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I'm a 13 year old girl, and the boy is 14 years old. I've dated him before and he was really really sweet but he is on the chubby side, I usually don't date chubby boys. My friends said that he was talking about how he was going to ask me out this Friday but idk. I don't want to hurt his feelings because he's like the big brother I've never had. Should I go out with him? (link)
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I'm not going to judge you for refusing to date someone because of appearance - it isn't a good thing to do, but we can't help who we find attractive and unattractive.
That being said, is it that you're attracted to him but have a rule against chubby boys, or that you don't really like chubby boys? If he's not your type, then he's not your type. But if you like him and you're just worried about being judged, I would tell you to go ahead and date him. Who cares what people think? You're only 13. Everyone will get over it eventually.
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i've recntly had sex (with a condom) and anal with my boyfriend on different occasions.but my mum told me not to rush but the timing was right and i wanted to. should i tell her? im'm 16 and he's 19. (link)
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Why do you want to tell her? Do you have the kind of relationship where you talk about these sorts of things, or do you feel some kind of guilt, or are you seeking contraceptives?
If you're very close to your mother and you guys talk about this stuff freely and you want to discuss your feelings, you certainly could bring it up. I personally do not have that kind of relationship with anyone in my family, so I don't know what that's like (I've never liked to discuss my sex life, especially not with parents).
Or is it just a matter of feeling guilty, because your mother told you not to rush, and you believe that she would think that you did? It's your sex life. You make the decisions (and deal with the consequences). Your mother doesn't want you to get hurt, but ultimately it is your choice and not one to feel bad about.
If you want contraceptives, you could (and should) definitely ask, sparing the details.
Good luck, and PLEASE PLEASE PLEASE be safe.
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The last two days I've fallen into a horrible slump. I feel like I don't really exist and maybe I should just kill myself. I feel like the economy and our government has screwed me over and like nothing will ever work out.
I fought so hard to graduate from HS with honors, multiple awards, lots of volunteer hours and two months out of high school I got my first job making $10.25 an hour. I get paid biweekly so I take home 1410 and give my mom 550 of it for rent so I keep $860. I would still need to pay for my own car which would cost me $550 in financing every month and about $80 car insurance which leaves me with $230. $70 of that goes to my cell phone bill which is $160. The rest of that would go towards groceries.
I am basically screwed. There is no way I will be able to move out anytime soon but she wants me out of the house before the end of the year.
I keep thinking I should just kill myself.
None of my family cares about me. Boys lose interest in me after a couple weeks of talking to me when they realize I don't want to have sex with them right away. I don't have very many friends. I don't have anybody to help me financially.
The only other way I see out is that I've been on this sugar daddy site where a lot of guys seem to think I'm really gorgeous and intelligent and want to give me a chance.
One of them talks about how much he wants to spoil me and that I would never have to work again and even that he would want me to live with him.
Right now I'm too scared to even walk to a local store by myself let alone fly out on a plane alone to meet a total stranger based on some stuff he wrote to me on the internet.
I also don't want to do that because I don't want to turn into some high class whore because I know those guys would want sex and I always thought of myself as one of those girls who was going to find the right guy and marry him and then lose her virginity but I don't think that's going to happen now. I think maybe moving in with one of those guys is my last resort and hey if they wind up killing me or something oh well it's not like I was ever going to get anywhere else anyways.
Right now everything just seems to lead back to me having to die. There is no way out. I've become a victim of the economy and nobody will help me because I'm just one in a trillion people living on a planet in the middle of a galaxy within a universe within only god knows what.
Who cares about some 18 year old or her hopes and dreams? Realistically nobody does.
There is no meaning to life. Nothing is going to work out. I will die in the end anyways.
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It's easy to start feeling hopeless. You have a point; perhaps life really doesn't have any meaning. After all, all of humanity will be wiped out, eventually. But have you ever considered how... central everything feels to us? How huge all of our problems are? We all have a universe within ourselves, and that is significant, and that is important, and that is worth living for.
I think you will be able to move out soon. You manage to give your mom $550 every month for rent, right? That's pretty much the rent for a cheap studio apartment. You could get a one or two bedroom apartment with some roommates (be careful about where you find them, though!) Do you really need the car? It may be cheaper to use public transport, or if you move to a city, a car is more hassle than worth.
I wouldn't resort to becoming a sugar baby, especially since sex before marriage is against your morals.
What if you decided to attend college (I'm assuming you're not right now)? Perhaps then your family would be more understanding of your financial situation? Or they may allow you to live rent-free if you say you're saving up for college? It's expensive, but you can do 60 hours of community college and save money, earn a scholarship, and reduce your student loans.
I'm sorry that your family isn't being very understanding of your situation. All you can do is keep fighting, strengthen your muscles ;)
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My boyfriend and I have been together for about there years. I love him but I don't feel like im sexually attracted to him. We can be having sex and he can turn me on but then when I look at his face it turns me off. Like his face looks so ugly up close and the way he kisses me turns me off really bad sometimes. Idk what to do. I want to be with him. Is there any way this could change? He often accuses me of cheating and now I've started having thoughts of cheating.I have never cheated on anyone before. I just want to see if anyone has been through this and if there is hope.
