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I am not harsh, rude, or disrespectful but I am going to tell you the truth because you are asking for that. If you want a lie or support that you know is invalid because you question it yourself, please don't get mad at me for the truth because that is what sets us ALL free!! Peace, Venom



advice

ok...
so i dated my best friend...
and i know your not supposed to...
but i did, and believe it or not, it worked out well.
Unfortunately, after 2 years together, he out of the blue, decided he wasnt sure how he felt anymore, and we broke up.
At first, things were rough, we considered getting back together, and he knew he still had feelings for me.

Here we are, a year later. We are still best friends, and talk every day.
We never got back together, and after that first week, he never told me he loved me ever again.

I have never stopped loving him through it all.

I've seen a therapist, and have pretended its not happening.

I've told him my feelings, then didnt mention it again after he said he felt different.

I've dated others in hope that maybe it would make me forget.

I've tried everything! But, a year later, and I still love him.

I'm not even asking what to do anymore...
I would honestly just like to hear some thoughts on this...

am I nuts or what? should I continue living life unhappy like this? Is there anyhting I havent tried?

Since you're not asking what to do anymore, I won't mention it."smile"

No, you aren't nuts at all, however you shouldn't continue living your life unhappily regardless of this situation or any other situation. I don't think you were wrong for dating your best frienf either. *As you move forward in your life, one day you will end up marrying someone, right? A key indicator of a successful relationship, leading to marriage is friendship* remember that.

By pretending that things aren't happening, you are falsifying fact of life. You aren't being real with yourself, which is going to delay your healing and cause stagnation AND cause you to stay in the past because you are telling yourself that you can't let go. There's nothing wrong at all with having feelings for someone you used to be involved with, there are problems with continuing communication and being friends with an ex if you aren't ready to accept it for what it is, because again, YOU are delaying healing within yourself. There's also issues with dating before being ready. Question for your mind: Can you drive if the passenger's side door isn't closed, even if you opened and closed the driver side to get into the car? You have to have closure before opening new relationships or they aren't ever going to work and you will contine being unhappy. Please provide yourself the closure you need in order to be happy so that you can move on in your life. It takes time, and time heals all wounds, cuts, bruises, sores and pain.

Good luck dear heart! You're a beautiful person full of sunshine, stop standing in the rain - by your own choice and control.

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my friend, he's going through alot of things right now.. like girl problems... like this girl says she likes him, but yet she can't get over her ex because she lost it to him.. and it's driving him crazy because of that. he is having family problems and he only has one friend which is like his sister. which, i can't give much information out about that.. because he won't tell me much. it's basically that he's been bottling all of these problems up and is about to explode. he told me he's a failure in life because most people said he was going to be a failure in life. he doesn't know where he's going in live, and the reason why he's living because of the few people that loves him & the people he loves... i don't know what to say to him.. i need some advice to give him. he says he's gaven up on everything, and his life is falling on him & her can't take it anymore.

i hate seeing my friend go through all of this. PLEASE HELP!

I am sorry that your friend is going thru this.

He needs your support more than anything - there is nothing to be said to him just yet because he is holding everything in by bottling it up, therefore you need to tell him to just talk - cry or whatever he needs to do to release it, and all you do is listen to him. Ask him NOT to ask you any questions until he has finished making statements which do not require respones or answers. With me? Now once he has gotten it all out- he needs to know that his life is of value or he wouldn't been born. EVERY person on this earth is here for a reason and purpose. We don't know those right off because it takes different experiences and things to happen to us before it's clear of our purpose here. His purpose is to help others who feel this way, once he has over come it.

The girl who says she likes him and isn't over the ex, needs to be let go in order to find herself, he can't find her inner for her. He can't ignore his inner to concentrate on her inner or he ignores himself, as he is doing. She needs some space and time, encourage him to give it to her, while he takes some time out to work on himself, as he has BIGGER issues to face and work thru. She can't do it for him either. He has to do it.

The hell with what most people have told him. His life is going to be what he makes it as he has the power and control over it, ONCE HE TAKES IT BACK from those people he has listened to. As he listened and believed these people, he has given them the power to control his power switch. They have turned his light off, ask him to turn it back on.

I don't understand the not knowing where he is going to live part - Again, he has the power to change that too unless he is underaged. If he is underaged and is facing homelessness contact me via email sophia_pettus@yahoo.com. We can address this part then. If he is old enough to live on his own, encourage him to do this. It requires employment of course. If I could do it at 17 and still be doing it at 34, I know he can, he must first believe in himself and get focused.

