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Okay, i met this guy (Steve) last weekend. and he is incredible. he lives way over the other side of Australia though. he was here on holidays and i met him out clubbing. we talk every day and he is going to move here. the strange thing is that i'm not usually like this. i'm a very guarded person - afraid of getting hurt. my last boyfriend and i were together for 8 months and he was head over heals for me. i tried so hard to love him back but when i finally realised i didn't i had to end it. he didn't take it well. he cried and yelled and i felt so terrible. i hadn't dated since him. he wanted to move closer to me (only half an hour drive) and i said i didn't want him to do that on my account. now here i am telling Steve that i want him to move accross the country and i've only known him a week. could it really be love at first sight? i cant imagine my life without him. should i back off? or tell him not to move for me? i'm so confused! HELP! (link)
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No one can really tell you if it's love. Your heart decides it. If you've never been this way and Steve has caused your heart to open up, you might be in love, or maybe your heart is excited that you're back in the game, if you get what I mean. Don't back off, because that will make you sad and depressed and you'll never know what it could have been like. I suggest you call him and talk to him, a lot, so you get to know him more and more, and ask him if he's really ready to do it, if he is willing to and that kind of stuff. If he really seems like he wants to do this for you, then what the hell, let him do it, but if you're unsure and he's seeming unsure, tell him before you both make a mistake. Good luck, I hope you guys are happy!
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Okay I am 15yrs old, female, and I weigh like 145+ pounds, which is NOT healty because I am only 5ft 3.5in. When I was like 11yrs old I was like 5ft 1in and 185pounds so I have lost weight but ever since I reach 145pounds like a year ago I can not loose anymore weight. I excercise and eat healty (I used to be a vegitarian but now I just don't eat red meat) but none of that is helping me loose weight. I am constantly stressed out all of the time and rarely happy because I am so fat. Where I live everyone is so weight concious and not afraid to point out your defects so that does not help my stress or self esteem but seriously, what is wrong with me? Why can't I loose weight??? (link)
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You're stressed, and stress can make it harder and harder to lose weight. Don't call yourself fat, because it will make you more depressed. You have to keep your chin up and say you're ready to lose weight and you WILL lose weight, you just need to stop calling yourself fat. You need to get organized so you can be less stressed. You can do what makes you happy, like sports, or just playing around outside. When you are stressed, you won't lose weight, because your body and mind is too tense. You have to take it easy, keep eating healthy and exercising, and you can start losing wait again. And don't call yourself fat, you lost 40 pounds, you're on the right track, and you're definately on your way.
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I afraid of my boyfriends friends and he asked me if i wanted to go to a drive through with them and him. which makes me the only girl. and i said no thanks and he told me that we could make out the whole time. i trusted him. so i went and he went to get food and his friends started rapeing me and they told me if i screamed they would sufficate me so i didnt and i regret not screaming but i was so scared. my boyfriend was gone for like a half an hour which i thought was odd. and then they saw him coming so they got off me. i started crying and they made up an excuse why i was crying and he told them lets just go home. so the next day i told him and i couldnt stop crying he told me they didnt rape me and i was exagerating they were probaly just ticking me or osmething. i was going to tell my mom or someone but now im sure as hell nhot going to because if he doesnt believe me they wont either. im really scared and depressed and i cant stop crying what should i do? thanks. (link)
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You NEED to tell someone..and soon. You could put yourself in serious danger is you don't tell anyone. You can't "overexagerate" being raped, you just can't. If they raped, you, they raped you. This is really serious, and you have to tell your mom, and stay away from your boyfriend, break up with him, because he is serious trouble.
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im looking for a diet.
one that actually works.
something quick and easy.
i want to loose 20lbs..
help? (link)
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Special K. Eat it twice a day, replacing 2 meals. Exercise for at least 30-60 minutes a day. Try bike riding or swimming laps because it's hot out. And when you eat, STOP a little before you are full, because you will be satisfied but not bloated. In 2 weeks you can lose 5-6 pounds, paying attention to what I'm telling you. That means in a little over a month you can reach your goal. Good luck, and drink lots of water. *No sodas, high sugar juices, nothing like that. Water is your best friend now that you want to lose weight. Water and healthy food.
