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Q: Hi, i need to know..does hollister sell girls underwear? =]
thanks
Their website doesn't have a section for underwear, and I think if they did have some they would at least have a website section for it.

But I'm not sure, and different stores of the same chain can have different clothing as well as extra stuff :] so it might be worth a look next time you see one.

Q: can you help me find a babysitting website, with people looking for a babysitter in rolla mo or saint james mo. or somewhere that i can just put a profile up so that they can find me.

i already have a profile at wwww.sittercity.com and www.phonebabysitter.com.

thanks.
Some news papers(state and local) let you put up free ads on their website. You may want to try that - people tend to check locally before turning to a general site like the ones you listed.

If I'm not mistaken craigs list has a section for finding baby sitters in your area, and you can also put an ad up there(free).

Q: I have this reddish/purple line on my back about 4 inches long(horizontally) just above where my bra is normally..it doesn't hurt, but it looks weird and I am wondering what is it?

14/f
If you use a lot of the same kind of bras it might be that its too tight or something? Its hard for me to guess since I can't see it. If you bruise easily then your bra might have bruised you without you even realizing, and if you keep using the same kind of bras then you would keep bruising yourself. I know you said its just above where your bra usually is, but it moves a bit during the day. And again, if you bruise easily maybe you slept on it funny or something XD(if you sleep in a bra)

If it doesn't hurt its probably nothing to freak out over. Next time you see your doctor for whatever reason you may want to point it out, though.

Good luck, sorry I can't be more helpful.

Q: ok, so i'm 13/f, and i guess i'm like totally uneducated or something, but could someone please tell me what 1st,2nd, and 3rd bases are? i'm totally confused! thanks in advance.
1st base is kissing. Usually on the lips, and some people even think its only first base if its french. It differs.

2nd base is groping or feeling someone up. Whether it has to be bare skin or not again differs from person to person.

3rd base is usually sex though some people might say 3rd base is some kind of foreplay - fingering, oral sex, that sort of thing. And that sex is a 'home run'.

Hope that helps XD

Q: Will you still get that clear stuff in your underwear if your pregnant? Ive never been late on a period and im taking birth control. BUT I should have started three days ago. I missed a pill a while back and had sex with my long time bf that night but took the pill the next day (which I have done a couple of times and been fine) I've just never been late before. SO clear stuff.. does that mean im not pregnant?
I'm not sure if discharge determines whether or not you're pregnant, but if you JUST had sex not a long time ago theres not much that can determine whether you are or not.

Like for instance, a girl could have technically conceived on monday, then had her period on thursday.

I don't know how long a 'while' is :] but if it has been a week or more since you had sex you should just get an EPT. I think the least amount of time for you to have been technically pregnant and still have an EPT be reasonably reliable is five days but I'm not sure.

Good luck

Q: hey! so i'm 14/f and i would really like to model. How can I jump start that career to become a good enough model to submit my photos to agencies and things? ANY HELP is appreciated!

p.s ive never done or tried anything before. so if there are any models out there, how did you start?
Well first off I don't think it would be wise to start modeling as young as you are. Some agencies require you to move and that could put stress on your family and what not.

However
Modeling places tend to have auditions for new models every now and then and you could look for an agency in your area to try out for.

If you just want to be a clothing catalog model, or something small like that then go for it. If you want to be something bigger...like a super model or anything even vaguely close I will warn you that it can be very stressful and possibly very dangerous. Stressful in keeping up your 'figure'(there is no wiggle room.) and dangerous because models tend to be exploited and tricked...creepy guys and that whole bit.

Also, you should never ever have to take off your clothes for a modeling audition unless it is specifically for nude models. Just a heads up :)

Q: okay, i have been with my boyfriend for 3 and a half years total. on and off, only once. which was last november-february. while we weren't together i had sex with this guy i knew for forever named brandon. after my DUMB fling with him was over, jon(my boyfriend.) and i got back together. and we're happy. now, it's september, and brandon sent me a message for the first time since feb, to talk. well we have been IMing eachother for two weeks. idk what im feeling . i feel guilty for talking to brandon. and i know something is still there with me and him. but he told me not to breakup with jon b/c he isnt sure me andd him could workout. what should i do?
i love jon, i dont want to end it with him. how do i get over brandon for sure, completely.
The answer here is simple, but maybe you need an outside point of view to see it.

