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I'm 16 years old. I'm in 11th grade. Most of my friends that I give advice to have done pretty well.. either they took my advice or I made them think about things they haven't thought about b4.
I'm good at answering questions about sex. not that I'm like a fein.. but I like to know about it so I can be safe, and now if you ask for advice you can be safe and informed too.
I'm also good with frienship issues.. or anything in that matter! I'll be straight with you and tell you what you need to do or what you should/shouldn't do if its that type of question. I won't hold back.
I'm also not going to judge you, if you're 13 and having sex.. HEY! that's your business! I'm just gonna make sure you know EVERYTHING ABOUT IT!! or if you cut or something going on with ur family or watever, I'm not gonna make you seem like you have a disease.
I hope you all can trust me and leave me one in my inbox and I'll hit you up with the best advice and information I can.
Love Always,
!~$*AMANDA*$~!

advice

i want to sleep with this guy, im a vrigin and im lil nerveous but i know im ready should i?
i rate good

well in my opinion i think ur ready when u know ALLL about sex. like about condoms and checking them when ur done and birthcontrol and plan b. plan b is 2 pills u take within 3-5 days of unprotected sex or if u kno the condom broke. u jus go to ur local health care place and ask for it. its confidential and no one but u have to know. and i think everyone is nervous about thier 1st tiem.. i was. but ur ready when u are with a guy who u want to take ur V and always remember them. bc u always will. trust me. and you can trust this guy so that he wont tell people about ur business unless u want him too.
Hope i helped. feel free to talk to me!.
Manda

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i recently found out my 7 year old cousin, danny what raped by a neighborhood kid. this is really just depressing for me... BUT also for him. so my question is, anyone with experience know what well cheer up or help rape victim cope? hes very young.

im sry to hear that.. i dunno what i would do if i were u.. but to think of me being you.. id say dont treat him differently like he has an disease. show him that ur there for him and that u love him. being that young can make him loose trust in alot of ppl.. ud want him to trust you.
my prayers go out to ya.
Manda

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whats a good way to ask a someone to hang out? especially when they are extremely unpredictable, and you dont know what they would say. also im very shy. oh, and you have asked them before to hang out, but just could never a good time. lol thanks

yeah id take kevin1986's advice.. just go for the kill! ill be prayin for ya!

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ok well i have this friend who cuts, but she wont tell me that she does. i found out from someone else. i want her to tell me because i can atleast try to help her stop. i had cut in the past but i stopped and now i want to help her. i dont know how to get her to tell me so i can help her. i can't let her know that i know though. please help if you can.

hey i dunno how u can ask her about it.. i had a friend who cut too. and when my best friend told me i was scared. bc that could turn into suicide. so i just went to her and told her what i knew and that she needed help. she saw i was really scared and concerned.. but u have to do something b4 it gets too bad.
Manda

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ok, my boyfriend dumped me. but i have no idia why. he told me that he just didnt want a girl friend.. but i know thats not the reason. ive herd that way to many times before. i cant stop thinking about it. his name is all over my binder in sharpie.. i dont no what to do. im lost. it seems like there are no guys on the earth but him. does anyone know any ways to get my mind off him, or get over him?

gosh. i feel so bad. i kinda feel that way about my bf, i dread the day we break up.. neways. i would say surround urself with good people. ur friends ect. do things to pass the time and start talking to other guys... or if u want to take some time b4 u do that then have fun. dont go into this big depression stage and cut everyone else out because of him. keep ur head up its gonna be tough but u can do it.
Hope i helped.
Manda

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Hello, im 17 years old and i grew up with 3 friends since pre-school. We are soo close. But 2 out of the 3 are racists. I never really cared because they didnt say anything around me. Then i started dating an African-American. And they are saying things about me and my boyfriend. I love them and i have grown up with them but i love my boyfriend ALOT too.. he means alot to me. Now im stuck in the middle between my bestfriends and my boyfriend. What i am i going to do? Thank You.
Sincerely,
stuck so deeply

stuck so deeply,
i kno ur 17 and im only 15 but i know what u are going through.. i think that u jus need to let them see how much u love this guy. if they were ur real friends it wouldnt matter. maybe they wont APPROVE of you and him but they should ACCEPT it.
Hope i helped.
Amanda

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im trying to lose about 10 pounds and i just cant.. its hard for me to stay on a diet and not eat junk foods and when i do exercises.. nothing happens-- im 120 if that helps? can anyone please tell me ways to stay on a diet!! thanks in advance-- i rate well

ok.. well i have found for myself that if u just cut down on the amounts of food u eat and like stay active that helps u loose weight. like for ex when i went to subway i used to eat a whole hogie and then some coookies. now i jus eat half a hogie and save the rest for later. and i walk almost everyday. and i dont just mean around the block.. im with my friends and we jus hang out and our usual hang out consists of walking around and talking. so id say jus cut down on the amounts of food ur eating and stay active. it worked for me.
hope i helped.
Manda

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umm.. Im a 13 year old girl and i wiegh 135 and i do alot of sports and i dont know what to do

i also found out that if u just cut down on the amount of foods u eat u loose weight. for ex. if u ever went to subway.. dont eat the whole hogie. eat half of it and save the other half for later. i lost weight by doing this.. jus cutting down on the amounts of food i ate. i still ate everything i used to just not as much.
hope i helped.
Manda

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Okay,my friends bf told my friend that he made a "uh oh".And he went to his ex-girlfriends house last night and they had sex and like he said that he made her pregnant.And my friend is really pissed cuz he cheated on her and she is also not really believeign that he made her preg. Cuz like how long does it take to know if you got someone pregnant?Well thx for the advice.BYE

it takes longer to find out if ur pregnant... but it does only take ONE time to inpregnate someone. what the girl could do is go to her local health place and she can get Plan B... its 2 pills u take within 3-5 days of unprotected sex and it stops ur chances of getting pregnant. its confidential and no one but her has to kno about it...
hopefully this girl gets PLAN B. id highly recommend it.
Hope i helped
Manda

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im in 8th grade and ive never had a boyfriend or been kissed. im really pretty (every1 sez so atleast) and idk whats wrong with me! im always smiling and happy and im really funny and goofy..whats wrong with this picture?

