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I'm Jaz. I'm 17. I love photography and writing. and I've gone through a lot with self-injury, depression, and guys. I hope I can help you ask much as possible. I will give the most honest answer.

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Ive been cutting for about a year and i just got found out about a month ago. Im kinda happy to be out in the open about it and everything but i told my best friend and she didnt even care. She actually started to tell everyone shes an alcoholic when in reality shes acting drunk for the attention and now shes hurt that i dont care about her problem.. Its completly made up.. why should i care if shes doing it for attention everything she does is to start stuff and i really dont want to just ditch her cuz shes my best friend but i have no idea what to do anymore

you've been cutting for a year and just found out? that's not how it works.

as for your best friend, she'll get over it. it sounds like you're pretty young, so i'm sure things will blow over. just tell her she's looking for attention and has to stop.

you, on the other hand, should seek help for your self-injury. self-injury is a serious issue and needs to be helped.

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13/f

My discharge smells TERRIBLE.
& im embarrassed by it. I take
showers daily, and im sick of
feeling dirty and stuff. Any
remedies that you make AT HOME
[so parents dont find outttt]
& is safe to put down there?

no one really mentioned this, so i'm going to tell you.
talk to your mom about taking you to the doctor. it's nothing weird or anything, it's normal. all women get yeast infections and such from time to time. Just tell her what is going on, she'll understand, she's gone through it too.
If you can't trust your mom for some reason, then talk to a trusted adult, preferably female.
Just know, it's normal. Get to a doctor, and you'll be okay.

good luck =]

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no guy has ever really seen my boobs, even though many have asked. i'm afraid guys will think 'ew that girl has ugly boobs' or something. i dont know-i'm very self concious. like is therea a certain way boobs should look? thanks.

i had that problem a few months ago. boobs are boobs, it doesn't matter. i still don't see what is so attractive about them, but guys like them. there is no certain way boobs should look.

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Alright so, my boyfriend and I have been together for almost a year and we've started having sex. We usually use condoms, but I was wondering.. how effective is the "pull-out method" i know a lot of people think it should be shunned but, i know a lot of people who have done it a lot and have had nothing happen. What do you guys think?

Use condoms.
My mother got pregnant at age 16 because she used the pull out method and no condom.
Guys have pre-cum before they actually ejaculate. and pre-cum can still get you pregnant.

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Okay, so I read a question about a girls boyfriend wanted her to give him a lap dance, which got me thinking...

I wanna give my boyfriend a lapdance.
I just have no idea what to do..
Can someone please give a step-by-step on how to give a sexy lapdance? Thanks.

well, i can't tell if you this actually a lap dance, but what i do is basically just dance in a very sexy way.
but there really is no step-by-step. it's hard to explain how to give a lap dance, and i'm still not sure if what i'm doing is even a lap dance. lol.

good luck =]

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this girl on my friends list has this awesome photoshop. in one of her pictures, she did this crazy eye makeup and did her bangs like bright pink. but its not like she just colored over it, it made it actually look like thats how it really was. but the rest of the picture was untouched. does anyone know what photoshop this could be or where i could download a free similar one? i asked her what it was and she wouldnt tell me.

She probably used Adobe Photoshop.
and there is no such thing as 'free'.
But Paint Shop Pro is cheaper and does all the same things basically.

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every year i start off the school year being shy. last year i finally opened up and grew out of being shy and now that its a new year im back to being shy and i hate it. i can talk around my friends and stuff without a problem, but people i dont really know too much like my classmates, i cant open up to them. they either do all the talking and i just stand there looking like an idiot not knowing what to say, or i just neveer talk to them. i dont want to be shy but every time i try not to be shy i feel like everyones staring at me. I DONT WANNA BE KNOWN AS THE SHY GIRL. all of my friends know that im loud and stuff, but the rest of the people dont know i exist cuz im soo quiet. what can i do to break outta my shell and just let loose?

i'm going through the same problem too. I'm very shy, and people think I'm a bitch because I don't talk.
Recently, I've stopped caring so much what people think and just started going along with things. Helping out with school activities, such as plays/musicals or something like that, is a great way to open up with people. I just did that last night. I handed out programs at my school's play, and I met this one girl, and I was just talking to everyone. And people will normally try to talk to you if you look friendly, just talk back and ask questions and enjoy.

good luck =]

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Let me first describe this one girl to you--
-her names hayley.
-shes the popularest one in school
-people worship her. [she even has people who go out to her locker for her & get her things!]
-shes really confident
-but shes also really mean. .. if she doesnt like you.
-shes really rich. she has a ton of REAL louis, chanels, coachs juicys & all that.
-her dog evne wears like these juicy jackets & stuff.

She had this big party, & you had to be on her A-list to get invited. I wasn't I was like on her B-list or something. & she posted it everywhere in school, & everything. Anyways, shes been REALLY nice to me lately, & i want to be better friends with her. Her one friend just moved away, & that means theres a spot open. & i want to make that spot for me. how do i do it?

don't tell me, to be myself or anything.. because, that obviously hasn't been working out too well.

kthanks

alright, this is gonna be harsh and not what you want to hear,
but you don't want to be her friend. well..really..you don't need to be her friend. being popular in school gets you no where in life. it doesn't look good on college applications, and it doesn't get you a career. yeah, it may seem important now, but do you really want to be a servant to a girl who doesn't really care about you?
and you can never replace friends a person has once had.
and why do you want to be fake with people? if you're fake, no one will take your seriously. be yourself. forget her. find some true friends.


i apologize for being harsh, but it's the truth.

