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I am totally honest i tell it like it is and if you dont like it im sorry but im not going to sugar coat answers to make you feel better i want to tell people the truth and tell them what i think is right so if you find that what i say is mean or not helpful just give me a low rating and move on but please dont be rude after all i did answer you question even if its not what you wanna hear just take the time to appreciate. Feel free to message me thank you :) (L)
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When is the time and duration which a pregnant woman can have sex? I have heard that it's during one of the trimesters. (link)
it shuld be during your 3or 4th month after that its considered unsafe which is wat ive heard its better to consult a doctor with questions like this.


I'm at the age where people start going to parties. Anyway all my friends are boring, NO ONE goes partying.

So don't say something like "Make friends with people at your school who go to parties" because none do. And if they do, they're the "popular" kids who wouldn't befriend me, and if they did it would be awkward.

I'm totally fine with making friends with people who party. Just one problem, how can I? I can't exactly meet them at a party and befriend them. I need to get to a party first. How do I do this? (link)
well the best way to get invited to parties is have a party yourself throw a little party and invite some of the kids in your grade that are most likely to have the most parties and just have a good time get some good music and food and just enjoy and i promise you that in no time you will be invited to some of the most amazing parties ever well good luck:)


Can breast cancer be caused by getting hit/punched/pinched/bruised in the breast area? My mom had breast cancer and had a breast removed some years ago from the cancer, and when I got hit in the chest with a tennis ball a few days ago I bruised. My mom started going on and on about my likelihood at developing cancer. She kept saying that my chance of developing breast cancer was very, very high now since they were high to begin with from my mom having cancer previously.

My best friend said it isn't true that you can get cancer from having your breast bruised. She was in a car wreck not too long ago and had her chest all bruised up from it and never developed cancer. My mom told my best friend that her chances of developing breast cancer was much higher now.

I just want to know if it's true that you can get cancer after being bruised. I am really afraid of getting cancer and want to do everything I can to prevent it from developing in my body so I need to know if I am at a higher risk of cancer now. (link)
dont worry a bruise on ur breast wont give you cancer it will just make your breast hurt a little your chances are about the same as an average women your age its impossible to get breast cancer because of a simple bruise i wouldnt worry about it well i hope i helped :)


I was considering trying the whole vegetarian thing. I won't be doing it because of "animal rights" or anything like that. Instead, I am looking to do this strictly to improve my overall eating habits.

More than likely I would still eat fish and occasionally chicken. My question to you is:

Is following a vegetarian diet any healthier than a normal one? (link)
in some ways its healthier but in other ways its not for example vegetarians do get more nutrients and vitamins but they dont get the fat or carbohydrates they need which is unhealthy so basically their the same its just that some people overdo the whole fat eating thing and become obese if they controled how much fat they take in they would be fine i hope i helped :)


17/f/australia.

I'm turning 18 in just under a month and my mum suggested that I rent out an apartment and have a few people over for a party.

I know its a bit lame but i have traditional values like wanting to spend my 18th birthday with my family but i cant have it the day before coz another girl at school is having her birthday party and i can't have it the day after because everyone is going away to camp. I guess it doesn't really matter that much but the main problem is i am worried that it will be a flop.
I mean, what are we actually going to do, just sit around? I will probably only invite 10 people and only about 4 will be staying the night. I've only just moved to a new school so i am still a bit awkward around people. :S

I'm really worried, what shound i do? (link)
k well first of all a party in a rented apartment soo cool lol all u have to do is get some great music and some really tasty snacks and some energetic people who like to have fun and your set and the game 7 minutes in heaven is an awesome game to play at a party just make everyone energized and you should be fine dont feel so awkward around people get to know them and just have fun tlaking to them and dont worry about wat they will think of you cause your just trying to fit in and thats wat every teen does well i hope i helped ill be here if you need anything else good luck :)


I don't know what's wrong me, i've looked online some disorders but i'm not sure which one i have..