Life fails on those that accept failure, and negativity. Those that have determination and will power have a plan NOT to fail - He must start believing in himself as he isn't doing right now. If he is basing his life on anyone else instead of just himself (as he isn't married), then he is right, he is destined to fail because he isn't focusing on self. DOES HE WANT TO FAIL? If he doesn't want to fail then encourage him to know that he can't let people control him and he can't just sit there and let LIFE's issues control him either. He must rise above it and control life.

Good Luck. I will be praying for your friend and your strength to be there for your friend. I am not sure of your prayer life or your friend's prayer life, but I am encouraging you to talk to God also by praying together. If your friend is going through depression, please encourage him to also seek counseling, let him know that you will go with him, and stick right by his side!

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I want to start writing, I have a lot of stuff on my mind all the time. I want to write lyrics, but i dont know where to start.

I am a writer. I am in the process of self publishing. I think I can help you.

In reference to where to start: you have to release everything that is on your mind, regardless of how stupid it reads, or random it comes out - write everything down- don't try organizing the writing yet. Just write down - next once you've drained yourself, go back and read it. As you are reading it, thought pertaining to what you are reading will start processing - write each thought down next to the other things you wrote down first. Once you have done this, go back to each item - and clarify what you're reading item by item. This is how you break it down into sections instead of trying to do ALL of your thoughts at once. I hope this has worked as a starting point for your lyrics.

Good luck and I bet they are going to be great!

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i need to write a poem asap about the sun and what its like to be the sun.it would be good for it to rhyme and not be too cliche. i need suggestions and poetic things i could say about the sun. please help!!

Writing poetry for me is referring to objects that actually represent something or someone else.
Meaning, I would write about an experience that meant something to me, and it would be represented by the sun. I would speak of circumstance around you which would be the sky, the rain, the clouds and how the weather felt representing how I feel or felt. I would add details about the brightness of the sun, the color of it, the glowing of it, and the rounding of it and compare the rounding of the sun to the roundess within my life. I hope this has helped, just some ideas and info of where the thoughts come from and representation.

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How do I get over the anger of wasting 10 years with a loser that really convinced me things would change. I'm not gullible or a pushover. I have never been fooled like this, for this long, in my 46 years on this earth until now!! I don't want revenge or bad things to happen to him. I know I'm the one to blame because I allowed it to happen but how can he be so selfish, deceitful and willing to bring me down and then scream Karma will get me. AND... ...Why am I asking for advice when I know the reason for his behavior. Isn't this the reaction from me he seeks to obtain? 1 more question!! why are some people so cruel?

Hell, I did it too! I did it longer than you have. 17 years to be exact and it was hell.

How do you get over the anger? Let it go, but you can't let that go until you let him go, especially if you think he's a loser. Only you know the reasons that he is being consider a loser. Most people don't change until they want to change or until they are ready to change. I tried changing a loser too who plain out refused to change, I accepted it and moved on with my life. It's really hard to talk and go into depth with you not knowing the situation. Since you have been fooled and you know it, don't allow yourself to be an actual fool.

How can he be so selfish, deceitful and willing you to bring you down? because you are the one who gave him that power to be this way and you are the one who allowed him to bring you down, now stop it, stand up for yourself and stop letting him get you on or else he will continue being foolish. Especially if you know you aren't a pushover - if this is true: when do you make the decision not to be pushed "negatively" effecting you mentally, spiritually, physically, and emotionally especially to the point of anger. Brush it off..and let it push your mental, spirit, heart and soul positively for your peace of mind and happiness in self, so that you aren't feeling used or like a fool or even angry for that matter. It's unhealthy for you.

OF course those who are wrong will point fingers at those who most likely aren't wrong to make them feel better and to justify their actions. These are actions of a child. Now,if you both were doing something you had no right or business to do and it affected other(s) directly or indirectly then he's right to a certain extent because you will get yours too, as will he. So, if that's the case then he has not a right to call you out and anticipate Karma to come to you.

If you know the reason for his behavior, then you also know the power of forgiving him but not forgetting what he has caused you. Just because you tried and stuck it out for 10 years doesn't mean you wasted anything. YOU GAINED, if anything. You have gained wisdom, experience, knowledge, truth, and now you have gained info that I hope helps push you in a different direction so that you can rebuild whatever it is that he has destroyed. He was and is willing to bring you down, because he is down and feels that he is up above you and would like you to look up at him as if he is. It makes a childish man feel as a manly man. People are cruel because they have self esteem issues with self, they have seen cruelty in their life and think it's the correct way of life, they are cruel because they are lost and haven't found who they are yet, people are cruel because there is a God, a Heaven and Satan, a hell.

