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i am in 8th grade and am a 13 going on 14 female. my parents are really tough and i've had one secret relationship and i didnt work out. 2 years later (today) i want to got out with someone else.i will make the first move but i am afraid it wont work out if i cant date. how do i confince my mom and dad to let me date? (link)
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well i have found in my own experience that parents wouldnt have the problem with their kids dating if they met the person. now this will sound old-fashion and might embarrass you but its what my parents agreed to and their STRICT! before you and your date go out on your first date, have him comeover to your house and meet your parents, let them lecture him and talk with him for at least 10 minutes, and then go out on your date. this works becuase parents wouldnt have the problem with their kids dating if they knew who the dat was and knew if he/she was a good person and they deserved their precious child! so my advice is ask your parents if they will bend the rules and allow you to date if you promise to ALWAYS bring home your date first to meet them. good luck!
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ok so heres the problem...lately ive been finding out that all these guys (that are like close friends) really like me. yeah i know its kinda like a compliment but it hasnt been turning out so good. well i mean ive had some sorta bad luck with relationships with the past and im taking a long break with guys right now, and so i tell them when they tell me they like me/ask me out. so i feel really bad am i doing the right thing? and then theres my best friend that really likes this guy, and i found out today that he really likes me and i dont no what to do. helppp? (link)
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ok well, my best friend kind of sounds alot like you, so i know where your coming from. I think that what you need to do is just be honest with yourself, just becuase you have had bad relationships in the past doesnt mean that you have to take a break it just means you need to be more picky when choosing guys (and i mean picky as in choose the "good" guys not "bad" guys). Think about all your guys friends that like you (including the one your best friend likes too) think about their good points and bad points, think about who you do/could have feelings for, and think about whether or not they would treat you the way you deserve to be treated! When you have thought about everyone of them, decide who you would date potentially and tell them if you like them, or want to "try" dating/a date. Now for the best friend thing, just be honest be like well i found out the guy you like likes me, and tell her however you feel about him. Honesty is the best policy with best friends, and if she takes it ok and accepts it then you can go out with him (if you like him) but if she takes it badly i wouldnt suggest thinking about him too much! good luck and just ask if you need anything else!
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hii! well today for the first time i tried putting a tampon in..i think its tampax pearl or something like that..and im not sure if i should like wear pads still to school or try to keep using tampons..because it took me awhile to get it in..since it was my first time..but then im scared that i wont be able to put it in again in school..but tampons are sooo much nicer! also the only scary thing is my period is SOOO heavy..its unbelieveable and i cant use the super absorbant ones because my mom only bought the regular ones and then since i just started using then i dont wanna start withh the super ones..i wanna try and get use to them! i think it would be easier on me for gym class (because running and blood going all over..is not the greatest feeling (sorry sooo..gross haha) but..rather than using a pad im just scared that it will leak..since its super heavy and im using a regular tampax..and that if i have to change it during school..i willbe late to class and i wont be able to get it in..what do u think i should do?? because i like tampons alot..its like you dont even have your period! ahh im soo confused..any help?? suggestions?? what would u do?..thanks!! (link)
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My suggestion GET THE SUPER! dont use regular unless its really light, go get tampax pearl super absorbant (its orange) they work the best, and all tampons go in the same you wont have to worry about it feeling unconfortable! What you need to do is buy always super pads but make sure you buy the thin ones, wear those with the tampon in, it will catch any leaks that may happen when running and what not. those brands work the best (me and my friends compared haha)! For tampons they can stay in for maybe 3-4 hours on heavey days so just change it at lunch or sign a pass, put them in your purse. and the only way you wont be able to use them at school is if your nervous and think about it not going in, just relax and take your time when at school (in the past one time i was in such a rush i dropped my last tampon in the toliet!). good luck and ask me if you need anything else!
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what are some songs that represent self-worth, breaking gender stereotypes, or progression in american media? i need some songs like this for a school project, but i cant think of any. thanks! (link)
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try the alanis morressette song "all i really want" its really good and emotional and full of agnst. Heres the lyrics:
Do I stress you out
My sweater is on backwards and inside out
And you say how appropriate
I don't want to dissect everything today
I don't mean to pick you apart you see
But I can't help it
There I go jumping before the gunshot has gone off
Slap me with a splintered ruler
And it would knock me to the floor if I wasn't there already
If only I could hunt the hunter
And all I really want is some patience
A way to calm the angry voice
And all I really want is deliverance
Do I wear you out
You must wonder why I'm so relentless and all strung out
I'm consumed by the chill of solitary
I'm like Estella
I like to reel it in and then spit it out
I'm frustrated by your apathy
And I am frightened by the corrupted ways of this land
If only I could meet the Maker
And I am fascinated by the spiritual man
I am humbled by his humble nature
What I wouldn't give to find a soulmate
Someone else to catch this drift
And what I wouldn't give to meet a kindred
Enough about me, let's talk about you for a minute
Enough about you, let's talk about life for a while
The conflicts, the craziness and the sound of pretenses
Falling all around...all around
Why are you so petrified of silence
Here can you handle this?
