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"Be soft. Do not let the world make you hard. Do not let the pain make you hate. Do not let the bitterness steal your sweetness. Take pride that even though the rest of the world may disagree, you still believe it to be a beautiful place."
I'm an optimist. I can find the beauty in anything. I'm creative. I love spontaneity, peace, & parties. I'm the farthest thing from shy. There's not one person on this earth that I don't care about. I like deep conversations, change, & random acts of kindness. Every emotion I feel is ten times as strong as yours. I have alot of empathy for other people. I'm real open minded & liberal. All I want to do is make at least one person's life a little easier. :D
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okay, me n my boyfriend were at the movies and i gave him a hand job and he came. then after he came, he went to the bathroom and washed off his hands and dried them, then he came back, it must've been about 4/5 minutes. then when he came back, he fingered me. is there a possibility that i could be pregnant?
It's reallllly unlikely.
Hi. I am a sixteen year old girl and a junior in highschool, and I have kidney disease. All of the guys that I like that ask me out, dump me as soon as they find out that I can't do some of the stuff that they can. Also, I have two brothers in Iraq and an ill mother. Whenever a guy finds out any of this he'll avoid me. It makes me mad, but am I being stupid? Is it too much for a guy to handle? The only thing that would directly effect our relationship is that I can't do anything really vigorous. I'm not a sad depressed person either. I'm normal and very happy. Am I being unreasonable to ask for a guy to like me? I would really appreciate your input.
They actually do that? Who the hell dumps someone because of a kidney disease?! I'm really sorry. That's just ridiculous. I can't believe the way people think sometimes. That's something that's completely out of your control too, and it's not like it's contagious or somethin. If someone's dumb enough to dump someone over something like that, you're better of without them. You are NOT being stupid, trust me. It's not too much for a guy to handle. They're just being immature, selfish, and flat out LOW. Alot of guys that age are like that anyway. You're not being unreasonable at all; they are. Again, I'm really sorry about this. :/
ok my best friend in the entire world moved. TO SAN DIEGO! and i miss her terribly i dont know how to deal with the sadness. do you have any tips on how to be more happy because im scared that i might be getting more sad and the result of that i depression and i dont want that, cuz look im only in middle school.
Aw, I'm sorry about that. That's gotta be tough for you. :/
The first thing is that you have to face realtiy and know that they're gone and won't be coming back. I know it's hard for you, and you have every right to be upset over this.
Do you do any sports? If you don't, or even if you do, start a new hobby. It'll take your mind off things some. Try hanging with some other friends to take your mind off it also. Go with a big group of friends out to eat. Go see a movie. Go shopping or to the mall and get a really cute outfit. Read. Watch a funny movie. Listen to music. Go for a walk or run. Sometimes a good cry's all you need, too.
Definitley stay in contact with them though! Facebook, Myspace, e-mail, texting, talking on the phone, Instant messenger, webcams, letters, whatever works the best for the 2 of you.
And if you feel yourself starting to get depressed, talk to someone. + I'm always here to talk to if you need anything. Just drop something by in my inbox. :)
I hope I helped some!
ijust have a quick question: why are(some) guys sweet and nice to you when you're alone and then when they're with their friends and they see you they turn into loudmouthed pigs and then all of a sudden you don't exist but the popular girls do?
also.. why do they think that after they ignore you one day they can go back to being sweeties the next and THEN they wonder why your mad.
please shed some light on the situation for me.
thanks
16/f
I have no idea what your situation was, but I swear I was about to just ask this same question.
I've been thinking about this for the entire day. I'm pathetic, I know. Hahah ugh.
I HATE that whole ignoring you and then being a sweetie the next day. That's exactly what this guy just did for three weeks. I even tried flat out asking him why he'd be all different and he was like, "I don't?" and laughed it off. Sorry if I'm venting over here instead of answering your question. Haha my bad. I think we have a right though. I mean, you can't just ACT like you like someone and be super sweet and then the next day completely forget about them and go back and forth like that. I don't even think they realize they're doing it though. Or maybe we just overreact. Or both.
As for the whole you-don't-exist thing, they just want their friends to think they're cool. That's all. Yeah, guys suck. Well, not all of em. Just most of them.
