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I like to joke around a lot and be funny but overall I'm a really sensitive person. When someone says something hurtful I think about it over and over and feel worthless and depressed. Things get to me so easily it's pathetic. Other times I get like obsessed with things until I get it. Like I wanted a cell phone really bad, and that's all that I thought about until I got it. I can't help being this way and it really bothers me. Please only answer seriously...
What should I do?
I'm a lot like that - A lot of the sensitivity has to do with confidence. You need to build that up, and if you like yourself, who cares if someone says something mean? Or, (and I know this sounds stupid) you could tell them "I really don't like it when you stay stuff like that, it hurts my feelings." If they're your friends, they should listen to you. If they don't, consider how good of a friend they are. About the obsession thing - that's normal - it means you're a determined person. It's a good thing! Just try to find a way to focus it on productive things, like making friends or doing good in school. I hope I helped!
I have this problem you could say, but whenever I find a neat, original band and I put their song in my info or something, somebody always steals it. Not only that, they think they know all about the band because they know part of one song. I know this is very selfish of me to think one band is labeled "mine", but I can't help it. One of my friends stole 10 bands that I once liked. Every song that I listened to, she went off and downloaded. I know most of you are going to say "well take it as a compliment, she likes your music", but the thing is I don't take it as a compliment at all, it's quiet annoying. Does anyone have any advice on this? Do you think that what I'm doing is as stupid as I think it is?
I am exactly the same way! It may be irrational, but if it's an indie type band that not many people listen to, I think of it as "mine." And then like if they get a hit single, and everyone starts liking it, I get really mad. I just try to keep my favorite, more original music away from my friends, and post things that are more common, or from bands that I don't quite like AS much. Or, you could post lyrics on your info, but not say who the band is. :-) Hope I helped!
im not sure if u will answer this but i need help really bad ok ijm 15 yrs ol and i weigh 190 lbs. im fat!!!!!!!!! i wana be down to at least 130 by this summer wat are some good workouts and diets i could do that oesnt cost any money? plz help email me at babiegurl2290@yahoo.com
Okay, first of all - Don't go insane on diets! Honestly, the best thing to do is eat smaller portions (but not too small - anorexic will not help you) and exercise. The best time to exercise is in the mornings before you eat breakfast. Running is really good for losing weight, and there are also exercises to tone your muscles - Just google "Toning exercises" and you'll be able to find stuff. Remember that if you eat junk food, you won't lose weight, and if you eat obscenely large portions of things, you won't lose weight. The thing to do is balance diet and excercise. Also remember aerobic workouts are ones that will get you thinner - such as running, not anaerobic (like lifting weights). I hope i helped at least a little bit.. If I didn't, just IM me sometime and I'll try to help more. (sn is deathbypixies020)
hey!!! its lefty here.. and i desperatly want a new sn cause my fishsticks one is overrated.... casue its too long to give to people and no one gets it.... any suggestions?
LOVE YA SCHMO!
No, its Shmo (haha).. and new screenname? How bout "Shmoismyhero" or is that too long? I'm not very good at this.. I'll try to brainstorm at school tomorrow, though! lol
when you give a guy head... where is like that one nerve or whatever that your spose to get and how do you actually give head??
Well.. I'm not a guy, so I can't exactly tell you where that nerve is.. You'd have to do it and see where he reacts the best, I guess... And well, to do it.. It's a blow job, really.. You suck and massage and all that other fun stuff around his penis.. thats about it.. I hope I helped a little, at least.. I'm not exactly the best person to ask about this:-)
Well, my one girl is comming back this summer i think from another state...but she is going out, well likes some kid where she is now...so i decided to find a girl here. and today we made out and i felt her up...so what should i do when that other girl comes here? BTW: the girl i did that with lives on my street
Okay, well, thanks, dude for telling me all about that.. I guess what I would say would be to do whatever you like with this chick near you and see how things with her go.. And if you're still with the chick on your street by the time summer rolls around, don't do anything with the one who lives far away.. but if your not, and she's not with her guy now, then go ahead and do stuff or whatever.. it all depends on how things go with her bf and the chick you're hanging with:-) hope i helped ya!