Did you think about your bills, your ex, your deadlines
Or when you think you're gonna die
Or did you long for the next distraction
And all I need know is intellectual intercourse
A soul to dig the hole much deeper
And I have no concept of time other than it is flying
If only I could kill the killer
All I really want is some peace man
a place to find a common ground
And all I really want is a wavelength
All I really want is some comfort
A way to get my hands untied
And all I really want is some justice...
you can look her songs from her Jagged little Pill cd up and all the songs talk alot about what you need! GOOOD LUCK!
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Okay so I bought these awesomely cUTE tops for like $30 and they are cute. One is green and one's pink. I couldn't find my size and since I don't mind buyin small things I bought it. I tried it on this evenin and it's like tight (but cute still) and it's like relly short. Like 5 inches above to navel short. So I was thinkin like wear it under a hoodie or one of those hooded jackets....think it'lll luk cute? (link)
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that would look cute and also you could put like a cute tank under it and layer it tht way you can wear it without a jacket. try some tanks with lace on the bottom or top that way it makes it look really cute!
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14/f...ok so i kno this guy named Peter and two of his friends, Tyler and Trevor. So I like Peter a lot but he's really really shy and hard to get to know but I still am able to talk to him. One day i was talking to him and everything seemed like it was going well but after he was gone one of my friends said that Tyler said behind my back that Peter has absolutely NO INTEREST IN ME. But the next day I was talking to him and it seemed like he was SORTA FLIRTING with me. But after that I asked Trevor if wat Tyler said was true and he said probably yes. I dont kno wat to think and keep in mind that he is REALLY shy and wat i consider flirting could just be him talking. Please help
I RATE HIGH (link)
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well thats tough the friends could be telling the truth but in my own experience, i believe that its best to get your information from the source not its friends. Ask peter out is my suggestion or tell him how you feel, becuase sometimes guys lie about who they like or dont talk about ho they like. one of my best guy friends told me that he would never tell his guy friends who he likes, he said girls understand more and dont judge. so maybe he just hasnt told his friends how he truly feels. you got nothing to loose ask him out! good luck and tell me what happens!
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what if you start to lose...lost hope, hope in urself, other ppl, just everything.
i can't take it any more, change is happening to me but i can't...WON'T face where its taking me.
i can't do anything about it, in two years im either going to be some terrorist or drunk or even better, dead.
there is nothing to live for, and i can't get myself to just kill myself.
im lost and cannot be saved.
o shit :(... (link)
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IF you loose hope dont let go, you obviously have something to live for since you wont kill yourself. Changes are hard and being a teenager is harder. Just take it one day at a time, try not to think about the future to much, dont worry about the little things. Live your life to the fullest and dont forget the little things. You wont be a terrorist or dead or drunk in 2 years, you will be out there in the world living with who you are and who you are living with. As long as you try you can succeed, even if its not a big accomplishment for you it will be. I suggest you get help tell your parents, i suggest the one your closer to, tell them that your suffering from depression (my guess as to whats going on w/ you) tell them the only way to solve it is to seek help (depression isnt going to solve itself you need therapy and medicine)! good luck and dont listen to the guy who gave you advice before me, that isnt advice its just pushing you to do something dangerous. Ask me for advice anytime, dont be shy!
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Does it hurt to get ur belly button pierced??? (link)
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my friend got hers done and she had to wear her pants below her belly button for like 2 weeks because it hurt so bad! but then again ive also heard some people say it didnt hurt at all! good luck they look really cute, careful for infections!
