Hi I'm Laura. I'm a Christian and I am still at school. I joined the site to help people out. Quite a few of my friends come to me for help about various things and I've had quite a few problems in my life which I've sorted my own way. So I joined because if I can help my friends I can help others and I love helping people out.
Also, I'm a vegetarian, I take my beliefs seriously and I love people so much I just want to help everyone, although I often screw up. everything.
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I don't know what category this would go in, so forgive me if it's in the wrong category.
Let's call my friend Jane.
And let's call her boyfriend John.
Okay, well, Jane and John, who were in 11th grade at the time, decided to have sex one day and Jane ended up pregnant. It just so happens, I liked John a lot, but I knew that Jane loved him with all her heart. Now Jane is talking about how hard it is being a mother of a 5-month-old and stuff. It's sort of making me jealous.
I'm just afraid that I'm going to go have sex with some guy I don't even like to have a baby and see what it's like.
So, my question is, Is there any way I can see how hard it is being a teen mother without actually having to go through the pregnancy? Like, not like one of those psycho baby doll things people do in middle school, but like, staying with someone who has a newborn baby or something to convince me I don't want a baby? Or should I just have a baby and get it over with?
Thanks in advance! (link)
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Firstly, whatever you do, do not have a baby. Whether you discover it is difficult or not, you cannot give a baby back.
You clearly trust Jane very much so just believe her when she says how hard it is. Her baby relies on her for everything and she has to provide, whether the baby requires bathing when shes exhausted, feeding at 2am or its nappy changing during a meal. She cannot get any time to herself.
Also, she may have had plans which she cannot now pursue because of her child. Do you want the same thing to happen to you?
Why don't you ask Jane if she could show you how to care for her baby and then she could take days away from the baby, while you cared for him/her and you could see what it would be like, but you would not have to have a child. Then you would undertand where she is coming from, but also be able to help her out.
Laura
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