Good Luck, Be strong and no matter what make your life count! You deserve some happiness, focus on getting you together. If you have done something wrong with him to cause him to attempt being judgemental towards you, ask God to forgive you, hold your head up, look foward and not backwards and keep it moving. Stay away from those damn crabs cause they will try to pull you back into the bucket with them as you try to get out of it.

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i like this boy but i dont know if he likes me. once me and my friend past and started looking at me.once he gave me a teddybear for christmas to. is that a sign

Anytime a guy gives you something it's a sign that he likes you. Doesn't ONLY mean he likes you for a girlfriend,because it could also mean he likes you as a friend only. So, never make assumptions on if someone likes you or not. The only way to find out is to ask, spark the conversation and take it from there. Since he gave you a teddy bear for Christmas, why not get him a thinking of you card, since you like him? Cards are great ice breakers and sometimes they say just what you are thinking but can't find the actual words to say it!

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when guys say a girls different what do they mean i mean i know that they must be different but what can a girl do to become "different"

It means she's different from other girls he has dealt with. It could even mean her personality, her style, her conversation, the way she dances, the way she carries herself - all of these or maybe even one of them, none the less, it's different than others - she has her own spark that stands out! That's what I think it means.

What can a girl do to become different? Stand above peer pressure. Don't do the things that most girls do. Don't do things just to fit it, be your OWN individual, with your OWN style. Don't think the way other girls think. Be determined to be a leader and not a follower and this sets you apart from the rest of them, which makes you different. I am different and I love it! "smile"

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For those of you who have gone to college and FINISHED, was it worth it? Truthfully?

How did you stay committed and motivated?

Was it really hard? Are community colleges hard?

What are the classes like.. because I'm not going to lie.. it makes me nervous. I dont want to be wandering around and get lost or whatever.

Better than highschool or worse..?

I'm just very anxious.

Yes, it was worth it for me -not because I make millions of dollars, but because it was a goal that I set for myself and reached it beyond the many obstacles I face. I was a teen age mother of two, and so I felt like I had to do it for myself but most importantly for them. It was hard as hell for me. I was a 4.0 student in High school and felt that college was going to be a breeze, it wasn't; however I did graduate with an accumulative of 3.9. It takes patience, maturity, determination and self motivation to stay committed. It takes being able to tell your friends that you will meet that you are studying when they feel like partying or skipping class.

How did I stay motivated - I thought of my future goals, what I wanted and what it would take to get it. I was determined that I wasn't going back where I came from and seeing my children everyday.

I attended a community college first before transferring to a HUGE college in Atlanta, where I knew no one. I was scared too and no, community college wasn't as hard for me as the university was. The Community College was smaller, I knew many people who attended, the teachers were much easier, I had a name and not just a number.

The classes were very different from high school. It combines what you learned in high school and advances it. The atmosphere to me was also different than high school at the University but at the community college.

I am able to find jobs and am considered faster than a non-degreed person, but there are other obstacles I face, beyond education or college with jobs. The pay isn't that great either. It's OK, but to be honest with you, I have seen people with NO college period advance, just as someone with a degree with has been discouraging for me, but again that's when I can internalize and be thankful that I reach that goal that I set out to reach. Better than High school or worse? I would say better because it's allowing you that opportunity to advance from a teenager to a young adult, and next an adult.

Good Luck and I hope you go, because I support obtaining as much education as you can! Some people aren't blessed to go and wish they could go. If you have that opportunity to go, be thankful for it, and go for it!

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A few months ago, i wrote on here about my mixed family.( I married my high school sweetheart after we both had previous relationships and children from them. Her kids were absolutly wild, never punished for anything in their life, just completely wreckless) Now my worst fears have come to reality and i am now facing a teen pregnancy with the youngest of my step daughters. Of course she is hysterical about the situation and wants to get an abortion. I am entirely against that and would never let my sons think that this is a way out of this kind of situation. her mom (my wife) is saying that she can do whatever she needs to do. Do i allow her to have the abortion or make her own up too her mistake?

I am so so sorry hear this. I went throught it too except I was the teen who got pregnant. Here's the thing, this is her decision to make.

