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yeah so only seventeen, but ive got a pretty good idea about giving decent advice. anything from serious relationships, not-so-serious relationships, friends, family problems, what looks good & what doesnt, and how NOT to be a bitch! i love to have fun, but im not an idiot! im just your typical clowner and i pretty much know it all - well, kinda : D ask anything!!

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So my boyfriend and I, both almost 18, were together for nearly 11 months, virtually every single day. We were inseparable. We'll both be going to college next year, and we were planning on moving somewhere away and finding an apartment together. There was even tentative talk of marriage. I felt like I could really see where my future was headed. I was so completely in love.

But then he tells me, one month ago tomorrow, that it's just not working out. He says he doesn't feel the same anymore, and that he can't give his whole life to me. I was completely devastated and cried for days straight.

He's the most wonderful person I've ever met. We share our group of friends, so we agreed that we would both try our best to stay friends and avoid awkwardness, and forcing people to choose sides.
So I'm still around him all the time, and every time I see him or talk to him, I'm just reminded of all the reasons I fell in love with him and everything that I've lost. It just sends me spiralling into sadness all over again.

But he's helped me so much with so many things. He brightens my day, and he's a genuinely good person. I don't blame him at all for what happened. I can't bear to lose him completely, but how else can I get these thoughts and feelings out of my head?!

start hanging out with other guys that could be potential crushes. it will get your mind off him and you could end up with someone who really is comitted to you..

HOpE It HeLpS!
A*m*I

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Hey, theres this girl in my pe class and I think she might like me. Well, I kinda like her too though. She acts kinda like it and gives me hugs sometimes and stuff and jokes around with me and stuff, and she seems like she always brings the topic of Homecomming up to her friend, lets call her Jenny. Anyways so she always says to Jenny that sits next to her when we sit on numbers for role call that she needs a date for Homecomming. But... I'm kinda scared to ask her to Homecomming because I don't know what to do.. I mean I know you go out to dinner and stuff and the guy drives the girl... but I don't have a car yet do I have my dad or mom drive us to the restaurant and then to the dance? I know to get her flowers or a corsage... ugh I don't know what to do! Someone tell me what to do about this and what should I get her and pretty much walk me thru the date! I mean like I could go with my friends or her friends because she says to her friend that all her friends are going to this fancy restauraunt with their dates and she wont get to go unless she has a date... so who drives and stuff? What do I do.... Help, I'm 14/m.
Sorry if this was a little long.

You should def. ask her out to the dance. Your probably going to have to have your parents drive you, but itll be alright.

~ ok well you need to ask her if she has a date to homecoming, even though u already kno she doesnt, ACT STUPID! lol you dont want her to think u were stalking her or something ahaha anyway, ask her to meet up where everyone else is at and you guys can talk and hang out. then you could get a ride with someone to the dance. if you think it mite be wierd, ask her and just be honest *girls like that* just say, "hey do you think it would be to wierd if we gotta ride with (so so) to the dance, cuz i dont have a car and i didnt kno if you would be cool with my mom driving me so..." and take it from there. you guys will have fun. just be really sweet to her and compliment her on her dress! lol okay, if you need anything else let me know!

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Well this girl who I'm good friends with has invited me to watch some DVDs have have pizza at her house tomorrow night. There will be some other people there who I know but I don't have much in common with them and we aren't great friends. I want to go but I don't want to be left out of the conversation. What should I do?

hey just be yourself! and be nice and talk to the people and they will proababbly like you if you hang out with them, make jokes, and dont act shy. hope it goes well!
a*m*I

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Like the title says...
This is just an opinion thing. I'm curious as to what you all think. I'm turning 17 in 5 days, if it matters ^_^.
I've been dating my boyfriend for almost a year and I still feel like I have a crush on him...
Lol I mean, I get nervous before picking up the phone and dialing his number...I get butterflies in my stomach when I see him...I hear his voice and I smile...
We're totally in love, and all that. He's told me he feels the same way, though not quite as strongly as I do (the "crush" thing, not the love thing.) Is it weird that I still have a crush on the guy I've been with for almost a year?

no its not wierd. your just really in love, and thats cool that you still feel that way after almost a year.

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how do you put someone into a mount, like what do you do. And what do the back and front spotters have to do?

okay, well two pretty strong people stand facing each other with thier legs bents and feet apart. the flyer put her hands on the two peoples shoulder and jumps into thier feet. at the same time, the two bases lift her up and rotate thier hand so thier wrists face each other and thier hands are on each end of thier foot. the flyer has to lock her knees, and the back spot has her hads up to make sure she doesnt fall. to cradle, at the same time the two bases go down then up and throw her in the air and catch her. the flyer has to keep her legs straight and arms out to the side. the back spot catches her top area and the bases get her legs. make sure u know what your doing before you just go doing this... lol.

