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Q: im 14 a guy and ive started to masturbate a lot and the other day i thought i was in the house alone and i started masturbating in my room when my sister
just came in my room without knocking and she caught me and when she sees me she looks at me and giggles im worried that she might tell someone what should i do?

well depending on how young she is, if shes really young she probablly has no idea what you were doing anyway. I wouldn't bring it up to her or anything but if she says something to you just be like well maybe you shouldnt come in my room without knocking and you dont know anything, your too young to understand. lol hope that works

Q: Are there any songs out there about eating disorders?

"paper bag" by Fiona Apple
its a really good song
hope i helped :]

Q: im not sure but im 15 and my penis is almost 6 inches long is that about normal for my age?

perfect. the average size is 5-6 inches so no worries.it will probably grow even more as you get older. hope i helped :]

Q: hey. ok this is a long one.

ive had this on and off thing going on with this guy for all throughout this year, and he liked me but it was all wierd timing and somehow we never really got togehter. hes always been my friend and always seemed liek more than that. i recently had a boyfriend and during that time he confessed his feelings for me, and i did to him too. he said he wanted to work it out before we head off to different schools (hs) and that he didnt want to blow his last chance with me. so, as anyone else would, i broke up with my boyfriend for him, knowing i would go out with this other guy. Its been a little over a week and i was talking to him alst night and he told me he didnt want to go through with it becasue he doesnt just want to have 'a summer fling' with me. I just don't get it... should i talk him into it or forget it ?

i think you shouldnt pressure him into it, i mean you cant make someone like you or anything. but just talk to him about it as casually as you can. try to be very open and say whatever you feel. its better to do in person too so you can see eachothers reactions, because you can tell alot by someones actions. ask him what makes him think it would just be a summer fling? if he still doesnt want to go into a relationship with you, then you basically have nothing left. nd now you cant go back to your ex, so just try to have fun this summer. i know it'll suck if he says no, but you'll move on. hope i helped :]

Q: Im really unhappy with my nose. I feel like I have a really pretty face accept for it. Its not horrible, but it is something that bothers me. It's a little big and wide. I would never consider plastic surgery. Im worried that it has grown from since i was younger. Im 16/f and a late developer. Will my nose grow into my face more? Or just get bigger :O( lol.

i have somewhat of a big nose myself. it has a bump on it and i REALLY hate how it looks from certain angles. a lot of people say stuff to me. but ive learned that i have to accept it. because its a part of me, and it makes me unique. maybe u need to do the same...

hope i helped :]

Q: im not fat or anything but i can tell i've put on weight and i feel really fat (my tummy was completly flat now it is a lil bigger and curvey) im trying to loose weight and eat healthy but i just cant seem to get motivated to do so... what should i do so i can motivate myself and feel good about eating healthy.. i always choose unhealthy choices to healthy... how can i stop that... also school holidays (2 weeks) start tomorro.. considering that i dont want to put on more weight.. can you help... thanxx

go into your kitchen and write BIG reminders on the cabinets where there is junk food and even on the fridge. write something like "junk food wont do you any good!" it might seem stupid but trust me it will motivate you. as for the school holidays, i know it will be extremely hard but whenever u go out with your friends to eat or something, tell them to remind you that your on a diet. hope i helped :]

Q: What is the most accurate age that girls lose their virginity (in the US)

Ive seen many different answers.

i would personally say 17 or 18. But if youre considering doing it any time soon, just remember to do when you are ready. and dont listen to any one else who might pressure you into having sex.

Q: I'm really mad right now. I wont get into details but today has just NOT been going my way. I used to be a cutter and smoker. I'm only 15 and I quit both a long time ago and really don't want to start one or even both again. Right now I'm really stressed and mad. Anyone have any tips for me?
kthnx.

jst try listening to music, and hanging with your friends as much as possible. it'll help keep ur mind off ur problems

Q: what are some good books to read that are like The Clique novels?

the A List. Seriously, the BEST series of books i have ever read. They are really realistic too and so fun to read.

Q: Hey. Well, I'm 13/female. I always fight with my mom. Sometimes, we just get in little fights, but sometimes huge ones.

She always seems to be in a stressed out, angry,bad mood, and she is always snapping at me and making a big deal out of nothing.

It never fails, that every single night we argue. And to me, it always seems like it's her.
It IS her. I wouldn't have an issue if she would just leave me alone, and let me actually have a life.

I'M 13 YEARS OLD, AND SHE STILL FIGHTS WITH ME ABOUT GOING PLACES WITHOUT ADULTS.
She doesn't let me go TO THE CENTER OF TOWN WITH MY FRIENDS, becuase i'm 'too young'. We don't live in a bad area. It's a quiet place, and nothing ever happens here. I've never even gotten into trouble where she can't trust me anymore.

I want to live with my dad, and go to school in his town. He let's me have a life, without doubting me for a second.
I'm not a bad kid, I've never done anything wrong. Well, atleast not like majorly wrong like drugs or fighting or anything. I've told my mom i wanna live with my dad. She doesn't listen, and neither does he.

What can I do?! I can't even deal with this anymore.

I'm home alone for the ENTIRE SUMMER, and she won't let ANYONE come over for even like an hour while she's not here.

