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breakup
16/m
ok so i broke up with my girlfriend two nights ago
so i've been going out with this girl for a year and 3 months or so. i loved her very much. very, very much, and i still care very much about her, but i just wasn't happy anymore. i wasn't having fun anymore with her. all our conversations were becoming nothing other than "i love you's" and talking about sex and stuff (we never had it. . . got kind of close a couple times). we fought a lot recently, particularly about how much we saw each other (at least once a week) and that i was putting my music (i'm in a band) before her (which shouldn't happen apparently), and it was starting to stress me out way too much. i got little sleep and worried about it a lot. . .
and then i couldn't do it anymore.
i still really care a lot about her, and in the back of my mind i feel like i made a really big mistake. . . but the rest of me thinks it's for the better.
could anyone help me out here?
thanks
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The fact that you feel thankful proves that this relationship wasn't the right thing for you right now. You needed to take a break, and that is just what you did. So far, you've done everything right. When girls get pushy and demanding, you have to let them cool down. If she cares about you enough to start over, then maybe it's worth it. If you were ever to get back into the relationship, you would have to first talk to her about your priorities and what role she would play in your life. But for now, enjoy being single, focus on your band, and kick ass.
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First of all I think that you made a really good decision by stepping back and taking a break from it for a while. If you are feeling stressed and overwhelmed by a relationship the best thing to do is to give it a few days. If you feel like you still love her and would maybe like to give it another try I say give her a call and let her know what is going on with you.
To be in a relationship you have to be willing to compromise, so both of you are going to have to compromise on your music career. She needs to be more understanding about the time you spend with your band and you have to be sure and make more time for her so she doesn't feel left out. Communication is one of the biggest things, you have to communicate your thoughts and feelings to one another so you don't end up holding them end and therefore causing stress and fights. When you call her let her know why you felt you needed a break then get her feedback, then if you still feel as though you want to try again then go for it. Just try to keep things out in the open and if you are stressing it talk to her about it and if you get back together and you feel like it was the wrong choice get out of it. You really just have to go with your gut and heart on it, do what you are comfortable with and what makes you happy.
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i know what you mean about this feeling.
because i am not you, i cant tell you that you made the right or wrong decision and no one else can either.
but if you still love her. then maybe yall can find a way to replenish the feelings.
a break from yall can be a good solution, maybe yall just need some time apart to just think.
i hope everything works out.
any other questions just IM me or email me. or send it to my inbox.
-jessicamarie.
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First, I am not really sure of what you need help with. I will say this: if you broke up with her because you were stressing out and felt confused or over whelmed, then maybe it was best to give it a little space for both of you.(especially with the fighting and disagreements). There is no time limit set on how much time is needed to breathe, step back and look at your relationship from the outside. If you feel that you have done this and you are ready to try it again:
call her, I am sure you guys are still friends, and talk. Tell her that you miss her and would like to start all over again without discussing the past disagreements -instead of discussing those, discuss the opposite which is what to do to prevent those fights. I don't think you made a mistake at all. I think you were mature and knowing when to say when, and you did that. It depends on what it is that you want and if you know that, then do what you gotta do. If you still have a question based on your decision of what you want to do, hit me up and we can go there. sophia_pettus@yahoo.com or you can hit me up in my inbox here, which ever you want works for me.
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