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my so called "best friend"
Okay, this is going to be long and very confusing.....
so yesterday my so called "best friend" katie gave me a lecture about my boyfriend ryan that i have been going out with for a year. She told me that we, ryan and i, both need to move on. Ryan is in college and he has been for about 2 months now, i'm 16 and im a junior in high school. We both can make this long distance relationship a sucess because we see eachother every weekend. But you know, to make a relationship work and be stronger you have to fight. Well, she went off on me because i was telling her about a fight that ryan and i had. something little, meaningless, just a argument. and she went off on me saying "Laura, you need to just break up with him you guys fight way too much, the only reason why you guys are still together is because you guys are afraid you wont move on and you wont find someone new. trust me laura, i've been in the same situation". its really none of her buisness to tell me to either break up with my boyfriend or not... right?
then i went out driving with my mother and my boyfriend texted me freaking out "Laura, i make you upset all the time? you go to katie every night because you're upset? you've been mad at me ever since i left for college? Im an asshole? laura you need to talk to me, you know i'm always here for you no matter what" i couldnt answer because i was driving, i get home and i finally answer him. "Listen, i always go to katie when im upset about you either not being home or if were in an argument and i ask her how i can just get us to stop arguing... ive never called you an asshole behind your back ryan, i love you, shes bullshitting us" he replied... "then why is she telling me to break up with you?" i went apeshit. i texted her like "Really katie? you tell me to break up with my boyfriend and you didnt get your way with me then you go running to ryan telling him to break up with me? are you fucking kidding me?" and she recently cheated on her boyfriend that also goes to college (by the way katie is also a junior in highschool, 16) over the weekend. she was very drunk, but thats never an excuse. not only did she cheat once, she cheated twice in the same night, so i threatened her that i would tell her boyfriend andy that she cheated on him. she called me screaming calling me a bad friend because i promised her i wouldnt tell him or anyone. i find this not fair at all. my boyfriend got upset that someone would try to ruin our relationship and make him and i fight for the first time in a month. no relationship is perfect.
well, i ended up not telling her boyfriend, she got scared that he would hear about it before she told him so she called him explaining everything that happened. he understood and said :this better not happen ever again this is your last chance, i love you too much to let you go" so her and i were clear at that point. we were talking and videochatting like we usually do.
well around 11 at night last night, my boyfriend IMed andy (katies boyfriend) and he said "yeah well bro im sorry to tell you this but your girlfriend cheated on you saturday night with cris and justin...." and all andy said was "i know, but i didnt know about cris?" well... he called her freaking out, she only told him about justin. at about midnight i got a call from her but i ignored it, i didnt want to deal with her at the moment, i knew she was gunna scream at me for telling ryan about her cheating on andy over the weekend. well....she texted me saying "Laura, i really dont see this friendship working out, sorry, pc"
her reputation in school isnt the best, everyone hates her for no apparent reason, and everyone would tell me not to be friends with her. well now i see why...
i replied "hahaha alright katie, whatever you say, dont come running back, pc."
then she went on and on how i shouldnt of told ryan and how it was my fault that ryan went to andy and told him about the other guy and everything when i had little to no control over ryan talking to andy.
can you tell me if i was being the better person in this situation or not? this girl was my best friend and i miss her to bits and pieces but im reallly mad at her for trying to destroy my relationship with ryan.. .can you tell me why she would try to do that? maybe she was scared if andy found out if she would be single and she wanted her best friend to be single too? ahhh help me outt please.
thank you for reading and thank you in advance if you answer :)
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Your best friend sucks.
You did the right thing.
Shes crying about you telling your boyfriend about her cheating on hers but none of it ever would have happened if she wouldnt have stuck her nose in your business and told your boyfriends to break up with you.
Shes a crappy friend and she will realize that in time. Till then do yourself a favor and dont associate with her.
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I just read until you said "to make a relationship work and be stronger you have to fight."
what the f&@! is that? I never heard of that.
the f*&! de fu&* the fuc* what the fuck.
thats all I got to say.
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wow that was long.
n offense but your "best friend" kinda seems likea bitch.
mine is too, and if yours is anything like mine then she may not be doing it on purpose. not sure how to explain it but sometimes she just gets confused and does stupid things.
and katie seems like she was genuisnly out ot hurt you.
and you did the right thing.
all you did was indirectly tell someone someting that was true.
while she directly told someone a lie in an effort to ruin your relatrinoship.
she butted in way too much, she was a traitor to both you and your boyfriend.
but if you realy miss her then maybe wait for her to apoligize and accept her apology.
but definatly dont say sorry to her, because she is the one who is wrong.
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