I got this problem.. I constantly replay in my mind for weeks things that have bothered me. I'm the type of person that can't let things go. The more i think of them, the more upset i get. Hell, i even argue with myself why i said it or why that person said what they said. Also, i get mad at my parents alot, mostly about my vegeterianism. I get so mad to the point that i begin to cry(which i hate because i then i look like the weak one y'know). I lock myself in my room and begin throwing things. I think i might be crazy sometimes, i begin thinking of ways my dad or brother can die. Like, when they went to Honduras, there where some problems with the airplane or something and i remember wishing the plane would crash killing both of them. And i don't feel any guilt for thinking this things. I don't think i'm horrible at all, i feel like their death will make the world a better place (hahah). I'm sure there's something wrong with me. Oh, and i'm not crazy enough to kill my parents and siblings, i know better. I'm not stupid. With my friends i act different too. I'll act totally ditzy around them and just put on this happy face when really, in my thoughts i think to myself why hang around this people? Alot of times i've wished they'd move or something and then that i'd make way better ("cooler") friends. I think totally pessimistic thoughts and notice every single flaw in people, including myself. And my cat, hahah, i'm really horrible for thinking this considering i love animals probably more than i love people. Well, it's not just my cat, my dad and brother too, i've thought about them dying and then all the attention i would get. Everybody feeling 'bad' for me because i'm fatherless, brotherless,..catless..


I don't know, i guess you could say i'm KIND OF depressed but i wouldn't say i am, not like i was last year. My thinks i'm crazy, from me throwing things at the wall like a mad teenager i am. She's threatened to take me to a psychiatrist but never does. I laugh at the fact that i've got serious issues.. (link)
wow k first of all its not wierd to have thought about killing your family members it happens but i think you should go see a doctor cause this stuff usually only happens to people with depression and you need like certain medicine for it to make yourself feel better if its not depression then its definatly anger managment either way you should talk to you school counsellor or a doctor and your not crazy you just might have depression or anger managment hope i helped good luck :)


18/f/australia

Im going to buy a high waisted skirt (probably a black one since t goes with everything) but I dont want it to look like i am going to work everyday when i wear it. It's spring here by the way as well, so how can i get a casual look with a high waisted skirt without looking too much like im going to work everyday?

Thankyou. (link)
k well if your gonna wear it then you need a top that doesnt look too perfesional you need a top thats cute yet casual and instead of heels wear flats you just have to make it look more casual by adding things to it like beaded jewlery and a nice top and hair and it will look awesome and trust me you wont look like your going to work it will look more like your in a fashion show or something just make it look unique and you should be fine i hope i helped good luck :)


My friends boyfriend has just told her that he has been cheating on her. She dupted him and told him that he was a lieing so and so. The thing is that she took him back and gave him a second chance. Am sure if she done the right thing. How can i tell her that he might Cheat on her again because he is hanging around with the girl he cheated with!!! (link)
k well the same thing happened with me my friend kept telling me that i shuld jus dump my ex bf for good and i didnt listen because i thought she just didnt like him all that much i didnt realize that he was cheating on me again until i saw him with the girl kissing her i think you should try to convince her but if she doesnt listen then let her learn on her own i hope i helped good luck!! :)


i really had no idea where to put this. sorry.

so here is my dilemma... recently well about two months ago i moved and about a month ago i started a new school. i went from a small school, where i knew everyone to a school thats huge. i havent made any real friends. and im not doing so good in class, well in most classes. im tired of being alone, ive stayed at home with my family every single weekend, and it sucks. i havent even met anyone that i would really want to be my friend. well a few im just exaggerating. everyone i meet i cant stand. there are a few i take that back. but for the most part every single country accent gets on my nerves. which has never been the case before.

my family is military so ive moved a fe times before the last time was in the 7th grade. i was lucky to make friends they became the best friends i ever had, now i hardly talk to them, because things come up different time zones and one of them just got there computer taken away. and its killing me not to have anyone to talk to. i had this guy that i really really liked. and ive only talked to him a few times since i moved.

its not like people havent talked to me. it just really hasnt gone after the where did you move from? stage. i dont know how to remake friends.