Stay with Jon. You said you love him and you don't want to leave him - so don't. I'm not sure how old you are, but if you are at an age where you want a committed relationship you need to be able to form relationships with the opposite sex without getting attached to them in that way...or if you do then don't act on it.

So maybe there is something there with Brandon. A spark, an attraction. So you go out with him(after breaking up with Jon. Again I'm not sure what age I'm dealing with here so I'm going to say it - don't cheat on him. At least break up if you're going to be with Brandon.) and things don't work out like he thinks it might. What then? You can't go back to Jon, you'd have probably broke his heart.

Your question was how to get over Brandon once and for all...well....

There are always going to be people you are attracted to physically and mentally no matter what kind of relationship you are in. Marriage, dating, whatever. If you EVER want a good lasting relationship you need to take step back and just get over it - to put it bluntly. You can't switch relationships every time you're attracted to someone...or you'll never have one for more than a few years or less.

All I can advise is that you don't flirt with Brandon. Don't give him anymore reason than he already has to hit on you. You can talk to him - that isn't something to feel guilty about. Just don't do anything that could weaken the trust of the relationship you already have by flirting with other guys.

I'm sure you wouldn't want Jon to do that to you.

In the end its your choice of course =] Your attraction for Brandon should lessen once you take him out of your mind as a possible lover/boyfriend. But by all means keep him as a friend, if you can.

I wish you and Jon the best of luck :]

Q: I have a lot of art that i want to sell, mostly photographs. But I don't know where to sell it. I've tried Deviantart, but you don't get but like...30% of the profit off of the item. And I don't want to go to art shows. Is there anything else that i can try?




P.S. don't say ebay.
I don't know a lot about this, but if you want to start a serious business selling your art you should get your own website.

A good one. Hosting can cost as less as two dollars a MONTH so money shouldn't be an issue. Free hosting on a website like that can make things feel non professional.

Also you could make business cards with your website address on them. That way whenever someone gives you their card you can give them one of yours. Its decent advertising.

IF you do this be sure to put a watermark on the display pictures of your photos so people can't steal them.

Sorry if this isn't the answer you wanted :] but its the best I got!


Q: 16/f

so i gave my neighbor's cousin who goes to a local public school (i go to private school) head over the summer...basically, biggest mistake of my life and it was my first time giving head. so i think he's telling people and i know for sure that 2 girls in my grade who hate me know about it....everyone's going to think i'm a slut if it spreads. what should i do for damage control?
I don't know what to tell you other than its your word against his, if you don't mind lying about it. He can't honestly have any proof, and if people believe you over him then he'll gain a bit of a reputation as a horny boy who WISHES you had given him head.

You're in high school...I'm sure you're not the only one who has given head to someone(and regretted it) before.

Just let it wash over. My friend was caught giving head twice at different parties. Most people called her a skank but its not like they treated her differently.

But again you're in high school. Oral sex aren't the biggest things going on :P try not to worry too much.

Q: I'm a female who's approximately 5'7 and weighs about 117 lbs. I haven't had my period for two months. I was on a diet & I do have strict eating habits. What can help me get my period?? I'm satisfied with my diet & don't want to change it up too much. I'm maintaining my weight, not trying to lose or gain. I have an appointment with the gyno, but other than that is there anything I can do?? Should I be worried or concerned?? Is this normal?? Thanks!!
According to your height and weight you're technically underweight. Only by a little, but it can cause loss of period sometimes. Models and gymnasts usually don't get periods at all because of it.

I know you said you don't want to change your weight or eating habits but according to your BMI(body mass index) you could stand to gain about 5 pounds :) and even then you would be on the thinner side of average.

But that might not only be the problem, and it might not be the problem at all. If you're in your teens it could just be an imbalance of hormones...or anything really. This sort of thing happens all the time. Frequent periods..no period at all. My friend was having her period twice a month and they put her on the pill to even her out. Maybe it works for women missing theirs?

Don't worry about it. You didn't mention being sexually active, but if you are theres of course a chance you're pregnant. But you aren't going to die or anything XD


Q: okay so I'm running for student body president at my school. I have to write a speech and right now im just trying to get ideas but I'm totally stuck. So i was just wondering... what are some things in your school that you like? or dislike? or what are some things you would like to see? stuff like that. Because I just need some ideas then i can use some and put them into ideas for my speech or whatever. so if you could help that would be great!
You could say you will do your best to bring the student body together...

