he probly just doesnt want a girlfriend wants to play the field or not let other girls know he is in a relationship with someone else?

Q: So throughout the past couple months my hair has gotten real greasy on the back crown of my head, I was using herbal essences and switched to a pantene shampoo build up remover, it worked for a little bit and now its back again and I dont know what I should do or use. Should I try using herball essances again and alternate shampoos every other day or go to Suave. I just don't want it to get all over my head and look lke a huge grease ball. Thanks

I take a shower and wash my hair every other day. I use the same shampoo and conditioner for a week then switch to something else. different types of herbal essences. Also talking to a hair dresser they know just about anything about hair.. also.. dont brush your hair out with a brush use a pick in the shower.. after you was out your conditioner comb it out with the pick it streghtens your hair and is very healthy also only burshing your hair when its wet.

Q: nineteen, female.

why is it that i always fall for the players who always cheat on their girlfriends? why am i always so attracted to them, when i know that if i ever got close to them that there going to end up hurting me! i just dont know why i go for them, i do not think cheating is rigth in ANY way, but yet i still like the ones who do it to others? it doesnt make sense to me, yet it happens all the time

ha hun i was just like you until i meet my husband. i think i have dated one guy who didnt cheat on me. it takes time. learn to wait and get to know a guy do it the old fashion way.. actully go on dates before your a couple. Play the field a while.. if he cant see you want to get to know him before dating before having sex then he isnt the one tell him to hit the curb and try again. dont give up you will find the one.

Q: when your married what hand a guy soppose have it on ? right or left?

the female and the males wedding ring is supose to be on the left hand.

Q: Don't mean to be rude or dirty, i'm just curious.

Why do some women like being licked out?
I am a women but I never been licked out be4 nor do I want to be.
Both genders can repond.

just feels amazing.

Q: Well, I have a less than perfect body and homecoming is coming up, so I was hoping someone would help me find me a dress that has sleeves, not too long but not too short, ya know. My legs I can show off since they're okay, but bacne and fat arms is not.

So yea, suggestions please? :)

ah i know what you are talking about. after i had my son blah. i hate my arms.. any who for my wedding dress i wore a shaw. over my arms and pinned it to my dress or you can find a little quarter length sweatshit throw over.

Q: I recently found out that my current roommate, who is one of my best friends, is a pathological liar. Basically, she has been manipulating me for the past year, causing me to feel responsible for an attempted suicide (which never happened) because I didn't pick up the phone when i needed to talk. She also told me things about my friends that has definitely altered my relationships with them and the way i see them, that her mother was dying (she actually let me believe she was dead on multiple occasions), and made up a sexual assault, just to name a few of the lies. She is currently getting the help from psychologists and therapists that she needs, but i'm still trying to sort out my life. In order to do that, i began confiding in a close friend about the situation, but the stories are so far-fetched that i don't think he believes ME. It understandably seems strange to him that I wouldn't have picked up on any of this throughout the course of the year, and many of the other stories I told him are crazier than the ones above. What can i do to prove to him that I'm being honest?

i know people who make up crazy lies like that. I was to good to believe them at first. i was confused. and i didnt help my life and all if your friend doesnt believe you he isnt a very good friend. your friend that lies needs your help.. if she starts losing friends because of her problem she will follow depression and who knows what will happen. just be there for her. help her learn that lieing ruins lots of things. let her know you will stick by her while she sees these doctors to help her.

Q: So, I'm a sophmore, and my guy friend I've know since first grade likes me.
He doesn't know I know, but me and my friends ave figured it out.
I doubt he'll do anything about it. Cause last time he dated one of his chick friends it ended horribley.
But if he DOES happen to tell me one day, how on Earth to I let him down without compleyely ruining our friendship?

I love him to death, but I'm not attractied to him like that.
I did have a pretty huge crush on him seventh-eighth grade, but that is compleyely over and done with now.

Tips?

just tell him, i see you as an amazing friend and i dont want to ruin a friendship like this.

Q: i graduated from a school that i absolutely hated! it was a total disaster for me, and i had to go to therapy afterwards because it had a lot of bad side effects in the long run. I was treated very badly by students and faculty alike, and I just don't want to remember it or be any part of it. i suffered from an eating disorder in which I am still in therapy for, partly because i felt so out of touch with my life, and like i had no control over anything in my life. i was very close, if not, already, depressed. they told me last year, in therapy, that they were going to help me get through the year, and that when i got to college, everything was going to be so much better, and i was going to feel like a free person. so, i figured that i would feel great. i got a job, and i was going to school and everything was ok.

but, that was during the summer ( i took some classes over the summer). but, now in the fall, the work schedule and the school schedule are way too much! i don't have a day where i get a break from everything. when i'm not at school, i'm work, when i'm not at work, i'm at the gym, and that's all i do. i have not gone out since sophmore year of high school, because then i was depressed. now, i feel like i'm getting depressed again, because i don't feel any type of freedom that they were telling me about.

i can't quit my job because my mom just lost hers and all the money that i get is not for me. I haven't used ANY of my money for me. it has all been for her and for paying bills, expenses, insurances, phone bills, etc. I don't think I can do it anymore... and I don't know what to do. I'm really stressed and at this point, I'm crying. I'm tired, and I never have a break. I can't remember the last time i went shopping, or enjoyed the day and went to go do my hair and nails. now, every single day is pressed with time, and getting to places by a certain time, and if i don't go to another place at a certain time, then it's all ruined my entire schedule. i can't anymore. i'm only 18 and my hair is falling from stress.... someone please give me some advice!

