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I like to joke around a lot and be funny but overall I'm a really sensitive person. When someone says something hurtful I think about it over and over and feel worthless and depressed. Things get to me so easily it's pathetic. Other times I get like obsessed with things until I get it. Like I wanted a cell phone really bad, and that's all that I thought about until I got it. I can't help being this way and it really bothers me. Please only answer seriously...
What should I do?
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I'm a lot like that - A lot of the sensitivity has to do with confidence. You need to build that up, and if you like yourself, who cares if someone says something mean? Or, (and I know this sounds stupid) you could tell them "I really don't like it when you stay stuff like that, it hurts my feelings." If they're your friends, they should listen to you. If they don't, consider how good of a friend they are. About the obsession thing - that's normal - it means you're a determined person. It's a good thing! Just try to find a way to focus it on productive things, like making friends or doing good in school. I hope I helped!
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I can get like that sometimes too. I live to laugh. And i won't lie either, sometimes at other people's expense, but always in a joking way.
Sometimes what we say can hurt other people, even if we didn't mean it. And sometimes people say things about us that really gets to us. I would know, i've been there many times.
If someone says or does something that really hurts you, simply say "Hey, that was mean. Please don't say things like that about me. I don't say them about you."
BUT, if you DO say things about other people, then hey. If you can dish it out, you better be able to take it.
It sounds like you need to toughen up a little. Now, i'm not saying to become cruel, or snap when other people say things about you. I'm saying just to not take things to heart. Especially if it was meant in a kidding way.
As for the obsessing thing, thinking about something you really want is normal. I wouldn't be too concerned about it unless your "obessions" start to interfere with everyday life.
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I know how you feel. If someone even just jokes about my looks it makes me VERY self concious. I either end up changing it or never forgeting that comment about me if I can't change it. And even if you DO do something about it, you still can't forget. People don't realize how hurtful things can be, no matter how little, no matter how jokingly, no matter how long ago. Many times we remember bad comments more vividly than good ones.
There's not much to do about it unless you try. Try to shrug things off and not take it seriously. Know that most people don't even realize what they say. And if it's bugging you too much, go right up to them and explain how you really feel. You can't keep thinking about it without taking action or just letting it go. You need to do either one of the two, or even both, or else you'll just be eaten up alive.
Another way to keep you from obsessing is to keep yourself busy. Busy equals no time to mope around feeling sorry for yourself right? Go cook, do some cleaning, read, play a game, get involved in clubs etc. Hope it works out.
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Wow.. your exactly like me its scary lol.. if you can i would like to talk to you on AIM
SN: qtmichelle26
Thanx babe..
♥ Michelle
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I have the exact same problem. When I want something I can't get it out of my head, and when someone says something jerky to me, I keep thinking about it over and over until I can't think about it anymore. You just got to let it go, and not take things so seriously I guess.
I know, it's so much harder than it sounds.
Good luck!
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