High schools and middle schools are often very divided in their groups of people(especially big schools) and it makes it hard to meet new people, and thus hard to understand them. People dislike what they don't understand - its human nature. Being divided can cause a bad atmosphere for school. Not only socially, but for learning as well.

You could set up special lunches where people who want to participate take a number and sit at the lunch table they were assigned to with other people who were assigned there. You know. That sort of thing, if you actually plan on following through with it. I doubt that would be something a principal would disagree with.

Ummmm...don't wouldn't promise things you probably can't deliver. Like new pop machines, longer lunch hours. The principal has to approve everything you do, being president doesn't mean you're really in charge. This means not promising anything that would put financial stress on the school, or screw with the budget. The principal will most likely say no.

and while I'm on money, you could say you'll organize fund raisers and fun events for students so the proceeds can go to money for the school. New desks, TVs, projectors, computers, electronics in general, and if you really make a lot you could get extra things that could be fun for students. I don't think anyone would object to that.

So there! :D I hope this helps.

Q: Does anyone know of a safe place where you can download free music? I had Limewire but in the past few weeks, Ive heard it has been monitered by the government. Thanks a lot!!
Well...If you're using limewire basic then downloading music with it is against the law. The chances you'll actually be arrested or in any kind of trouble for it is REALLY slim. SO many people do it, there is almost no way for the government to really step up like that. Plus they have other more important things to do.

But if you're reallllyyy worried....well...download limewire PRO with limewire basic. That way its legal..even though you're cheating to get the program. ^^; but do still buy CDs to support artists and what not.

Q: 14/f

i'm not really religious at all. my family doesn't go to church or anything and one day my parents found out i don't really believe in god. and they kinda like freaked and said we're going to start going to church and stuff [we never did]/ k so i have some questions about all this religion stuff.

-who wrote the bible?

-i mean really how is it possible that theres some great god up in the sky?

-who all thought of this? like there had to be someone who came up with this?

-who created these so called sins?

-if being gay is a "sin", why did this god create them?

-how do people know anything of what they looked like or did?



thanks =]
This question is a bit old now..but I see a lot of answers which I believe are wrong and often times biased. So I'm saying mine too, if you're listening =]

1. Many many different followers of the christian god wrote the bible, though sometimes knowing exactly who the author of one section is can be disputed. Then after the original scrolls were written the bible was then translated english. If memory serves it was originally written in Hebrew. No language solidly translates into another - it has to be interpreted. Some people who study the bible believe it was wrongly translated at times, but I'll go more into that in a different answer.

2. I cannot answer that. I'm agnostic, which means I cannot disprove or prove the existence of god therefore I am without religion...but not athiest. In some ways my opinions can be seen as unbiased on this subject because of that. But I guess it comes down to faith..though I believe it is human nature to worship something or someone. Do what feels right.

3. People are always trying to come up with answers to what they don't understand. Think of mythology...those gods were created to explain everyday things like the sun rising...seasons...all things that can now be defined with science. What happened that sparked the christian god in particular? I cannot say. Perhaps there really is a god that inspires faith and hope, or maybe it is just mankind creating a REASON for them to have faith and to hope. Sometimes people just need to believe. But again, I do not know.

4. I think it was god that revealed himself to Moses causing him to write the ten commandments...but again, its all been translated(though they are pretty straight forward)

5. And this is where translation and interpretation come in. There are parts of the bible that call being gay a sin that could have been interpreted differently and mean something completely different. Also you have to take just about everything in the bible with a grain of salt - man wrote the bible. Yes, they were gods men...but is no man without sin? Also god does not hate gay people. Jesus even praised a gay man for his faith. AND it has been proven that sexuality starts in the womb and its all part of brain signals and biology. People do not choose it, and anyone who would say otherwise is misinformed. Also, animals that only take one mate in their entire life have been shown to take same sex partners. Did they choose their sexuality too? Yes, men and women were created to have children...but its not like gay couples dont biologically have children, they just have to do it scientifically or find a willing member of the opposite sex willing to impregnate them(or be the impregnate..-er.) In the end it comes down to the fact that a group of men and scholars got together a long time ago and translated those scrolls. It was a LONG time ago and in some cases descrimination ran high. If they could have translated a line one way or the other, and one way supported one of their own personal beliefs, what would they have picked?

-and I don't understand this question x] sorry. Jesus was described/painted, I'm sure.