I probably didn't help you any, but if I did, woo. :D
Hey
So Im in love with this guy who well call Bob for now..Me and Bob dated twice. I think hes love bipolar if that makes sense..He likes me then he hates me then he loves me then he hates me again...it sucks but i care about him so much!! all my friends are usless so can anyone help me?
I was in that situation a couple weeks ago. You'll just end up stresing yourself out and he'll just keep going back and forth like that unless you talk about it. Try just flat out asking how he feels about you and make sure he knows how you feel. If you've already dated twice, maybe he's just confused. Maybe he's not ready for a relationship even though he cares about you.
I know it's hard cause you care about him so much, but if talking to him doesn't solve things, the best thing you can do would be to move on and find someone else. :/
Good luck and I hope everything works out! :D
being that you are a boy, ill ask you, what is wrong with boys? why do they LIKE to lead girls on and pretend to like them, to already have moved on the next week? i figure, if you dont like someone, then dont act like it. it fucks with peoples heads. anyway, the question is just on my mind, because its happened to me with EVERY boy ive ever had, relations, with. ive concluded that its a boy thing. why?
Aw, hahaha I guess you meant to ask this to a specific person.
It's not just a boy thing. Girls do it too; They just aren't as obvious about it.
Who knows why they do it. Either they're assholes, or they just know you like em but don't wanna hurt your feelings by saying they don't feel the same way. Most guys are just immature in middle and high school.
Sorry about all that's happen with you. You'll find a good guy someday. There's tons out there even if it doesn't seem like it now.
so there is this guy named eric. ive always kinda liked him but i dont know if he likes me too. my friends say he is always looking at me!...but the thing is i dont know if its true..i mean i love my friends to death but i have no idea if he does. so, one night on aim i was gonna ask him out when all of a sudden he said im pretty. i was so happy! but then i chickend out of asking him out, luckily that i did he found out the he had a gf already. should i still tell him i like him. or do i move on? help!! plz!!!
=]
Jesus. Do NOT get one of your friends to ask him. He won't tell the truth, trust me. And don't ask one of his friends. He either wouldn't have told them, or he did and told em not to tell anyone.
If he thinks you're pretty, there's a realllly good chance he likes you. Only thing is, if he has a gf and dumps her for you once you tell him, why wouldn't he do the same thing to you if you were his girlfriend? But if you don't care about that, then I think you should just tell him you like him. Nothing bad can happen.
Good luck!
what happens when YOu love this boy ... but YOu think he doesnt love YOu?? and you ahve tried talking to him about it.. and YOu have tried talking to his friends.. wht do YOu do??
Just flat out ask him if he does.
this is going to sound stupid, but i'm a 14 year old girland i want to find love. i think i have a picture in my mind of the boy i want and i think my standards might be too high because everytime i find something that might have a shot, i push the boy away. should i wait for the right boy and stop looking or the other way around?
Well everyone wants to find love; You're not alone on that one. It doesn't sound stupid to me, but I'm probably just another stupid girl so whatever.
Wait for the right boy and stop looking around.
The other day I gave up looking for the right guy and I was just like, "Whatever, screw guys." A couple hours later I met this really awesome guy and he's completely perfect.
Haha so the point is, just wait. Don't set the standards TOO high though. You'll meet someone sooner or later, trust me.
Gooooooodluck!
How do you know when a guy is just using you?
http://www.wikihow.com/Tell-when-a-Guy-Is-Using-You-for-Sex
#6 is really true.
Or if you wanna know if he likes you,
http://www.wikihow.com/Know-if-a-Guy-Likes-You
Yay wikihow.
ok im in 7th grade and im 12 and im a girl. ive known this guy since 2nd grade and after a while we became friends. Then i started to get feelings for him and ended up telling one of my BFFs that i liked him and one day when they were texting about me (not bad or anything) and she texted him saying this "hey did you know that she REALLY REALLY REALLY REALLY REALLY likes you?" and sinced then he ignores me and my texts and calls and also my BFF. AND i want to ask him out without scaring him off which is already happening. and when ever i ask him y he is ignoring me he doesnt say anything back.
Aw. Well, guys suck. You'll figure that out soon enough if you already haven't.
