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I'm constantly catching my dad staring at my tits or watching me as I bend over to put a new bag in the bin and looking at me inappropriate.
It is so gross and and is creeping the shit outa me.
What the hell do I do??
HELP! (link)
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ewwwww thats really really really wierd.
never heard of anyone with that problem before...
mmaybe before you do anything embarasinggg make sure that is actually what he is doing. sometimes dads just do that without even realzing it or meeaning to be creepy. but if your sure then maybe tryyy covereing up more? just around him.
if he doesnt stop then you should ask someone in your family for help(mom, sister, brother?) if not then the very last resort would be to talk to him. but be careful because this could very easily ruin your relationship with your dad.
good luck.
feeel free to ask me any quaeiotns.
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So I'm turning seventeen in a couple months :) I definitely want to have a party because I lovee parties and I haven't had one since elementary school.
I have a big, beautiful house, but the only problem is that I don't have a finished basement. At every single sweet sixteen or party I've been to, everyone just goes to the basement and that's where all the fun happens, you know? The basement is the place where it's enclosed and people can really let loose with their dancing (i.e., grinding).
My kitchen and living room are connected, which is nice in that I don't have to worry about people going upstairs and downstairs and whatnot. However, it's pretty open, if you catch my drift. Everything is really open. So, as a result, people might feel discouraged from dancing, I feel like, even with the lights off and even if they have glowsticks.
I wanted to have a party at my house and not go through the trouble of renting a place out, etc., but what do you guys think? My entire downstairs is completely connected with passageways -- there aren't even doors to enclose areas. So, for instance, my foyer connects to my kitchen and formal living room, both of which connect to my informal living room. The only doored rooms are the laundry room and back bedroom, both of which are too far from the living rooms themselves, and I don't want people going back there. I don't want people to feel awkward, but there is NO way I can get my basement finished JUST for the party. It would be too expensive, and I can't have people down there without it being finished because it's full of spiders and there are no real lights. My only option is to have it in the real downstairs.
I'm planning on inviting about 20-30 people, but do you think that people would feel awkward dancing in an open setting like that? My parents would be upstairs, so it's not like they would be coming up and down every two seconds to disturb us as we dance. If I invite enough people and keep the lights off with glowsticks, people will still dance, right, and not feel awkward? Is there anything I can do? I feel so awkward that I'm the only one who doesn't have a finished basement among all my friends despite the fact that I have a beautiful house :( (link)
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well as a person who feels awkward dancing at party i can say that i think having it downstair would be the best. keep it dark, use glow sticks. people also might be more comfortable if they were wearing costumes or sunglasses or sumthing..
and also maybe dont tell people your parents are upstaris, just so they dont feel worried.
and i think the more pople, the less uncomfortable the dancing is.
so try and get as many people as your house can hold.
good luck!
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(Female/14)
In grade six A,D,T, and me we're best buds but unfort. A moved away so it was just me D and T.
In grade seven, T started hanging out with L and Z and it wasn't until the end of the year that i joined her and well we drifted away from D so it was then me T and L and Z.
Grade eight it was us all the way but we had so many fights that in june last week of school L and Z went there way and well me and T were once together again.(At this point we wished we hadn't left D )
Now in grade nine i missed first two weeks of school and once I come bacl, T is friends with D and M( m was friends with d after gr.6) L and Z arent friends anymore so i started hanging out with L and her shadow whos so fking annoying and I dont really feel like i belong anywhere :"(
I don't feel like they are my real friends and everythings jst so strange idk what to do :"(
And please dont tell me do find new friends because this is the group of circle of friends(ltters lol) i know best and well everyone else is jst like...mehhhh
Plz help me out I dont want to end my last yr in middle school without good friends (link)
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you shouldnt let the fact that u missed 2 weeks of school stop you from having firneds the res tof the year. D and T wereboth your friends before, you should try and reunite with them. to make it easier, try and invite the 2 of them to a concer tor sometihng with you, it wil lbring you togeether. and let them have a really good nickname for you, its the fastest way to make people your friend.
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I'm trying to start a history club at my school and I'm not sure what to do for activities. I mean what are some of your ideas on what you would want to do in a history club? I mean, I want things that people would actually be interested in doing. Someone told me we should all dress up as historical figures, but I know kids in my school would not want to do that. So I'm left wondering what to do... does anyone have experience with this?
Thanks =) (link)
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go on fireld trips to historical sites?
have everyone usean accent from a speciificcountry they are studying?
have dress up day?
make food from those countriues?
make a play/movie out of the story?