And I hope I helped you haha this was kind of a long answer but I have strong opinions. There is NOTHING wrong with having religion...its when you let it run your life that its bad. If you decide to be christian, or spiritual, or whatever you like try to take the rules of the religion as a GUIDELINE. Something to be interpreted PERSONALLY. Bottom line is you are the only person that you are ever going to fully trust.

If you decided to be athiest, or even agnostic, I also invite you to keep an open mind and let people believe what they believe as long as they aren't being asses about it.

I hope this helped, maybe you could use some of the things I said to explain to your parents why you feel the way you do but also back it up with facts.

Oh, and this was written by a 16 year old girl in case you are wondering XD

cheers, and good luck. I hope you find the answer.

Q: alright...

well i use limewire, and i typed in a song and it had the same exact title, but when i clicked on it to listen to it, it turned out to be a sex tape! how do i get them off to where nobody will be able to tell that they were there because i have to take my computer in and get a part of it fixed. and im afraid the people there will find it and tell my parents. PLEASE HELP ME!!!!!
Just delete it(or them). There are ways to find things that are deleted on a computer with special programs...but honestly, who would go through all the trouble just to see if you've watched(accidently or not) porn?

The people who are going to fix your computer aren't going to sift through your deleted files to fix a part XD and even if they did find something they would really have no reason to tell your parents. And how would they have any way of knowing it wasn't your parents deliberately downloading the video anyway?

My brother is a total pervert and he use to keep porn on the family computer and my mom never knew. We took it in to get fixed tons of times and they never said anything to my mom besides what was wrong with the computer and how much the bill was.

Don't worry about it, but be careful about what you download. Limewire is infested with viruses.

Q: 15/f

I just started going to a boarding school liek a month ago. Recently I've been feeling like I'm always fighting back tears. I've been way too overremotional. And it's not just because of pms- because my emotional side effects that go along with that are not this extreme ever. I'm really homesick and I hate being here for a lot of reasons and I don't have any friends or a boyfriend.

I'll be trying to do something and all of a sudden tears will start to smoulder in my eyes. Especially when anyone asks me some kind of question- even if it's normal... I'll start crying (or nearly, but fighting the urge) at the drop of a hat.

What's wrong with me?

(ps: i've already passed puberty so that's not it)
There are many things in life that can make a teenage girl cry. I guess most of us are just naturally hormonal....but thats even WITHOUT the added stress of boarding school. I can't imagine what it would be like to start a new school and not even be able to go back to my family at the end of the day.

It sounds to me that you're stressed and possibly very very anxious. Take a few deep breaths and tell yourself everything will be okay - because it will be. Find something to lose yourself in.....books are good for that sort of thing, or maybe a hobby. Something to relieve stress and help you forget your worries for a while. What I mean is, try to find something that will give you a reason to get through the day.

Friends come in time, and boyfriends aren't that important. Just give it time, people tend to be more friendly than alot of people give them credit for. Try to be yourself..even if right now it feels like you can't be.

Sorry if I'm way off the mark xD this is just my opinion. If it doesn't bother you then you may want to go to a counselor if your school has one...and if they aren't too annoying.

Try to relax =] time is on your side.

Q: i have some stretch marks on my breast. does anyone know of anything that i can use that i can find around the house to get rid of them? cuz i dont really want to buy anything. im 13/f
You have to buy SOMETHING if you want to fade them quickly, but nothing gets rid of them entirely. A doctor can also prescribe medicine, but it only works a little bit better than over the counter stuff.

The good news is stretch marks fade naturally over time. When I was your age I had stretch marks on my breasts and a few other areas too(including some really deep ones) and now I'm 16 and its barely noticeable AT ALL. They've been that way since I was about 14 and a half. Most women deal with stretch marks at one time or another =] try not to worry about it.

Q: 15/f

you see i have red hair......down there.....and i really want to have sex w/ my boyfriend but idk if he would be offended, or turned off, cuz i have pubic hair..... should i shave it off?
He should be ecstatic you're having sex with him, not concerning himself with whether you have pubic hair or not. I honestly cannot imagine a guy getting right down to it, seeing pubic hair, and saying "Shit, I'm leaving." can you?

But in the end its your choice. If you decide to never ever shave there will still be guys who will want to have sex with you, even the ones who prefer shaved.

If you don't care, or you're feeling particularly charitable, go ahead and do it. I'm sure he'd like it. But suggest you not plan to have sex soon after the first time you do it in case you screw up or hurt yourself.

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