He probably just feels awkward because he doesn't feel the same way about you so he doesn't know what to say and he doesn't wanna hurt your feelings. Either that, or his phone's screwed up. And if your friend did that without your permission, that's pretty lame of her. She coulda done without adding 923840234 really's too. Buuut you can't go back and change what was said so there's really no point in worrying about it now I guess.
Btw, some people might flip their shit on here cause you're supposed to be like 13 or 14 (I could care less though) when you make an account. Hahah so next time, you might wanna leave the age off
Hope everything works out for you though!:D
19/f
I have been diagnosed with bipolar disorder, post traumatic stress disorder, borderline personality disorder, insomnia, ADD, and severe depression. I am on four different medicines right now. Trileptal for bipolar disorder.
Trazodone for depression and insomnia.
Lamictal for bipolar, and Adderal for ADD. I have been a self medicating pot smoker for 8 years now and it has worked pretty well. Weed calmed me down when i had spouts of anger,made me happier,and more hopeful for my future. but weed also made me feel less dedicated to those around me and more like a different person. I am a lot less social and I used to be miss social. I started adding these four meds about a year ago and Within the past 7 months or so I have started noticing significant changes. I am slowly becoming stupid. My brain is slow and I cant grasp even simple things. My ADD has worsened and I cannot remember anything whatsoever. I never eat much anymore and my body just rejects food. I have also become much more irritable. I get headaches all the time and I'm constantly weak. Because of this I failed all my courses in college and have been suspended. I have never had this problem before. I am a smart girl and have always loved school. Although these meds have multiple side effects, they seem to help with the suicidal tendencies and mood swings. My question is along the lines of should I quit meds and smoke or should I stay on the meds and only smoke occasionally?
My experience with Lamictal was pure hell.
I couldn't remember what I had done five minutes before no matter how hard I tried. I thought something was seriously wrong with me because my short term memory was like completely gone. It was pretty bad.
I refused to believe it was that medicine for the LONGEST time though. I have ADD also, and it caused me to have the attention spand of about 5 seconds. I could not focus if my life depended on it.
If you're as irritable as I was, I feel for you. I would get SO pissed off over nothing. God, that was horrible.
And I wasn't sure what was causing it at the time, but I guess that's what was making me feel so weak 24/7 too.
Personally, since I wasn't smoking weed while on Lamictal cause I was scared about the interactions (A friend told me they ended up having a panic attack which scared me away from mixing the two), I HIGHLY doubt that's what is causing all this for you.
If I were you, I'd drop the Lamictal and find something better. It's a new med. No matter how much they try and convince you otherwise, they don't know shit about it or how it works. Plus it does more harm than good in my opinion.
Good luck and I hope you're feelin better by now! :D
If i get described for anitdepressants, will i seriously..go insane? or what? or crazy?
No.
With antidepressants, you usually have to work your way up on doses. As long as they don't increase them too quickly, you'll be fine.
Antidepressants are supposed to make you feel better, not worse. If they DO make you feel worse, you need to tell the doctor who prescribed them. You might feel better within a week of taking them, depending on the medication and the strength. You just have to patient.
This will give you some more information if you need it:
http://health.ninemsn.com.au/article.aspx?id=689746
Good luck :)
i dont even get whats wrong with me most of the time. sometimes, everything will be fine. like, ill be hanging out with my boyfriend and his house or at the store or something. and then suddenly, all my energy and happiness gets sucked out and im up in space and i feel like dying and he keeps asking me whats wrong and i keep telling him nothing. most of the time it is just nothing, but its bringing a wedge in between our relationship.
i love him to death, and i think he loves me, too. but whenever i get upset or depressed, i dont like talking. i just want to sit and stare at something or just lay down and go to sleep. so whenever he says "i love you" i just nod and say "mmhmm" and he thinks im mad at him BUT IM NOT!! these random depressions are ruining everything and im always upsetting him, and upsetting him just upsets me even more.
i tried to tell my parents once that i was depressed but they pulled the old "you're a teenager, its just hormones" gag and so i never tell them anything.
i probably wont kill myself, but i really want to. i was raised christian, and also raised to believe that if i kill myself, i burn. and im afraid of hell.
i think im mostly worried about not being with my boyfriend in the future. hes left me before, and whose to stop him from doing it again? i just cant handle it anymore. and i dont like being a downer. around him, especially.
im 16/f, btw. if anyone has any advice, please share. i dont know what to do anymore. :(
I know how you feel, sadly.