Is there a way so find out someones screen name (like on the computer) on AIM if you have there name?
(besides asking them...duh)
Thanks
Not that I know of.. I think you need their email address, and if you have that you can go to the "People" list thing and scroll down to find a buddy.. I think there are a couple ways to do it. Hope I helped!
One of my best friend's brother died in a car crash because of street racing. Tomorrow I am going to his funeral with our friends and to be there for my friend. I really dont know what to wear and what I'm supposed to do there. Do I bring a gift. I feel really bad. He was onlt 17 years old. Please help.
Wow, I'm sorry about your friend's brother.... For a funeral, just wear something nice, and black.. Like a skirt and top or dress or something.. You don't bring a gift.. You could bring flowers. Mostly what you do at funerals is remember the person who has died and provide support for the family and other people (besides you) who loved him. I hope I helped.
well its kinda a 2 part question.
Well my aunts getting married, and im in her wedding. me and my other aunt HATE the dresses ALOT. we dont want to wear them at all. what should we do?
And i want to look good in the dress if i have to wear it, and im thinking about tanning and going on a diet of just water and like salad and fruit... but the thing is i dont eat alot. the only meal i eat is lunch and im never hungry. i think its because i dont exercise enough.. even though i play alot of sports and im pretty active.. i dont know what the problem is.
Well, first of all - it's not your wedding, and you don't get to pick the dresses. They're usually ugly anyway, just deal with it. (Sorry if that was harsh).
Secondly, tanning I guess is okay, but don't do the diet thing. Thats pretty much like going anorexic, and when your body is not getting enough food, it stores everything you consume as fat. So you get fatter before you get skinny.. And it's addictive (I don't think thats the right word) so soon you'll be eating less and less.. You should probably just eat healthy and exercise a lot and get a tan and you'll look fine in the dress, even if it is ugly! hope i helped!
ok i wanna download songz cuz my whole life revolves around music but my parents aren't too crazy about it and they dont wanna pay money for me to get songs i could just listen to on the radoi is there any website where its 100% LEGAL for me to get ABSOLUTELY FREE music? i rate!
Anytime you can get free downloads, its not gonna be free. You could just do LimeWire.. I mean, it's "illegal" but everybody does it, so I mean at least we'll all be in jail together!
I broke up with my boyfriend about a week ago because he was too flirty with other girls. I guess i thought that he would ask me for a second chance and tell me that he could stop flirting with them, but he didnt. And now i find myself still liking him, but dont know what to do. I even think that he is into this girl i really and truly dislike. Should i tell him how i feel, or just move on???
Well, first of all, you probably should have told him how you felt about his flirting before you dumped him to see if maybe he'd stop then. And since you did dump him and he didn't protest, he's definitely not worth it. Is there anyone else you know that you think you might like? Because I'm sorry, but I think it'd probably be best for you if you just forgot about him.. Don't guys suck? lol I hope I helped!
I got my report card and i didnt do too hot. My mom was crushed when she saw it. Overall i got good grades, except for my english grade. When i showed my mom i thought she was going to cry or something. What should i do??? I told her that i could get the up, and i am going to try, but i feel really bad because she is so disappointed in me.
You just need to try harder in your classes.. I know it really blows when your parents are disappointed in you (mine have been plenty of times:-/), but all you have to do is show her that you can do it and get better grades.. Like get an A on a quiz or a test, and show her, and stuff like that.. Prove to her you can do it, and she wont be disappointed anymore:-) Hope I helped some!
Well, my X-Girlfriend is moving back here after i ain't seen her in 2 years, but only for the summer then is going back to where she is now...what should we do?
well.. keep talking to her, decide if you like her, and if you do, during the summer, try and do as much stuff together as possible, and maybe if you can work out a long distance relationship, try it, but if you can't, just try to stay friends and hang out whenever she comes to wherever you live or you could try and visit her. Hope I helped!