OK! now.. there is nothing wrong with you... its those dumb boys.. they are intimidated or jus not ready... ur in 8th grade.. some of them boys are rather immature.. ENJOY BEING SINGLE!!! if u really are as pretty as everyone says.. u can enjoy being single (and have all the guys through themselves at ur feet!)
hope i helped
Manda

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OK , its been one week sinc school started. im a freshman . well i hav bout 3000 ppl at my school and i really wana get a b/f this yr cuz ive nevr had one . im afraid i'd nevr b able to him during school cuz its realllly big school . i havnt evn seen my friends cuz were seperated so much in that school . any tips . please help!!

look... i kno u schedule wont change untill the 2 nd semester MAYBE... so find a guy u like that u see either one period or through out the day and go up to him and make small talk...
Manda

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has anyone actually lost belly fat from their stomachs by doing crunches or does it just make u look like u have a 6 pack or w/e

well i did crunches almost everynight.... and i had lost stomache fat and my stomache grew leaner... so it does work i guess... depends on how dedicated u are.

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ok heres the deal sorry if it's kinda longg..

well my boyfriend one day got into a fight and i was so like depressed nd shit that i cut myself and yeah but then we got the fight resolved, and like we went out for a week after skool ended and then he dumped me cuz he felt guilty for being my boyfriend and not being able to see me..and he went out with this grl nikki from his camp, then after that we got back together and then after like 2 weeks he dumped me again same reason diff. girl her name is lauren (also goes to his camp) then dumped lauren and went for another grl katilin who came to vist from maryland for a week and then dumped her and now were going out... notice the pattern and i think he does love me on some extent but he also has to be with other girls oh and b4 katilin i went to bahamas for a week and didnt have fone service so i didnt get 2 talk to him and my bff told me that while i was gone he hit on her and told her he loved her nd everything and also now wen were going out he still sometimes tells her that even though shes not interested and like he told me that during the yr. he has to dump me and go out with this gurl nicole to help her make her ex boyfriend jealouse cuz he cheated on her but she likes my boyfriend (whos name is charlie by the way)!! ?? help!!!!!!!!! is he just desparate?? lost intrest?? cheating?? does he really love me??? HELP!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!! or

OK!!! 1st off:
this guy seems pretty lame..
2nd off: u dont need that from a guy..
3rd off: he knows that u'll always take him back.
hes dumped u then went with another girl then to you then back.. girl u need to end this for good. i dont think he really loves you. sry to say. but maybe he does. but u need to see what hes doing!! u shouldnt waste ur time. to me it seem like he thinks to himself "well i kno no matter what she's (you) gonna be there." i think u need to break it off. and quit taking him back....
hope i helped. :/
Manda

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ok its me!me and my boyfriend are really really strong we both love eachother very much! except theres a couple other guyz that i think are major hot there are 3 other ones... brent, karl, and jake.. they are totally hot!! and i had a dream about jake.. me and karl are like totally real good friends and brent and me are good friends 2 .. and they all think im hot 2!! but i dont kno what to do cuz ive broken up with brooks once and we just got back together the next day cuz i was dying without him!i really like jake and karl the most but idk what to do!! HELP ME PLEZE

ok now i cant give u jus a YES or NO or DO THIS answer... u have to think if ur really ready to be with your boyfriend and handle the temptations that come your way. if u really love your boyfriend u'd be able to handle the fact that these three other guys are hot but in ur eyes ur boyfriend tops it all.
Hope I helped... Let me know what happens.
!~$*Manda*$~!

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ok i have a friend who lives across the country. well he keeps tellin me he likes me and today hes like, wut if i called my g/f up and broke up with her and asked u out? well long distance relationships dont do anything for me. anyways he keeps askin me out(which is really dumb) and stuff like that. then he was saying i love u and when he was getting off he said i love you like a sis. i dont get it! he wants to go out with me but loves me like a sister! i dont really care about relationships, im only 13 and sos he but i mean come on. wut should i say to him or do to just make him realize wut hes saying. we have been friends ever since we were born and i dont want to ever lose him as a friend and i do like him he is just driving me insane. will someone pls help?

say to him what u told us here... that long distance relationships do nothing for you and that u'd rather just be friends... hopefully he unbderstands.. u cant lead him on to think u really want to be with him.. u have to let him know that ur 13! and that ur not ready to be that serious with a guy as to say having a long term relationship.. say u jus want to stay friends and not loose what u guys have as friends and keep it as that.
Hope it helped.
!~$*Manda*$~!

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how long should i wait b4 i tell a girl how i feel about her after she breaks up with someone she really loved.the only reason they broke up was because he was moving to another state. thanx
dan

dan,
im not sure when to tell u when the time will be safe to tell this girl how u feel.. but id rather u go for it instead of holding back and live in what could've happened. (ill tell u its not the grratest feeling) tell her when it feels right in your heart.
Hope I helped.
Manda

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