and the guys, god. i think ive had 3 people who already like me since i moved here and we have had like one conversation. which bothers me so much. and the other ones who do have conversations with me (that like me) i dont like. i still miss the guy i left behind and i just want friends. whether guy or girl. and i like to take things slow. like everything here isnt like that. it goes from going out to having sex the next day. everything is just so so different. IM LOST. i dont know what to do. oh plus i dont know how to talk to a guy. when someone cute comes up to me i freeze up and walk faster. which i look like a loser. im not comfortable and this is totally unlike me. this whole blurb im writing it unlike me

im sorry to be so negative but i cant take it anymore. im shy i dont know how to make friends, and as cliche as it sounds im lonely. please please please help. im desperate.


thanks in advace
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Ya i knoe wat u mean i was going through the same thing a little while ago but then i decided that the best way to make friends is to be a friend im a really shy person too and just talking to my classmates was wierd but i did it and when they realized that i had a great personality we became the best of friends all u have to do is start up a conversation with whoever is sitting by you so atleast u'll knoe one person and then slowly start talking to everyone who you think you wuld enjoy talking to and then jus ask a few of them if they would like to have lunch together or something and as for the guys just talk to them like you would to your girl friends well i hope i helped good luck


well i dont know if its actually from a song or its just a beat in the movie. buttt its at the end when they battle in the streets [its in the part where andie and chase are dancing and she does the breathing thing? like where hes like making her heart pump] and its also after they play the prank on Tuck and they show the group in the studio practicing like when its dark. idk how to describe because its just a beat, but if anyone knows what im talkin about and could tell me if its from a song and what it is it would be great! (link)
the song is

Timbaland - Bounce (Step Up 2 Remix)


ok so about a month and a half ago I had sex with my BF. My period was wierd...and just b4 it I had a bunch of wierd clear stuff and then I got like a clump of it. I dont knwo what it is or what to do.. but I do know that my pierod hurt alot more and I cant even tell when I have to use the bath room..Idk what I am supost to do (link)
Maybe you should go talk to a female doctor although i think its nothing to worry about it might just be happening but ya still go see a doctor to confirm whats really happening.


i turn 16 in about two weeks and my birthday is ona tuesday. i was hoping to have some kind of party that following weekend. i have like no money to spend at alll. but i was hoping to get a party bus and just have everyone pay like 10-20 dollers to come onto it. so it could pay for its self. i would like to have a sleepover but my mom is very nosey and would be in our buiness all night. also, alot of people at my school like to drink, but i hardly do so i dont want to have any drinking. so what are some fun sweet 16 party ideas, including guys and girls or just girls. about 30-40 people. (link)
Well i had my sweet 16 at a park and my sister had hers at a theme park it was really fun on my sweet 16 when we were at the park we just danced and let everyone just do there own thing we had a section for like sitting and dancing and eating it was just amazing the theme park was also awesome it was fun going on the different rides you could do something like this or rent a party bus which is actually a really good idea too :)


Hi everybody,
my ex-boyfriend (who I'll conveniently call S. now) and I dated for about two weeks about a year and a half ago.
I've had several other boyfriends after him, but he didn't have one. We still remained good friends, and a lot of our friends (we have the same friends) thought we were a couple, but we never were.
Now, the last few days, S. has been cuddling me more than usual, asking me if I was warm enough, said it was such a shame we weren't in the same class,..
And I think I'm starting to love him again. But I'm not sure, because my heart has recently been broken, and maybe I'm just so desperate for love that I'm seeing this as signs, when they aren't.
And even if they were, what should I do to let him know I'm falling in love with him again?

Thanks a lot if you can help me!