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I know this is a werid question. But i'm going to this dance thing tomorrow and the guy I like is going to be there and I dont know what to wear cause all my clothes look stupid... does anyone have a general idea of what to wear? and how to do my makeup and stuff.. HELP PLEASEE (link)
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well is it like a formal dance or casual like party dance? I'm guessing casual so i think you should where something along the lines of what you usually where, i mean you dont want to feel out of place or selfconcious when trying to impress a guy, so try a pair of jeans and a really cool top, nothin to heavey because it gets HOT when your dancing alot! for makeup try a smokey eye and pinkish/clear lip gloss, that way its simple yet perfect for the nightlife and its really sexy. for your shoes try a cute pair of sandels or like a puma shoe, those are really cute and perfect for something casual/laidback. umm for your hair try it up in a messybun type thing just throw it up with a few strains down on your face, natural+messy+fast+simple= SEXY!!! you'll catch his eye and hopefully snag a dance too! good luck and just ask again if its formal or if you just arent sure about anything!
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so theres this guy that i've liked sence september and he was dating my best friend (she didnt know i like him) and she broke up with him yesterday and that was right after she found out that i liked him and now i think she dumped him because of me. but earlier he said i was pretty and he sometimes flirts with me and i told him i thought he was cute but hes totally in love with my best friend i want to go out with him really bad but i dont know if he likes me and im thinking my best friend dumped him because of me. i dont know what to do. does he like me? did my best friend dump him because of me? please help. (link)
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WOW ... calm down forst of all! All you have to do is talk to your best friend about it. Just confront her asking her why she dumped him and if shes going to dump him for you, then she proboly wouldnt mind if you and the guy dated, and might HElP you get the guy! I think it sounds like hes slightly interested, especially for someone who was dating your best friend. just act normal around him try to support him if hes upset about the breakup and flirt when hes not upset! good luck!
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female;thirteen
I have this friend, who yelled at my friends & I for drinking her power-ade without her permission. And when she found out that half of it was gone. She began to yell. So I yelled at her back. She ignored me & the others for the rest of the day. I thought she was still made about the whole power-ade thing.
So the next day, I signed on my screen name, and i asked her the specific reason why she was mad at me & the others. She said NOT because of the power-ade, but the fact that my she thought that she was doing a favor for us by not talking to us for the rest of the day, cause she thought we thought she was annoying, which is not true.
I felt bad, cause she told me she cried that night. Which made me feel worst about yelling at her in the first place. I was talking on the phone with her, and she started crying cause she told me everything about what is happening about her life. She told me her friend treats her like crap, worst of all, this friend that is treating her like crap happens to be one of my good friends.
She won't do nothing about it. I told her to talk to her about it. But she said she can't. I told her I would talk to her friend about it. But she said that would make things even worst.
What do I do? (link)
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well i think you neeed to mention somthing about her to the other friend even though she said not to, if this other girl is really your friends friend then she wouldnt be treating her like crap! Just ask her and in the mean time try to be this other girls best friend, and keep her happy and not thinking about her friend/life. good luck!
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whenever i'm meeting someone i don't know, i have the hardest time keeping a conversation! i'm really outgoing and friendly, but most of the time i just don't know what to talk about and we end up standing there in this awkward silence. any tips / suggestions?? thanks!! (link)
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Oh i know what you mean i hate when the conversation just fades like that into this akward silence thing. Ok anyways the way to fix it is by just thinking about what the person likes or dislikes, if the person is an aquintance and goes to school with you, then you can just talk about their classes and sports they do/take. Or if the person is like an adult then you can talk about their kids (that takes FOREVER) just whoever it is think about what they would like to talk about, then mention it casually and there you go a conversation starter. If the conversation starts to die down then make a joke out of it, like if i'm with guy friends and we have nothing to talk about i just say GOD NOT ANOTHER AKWARD SILENCE, then we all start laughing and its gone! good luck and try not to think to much when your talking ust let it flow naturally!
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ive always been the type of out going person that you ever saw frown. i was the type of person that got along with EVERYONE. but that kinda changed when i started hanging out with my new best friend for the past 2 years. she is sorta well emo i guess you can say shes always depress and stuff now depresses me easy i wish i could be like i used to but i feel like im turning more into my friend and i wanna be the old me again. idk if i need to stop talking to her or what. i mean lately i havnt been talking to her as much just because she like always gets on my case about grammer in stuff and im like wow your not my teacher your my friend geese but yah beside the point i was jus wondering what you all would do about this. i want to be the happy person i used to be, instead of the person i am now that snaps at any minute :-( i hate it (link)
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Well noone can make you change your personality, have you experienced anything else new (good or bad)? if not, maybe you just have been feeling empathy for yor friend, or you feel the need to be like her subconciously because if you werent then you couldnt be best friends. Whatever the case, try to be her friend but have time with your more pirky/happy friends, that way your "depression" will fade. good luck and just ask me if you need more advice or help!