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Ok i have a boyfriend and this is a long distance relationship!he lives in iowa and i live in minnesota. so we are about 6 hours away from each other. We resently havent talked for almost two weeks and i know it doesnt seem long. i know its hard for him to get on with sports and homework and stuff and i understand that but i dont know if he doesnt want to talk to me or if he even likes me anymore.i love him so much and he says he loves me too but i just dont know what to do. am i just freaking out for no reason or what? can you please help me i have no clue of what to think or how to talk about this with him. ~Thanks~

i think you should try for someone you would be able to see more often. it would be so much more fun for the both of you. think about it, you say you love him, but that could just be becuase you miss him and havent hung out in awhile. he mightve changed and if he really liked you, you would think he would call or something. i bet if you broke up with him, he wouldnt be devastated, you need to move on and he does too. your heart probably wont be broken even though u might think it will.
hope it helps
ami*

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(*Names changed to protect the innocent)
My Boyfriend *Mickie is the so sweet and nice to me! I really like him...he is also very cute. He treats me like a princess. Well before Mickie asked me out i had a big crush on *Ronnie but Mickie asked me out and i forgot about it for awhile. Lately I find myself flirting with Ronnie, and i like it. I am really drawn to him. But i dont want to break up with mickie...he is so nice.

yeah thats a tough one. well just because mickie is so nice to you, that doesnt mean you have feelings for him. if you really like ronnie, dont just flirt with him while your still going out with mickie. decide who you like more, and who you could picture yourself with. and hey, if you cant make a decision, be SINGLE and you can flirt with all the guys you want!
hOpE iT hELpS!
ami*

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Well i was in school and my two friends told me that this kid,told them that he likes me! and i was wicked excited cuz hes cute,hott,funny,smart etc. and i like him. But now he says its not the rite time to have a girlfriend because he just got over this girl that he liked for 3weeks cuz she was the biggest bitch ever! how do i show him that it is the rite time? or should i just wait for him to get over everything hes been through? i really like him and i don't know wut to do..omg please help...sorry its so long but pleaseee give me some advice

GiVe HiM TimE! dont rush into it. when hes ready he will ask you out. if not then just give him some space for awhile and find out if he still likes you, and if he does then go ahead and ask him out!
hope it helps,
ami*

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a lot of my friends are acting differently towards me, and theyre starting not really talking to me....its kinda weird because in 8th grade, one of my friends, lets just call him Bob. bob and i used to be really good friends, and now this year, in 9th, he's acting differently towards me and he used to IM me a lot, and now he doesnt and he doesnt say hi in the hallways anymore!
also, my other friends are just acting different..i dont know how to explain that..but they are, and i dont know what to say or do! i dont want to be rude and be like ew ur not talking to me why not?? and stuff like that..so.....please help? thanks so much!

your in highschool now, and people are going to change. just talk to your friends and if they dont talk to you back just be like "hey why arent you talking to me?" you can say it like your joking around if you dont think you can say it seriously without them hurting your feelings. maybe there is a reason, or maybe they just didnt even notice they were ignoring you.

hope this helps,
ami*

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Ami..It still isn't working! I cannot get my words to move!!!! HELP!

THanks soooo much!

-Computer Challanged Idiot!

okay sorry bout that.

um type the word marquee with around it then type what your want it to say, then type marquee again with at the end.

maybe it will work now. any more troubles then IM me @ h1p213l7 ok

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Ami..I really need your help on this one. This guy..okay umm..we'll call him Fred. Well Fred goes out with this girl..okay umm..we'll call her Lucy. Well okay. These two go out right? Okay. Well..Fred and I mess around sometimes. We dont kiss and stuff. I just like..let him up my shirt a lot. I like this kid. But I just think he likes me for my boobs. But still..And I like having him do what he does. It's fun for me.

i think you need to talk to fred. the next time he does that to you, you can say "fred, this is weird. you go out with lucy and i dont wanna do that to her. you need to break up with her or stop doing this to me becuase you cant have both!" or something like that. its not fair for you or lucy to be played like that.

If U nEeD AnYtHiNg ElSe lEt Me kNow!

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Hey Ami..it's me again..Computer Dumb! umm..when you answered my last question..it just said TYPE YOUR TEXT HERE..there wasnt a site?? Am I THAT dumb? haha

you fill in that part with your own words lol

hOpE ThAt HeLps!

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I'm not sure but how can you tell the difference of love and like.Because i like or love this one boy but i dunno if i love him and most my friends tells me i do even one of my teachers! so my question is how do you know when u love someone and how do you know if they love you back?thanks in advance for even concidering to read this.

you know u love him when you can be almost at your worst, no make up, just woke up, and crazy self around him and he doesnt care and niether do you. if you can act like you do around your close friends with him, you might love him. but i dont know how you feel inside so its your call...

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Hey Ami..how do you get things to move on your profile? Like the chorus to that song? How do you get the words to move across the screen?