She needs your guidance in helping her make the deicion that she feels is best for her. If her decision is to keep her child, the focus is maintaining a healthy pregnancy and SELF suffency so that you and your wife aren't left raising her baby and then she goes out and gets pregnant again as a result of having no responsibility. Regardless of what she decides to do, she needs to own up to the responsibility associated with NOT being responsible. If she decides to have the abortion, support her and be there for her, regardless of what you believe. She will learn from that type of experience too. Either decision she decides upon will be a life, mental,and spiritual altering event. Trust me.

Use this opportunity to help her and to make your family bond tighter and better. This is the perfect time. If led, she will follow and make the changes in her life needed.

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This is pretty difficult to ask, but I think I should. So, let's say you sent someone nude pictures, but you are 16, and they are 19. And then you never spoke to them again. What would you do? Because I'm worried that they'll put them on the internet, although I don't see why if I never did anything mean to them.

But if they haven't put them online, then there's nothing I can do, or want to do. I mean I really don't care if they have the pictures, only if other people do.

I'm not really sure what I'm asking by the way. But I know that if they did release them, then I could probably sue them for lots of money right? I mean at least there's a bright side? I know what I did was incredibly stupid, so I'm kind of trying to make myself feel better about it. I don't know? Just give me any advice!

If you sent the pictures electronically, you will have to wait it out to see the outcome of it. Do you still have the person's contact information? If so, send them an email advising that you aren't allowing consent of selling, distributing or posting of these pictures and that you are requesting the pictures are disgarded immediately. You have no way of knowing if this was one or not. Advise this person that you have blind carbon copied your attorney unless you wish to get your parents involved,and they know a real attorney to copy on this email. Upon doing this, request a return email response within 3 days, acknowleding disgarding of the pictures. If they were atual pictures, you may ask that they are returned without duplication within 3 days, advise that if you get no response in 3 days, pertaining to the content of your email, that you will escalate the matter and persue it legally. I bet you get somewhere then. I would tell my parents. They will be upset with you, but explain that you made a mistake and need help to be proactive in preventing some possible BS.

PLEASE do not do anything like this again. We all live, and learn from our mistakes. It's not the mistake, it's the lesson that learned that counts.

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ok so i was talking with my counseller today and we came round to the idea that i dont have depression. it was just me putting a label on myself and using it as an excuse for my very faulty thought processes and general fucked up ness.

does that mean im not mentally ill or not??

cause my faulty thought processes and irrational thoughts, belifs and behaviours cause me to be depressed and suicidal and make me want to cut.

im confused.

is there a name or illness similar to what i have just described or is it me still wanting a label???

You have been going through this for a while. It is very important that you seek help from a DOCTOR, as previously advised - so that they can take necessary measurements to treat this and provide medication for you,if needed.

Also, please try calling the hotline for help. especially claiming to have suicidal thoughts 1800 784 2433 or 1 800 273 8255. I am attaching a link for your review - they are capable of talking to you and providing you with the attention and help that you require, desire and need.

toohttp://depression.about.com/cs/suicidecrisis/a/whomtocall.htm

I do have feeling and mixed emotions because of what you have said, and previous questions asked, as well as time frames of those, but I am not going to go there, but your doctor can.

It isn't fun to want a label, and it isn't cool not to get this treated by a doctor AND a counselor either - especially if there is really are issues as mentioned. We aren't capable of providing advice regarding this because more than advice is needed - ACTION is needed!

Praying for you!

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I've gone through things I want to do.. then I don't want to. Then I get discouraged at how long I'd have to go for such and such, so I change it. I cannot figure it out. I just am not book smart, and I couldn't see myself being in college that long.

I want my major to be something with art. I like designing things, mixed media stuff, photography, painting .. pretty much everything. What specifically can I do for that interest?

There are technical colleges differing from Universities. You could design games, graphs, blueprints, Engineering designs and graphics. You could even check on photography. Look in the yellow pages under Colleges, and Universities search for Technical schools, You can also checkout what type of programs they have under the Bachelor of Arts Programs. The best thing to do is make appointments, go in and talk to couselors or enrollment advisors for more guidance to gain an idea of how long it takes, what classes consists of, ETC. Try tech schools first, these are more hands on. I THINK you may just happen to like these programs and they don't take that long either.

Good luck and great job in desiring to continue your education.

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Soo.. I went out with this guy on Saturday night. We had known each other for a few weeks before hand. We had so much fun, and he dropped me off early Sunday morning after taking me to breakfast.

When do boys actually make the call after a date?