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okay remember how i told you he has a girlfriend ? well that was a lie actually i dont know because his fb status says he is in a relationship with this girl but one girl that is really good friends with him and me she asked him about his girl and he sed its watever and that he doesnt have one but his cousin that dated my bestfriend out of nowhere told her randomly that \"ohh btw he is madd serious about this girl\\\" and his cousin knowes that me and her are madd close so my bestfriend was like why are you telling me i dont care i don\'t even know him...and i go on his screename his status he writes down the most girly things thats been there like 3 weeks on his status how he is in a relationship and he wrote down \\\" they say there\'s always one girl that changes the guy and i think i found her i love you babe\\\" stuff like that okiii its been 3 weeks he found her we know take it the fuck off already....and i make a new sn to forget him its a new sn and somehow i really dont kno how he got it...and he ims me asking me who i am and i knew who he was so i was like to him i should be asking you that caz he is pretending like he doesnt really know who i am but i think he does....so he tells me who he is like his first name last name everything and then he is asking me \\\" who are you seriously i have never seen you before \\\" \\\" who are you\\\" and i was like to him where did you get my sn and he tells me my friend gave it to me telling me to talk to you and i was like really wat friend ? and hes like no i made a mistake where did you get my sn ? so i was like wtf and he goes like \\\" wat did i do something wrong and im like you imed me i dont know you or your sn so....are you on drugs and he was like maybe maybe not ( laughing out loud) and then i was like yea thought so and he was like yeaa nice talking to you and he signed off.....i got madd freaked out you think he knows its really me ? and you guys think he really has a girl ? i am so confused caz he got a girl right after i called him a player and stuff wen he tried talking to me that night i flipped out on him and i think that\'s why he got madd and he sed im not interested in you...i lead you on everytime....but i have no problem being friends with you....then i got madd told him your a player this that and then the next day we say sorry to each other then he tells me how hes not leading me on....out of nowhere...i am so confused....but if he really was serious about his girl (if he really has one) would he ever lie to his friend telling her he doesn\'t and its whatever ? (link)
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omg im really confused.
so his facebook says he has a girlfriend?
and his statuses hint to him having a gf?
and someone told u that he does?
probably he does but maybe its not public knowledge so he told your friend that hes not.
does he go to your school?
do you see him often?
have you seen this "girl"?
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I have a small, yet growing crush on a guy named Rick. He just moved to my town not too long ago. He's pretty shy and doesn't really talk that much to me or anyone else. I end up starting conversations all the time but they are usually dead end questions because I'm also shy and I can't really think of what to say. I also catch myself doing embarrassing things around him all the time but he doesn't seem to mind and is friendly anyway. I'm too afraid to say anything to his face about liking him or finding him attractive because I'm not really sure if he likes me.
He looks at me and then looks away real quick all the time but he never stares at me.
He catches me staring at him all the time too, I can only look at him for 30 seconds without him noticing if he isn't facing the complete opposite direction.
I smile at him almost every time he catches me staring at him, he smiles back but its a little smile.
He sent my best friend a friends request on a social networking site and asked her where he knew her from (he sees me with her every day)
he smiles every time i say something funny, even if he isn't looking at me.
I run into him everywhere.
My friends notice him looking at me too.
Once, he was walking so close behind me that he stepped on me.( i realize that this probably means nothing)
When I walk behind him, he looks at me out of the corner of his eye.
I don't want to scare him off, but I don't want to wait too long and let him go. What should I do? (link)
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well from your story it seems like he likes you.
but if he is so shy he probably doesnt want to be the first to say how he feels.
so maybe you shoulsd tell him?
but if your not brave enough for that then just dont actually say anything but make it very obovius.
put yourself in a position where its just the 2 of you and if he wanted to he could easily ask you out or kiss you or something.
good luck!
lemme know how it goes k?
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ill talk about one main thing that bothers me every day. i applied for the school newspaper as a writer, with my application typed and printed out the night before.
he applied as well to join me as a photographer, and wrote the application the day of in pencil.
he got in, and i didnt. hes not even committed. every day this makes me really upset because i love to write and being on this would have been great for me. how do i deal with this?.. i tried talking to him, but he just gets mad at me and says "fine, i'll quit for you", but i know thats not fair.
ive just never been so disappointed/upset/jealous involving him in the two years ive known him.. (link)
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do things like this happen oftenn?
if they do then im really sorry and that sucks
but if not then maybe you should be happy for him?
or just ask the person in charge of the newspaper why he got in and you didnt?
masybe there was more photography spots available than writers?
if all else fails, jsut try to come up with things that u have that he doesnt. it might make you feel better.