Signed,
-Computer Dumb!!! :-)

copy this code-

YOUR TEXT OR HTML HERE

of course make sure you replace the "your text or html here" part okay

if you need anything else let me know k!

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so he cheated but im giving him another chance but heres the thing i cheated first. i really didnt do anything all i did was kiss another guy. thats all. but he (who shall remain nameless)slept with my friend while i was away. and made out with another see the making out part didnt bother me but the sex part did and still kinda does. but i love him and i wanna be with him. i mean come on i was engaged for 3 or 4 months. so im giving him another chance and all but then all of a sudden the girl he slept with i hear is bragging right well heres what i did about that i punched her in the face hehe it made me feel so much better and i dont regret it one bit. but then all of a sudden this other girl whom i did nothing to is all freaking out and saying shes gonna sue me for mental anguish hah my ass she will. but yeh shes telling my boyfriend i had sex with sum guy in front of her i no i like kinky but im not that kinky. but yeh so now all this shit is happening and i really dont no how to handel it anymore its all really messing me up and i dont no what to do somebody help me please im gonna loose me mind. oh yeah im 17 and a chik

Thanks

DUmp him. hes sleeping with a hoe and you dont deserve that or the stuff you have to put up with involving "her"

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Okay, I'm a girl show I should know, But what exactly does PMS stand for, I know pretty much what happens when your PMSing, but what does it mean?

Oh boy do I feel stupid lol.

Pre-Menstrual(before your perdiod) Syndrome

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im so nervous around my b/f cuz i never know what to say! any ideas? thank you!

Just talk to him like hes your best friend. Except for all the girly stuff, ya know. I dont know what else to tel ya but just joke around and dont act like anyone your not.
x*o*x*o
ami

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For anyone who actually reads this, thanks.Well, I had a boyfriend, we'll call him "Tod". We went out for about 3 months. Well, all these people were coming up to me and saying, "OMG!Are you going to be okay?!" Honestly, I had no idea what on earth they were talking about. So, I asked "Tod" and he told me that he kissed another girl on the lips! Me? Upset? Yeah, but I could deal with it.I told I didn't care. He told me that he couldn't stand to hurt me again, so he said it was over.Well, about 2 months later, he asked me out again, and I said yes. And just recently, we broke up. Everyone was telling me that he told them it was "another girl". This time, I had it with him. I was through with getting hurt because of his freakin mistakes when I didn't do anything to hurt him! So, I'm never going out with him again. But..I think that there might be "another guy" for me. We'll call him "Justin".He's one of my friends ex-boyfriends.They have been going out on and off like me and "Tod".And my other friends are telling me to not go out with him because she might get pissed at me.Well, first of all, I know she will, but I think I really like "Justin" and just the other day, I told him that I really like him. He told me that he really likes me too. But we're not going out. Yesterday, he was talking to my sister, and she asked him if he and I were going out. He said "yeah" and my sister said "since when?!?!". Then he said "since now". But I asked him if we were really going out, and he said he doesn't know! What's that supposed to mean?!Sorry it's soooo long! -Alex

hey*
Okay forget "Tod" that was a pointless part of the story! Anyway, i think this "Justin" kid really does like you. I mean think about it, if he really didnt liek you then why would he tell your sister that your two go out? YuP! And when he told you he doesnt know, hes probably just being a shy guy. Once you guys start going out it most likely wont be like that anymore, which is good. So you should talk to this guy and hook up with him cuz he defiantly likes you.
x*o*x*o
ami*

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i have pretty much felt like this my whole life...

i feel like whenever i do something people are watching me and talking shit about me or gunna laugh at me or something, i mean i realize that they dont really do that, they probably dont even notice me, but i dont like getting up in class to go sharpen my pencil cause im scared or embarresed or something that people will watch me and just stare at me the whole time or the teacher will yell at me for getting up...and today i was to embarresed or scared to go get ketchup and put it on my plate cause i was thinking that people might laugh and me and be like omg look at her shes using ketchup or something...i know it really weird..

i mean im not a shy person cause ill talk to a lot of people but its things like that..whats wrong with me?

well i know this mite be kinda hard but dont worry about it. i mean when some of your friends get up to sharpen thier pencils or get ketchup, do people laugh at them? probably not. and if you do get laughed at for whatever the strange reason is, just laugh too. its hard not to like someone who can laugh at themself! dont stress about it, the world isnt out to get you!

hOpE tHis HeLps,
aMi*

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well....there is this boy at scool nd he asked me out.....im am very shy so im not so comfortable around boys but i kinda like him but im afraid that im goin to feel weird round him.....plzz help me!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
Signed,
Boy Trouble

it wont be wierd unless u make it that way. just talk to him as if your talkin to your best friend. except leave out all the little girly things lol! but dont stress about it- go out wit him and itll be fine just be yourself. if he really likes you he will be cool with that.

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