IM NOT A BAD KID, SHE HAS NO REASON FOR THIS DISTRUST.
She thinks just becuase I dress semi -"emo" in her oppinion, that i'm some horrible child that can't be trusted. This is SO GAY, what do i do!?

i think u need to cry. pathetic as it seems, MAYBE she'll actually get the point that you feel dont have a life because of her strictness. if things go bad, threaten her you'll run away.

Q: what do you guys do to make yourself cheer up when your sad?

MUSICCCC! just sing along and dance, seriously it ALWAYS cheers me up

Q: is it true that freshman grade doesnt count when you go to college?

yes it does.dont slack off in freshman year because it counts a lot, just like all the other grades in highschool. my brother did great in highschool but did horrible freshman year, and his gpa was really low, he couldve gotten a full scholarship if he worked harder.

Q: So, there's this guy. We don't really know each other but we talk on AIM sometime and I even went to the movies with him once. But I don't know if he's really that into me. His friends say that he's really shy and he told my friend that he thought I was cool. I don't really wanna pursue someone that doesn't even like me. I'm always the one that IMs first. So, should I just move on? Or keep talking to him and pursue him further? Maybe I should make it more obvious that I like him, cause right now I'm playing it sort of cool?

first u have to lead him on. once u see he's going along with it, go back to playing it cool sorta thing. now YOU'RE the one playing hard to get

Q: i'm 15 and my parents won't let me get a nose ring. I don't blame them cus i wouldn' want my kid with one either. but i really do want one. lol sounds really crazy but since i can't get a real one is there a way you can get fake one's that look real?

dont get a fake one. they're just a waste of money and time. personally, i say go ahead and get your nose pierced! your parents will be pissed as hell but who cares? its all part of being a teenager. your young, do what u want

Q: okay, im sick of shaving "down there" so i was wondering if nair was safe to use. i dont wanna try it and then get a really bad rash or something and be irritated. so anyone have any input? thank youuu

idk about nair, but i use veet on my bikini area and i STILL get those little bumps and it hurts and burns. i think the best thing to do is to maybe wax it. waxing has a less chance of irritating your skin. hope i helped

Q: i really dont want my period for a vacation trip with my friends, but knowing my luck i probably will get it the first day i leave. i dont know how to wear tampons..ehh i need help =/ are their anyways that could make me either a. get it right now or b. do anything that will poostpone if for like a week?

exercising or doing any physical activity really helps your cycle to slow down. go and play tennis, do something! get your muscles toned.

hope i helped :]

Q: I am going to a really fancy wedding soon. and i need to get a dress for it. It needs to be at least knee length and not as fancy as a prom dress or anything but still pretty close. does anyone know any stores that i might be able to fine in a mall that sells dresses like this. websites or photos would be great. budget is about $100. thanks!

nordstram, lord and taylor, macys, loehmanns, century 21, and any outlets you have near you. incase you didnt know...loehmanns and century 21 are really big stores where they sell a ton of designer things for less including dresses. hope i helped :]

Q: like i'm totally serious..... not even one!! you see, i go to this school that's all girls, and I guess I've never really gotten along with girls that well. But, someone the other day told me the reason why is because I'm very pretty and they're jealous of me. But, there's other pretty girls at my school, and they all have friends. But, I just feel a little bit lonely at school. Outside of school, I talk to people and stuff, and it's funny because I have a boyfriend but whenever I go online, all these guys IM me, and nobody from school talks to me, but I still feel bad. Why won't anyone hang out with me?? thank you

well if you say ur very good looking and that could be the case. good things dont just happen, so "perfect friends" arent going to just come to you. start from the bottom of popularity and work your way up. start talking to people that dont exactly judge people as easily meaning the nerds. but dont get too close. because these friends wont be yours for too long. that doesnt mean to be mean to them though. just be yourself, thats the best advice i can give. hope i helped

Q: Hey. Well, just simply-would you all rather buy a Coach bag or a Marc Jacobs bag?

Here's a Marc Jacobs bag I'm comsidering. What do you think of it?

http://shop.nordstrom.com/S/2939291/0~2376779~2374605~6007363~6007366~6007371?mediumthumbnail=Y&origin=category&searchtype=&pbo=6007371&P=1

Thanks

srsly, everyone has a freaking coach bag! the marc jacobs is adorableee. hes a great designer and 288 is not a bad price. hope i helped :]

Q: seems like every guy i fall for ends up breaking my heart. i was in a 3 year relationship that ended not too long ago. and had a couple of bfs since then, but no matter what i keep getting my heart broken. im ready to give up. seems like there isnt a single guy out there who can "handle" me.

what am i supposed to do?
take a break from relationships or keep pursuing them and deal with the heartbreak?

well personally, i would take a break and cool down for awhile. your 17! have fun with your life! just be yourself, go out with your friends, and just hangout with any guys you might be into. dont make it out to be anything serious though. as a girl you need to learn not to get too wrapped up in things because sadly, something always goes wrong in relationships. hope i helpeddd :]

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Heyy I'm Jenn. I love helping other people, I'm a great listener too. I welcome everyone and I'm open to basically any question you may have. I promise to answer your question the best possible way I can. I've always been told that I give great advice, so that's how I stumbled upon Advicenators. Don't hold back, ask me anything! :]

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