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heyyy
I've been really bored lately on the internet, does anyone know any good sites other than My space and face book? Thanks for whoever respondss♥ :) (link)
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twitter, youtube, people.com,
youtube is the best.
seriusly hours can go by and you barely notice.
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This guy I'd been dating had a birthday party on Saturday. I got wasted and made out with his roommate for 3 hours. My best friend had a crush on his roommate. Now pretty much everyone hates me. Any ideas for damage control on this one? (link)
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so you cheated on the guy you were dating, and made out with your best friends guy. but its really not youe fault.
first of all you were drunk, which isnt completely an excuse but definatly makes you do things you wouldnt do otherwisee.
plus did you know your friend liked this guy?
if not then its totally not your fault.
the best thing to do is first try and make excused (above) and then just fess up and say your sorry.
admit it wad your fault and that you would take it all back if you could. and that you would never want to hurt either of them. hopefully they will forgive you. good luck. let me know how it goes?
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Okay, this is going to be long and very confusing.....
so yesterday my so called "best friend" katie gave me a lecture about my boyfriend ryan that i have been going out with for a year. She told me that we, ryan and i, both need to move on. Ryan is in college and he has been for about 2 months now, i'm 16 and im a junior in high school. We both can make this long distance relationship a sucess because we see eachother every weekend. But you know, to make a relationship work and be stronger you have to fight. Well, she went off on me because i was telling her about a fight that ryan and i had. something little, meaningless, just a argument. and she went off on me saying "Laura, you need to just break up with him you guys fight way too much, the only reason why you guys are still together is because you guys are afraid you wont move on and you wont find someone new. trust me laura, i've been in the same situation". its really none of her buisness to tell me to either break up with my boyfriend or not... right?
then i went out driving with my mother and my boyfriend texted me freaking out "Laura, i make you upset all the time? you go to katie every night because you're upset? you've been mad at me ever since i left for college? Im an asshole? laura you need to talk to me, you know i'm always here for you no matter what" i couldnt answer because i was driving, i get home and i finally answer him. "Listen, i always go to katie when im upset about you either not being home or if were in an argument and i ask her how i can just get us to stop arguing... ive never called you an asshole behind your back ryan, i love you, shes bullshitting us" he replied... "then why is she telling me to break up with you?" i went apeshit. i texted her like "Really katie? you tell me to break up with my boyfriend and you didnt get your way with me then you go running to ryan telling him to break up with me? are you fucking kidding me?" and she recently cheated on her boyfriend that also goes to college (by the way katie is also a junior in highschool, 16) over the weekend. she was very drunk, but thats never an excuse. not only did she cheat once, she cheated twice in the same night, so i threatened her that i would tell her boyfriend andy that she cheated on him. she called me screaming calling me a bad friend because i promised her i wouldnt tell him or anyone. i find this not fair at all. my boyfriend got upset that someone would try to ruin our relationship and make him and i fight for the first time in a month. no relationship is perfect.
well, i ended up not telling her boyfriend, she got scared that he would hear about it before she told him so she called him explaining everything that happened. he understood and said :this better not happen ever again this is your last chance, i love you too much to let you go" so her and i were clear at that point. we were talking and videochatting like we usually do.
well around 11 at night last night, my boyfriend IMed andy (katies boyfriend) and he said "yeah well bro im sorry to tell you this but your girlfriend cheated on you saturday night with cris and justin...." and all andy said was "i know, but i didnt know about cris?" well... he called her freaking out, she only told him about justin. at about midnight i got a call from her but i ignored it, i didnt want to deal with her at the moment, i knew she was gunna scream at me for telling ryan about her cheating on andy over the weekend. well....she texted me saying "Laura, i really dont see this friendship working out, sorry, pc"
her reputation in school isnt the best, everyone hates her for no apparent reason, and everyone would tell me not to be friends with her. well now i see why...
i replied "hahaha alright katie, whatever you say, dont come running back, pc."
then she went on and on how i shouldnt of told ryan and how it was my fault that ryan went to andy and told him about the other guy and everything when i had little to no control over ryan talking to andy.
can you tell me if i was being the better person in this situation or not? this girl was my best friend and i miss her to bits and pieces but im reallly mad at her for trying to destroy my relationship with ryan.. .can you tell me why she would try to do that? maybe she was scared if andy found out if she would be single and she wanted her best friend to be single too? ahhh help me outt please.
thank you for reading and thank you in advance if you answer :)
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wow that was long.
n offense but your "best friend" kinda seems likea bitch.
mine is too, and if yours is anything like mine then she may not be doing it on purpose. not sure how to explain it but sometimes she just gets confused and does stupid things.
and katie seems like she was genuisnly out ot hurt you.
and you did the right thing.
all you did was indirectly tell someone someting that was true.
while she directly told someone a lie in an effort to ruin your relatrinoship.
she butted in way too much, she was a traitor to both you and your boyfriend.
but if you realy miss her then maybe wait for her to apoligize and accept her apology.
but definatly dont say sorry to her, because she is the one who is wrong.