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ok so its summer break and i am a future sophmore. last night i forgot to throw away the garbage and my mom got mad. she told me that i am not going out with my friends anymore because i dont listen to her. its boring here in my house. she said that i am grounded for the whole summer! i hate her. she just wants to ruin my life. i cant go out anymore becasue i forgot to throw away the garbage?! im so mad right now. what am i going to do i cant stay here for the whole summer its so boring. i told her i was sorry and that i forgot and now she wont even talk to me. she tells me that i am so lazy because i only want to be with my friends. but i help around the house i do! and when she sees me on the computer she gets mad and says thats the only thing i do. theres nothing else to do here. and when i tell her im bored and to please let me out she gets mad and says "no youre not going out. clean if your bored!" as if thats fun for a 15 year old girl. she wont even let me out. its so boring here. i dont know what to do anymore. help me please anything is helpful. (link)
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Okay my mom is EXACTLY like that. You should sit down with her when she's in a calm mood and explain that there is nothing to do and you just want to have a fun summer. My mom thinks I always want to hang with friends, when I barely do because of her. Just don't nag her or bug her, and if you sit her down and ask why you were punished from forgetting to take out the trash, you could get a good explanation. But if it doesn't make sense like my mom 24/7, be firm and tell her that you're getting too bored to stay at home the whole summer.
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ok so i just got out of a friends with benefits relationship with my best friend. it caused a lot of drama when our friends found out about it. we never had sex we just did other things. he said he wanted to stop so all the drama would finally end and because he wanted to date again. a week later after all of this we were at a friends house hanging out in his hot tub and another one of our guy friends had his arm around me and my ex friend with benefits wouldn't stop staring at me...and my chest. now he just texted me and he wants to get back together but as friends with benefits. but i like someone and im not sure if they like me and i know 3 girls like him. im not really planning on getting back together with him i just dont know what to say to him. help! (link)
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I'm gonna be straight up and say that he's really just a guy wanting action..he was looking at your chest. I think you would be better off dating a different guy, because you know this guy will probably always be going on and off with you. He wants action--and that's not the best thing to deal with. I had a guy who was my best friend, and he started wanting action from me mainly because of my body, then he would stop talking to me and then he'd start talking to me again. You can get your feelings hurt--this guy hurt mine because I grew to like him but he just wanted action. Just tell him you're like someone else, and you're done with the friends with benefits thing. Tell him straight up, because you should make it clear that you're not going to get hurt.
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okay so im on my period and its really bad and like when i wear a tampon sometimes it leaks and it doesn't always like stay so i have to wear a pad too and i use regulars and im afraid to use a super. any ideas what i should do? oh and like how to not have as many cramps/gassy cramps? (link)
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BANANAS!! they help prevent cramps. and you should be active while having your period. i was having mine and i went bike riding for about 2 hours and i had NO cramps at all! so try being active. im not sure about the tampons b/c i dont use them. hope i sorta helped =]
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im 16 female turning 17 in 3 months and im 5'6 1/2 and i was not suppose to get up to being that tall my doctor told me that i was most likely going to stop growing when i reach 5'4 but i havent grown since last year and iv been 5'6 1/2 since last year and people keep telling me that im going to grow even taller than i am now because im not fully grown yet but i dont really believe them and i dont want that i dont want to be all extra tall so is being 5'6 1/2 at the age of 17 tall?? (link)
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you are NOT tall. im 12 and im 5'8, so youre definitely fine.
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i'm not sure what category to put this under
but i was wondering if any1 had updates on if a new grand theft auto was coming out, because i really want to play it, and i want the new one. so has anyone heard anything? (link)
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I'm really not sure, because I'm waiting too i LOVE those game and i'm getting tired of san andreas. the same company came out with that bully game but its not a grand theft auto.
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I straigten my hair everyday. and i always have a hair on top that kind of sticks up like obviously. and i condition my hair daily, where antifrizz stuff.
what else can i do? (link)
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Well, for one thing, you really shouldn't be straightening it everyday. Straightening your hair is burning it, and it's not healthy to do it everyday. But if you don't want frizz, try looking for RUSK SENSORIES: smoother. It's a leave in conditioner that always relaxes my hair when it frizzes and gives it a nice shine. It's an orange bottle. Hope I helped.