There is no rule as to when a guy should call after a date. In my opinion I have looked at it like this,when would you call after a date? If he hasn't called when you would've called,I would think he may not be interested in dating again.

Usually a guy asks a girl out again at the end of the first date, right then and there as well as arrange a time when he can call, so that he isn't calling to soon. He could also be kind of shy and want you to call him.

Before making any assumptions, we gotta be fair because he could be asking when you're supposed to call him. So, if you want to go out again or simply talk to him, call him! if he doesn't answer, leave a message and if he doesn't call you back, it's confirmed as to why he hasn't called. If he answers, talk to him and make no mention of why he hasn't called. Talk to him, feel him out, see if he talks, rushes off the phone or if he actually has some conversation for you. Best of Luck according to however you want things to work out!

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i am a girl, and i have this white/yellow thick discharge and sometimes it comes out as liquid,then it gets hard on my underwear and sometimes it stays around the thing where you pee, and i'm really scared its a disease. it doesnt go away and it smells really bad no matter how many times i shower it. i dont wanna show my mom unless it is a disease but im really scared.
what should i do? do you know what it is? is it normal?
if it is normal, how do you get the smell away?

It's really hard to say what it could be, but yellow discharge isn't normally associated with vaginal bacteria or yeast. (seriously). I will attach 2 helpful links for your review. No,it isn't normal to have yellow discharge. I am not saying it isn't normal to have discharge but not yellow or foul smelling. If you have had unprotected sex, there is a risk that you may have a STD, I hope not but it is a chance sweetheart.

Here's my suggestion - go to the pharmacy, purchase this screen kit. It's a panty liner - wear it, observe the color and compare it to the chart indicator so you know what's up before making an appointment or telling your parents since you don't want them involved yet. There are some local health departments that provide treatment beyond yeast infections. Please check this out so that you can get some help medically before it causes internal damage if more than a yeast infection.

http://www.womenhealthzone.com/womens-reproductive-health/identify-your-abnormal-vaginal-discharge-with-three-symptoms/

http://www.medicinenet.com/script/main/forum.asp?articlekey=64117


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My computer I think is about to die. I turn it on this blue screen pops up then a black one does where you can boot your computer in safe mode safe mode with networking and some other things but when you try to boot on one of them it goes back tot he blue screen help!

first you have to do a cold boot. Turn everthing OFF, now turn everything back on. You will get an option at this time to restart in safe mode. If you have already done this and it just goes back to the blue screen, it's the CPU unit and it is dying. You may need to look into putting into a computer clinic for cleaning or purchase a cd to clean your unit. You may have contracted a virus by downloading, opening an email or attachment. There is an option to restart your system in normal settings before problems occur. If you see this option, chose this one first before doing the safe mode, this usually clears up the system on it's on which indicates no virus, but if this doesn't work, it's a virus. GOOD LUCK!!!

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16/m

ok so i broke up with my girlfriend two nights ago


so i've been going out with this girl for a year and 3 months or so. i loved her very much. very, very much, and i still care very much about her, but i just wasn't happy anymore. i wasn't having fun anymore with her. all our conversations were becoming nothing other than "i love you's" and talking about sex and stuff (we never had it. . . got kind of close a couple times). we fought a lot recently, particularly about how much we saw each other (at least once a week) and that i was putting my music (i'm in a band) before her (which shouldn't happen apparently), and it was starting to stress me out way too much. i got little sleep and worried about it a lot. . .

and then i couldn't do it anymore.


i still really care a lot about her, and in the back of my mind i feel like i made a really big mistake. . . but the rest of me thinks it's for the better.

could anyone help me out here?


thanks

First, I am not really sure of what you need help with. I will say this: if you broke up with her because you were stressing out and felt confused or over whelmed, then maybe it was best to give it a little space for both of you.(especially with the fighting and disagreements). There is no time limit set on how much time is needed to breathe, step back and look at your relationship from the outside. If you feel that you have done this and you are ready to try it again:

call her, I am sure you guys are still friends, and talk. Tell her that you miss her and would like to start all over again without discussing the past disagreements -instead of discussing those, discuss the opposite which is what to do to prevent those fights. I don't think you made a mistake at all. I think you were mature and knowing when to say when, and you did that. It depends on what it is that you want and if you know that, then do what you gotta do. If you still have a question based on your decision of what you want to do, hit me up and we can go there. sophia_pettus@yahoo.com or you can hit me up in my inbox here, which ever you want works for me.