i promise i'll repay with good ratings :)

maybe you can talk to your boss of your theripist for a note to not work saturdays or go to the gym on saturdays take that day for your self. depression is tough. I have been through that. the medication they put me on got me real aggervated i felt like chopping someones head off lol. i couldnt sleep, but was afrid of sleeping pills. i was a mess. i also had a young child, a bad relationship that is what pushed me to depression when that relationship ended. i was in high school taking 17 classes. only time i slept was during the day when my son took a nap i was up all night with school work. take things easy you have your whole life. your mother really needs to look for a job. and i am not blaming her. i no how hard it is to find one. i have been searching for one since june i have applied at about every place in town and no luck. find some things you like to do.. maybe shoot some hoops? im not sure if you are a male or female.. but drawing? reading? working on something bulding something. anything? destract your self with something you like.

Q: How can one advance and become independent when one feels but very sad and afraid?

think confident.
prepare your self to be independent.
fincailly. bank account.
remember to pay bills, food, important stuff gas in a car before spending money on your self.
there is no reason to feel sad or afrid. I personally have never lived alone. but i would like to. will never have that chance since i have young children.it gives you your space. i am sure you have friends that you can talk to and family. growing up is great.

Q: Im just curious, is there anything to make my hair grow faster?? i herd actressess use speacial pills but what can i do to make my hair grow faster..

thank you so much inn advance

prenatal vitamins help grow and thicken hair. getting it trimmed once a month.. is yor hair curly or straight?? my hair dresser told me to wash my hair and comb it out with a pick in the shower and pt it up with a towel. when you take it down it wont be so bad to brush out. she told me to never use a brush it ruins your hair and wont grow as fast or be as healthy

i dont know how to write you a message.. so if you need to ask me anything else just message me.

Q: im not the most confident of people okay but my best friend is an she always is sayin to me god you are so boring and sometimes if im on msn the same times as sh is she will talk to me like usuall an vice versa but last night she started talkin to me but was acting really strange so i was just givin one word ansers bcause i could tell it was not her but it was her sister who all ways likes to take the piss out of everyone an she started saying to me you dont say much do you an i said no not really lol so then she said well start a convo with me then so i did but all she said was boring so i just went offline there was no pont in trying because whatever i said she would of ansered boring so i need some idears on how to be more confident an more idears on how to start convo's with her but my best friend i mean not her sister :)

you need to ignore those kind of people, its rude an uncalled for to treat anyone that way. growing up i was very uncomfortable with myself inside and out. now that im pregnant it doesnt help the outside but you know every day i wake up was my face put my little bit of make up and strech.smile and say damn im lucky.. you know some people dont have any friends or anyone to talk to. think about how lucky you are.. say to your self how smart and pretty you are. maybe paint your nails for something. turn on some music and dance.

Q: Hello all :) , school starts tomarrow for me and i never have enough time in the morning to eat a really good break fast, usually i'm eating it as i go out the door! I want to eat healthy and things that give me a LOT energy- but i dont know what i should eat! not to mention with the pressed amount of time i have X.x . So, any ideas? thanks :) !

K ceral with a banana or yougrt

Q: Theres this guy i really like and he likes me too and we were gunna get together but he kissed one of my best mates and it was werid so nothing happened. thing is its been 2 month and we still both like each other only he likes my mate and there both goin my party on friday and im affraid there gunna kiss and ruin my party for me!

you should just find a different guy. if a guy is talking to you really likes you. why really like another girl to? its basically cheating. i believe once a cheater always a cheater. people can change but all the guys i have came across dont.

Q: i met diz guy wit my friend well actually diz guy call me on behalf of my friend who's locked up right now but ne wayz me n him r really getting along n we talk alot on da fone but da problem iz dat he's never seen me n ive never seen him n he tells me dat he really likes me n dat he wants to go out wit me n i dont know wat to say to him if i should listen to him or just forget about him cuz he does drugs n i tell him to stop n not em but he wont listen ni i tell him to stop hangin in da streets n not to do bad stuff but he wont listen so teell me wat should i do

you should let him go. drugs are a mad deal.. i dated this guy i meet on behave of a friend of mine he started using my money for drugs cheated on me etc. its just not worth the pain when you can safe you self and just find someone who you can trust.

Q: For halloween my friends and I don't want to use wigs because they arn't very realistic. We were deciding weather or not to use black hair dye. I have light brown hair. If I use black L'Oreal Colour Pulse will it actually wash out or will it become permanent?

i am not familier with L'Oreal either.. have you though about hair spray that changes your hair?

bio

My name is Ashley. I am 22 years old. Ill be celebrating my 3rd 21st birthday June :) . I had my first child at 15. I got married at 18 and had another child shortly after. They have two different fathers. I am currently going threw a divorce. I moves states after we seperated ( ugly seperation) but I had no family in that state. I left everything except my beautiful babies and our clothes. I found a job up north and things are going good. I am dating. I have been in abusive situations. I am going to college for psychology and sociaology. Im here to listen help and give you advice ive been in alot of different situations and can relate to a lot.