(I'm 14 and a girl, but I'm mature for my age, and he's nearly fifteen & we both live in Belgium.) (link)
Aww thats really cute and i think you two are just perfect and i do think you should tell him your falling in love with him again i think he really loves you i think if your hearts been broken before then you should really take a chance here because it will just make you stronger and more confident i hope i helped you good luck:)


i am 16 and my boobs are shaped like triangles. they are big, but not round, My nipples are more towards the bottom of my boobs because i dont have alot of fatty tissue under the nipple. Will the fatty tissue fill out more as i get older? (link)
Dont worry your breasts will definitly get round your only 16 and at this age girls dont tend to fully develop so just wait a little while im sure by the time your 17 your breast will be fully develped and will look the way you want them :)


I'm gonna cut this story short. Me & My Bf..2 Boys... met them..got to know them...my bf hit it off...me and the other boy didnt..i wasnt happy about it...we started off having fun and then he got moody and didnt want to talk to me ands felt fed up ..we got home...i found out he did like me which is a bummer now because we live FAR from eachother..but he never told me..i found out from his other friend..my best mate when down to see them both[it was a party thing] [i couldnt go coz i was busy]but it took her forever to get there. the boy i liked was moody again, acknologed she was there but ignored her and didnt bother telling the boy that did like her. she watched him and said he was so moody the whole time and gave her dirty looks. she came all way to see him and he was rude to her...and when we were on holiday i felt so happy with him until he got moody...what is his problem with us? the other boy we're still great friends with..but we dont whats wrong with the other one...why would he be mean supposdly to someone he likes and my friend who has never done a thing wrong to him..ive tried to call him and stuff but not once have i got anything back..what's up with that (link)
then i saw dw about it if he wont talk to you then there isnt a point in even figuring out wats going on with him:)


hey so in like 6 weeks or so im gonna turn 18. which is cool but i have no idea what to do for it...

i really want a party kinda thing..but there are some problems

1) My house isnt big enough to have it and i have lots of neighbours

2) In my experience parties in hotels havent been that good cos they end and people dont dance (only in my experience)

3) Camping in october would be cold as hell lol

so any one have any ideas?
i know its really difficult, but any advice would be good =] (link)
A party at the park i think would be fun my friend did it when she was 18 it was just awesome we had music and tons of room to dance and a section for eating and just sitting and relaxing obviously you cant get the whole park to yourself but you can get the biggest section you can find i found this party amazing so maybe you will too.


So it started last year, I was introduce to this guy named MP, and well it started off nice we would text back and forth and wouldnt stop, well he asked my out, and well we went out for about a week, but the thing is that at school he didnt come up to me at school or talk to me at all, like he is so enexperience, he really never had a girlfriend and well i have had many boyfriends in the past, so i broke it off, and well over the time we would talk occasionly, im really good friends with his sister, and i talk to her but not about him, bc he doesnt talk to her about girls. so i really want to ask her about MP< but idk.... well anyways this year has started and were talking i think again, like in june i was his first real kiss, so i dont know. i dont know if im waasting my time our not. how do you knwo if you are wasting your time?
so this thing has been going on for like a year, but this is his senior yeah and my sophmore year, so yeahhhhh, i dont knwo if i should just move on (link)
ya i think u should just approach him its the best thing to do :)


Hey Katlyn,
I read what you said to that other person about whitestrips for your teeth, and it made me wonder: Do you know if whitestrips actually destroy your enamel on your teeth? I've heard many things about wheather they do or not.
Just wondering because I was thinking of trying them.
~ Thanks :) (link)
i meant sometimes it takes awhile to get rid of the enamel using these whitestrips so ya if you do wat i said before then maybe it will work a little faster.


what is the name of the song that was on the hills season 3 episode 8 that goes,
" stuck inside i wanna play, looking out my window..."
its right after the scene where heidi and spencer are shopping for things for their house and heidi says we'll resume this on another day

also, do you know any good songs from the hills? there are so many but i have no clue what theyre called maybe just name a few?

thankss :) ♥ (link)
go to Mtv.ca its should have the list of songs and there lyrics good luck:)


im a sophomore in high school, and i really would like to learn to make professional graphics. I'm taking a web design class, that will help me with it. But I think it would be cool to make professional pictures for movies, dvd cases, anything like tht too! But how much does a professional computer graphic artist make? And what exactly do they do? And I would like to take some classes on computer graphics. im 15/f/usa
im really creative too =] (link)
try this vistiting this site
http://student.kuleuven.be/~m0216922/CG/
it should have all the information you need and if not then go to google and just get some info from there cause a lot of the info on google is accurate.




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