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My grandparents used to speak to me in a different language and well I grew up with a grandparent that couldn't speak English at all. It's been like 5-6 years since their deaths but I can still understand the language when spoken. I cannot speak it, read it or write it.. but I can understand most of it when people talk. How does this work when there's this huge gap in between? Do I only remember because my grandparents spoke it since my birth and the following years.. did it stick to my memory or? I can't make sense of it really.

It's not weird at all. I too grew up in this type of situation, as did my children. We all speak English and Spanish resulting from it. Since you already understand, why not cultivate it and learn to write, read and speak it. It's very helpful to know more than one language in today's society. It also is cause reason for higher pay in the working world. It provides you with versitility. It isn't weird, it's a blessing!

It doesn't work when there's a gap, so try to bridge it so there isn't a gap in between. You heard it while in the womb, therefore it's innate, which means you were born into it. You couldn't speak as a child, and so makes sense that you wouldn't speak it now,unless you were speaking it as a child. We were around it before birth,spoken to in English and Spanish so that we would understand both languages. Yes, it stuck to your memory also, just as the language you learned to speak. Hope this has helped.

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okay. so last night my best friend called me and told me that her and her bf had sex. it was her first time. well at first i was a little mad. because she had just told me that she was gonna wait a while. but i got over that. now im just upset because her bf is such an ass. he thinks he always has to have things his way. then he ends up getting them. and starts gloating and being a jackass about it. i know that they love each other. and dont for one minute think that they should break up. but a lot of times i think that, sex is the majority of what he wants, and she says that too. she told me that she told him that they arent gonna do it all the time. but i know they'll end up doing it. prob. again 2mrw which is the next time they are seeing each other. I know that there is nothing that i can do about what has happend, and that its there choice. but if she keeps always giving him what he wants then hes going to end up walking all over her.

Yep, you are right about everything you just said!

She has to do what she wants to do and not do what she isn't comfortable doing and sometimes by trying to get her not to will make her want to even more, so just support your friend and ENCOURAGE HER TO USE PROTECTION, to prevent std's or pregnancy.

IF that's ALL he wants from her, she will wake up and see it, just be there for her when she does so that can make the right decision for her life, happiness and future! You're a great freind because of your concerns for her. I admire that.

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The place where I will be moving to has like 4 colleges total. But since I will not be a resident yet, that the price for a community college will be VERY expensive. What do you suggest I do?
Best options? online classes? wait a year until I am a resident (although I could not see myself going back to school then..)

Blah blah help please!

Do you have family there or friends there that would allow you to use their address? Out of State Tuition makes me sick and it's unfair as hell! No, please don't wait, go to school as planned for that semester. If you do take on line classes, make sure they will transfer. Once you step out of class, even if for a semester it's hard to go back, so keep going until you are completed. I hope you are able to work this thing out. Have you contacted the Financial Aid Office there to find out if there are any scholarships or grants to help with this? Normally there are and they don't tell you volunteering unless asked. Sucks, but it's true!

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im 28 years old i lost my job in december ever since then i have been filling out numerous applications and they have been getting me know were. i have only had one interview out of all of them. my unemployment has run out recently. i have no money for anything except my mom sometimes gives me money. but i know that wont last for long. i think it is ridiculous thati havent been able to find a job yet, i know its because the economy is bad, but you would think i would be able to find a job somewhere. its getting to the point of me becoming depressed because i dont have a job. can anybody give me any ideals on what to do. i thought about babysitting untill i find something. but i do not know how to go about it.thanks in advance

Contact a recruiting office or temp agency. Supply your resume to them, they will review it and suggests changes as needed. Your resume could be one of the problems (too much info, not enough info, jobs applying don't relate to your resume, misspelled words, length) check those out.

Accept any job that you can get if you are being selective. When we have no job, people tend to get picky on the type of job they apply or want. In today's society, any job is better than no job. Register with ALL temp agencies in your area that you can. Pick up a newspaper and look in the classified ads. Devote at least 4 hours a day in a job search, treat it as a part time job until you find something! Contact your local unemployment agency,ask if they have jobs available within your area. Ask if they have a referral program. We have one in Kentucky. Pick up the phone book (yellow pages), and CALL places starting at A, and ask if they are accepting applications and/or resumes.

Try job boards - indeed.com is a great one. There are jobs posted on this site that may not be on hot jobs, monster or career builder.

Good Luck, I have been there and I want to encourage you not to get depress or give up. When one door shuts, another one opens but you must make the effort. It won't open automatically. I am praying for you also that you are blessed with some type of employment.

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