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my friend is having many problems
my friend, he's going through alot of things right now.. like girl problems... like this girl says she likes him, but yet she can't get over her ex because she lost it to him.. and it's driving him crazy because of that. he is having family problems and he only has one friend which is like his sister. which, i can't give much information out about that.. because he won't tell me much. it's basically that he's been bottling all of these problems up and is about to explode. he told me he's a failure in life because most people said he was going to be a failure in life. he doesn't know where he's going in live, and the reason why he's living because of the few people that loves him & the people he loves... i don't know what to say to him.. i need some advice to give him. he says he's gaven up on everything, and his life is falling on him & her can't take it anymore.
i hate seeing my friend go through all of this. PLEASE HELP!
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I am sorry that your friend is going thru this.
He needs your support more than anything - there is nothing to be said to him just yet because he is holding everything in by bottling it up, therefore you need to tell him to just talk - cry or whatever he needs to do to release it, and all you do is listen to him. Ask him NOT to ask you any questions until he has finished making statements which do not require respones or answers. With me? Now once he has gotten it all out- he needs to know that his life is of value or he wouldn't been born. EVERY person on this earth is here for a reason and purpose. We don't know those right off because it takes different experiences and things to happen to us before it's clear of our purpose here. His purpose is to help others who feel this way, once he has over come it.
The girl who says she likes him and isn't over the ex, needs to be let go in order to find herself, he can't find her inner for her. He can't ignore his inner to concentrate on her inner or he ignores himself, as he is doing. She needs some space and time, encourage him to give it to her, while he takes some time out to work on himself, as he has BIGGER issues to face and work thru. She can't do it for him either. He has to do it.
The hell with what most people have told him. His life is going to be what he makes it as he has the power and control over it, ONCE HE TAKES IT BACK from those people he has listened to. As he listened and believed these people, he has given them the power to control his power switch. They have turned his light off, ask him to turn it back on.
I don't understand the not knowing where he is going to live part - Again, he has the power to change that too unless he is underaged. If he is underaged and is facing homelessness contact me via email sophia_pettus@yahoo.com. We can address this part then. If he is old enough to live on his own, encourage him to do this. It requires employment of course. If I could do it at 17 and still be doing it at 34, I know he can, he must first believe in himself and get focused.
Life fails on those that accept failure, and negativity. Those that have determination and will power have a plan NOT to fail - He must start believing in himself as he isn't doing right now. If he is basing his life on anyone else instead of just himself (as he isn't married), then he is right, he is destined to fail because he isn't focusing on self. DOES HE WANT TO FAIL? If he doesn't want to fail then encourage him to know that he can't let people control him and he can't just sit there and let LIFE's issues control him either. He must rise above it and control life.
Good Luck. I will be praying for your friend and your strength to be there for your friend. I am not sure of your prayer life or your friend's prayer life, but I am encouraging you to talk to God also by praying together. If your friend is going through depression, please encourage him to also seek counseling, let him know that you will go with him, and stick right by his side!
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.....I'm sorry I'm not very good at doing this but here's my advice
She needs some time I lost my virginaity 2 some guy and now we broke up and it took me awhile before I was able 2 date again, your friend just needs to show her what happieness he can give her let go somewhere they can have fun togather
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