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That happened to me with an ex-boyfriend.
When we firs started dating, I thought he was cute and sweet and I was pretty sexually attracted to him. After we hooked up a few times and some time passed, I found myself becoming more and more disgusted by him. He was a bad kisser, and while he wasn't ugly, I found aspects of his appearance to be revolting, even though they had never bothered me before.
I thought about cheating, too, and I constantly avoided seeing him in person or pretended to have my period all the time, so he wouldn't try anything intimate. After a few months, I broke up with him.
We tried to stay friends but it was awful, eventually we got back together but fought ALL the time, broke up a few months after that, and had a very strained and emotionally-draining friendship until we decided to stop speaking to each other. We talk now, but for several months we had no contact.
The last paragraph probably doesn't/won't apply to you, but that's my story. If he makes you feel icky, it means you're not in love any more. You can still love someone without being IN love with them.
I don't know if there's hope. My situation ended with a break up. You really only have two options; either become more physically attracted to him, or break up. If you can't become more attracted to him, why would you want to be together romantically with him? I understand that friendship may be difficult after such a long relationship, but it may be the best thing to do.
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Im 14 and my boyfriend and i got together in december. He's kissed me twice, but he wont talk to me. I sit next to him and his friends everyday at school because he saves me a seat, but when i save him a seat with my friends, he just walks past me. On the rare occasion that he does talk to me, he wont even look at me, even though when i stand up in class or he sees me in the hall, his eyes are glued to me. Texting is the same way. When he texts me, in the middle of our conversations he cuts it off saying he has to work out or go do chores or its family movie night. When i text him, he rarely ever replies. This happens every time. There has been some problems with his friends thinking im weird annoying and stupid, but he swears he doesnt think so. WHat do i do. Im scared to confront him because i dont know how and i dont want to ruin this relationship. (link)
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Are you his first girlfriend? It sort of sounds like he isn't really sure what it means to be in a relationship.
It sounds like he likes you, but doesn't know how to talk to you or what to say or how to act, so he finds it easier to just avoid you. The way he doesn't respond to your texts makes him seem rather disinterested. Perhaps he just had a bit of a crush on you and liked you but wasn't as interested when you became official, and doesn't know how to act in a relationship?
Why don't you call him and ask him for ten minutes of his time. Explain that you feel like there's a misunderstanding in your relationship, and you're not getting what you want. Let him know that you find it odd that you are supposedly dating, but that he doesn't really talk to you much.
He may realize that he doesn't want a relationship, and may end it. That's OK. Do you really want to be in a relationship that you are unsatisfied in, just because you like him? You'll get over it, trust me.
Good luck!
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If im 16 years of age is it legal to have sex with someone the same sex as me?? And how can i get tested for STI and STDs?? (link)
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It depends on your state (just Google the age of consent in your state). However, any free/local/teen clinic should provide testing for STIs and STDs regardless of your age. I would check, just in case.
I guess that answers your second question. If you don't know of any teen clinics, there may be information in your school nurse's office. Yes, it may feel awkward to ask, but it's better to be safe than sorry!
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if you finished your period on thursday and i have unprotected sex on monday can i be pregnet ? (link)
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Yes, but if it makes you feel any better, the first five days before and the first five days after your period are the times of month when you are least likely to get pregnant.
That being said... sperm can live in the vagina for up to 7 days, and you can technically get pregnant at any time. My advice? Talk to a doctor or pharmacist about the possibility of using Plan B - it's probably a little late for it, but who knows.
Don't worry too much. I know you must be really stressed and scared, but all you can do now is wait to see if you get your next period. Feel better!
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What should I do about my boyfriend issues?? There isn't anything wrong with my boyfriend it's just I get really shy when he is around his friends and stuff. (link)
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I'm always like that, too. I think it's because you're scared of making a bad impression on his friends.
Look at it this way; if he's willing to bring you around his friends, it means that he either a) knows that they'll like you, or b) doesn't care about what they think. Regardless, I think your behavior is normal and you don't need to do anything about it!
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I am a university student and was supposed to be meeting with my tutor tomorrow to discuss how my dissertation is going. I felt a bit under prepared but I didn't want to tell her that in case she thought I hadn't been working hard enough, so I emailed her saying I had to work and asked if I could see her on Friday instead. The email bounced back, so later on I sent her another one, this time admitting that I was under prepared. As soon as I'd sent it I noticed that my original email had now been sent, so now she will have two emails from me with two different excuses and she will realise that I have lied.
What should I do? I've looked into recalling it etc but it isn't possible. (link)
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You can try telling her that you actually tried to send the one about being unprepared first, and then you found out that you also had to work, thought that the first e-mail didn't go through, so you just sent the one about having to work.
You can also just admit to trying to cover up the fact that you were unprepared. It's embarrassing, but may be the better thing to do.
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i like in chicago illinois & i was wondering where i can go to meet guys... that AREN'T pervs
im a senior in high school (17, female) (link)
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I can tell you where to NOT meet guys...
Zero Gravity. Ick.
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