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ok so there is this guy i really like, and he really likes me. we spend hours on the phone every night and i can tell we both really like each other. today he found out i was friends w/ this girl and was like OMG YOU KNOW HER? YOU TALK TO HER? SHE IS SO HOT! AHH OMG! and so on. it really hurt my feelings and i don't understand why a guy would say that to a girl he likes/is interested in. can someone explain this to me? i wouldn't want to talk about a hot guy to him. i just dont get why he did that (link)
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guys do that when they LIKE you! he probably wants you to say 'omg shut up' because he wants to know that you like him and you'd get jealous/mad/sad. Just play it cool/laugh about it. You could just say, "Wow, you're pathetic." He'll laugh and the topic could be changed easily. Bu the chances are that he likes you and wants you to want him and be jealous like that. Don't worry.
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there's this guy that i like and he likes me back. we've liked eachother since..november.
the only reason why he won't ask me out is because i turned him down last time which was like, last year. and he's afraid i'll reject him again (according to one of his friends). so basically, he wants me to ask HIM out.
how do i do that though? it seems so hard. (link)
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honestly, if i were you, i would totally forgot about the guy. if he's afraid of rejection, then does he have the balls to do anything else? but if you think it feels right, ask him out. if his friends say he's afraid to ask, then you have a good chance of him saying yes. but watch out, because they might not be telling the truth.
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15/f.
is it true that diet soda is worse for you health wise than regular soda? i heard that drinking diet soda can make you gain more weight than drinking regular soda. is this true?
and what is the difference between diet coke and coke zero? (link)
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Diet soda is way worse. It's nothing healthy, and there is a chemical in diet sodas that make you want it more and more. Don't drink it, it's basically just water and chemicals with no calories. You're better off drinking regular soda, or not soda at all. Soda is bad for you, but if you want to drink it, stick to the regular kinds and stay away from diet sodas. As for diet coke and coke zero, I don't know their differences since I don't drink them.
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Ok so I'm a year older then all of my friends. And I don't want them to know. I didn't get left back or anything. I have my reasons why I don't want them to know. So I'm scared that if one of them sees my school I.D. They will see that I wasn't born the same year they were. I'm so scared. I really can't tell them the truth don't ask why please. So I was wondering if someone can help me make up a lie. I kniw lying is bad but I'm desperate. This tortures me so much!. I need a lie to tell them why it says that I'm a year older. Like I don't know maybe my passport did that when I came here I seriously need help please! (link)
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Do NOT lie. Believe me, when you lie, you keep doing it. It happens to everyone, because one lie leads to another, and so on. If they're your friends, then tell them the truth. If they're mean about it or anything like that, then are they REALLY your friends?
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Hey
For my birthday, I'm going to a fair with a lot of friends. Then friday's for dinner. It should be really fun. The boy I like is coming and it makes me a little nervous. I really want him to like me and I'm starting to think he does. What can I do? (link)
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Be yourself. If you be yourself, you would probably make him like you more, because that means he likes you for your personality and you could always be yourself if you guys end up together. So be yourself, and things will work out fine.
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Well, I've been going out with my boyfriend for a month and half, about. I like him a lot, and my friend likes his brother a lot too. Both my friend and I found out yesterday, out of the blue, that they`re both moving to the state neighboring us. For me, its hared enough to see him because I have a strict father. I don't know I can handle him moving away because I'd never see him. I want to break up with him because I think its best, but he said theres a chance he might come back here if he doesn't like the new school. I don't want to break up with him now, just in case he comes back,but I don't wanna wait because then he might think I found someone else. I have no idea what I should do. Any advice?
[14/f] (link)
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I totally understand. I think you should talk to your boyfriend about it. Tell him you think it's best. Chances are, you'll probably want to move on once he's gone. But something else you should do is follow your heart. WHat do you think? If you don't break up with him now, you could realy regret it. Ask him what he thinks is best. If you talk to him, then you could both be happy.
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