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Okay, this is a really weird question but is there a pulse in your stomach? Because when I like hold my hand over it I can like feel something... like a heartbeat but there's not a heart in your stomach. If anyone knows what I'm talking about I will rate!! Thanks. (link)
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its no problem, sometimes when im stressed i feel a pulse in my hands. plus since your heart is in your chest you may just be feeling that, like if your heart rate is up. hope i helped!
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just gonna come out wit the question i wanna kno. when using a tampon do you use the first whole or 2nd whole? sorry im a moron :-( but im going to FL and i dont wanna wear pads the whole time im 15 so yah know i think im old enough haha.
but please answer..
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wow! ok its fine i didnt use them a lot till this past summer (swimming). soo anyways, the first hole is where the pee comes out, and the second hole is where the tampon goes. if you put the tampon in the first hole, one it wouldnt fit, and two you wouldnt be able to go the the bathroom without taking it out. so second hole! good luck and if it doesnt feel comfortable dont give up keep trying!
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16/f. my boobs feel a little sore. does this mean they are growing? (link)
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It could mean there growing, that your touching them too much, that you could be alergic to the fabric of your bra (thats more of a skin rash though), or that your about to get your period. soo just think of the things that apply to you and theres your solution! good luck!
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do green tea pills work. what are a list of diet pills which help you burn fat?
i am a size 6 and i want to go down to a size 4 i already eat healthy and sorta exersize. (link)
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size 6 is already small, be grateful for that! Diet pills dont work, they're just a placibo generated to get money from "fat" americans who need to diet constantly. If i were you i'd just start running and swimming, thery're fast and really work, i loose like 10 pounds every summer because i swim everyday for 3 hours! good luck and step up the exericse!
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SO I'm 13 and I weigh 176 lbs. It's really un healthy but my mom says I'll grow out of it. Yeah I guess Im growing but I drink like 4-20 oz bottles of water and I also drink some juice (not alot). When I go to bed at nights I feel extrememly bloated. Oh and sometimes I don't urine alot so I jus drink some cranberry juice or take the cranberry capsules. So I was thinking that I could take a dewitts...the water pill to make all my urine from all the water I drink flush away...does anyonw know if it's safe to take the water pills at my age?...and if not is there anything that will make me feel less bloated from the water I drink. Thanks alot...because I'm sure at least 5-10 lbs of my is from water! (link)
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well i know what you mean ... kinda but i wouldnt suggest taking the pills without consulting your doctor! If your on that time of the month that can make the bloating worse, try taking midol for bloating it will take that feeling and look away, trust me! even if your not menstruating you can still take midol so thats good too. umm ... you should really consult your doctor about this feeling because he/she would give you a better solution! good luck and dont wait til you grow out of it because you might not, try eating less fatty foods and start getting nutritious! it'll help you in the long run!
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I really really like this guy Adam. We talk sometimes but usually if we do its a short conversation. We were getting really close until a few people told him I liked him and that I was telling people we were going out ( WHICH WAS A LIE) and I cleared that whole thing up but now he hardly talks to me unless I say something first and I hate having to force my way into a conversation. He just looks at me like the ackward silenced girl; usually I'm REALLY outgoing and Ive never had trouble getting guys but this guy is so much harder and I really really like him. How do I flirt with him; we never speak?!?! (link)
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I think you should ask him out, maybe now that he knows you like him hes nervous about asking you since you were so open about liking him (i know even though you never said any of that, guys have a hard time getting certain things through their thick head!). Dont just flat out ask him out, talk to him, even if he wont start the cnversations, just ask him about him, dont talk so much about you unless he asks or its neccessary. this way he'll see that you actually care for him, once you notice him loosening up ask him out! dont be nervous just go for it, and if it doesnt work out it'll be a learning experience, plus you will have overcome the fear a lot of girls have over asking a guy out themselves! good luck and tell me how it goes!
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i was just wondering if you can give me any advice on a good place to take a girl out on a first date. which would be better,the movies or the mall. if a movie what one would be the best. if the mall what oculd i do there. (link)
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I think movies are better, mall she'll be tempted to shop and you dont want to have to buy her all the stuff she wants or wait while she tries on the stuff, or she might be uncomfortable trying on clothes in front of you (not literally in front, but with you their, girls can get very touchy about their sizes). For a movie i suggest The Date Movie, its funny and obviously a date movie, you'll have plenty to talk about after and before too. After the movie you could take her out to icecream or since its cold maybe hot cocoa. That makes it a little romantic and you guys can talk then. good luck and if you do go to the mall avoid stores with large clothing selections, the girl will want to look and shop!
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