The main difference between it being hormonal or actual depression is the fact that depression lasts longer. If it was hormonal it would just last for an hour, or maybe even a day probably.
First of all, go here and scroll down to the symptoms list:
http://www.helpguide.org/mental/depression_teen.htm
If you think you have most of those, explain this to your parents. If you continue bringing it up, they'll eventually realize that this really is bothering you and it's not "just hormones". You can even try printing that off and showing it to them.
Try to avoid anything even a little bit stressful for now. Worrying is only going to make you get more down. It's probably not the easiest thing to do, but just worry about yourself for now. Unless your boyfriend isn't the type who would understand, try explaining how you feel to him or that you think you're depressed.
It probably seems like you'll never get through this, and I know that's a horrible feeling. But once your parents realize there's something wrong, they'll probably make an appointment with a counselor or psychiatrist. A psychiatrist can prescribe you an antidepressant, and you'll most likely be feeling better within the week.
I hope you feel better soon. Good luck! :)
im so moody
its not even funny
what are the possible reasons?
how can i fix it?
help meeeeeeee thanks
Most likely it's just hormones or something. You're probably in your teens, so that's completely normal.
As for "fixing it", there's alot you can do. Make sure you exercise daily. It relieves stress, and if you're stressed out, that can DEFINITELY make you moody. If you're anxious, try going to a nutrition store near you and get something called Glycine. It's really good for anxiety/panic attacks + it's safe for anyone (it's used for alot of different things). If you feel sad, listen to some happy songs. Go out with friends, even though I know you might not feel like it or think it will help. If you think you're going to lose your temper or something, just leave the situation. Go up to your room, go outside, do whatever you have to do to get away. Within the hour, I'm sure you'll calm down.
But if you're stuck in the same mood (such as depression) for two weeks or more, that's definitely not just "normal mood swings". So if that's the case and these moods are extreme, then it could be something more serious (such as bipolar, etc). Most likely, you're just a normal teen feeling normal teen emotions.
Good luck! (:
I am currently unemployeed and of course looking for work. I have been looking on search engines like Monster and indeed.com and haven't had any luck. I have been contacted by a couple job placement centers, I guess you can call them head hunters, saying they can help me with my job search. They say they know who is hiring or about to before it comes out on sites or the paper. They have the edge. They say they charge a small fee but don't tell you how much. Either I will pay or the company who hires me will pay. Should I use this "placement centers" or go through temporary agencies or continue with search engines.
Thanks for your time.
http://lowery.tamu.edu/placement/placement.htm
Try going through all of the sites on there first.
Try looking for another week or two. If you still don't have any luck, try the job placement center. It's only a small fee. Nothing bad can happen, I guess. It's worth a try. (:
Good luck!
Okay does anyone know of the topic for the first round? Is it cyber conflict or Olympics?
http://www.wisfps.org/2008-2009_topics.html
The first topic is the Olympics. (:
Does anyone know if he has an official Myspace?
http://profile.myspace.com/index.cfm?fuseaction=user.viewprofile&friendID=9307773
Unless that one's it, then no, he doesn't.
If that one isn't it and if he ever gets one, it'll be on here: http://celebrity.myspace.com/modules/celebrity/pages/directory.aspx#letteri
I need a picture of two cute animals "kissing" but one is obviously missing the other (like biting its nose, etc)
LINKS PLEASE!
Haha, here's a few(:
http://www.marinemammalcenter.org/store_new/images/kissing-harbors-new%20360.jpg
http://farm1.static.flickr.com/225/497865031_9ba72ce7f1.jpg?v=0
http://static.howstuffworks.com/gif/kissing-10.jpg
http://www.downtownpet.com/blog/uploaded_images/chipmunks.kissing-759863.jpg
http://farm3.static.flickr.com/2009/2073614275_2062416915_o.jpg
Hope I helped!
k so iknow girls thin k about their loved ones like bf or the guy they are dating while listening to love songs...but i was wondering ..do guys od the same???
It depends on the guy and your relationship.
I don't think most guys listen to love songs though, haha.
http://uk.answers.yahoo.com/question/index?qid=20081119091457AA0tAzl
Hope I helped. (: