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Q: I'm going to sleepaway camp in about a week and I really want to maybe get a boyfriend there because when you go to camp you practically start over and can be whoever you want to be without the pressures of school. I've never had a boyfriend and I was wondering how I should flirt at the socials/dances. Also, how do you let boys know you exist and you WANT a relationship? Some just want to be friends.

just be eccentric, energetic, and yourself, try to be funny and be loud be the one that people notice and when they hear your name they know who you are but most of all don't change who you are don't act all girly if your not and don't try to like play basketball just cuz its a "cool" thing to do if you don't like it. how to flirt with a guy... well talk with them if theres a dance just ask him to dance dancing isn't a big deal i go to my friends bat mitzvah partys who go to a different school than me and guyz ask me to dance when i don't even know them its no bd just do it and try to talk with him then if you feel like askin him out do it!
much love
x3 mari

Q: ok, my boyfriend is shy enough not to be able to kiss me. we've been going out for a while now and theres only been 1 hug. and 0 kisses. Since i kno he loves me and i kno he's too shy to kiss me, i decided to make the move (cheek tho) i was planning on saying "_____ come here, i need to tell you a secret" and when he leans over to hear, i kiss his cheek...but is there any better wayto kiss him? Thanks. bub byezz

maybe like when he puts his arm around you then just lean in and do it don't make it to exagurated just do it and don;t like make it a big deal have it be relaxed so he doesn't feel embarassed then he'll probly nt be so shy
much love
x3 mari

Q: Hey. I want to have sex with my boyfriend but I am afraid how much it will hurt. I can't wear a tampon, it hurts so much, does this mean that it will hurt when I first have sex? Should I wear a tampon to get used to this feeling?

probly it will hurt but after a little bit it will go away it probly would help you get used to the feeling of sex to wear a tampon but it won't be exact so if you feel your ready go for it don't hesitate!
much love
x3 mari

Q: OK, this may seem weird, but it's something that really scares me. Im really scared of being kidnapped. Now that it is summer, i really need to keep my window open, but what if someone cut the screen? If my parents are already in bed, I go around the house, checking to make sure every door is locked. I wanna stop being afraid. Am i being way too paranoid? HELP ME !!! I RATE HIGH

well it depends i mean you could get a fan or check out the crime rate in your area but i'm sure there is nothing to be scared of i mean no one will kid nap you i'm sure i really don't know what else to say
much love
x3 mari

Q: I copied some files onto a blank cd, and now I want to erase the things that I copied onto the cd before. how can I do that?

well if its already on the cd i'm sry hun but you can't erase it or add anything
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x3 mari

Q: ok well last year in 7th grade was the most roughest time ever i could think of!! i was so liked at the begining of the year and people started making rumors up about me and i lost almost every friend....i also got beat up once well i didnt get beat up thats what everybody says i just got in a fight ok and i am just having such a miserable summer bc thats all i ever think about is next year how im not going to have any friends to be with and where im going to sit for lunch and all that ughh i dont know what to do and all my mom says is "i dont know what to tell you" all im really worried about it one person bc she was friends with all the 8th graders and all the 6th graders and shes mean to me and hates me and she could prolly get everybody else to hate me and shes tall and is friends with all the popular people and shes not afriad to come in my face and say crap to me [ITS HAPPEND BEFORE] =[ it just started out i was hanging out with the popular people at the beegining of the year [ i guess thats what i wanteed the most ] and i dont know what happend but they all started hearing roomers and crap and yeah i started to get bad grades and i almost failed 7th grade and all this crap ughhh im not sure if god made all them hate me for a reason? im just so confused=/ somebody please help me ive been going through this forever and i really really need some help please =(
-ashlee

well, get some new friends i mean you won't be friends with the popular people and personally if i were you i wouldn't want to be try to make friends with people who may not be the most popular but then again there is no popularity in like middle school and highschool so just try to be friends with other kids and don't worry bout it enjoy your summer CARE FREE!
the past is history the future is a mystery but the present is a present so enjoey it!
much love
x3 mari
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Q: Anyone here have an easy recipe for fudge without nuts??????????/

http://christmas.allrecipes.com/az/DoubleFlavorFudge.asp
juust go there
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x3 mari

Q: OMG! I don't have any friends anymore all the guys at my school hate me and my "friends" don't even talk to me. No one talks to me. and no i'm not a "loser". I had "friends" but they keep discludeing me! HELP?!

don't have such anegative attitude i mean if they don't talk to you, you must talk to them and you don't know that they don't like you you just need to be more assertive
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x3 mari

Q: i'm redoing my room so it has black and red walls and all modern furniture! i'm also getting a new room in the basement that's pretty big and i want to have some fun things in it! what do u suggest i should incorporate into it?? any tips appreciatedd

a bean bag chair a cool rug wateva stuff like that
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x3 mari

Q: hey!
i'm asain and have like really dark brown hair..but i want to go a little bit lighter i was thinking like a copper or something...and i already have highlights..sooo...help plzzz...and one more thing my hair is always wavy or straight i want it to be curly not like those little curls everywhere but like the big curls..those look so cute..but i don't know how to do it..so if any one knows..HELP..lol

i would go with like hazelnut brown or like a lighter brown copper doesn't always look so great and a curler would be the thing tat you would curl your hear with you can buy them anywhere
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x3 mari

Q: Um i always get cold sores like always ill have on for about a week and a half and then the next day or two ill have another one and i dont know what to do there bothering me I CANT STAND THEM!! is there anything i can buy to help pervent them or something they hurt i just need them to go away!!!

I'll rate 5's thanks!!

*K

there is cold sore cream you can also gargle salt water stuff like that or google cold sore healing good luck
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x3 mari

Q: I don't know how to find this website in the future, though it's great... Is there a newsletter or something? I'm not on my computer, so I can't just stay logged on all the time.

just go to advicenators.com

and it will get you to the site

hope i helped

much love
x3 mari

Q: Ok I have a problem I'm currently going out with this guy *lets call him bob* and I really like him, but the thing is that he has dumped me many times before but this time he says that he really likes me. Now there is this other guy *jeff* and hes pretty hott but I haven't ever gone out with him before and It's the summer so I could go to the beach with Bob and i don't know what I would do with Jeff but I don't know who to choose!

PLease help me I'll rate you a 5 for a good answer please

well it sounds like you like this other guy jeff but bob sounds more like some1 you want to be with i would stay with bob sounds like he is great and dependable so you could try hanging out with jeff but my advice is that you stay with bob if you break up again then try jeff
much love
x3 mari

Q: i feel like i am in love with this boy from secondary school!!! he asked me if i wana be with him! i said yes and i have not heard since i was thinking about trying to bump into him because i know what way he goes home but i really don't want him to know i have done it on purpose. I was planning on going today, but i might get clothes ready and go and bump into him tomorrow. Thing is i am really scared! please help or advice me i am 16 female we moved school last year so i have not seen him for a year now and he always has his phone off.

bump into him if you have to i mean he won't care believe me he'll just either talk to you or if he wants to be with you do it but i wouldn't get special clothes ready for it and like get all dressed up and stuff i'd just go casual and go for it
much love
x3 mari

Q: I am an 18 year old girl who has been with the same boyfriend for 2 years and things haven't been great from the start.Now things are really boring and we do the same things week after week and we have no sex life at all.A couple of months ago I met a guy that works at the local pub and sing with him all the time and we get on really well.He is leaving the job now to free up his weekends and agreed to come out on a night out with me and swapped numbers.Now I can get him out of my head and don't know whether to make a go with my current boyfriend or try and get to know this other guy. What should I do?

well, we don't really know the other guy or your current boyfriend but fom what i can tell you need to do wat you want to do your young and have time to find the right guy that you want to be with you obviously know that you won't be with your current bf for the rest of your life so i say go for this other guy
much love
x3 mari

Q: okay well... i really like this kid.. and he owns a campsite right next to me.. he sold it.. but i got down there right in time.. and wrote my number on a piece of paper and stuck it on the door... was that a good move? or is it kind of obsessing.. and i told him to call right away.. and i dont' know if he's gonna call or not.. he was supposed to call last saturday.. and he didin't.. and im really bummed...

so i guess my question is.. did i do the right thing.. by putting my number on his door.. and how do i try to get over him if he doesn't call.. because i really incredibly like him.. like i never liked someone like this in my whole life..

i don't think you know him vvery well by what i understand i think your likeing him by his looks but i could be wrong if he does not ccall you should call him and just remind him who you are and talk to him then maybe ask if he wants to do something with ya
much love
x3 mari

Q: hi..okay well one of my bestfriends (mary) is saying that i am replacing her and that i dont hangout with her anymore wich isnt true becuz i do..and like i became really good friends with this other girl (beth) and mary is like saying that i replaced her with beth and that i hangout with her all the time and stuff and i dont like hangout with her and i mean i hangout with beth alot but its becuz she always asks me to hangout and mar never does...and shes saying that every1 is saying that and like wat should i do?
thanks,
julie

hang out with her more often unless you don't want to be her bestfriend i mean its not that hard you need to show her that you want to be friends with her you mary and beth could all hang out you know things like that
much love
x3 mari

Q: one of my really good friends is anorexic... she just admitted to us ((me n my friends)). We really want her to stop but don't know how, she said she'll talk to us, but i don't know *exactly* what to say to make her realize she needs to stop... now... what should we say???

thx - *troubled friend*

troubled friend,
the thing to say would be you know we realy care about you and love you but you need to love yourself which you aren't right now, you are beautiful and you need to know that. stuff like that which will mmake her realize people care if it doesn't work i'm sorry hun but you probly can't help
much love
x3 mari

Q: Hey ppl I wanna dye my hair with lemon juic because I heard that its better and healthier than dye but I dont know how to do it do you kno how??? also tell me if you think it would look good on me to see picd go to www.janee.worldbreak.com and click sexaaay pictures and on the janeeluvzu.com page scroll down to se pics of me ....in the ones where we have on all red im the lightest one and in the others like the one of me and amanda Im the darkhaired one(all those are on the Janee:uvzU.com page) THANKXZ BAYBEE UR A DOLL!

i'm really sorry but i don't think you should die your hair with lemon juice you'll probly end u[p messing up and being really unhappy with it and it just won't be good if your not an expert so i suggest going to a store and buying a box of die and highlight it or go to a salon i know its more expensive but you'lll be so much more happy in the long run!
much love
x3 mari

Q: I have a thing with the dark. At night if i go downstairs while everyone is asleep or upstairs in the rooms, im always scared someone is watching me. I dont go downstairs that often but i need help. Is it because im weird or am i going crazy. Please help.. 14 female..
X3

no i used to be like that when i go in my basement i get that feeling wat i do is a go down (i usually take my dog) and i turn on all the lights than just take a look around theres relaly nothing to worry about and i will assure you you are NOT going crazy!
much love
x3 mari

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hey guys! I'm just your average 16-year-old girl. I love tennis, friends, shopping, reading, boys! I also love giving advice so hit me up with any problems/questions you have!