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I wanted to know if there was a certain career I can go to for these things. I've been getting really interested with the mind and what makes us do the things we do. I've been getting interested in things like, eating disorders, mental illness, personality disorders, insomnia, ADD, OCD, SAD, why people lie and a lot of other things like health, vegetarianism, raw foodists, etc. I want to learn more about this stuff, but not just through the internet. What are some courses that teach you about this kind of stuff and how can I apply what I know through a career? If you know some careers, do they pay well?
I believe I'm suffering from ADD, OCD and SAD. As I'm researching these, I come across other disorers and I get overwhelmed and I want to learn about them all...
I do the same thing! I personally want to be a psychiatrist or a counselor, because you work with people with disorders and whatnot. Psychology is a good course to take, and sociology. Some careers could be counselor, psychiatrist, psychologist, doctor, social worker - really anything that has to do with the mind and helping people. Hope I helped!
panic attacks can you feel sick with them lifeless dizzy as though you are going to pass out can you help me please
Yes, you can - on all of those. Go to the doctor about them, they can prescribe good medicine for it. Hope I helped!
hey im 15 f, are most teenage girls out there depressed? is it just a faze we go through or is it just certain individuals that are insane.. its not like i have had a hard life but i am always sad and pessimistic about everything. i feel like i dont deserve anything and no one likes me. i have been diagnosed with 'anorexia' i think they are wrong tho, i am a heavy drinker and i smoke pot often, and people are starting to notice the scars on my arms and wrists from cutting.. i put on a front when i with people but when i am by myself all i can think about is death.. i dont know why i am like this i dont have a reason to be, i was just wondering does anyone else feel this way!?
Most teenagers go through it; it's not just you. I'd advise you to stop cutting, though - it can land you in a mental institution and really do you want to be there? Oh and another piece of advise (you don't have to take it, lol) stop smoking pot and try to stop drinking.. it'll probably help. hope i helped you
people at school are starting to say i smell...
i dont understand, i wear deodorant and i wash with soap when im in the shower...i use shampoo and conditioner too so i cant think of what it could be. they have been saying this for a while and i used to think that they said it just to make me feel bad and it is starting to hurt my feelings...what can i do to smell better?
Umm, you could bring deodorant with you to school and like reapply it in the bathroom, or get a really good smelling perfume and wear that.. Hope you take my advice;-)!
Hey there!!! well okay... I have this friend back in another state.. she IMed and told me she was pregant...(it came as a totall suprise to me sice she is a very religous person and no she didnt get raped)she might have an abortion...I dont want to force my beliefs on her so what I'm doing is I'm hooking her up with another friend I have who is also pregant and I'm gonna have her try to convice her not to...should I really be doing this just because I think its wrong?
You should do it - not just because you think it's wrong, but also because she needs to see both sides of it. Make sure she knows that abortion is basically murder, and that it's painful, costs a lot, all that stuff. Also make sure your friend gives her the pluses of keeping it, but remember when she makes a final decision, don't hate her if she chooses to get an abortion. It is her life, and her choice. I hope I helped!
OK...my best friend EVER is moving to Australia, the total other side of the world!! :'(
I want to give her a really great, unique send off. She is leaving in three weeks, and I want to get her a great present and throw a great party she'll always remember!! I don't want to burn a CD because she does loads of those herself, and I don't want an ordinary boring party. Anyone got any great ideas for a really unique send-off?
For a unique party.. You could invite her and a group of friends to a concert, or you could all go do something weird and crazy that you've always wanted to do.. I don't know exactly.. Just do something you know she'd love to do!! And then for a present.. I think you should make a scrapbook of all the times you've spent together and all your memories and write stuff in it and stuff - that way she'll never forget! I hope I gave you some ideas!
Me and my boyfriend have been dating for about three months. We havent kissed yet, but i think i want to. How should i tell him??
Is he shy? If he's shy and you think he probably wants to kiss you, just do it yourself!! Don't even bring it up; just find a moment and do it! Good luck! :-D