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So there is this guy in my school that i've had a crush on for a while. It's a small school so everyone recognizes everyone and sometimes when we pass in the halls we make brief eye contact and i've also seen him turn around and look at me many times. same with his friends. I've also heard him and one of his friends talking about me before - couldn't make out what they were saying though because they were whispering.
Well today we made eye contact in the hals. and in gym class he turned around to looked at me many times. So at the end of class he came up to me and was like "my friend really likes you. he's really cute." but i just kept on walking. The thing is, i saw him wish his friends when i was hanging out with my friends over the weekend. my friends also told me today that his friends and him have been doing that today to them too. Is he just playing with me or does he actually like me? (link)
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if your friends say that they have been doing that to them too they be careful. it may be a joke. the guy you like may actually like you thought even if he asked you that only as part of the joke. definatly wait until this prank has blown over and if he asks you again after then he really means it. if he likes you he will definatly ask you again. but saying anything now may just cause humiliation.
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So I did something to make my husband not trust me (FYI, I have been married for 10 years and am having a significant b-day soon; perhaps I am in mid-life crisis mode). Actually more than one thing, two things. (1) I had two flirtations on FACEBOOK; strictly 2-dimensional, but definitely behaviour inappropriate for a married woman. Got caught, with one, fessed up to the other in an effor to be truthful. Deactivated my FACEBOOK; that was 3 1/2 months ago. (2) I sent an e-mail to an ex of mine admitting some unresolved feelings and wondering if we ever could have made it together; my husband found this e-mail {yes, by poking thru my personal stuff}. I maintain that ACTIONS SPEAK LOUDER THAN WORDS, and that these were thoughts conveyed in the e-mail with no interest in acting on these thoughts. He maintains that I had an 'emotional affair', (yes from one e-mail) and says he wants to forgive me but needs to takl about it 5x a week. What should I do? (link)
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well i dont see much wrong with the facebook flirting if it wasnt anything too bad. but a married woman telling her ex about her feelings for him? seriusly? i understand it was kind of wrong of your husband to look thru your stuff. if you want to stay with him and for him to trust you, just say your sorry and you dont know what you were thinking. tel him you love him and youll do whatever it takes too make it up to him.
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Now he has a girlfriend...yeaa....i couldnt stop crying...caz he played with me...and he starrted talking to me again....and then he stopped and now he thinks he is in love with some girl...and now they are going out...and he kept changing his status every minute i am just never going to speak to him again because if he never liked me he shouldnt have spoken to me in the first place....he hurt me pretty badly....after all the things i did for him....he is in love with some other girl....and now he took her to the mall buying her stuff....woww....it always happens to me anywayz thanx for all your help though=] (link)
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oh my god.... i was not expecting that.
i amm soo soo sorry!
wow that really sucks =(
but just trty your best to make it suck the least you can....
and goodluck!
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I hate the place I'm living. I complain about it all the time but there's nothing anyone can do about it because whether I like it or not - I'm here for another 2 years (about). Anyways, I hate all my friends. I had one really close friend; Camilla. But she totally changed. I don't even know her anymore. I'm a freshman in High School, so is she, and now she's friends with all the sophmores and the juniors. It seems like she forgot all about me. I feel so angry, like I hate her, and everything is her fault. But maybe it's not her fault, maybe I'm not used to this idea of her not always being with me. But she's never with me, not in school, not in weekends. She was invited to this movie night and now all the upperclassmen like her, and it's so annoying. Maybe I'm just jealous, but I can't take it. I can't let things change with us because I know it'll ruin me. What should I do?
Another question -- I'm depressed, and it's killing me. I always do research but there's no way I can explain to my parents that I'm depressed so I need therapy/anti-depressants.
Is there another way to cure/better my depression? (link)
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i have a similar situation witha friend and the worst thing to do ir make her feel guilty. dont make it seem like if shes friedns with you she cant have other friends. jsut join her and her other friends. maybe try maknig older firends too. and about teh deoressants why not tell you rparents? or set a meeting wit e guidance councleor or therapist or doctor and take care of it yourself.
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I have sat and thought many a times about the point of life. When one comes to think about it, life is jsut about the most pointless and meaningless thing there is around. We are born, we are stupid and useless. We work for many many years with minimal enjoyment, then we are again stupid and useless. I really don't get the point of all this s**t and it really is getting to me. I have thought about how we all really jsut WANT to live, we don't really need to live. What does this universe or whatever need with humans? We are a pointless existence. In the end, everything will be gone. When the supernova of our sun happenes, everything will be gone. What really is the point? no matter the little joys you may get out of life, I don't see the point in going on through a long and pointless life, to get to nowhere. Death? that's all you get as a reward. its truly pathetic. Therefore, I don't want to live any longer, and I would like to commit suicide. But I am scared, and I do not want to make a scene. I want to just quickly, silently, and painlessly pass away, and be done with all this bulls**t. Please help me out. thank you (link)
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please please please don't kill youself.
just because most peoples lives dont seem meaningfull or enjoyable to you, it doesnt mean your cant be. i dont mean to sound cliche and cheesy but lifes what you make it. how about instead of giving up, you try and make it better? for yourself, and for others! you have the opportunity to make life a more meaningful thing for everyone. you seem like a really smart person who could go on to live a very happy life. please dont give up, because once you do, you will never have a second chance.
and if you dont care at all about any of that, think of it this way....imagine how many people you will effect by this. everyone you know will live with te guilt for the rest of their lives of thinking it was their fault, and you will definatly be missed.
please dont do this, you have no idea what happens after you die and for all youknow it could be even more pointless than life. you only have one chance at life, please make the most of it, trust me, life is a lot shorter than you think.
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I did confront him and he is lying caz its not the first time something like this happened more like 3rf or 4th.....and everytime i ask him he changes the subject and says i know u like me I cant c myself being in a relationship with you....but he always told his cousin that was my bestfriend that he wants to get to know me and stuff and everytime we became madd close and stuff like really good friends like now he says i just wana be friends but like last year he was like to my friend " if she liked me why didn't she tell me earlier something could have happened." And now he is saying honestly i never loooked at her like that she has always been a friend and I want to keep it like that..... (link)
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im sorry but this seems like a really confusing situation, not really sure what to tell you. i think at this point he doesnt even know what he thinks, just give him some time to figure it out and ask him again soon.
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HE was never mean to upfront nothing....he never spoke to me rudely unless i say something mean first which i do because he is soo stupid and confusing....he just says stuff behind my back...like he hid the fact from his cousin that me and him dont talk...we spoke like 4 months he would call me up day&night we would talk from 11 to 4 in da morning and his cousin never knew that.....he was shocked when he found out that he talks to me caz at first he was like " he would never talk to her" and my friend was like i see his number all over her phone from the missed callls he gave.... (link)
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ohhhh maybe hes not really talking about you behind your back?
but if he then your should confront him about it.
and about the hiding things.... you should try and pretend that YOU are the one who doesnt want anyone knowing anything.
but he may have a reason for hiding things.
ask him.
but jw r u guys dating? or friends?
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I did do that with him the more mean i was to him the more flirty and nicer he was with me....and say if i said sorry to him for talking to him like that he says " its alright dont worry about it i am kinda use to it" like he says stuff like that and makes me feel bad..... (link)
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ohhh so maybe be flirty when hes flirty, and be rude when hes rude. just respond based on how he acts. eventually he might just pick a side and eitherbe rude all the time or nice.
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yeaa how can i ask him....he knowes that i like him...and he still just wants to be friends...im confused caz he talks shiit about me to my friends and wen i confront him he denies it he wont ever admit it....and if a guy really didnt like me wouldnt he just say yeaa i talked shiit about u get lost but he never admits it nd infront of people he acts like he doesnt care nd says that he thinks im "gag status" why does he want me in his life den and i ask him but he changes the subject.... (link)
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he seems like a really mean guy.
maybe just try doing the same to him for a few days?
just see how he reacts?
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if he likes me den why cant he just admit it?...its so annoying wenever i talk to him on aim he "accidently sends me pics of girls" nd says oops sorry wrong person or " sorry lmao" nd i noticed every time i change my icon he changes his but his icons are pics of his girls different girl icons its so annoying.....why cant he just admit it he says he doesnt like me....but keeps coming after me..i was once madd at him and i sed to him fuck you and that hole you came out from instead of saying something mean to me he callled me like 20 billion times that night i turned my phone off...the next day he called again i picked up and he was being nice to me telling me to listen to him and stuff i did and i ended up saying sorry to him and he always says dont worry about just soo sweet to me like i thought he would have something...but says no he called me 3 in the morning to tell me he doesnt have any feelings for me....and then i was like lets not be friends and he is like nooo dont do that like always wants to keep me...if you dont like me you should set me free right ? (link)
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true.
that is serusly obnoxoius of him
just ask him straight out if he likes u or not
and say that u like him.
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