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mmk, so last year i was seeing a shrink but then i became uncomfortable with her because i knew her outside of the office and it was just coincidental like my parents didn't seyt it up that way thats just how things worked out. I became untrusting so i stopped going. I want to go see a new shrink but im not sure how to tell my mom and dad again. like, last time i was haveing a big problem and now i just want to go for like that extra person to talk to you know?... how shouldi go about askingg?

i'm going through the same thing. i was going through some issues about 2 years ago, but now i want to go back just have someone to talk to, just not sure how to ask my mom.
i suggest just saying that you want someone to talk to and would like to see a new counselor/therapist.

good luck =]

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ya so basically i had no clue what topic to put this under. but i have this thing were i will be in a deep deeeeep sleep and if someone comes in my room or cracks the door open say my mom or my bro and i will pop out of a deep sleep jump and just look at them... its weird because im not meaning to wake up its just a reatcion and its also weird because everyone in my house is mad quiet when it comes to people sleeping but it doesnt matter if they dont make a noise i will pop up out of a deep sleep and just look at them.. and i can also tell if someone is staring at me because i can be in shcool doin what i gotta do and ill just stop doin what im doin and look up right at the person thats staring at me. and it could be someone right on the other side of the room and i kno who is starin at me out of like 20 people. One last thing, and if im in my room up and everythin just chillin in my chair that has its back faced to the door, my bro will try an sneak up on me and before he can open the door all the way i will turn around and catch him..

lol i kno this may sound dumb but im just askin if this weird or just a normal reation that most ppl have???

Everyone is different. Some people can feel people looking at them/sneaking up on them/etc.. more strongly than others. It's normal, but you just have a higher sense of it.

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I think way too much and I can't help it, I've been doing this since I was a little kid. I overreact to the most stupid things. For example, I have trouble falling asleep because I'm up worrying about college and I'm only a SOPHOMORE in high school. My mom yelled at me for being late for school today and I wanted to cry about it. And, my friend didn't say bye to me when I left school and it got me in the worst mood. My mind immediately jumps to the worst scenario, like "OMG she didn't say bye because she hates you!" and I freak out about it. Sometimes I wish I could turn my mind off, because now I'm getting in these terrible moods and yelling at people because I worry too much. I always think that people hate me but I know that's not true. Ugh I wish I could just stop. And right now I'm worrying about worrying. Ahhh. Any suggestions on how I could just get myself to calm down a bit and stop thinking about everything? Thanks.

well first off, this is normal.
secondly, just take a deep breath, and maybe write down everything you're worried about. or, talk to one of your friends about everything you're worried about.
when i start worrying about a million things at once and start jumping to conclusions, i realize i'm really stressed out and need to chill out. so, i turn on music and/or i do art (photography, writing, drawing, graphic design), and that is how i cope. everyone copes differently. just do something that calms you down.

good luck =]

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ive never kissed a guy b4 but i want to..how without making a fool of myself?

it comes natrual.

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Well... (im a girl)ever since about a year ago, ive reckoned i was gay.In year 5(im now in year 8 and im 13)i yoused to sort of make out with this girl when we slept over each others houses but i just put it down to experimentation. Now i really like girls and dont really like guys and i keep having dreams and watch movies with lots of gay/lesbian people in them. Im not to bothered by the fact of being gay but i was wondering that seeing as i dont have a girlfriend and im not about to tell my parents anytime soon, what should i do?

you're at a young age where you're still experimenting. give it a few years before you completely say that you're gay.
i'm still confused about my sexuality, but i'm still young and haven't experienced everything.

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not to offend anyone. but if youre a virgin right, and then like you get raped.. and then later on you were asked if youre a virgin or not, would you say yes or no?

some people believe they didn't lose their virginity when they are raped. others believe they lost their virginity and that's it.

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My boyfriend and I have been dating for 7 months. We have both agreed to stay virgins until we are married .. but it seems like everytime we are together, we end up fooling around. I'm 16 and he's 17 .. but I'm worried that we are going to end up being so consumed with sexual things, that we won't be able to connect on the level that we used to. He is my best friend, and I love him very much - I plan on talking to him about this, I'm just not sure that I know what to say. Is this a problem? And if so, what do I say? I know he still loves me, and he'll be fine if we don't do sexual things, but it just HAPPENS.

You're coming to a point in your relationship where things become slightly sexual. After a while, there are certian levels in the relationship that need to met; it just happens natrually.
I would talk to him about it. But really, things will be fine. It's just time to connect a little differently.

good luck =]

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I'm a teenage g i r l. There's a guy who I want to hook up with, and we planned it for next month. I want to do it really badly, as I'm not a christian so I can do whatever I want sexually. But the thing is: I just can't decide if the pleasure is worth the guilt I'll suffer from- if there IS going to be any guilt. I just don't know how guilty I'd feel afterwards. Especially IF and WHEN i happen to meet someone worth dating or marrying.
All advice will be appreciated.

if you're losing your virginity to this guy, don't do it. if you're hooking up to lose your virginity, you will definately feel guilty.

i'm not christian, so don't think i'm giving the christian point of view but, virginity is a gift. i believe you should share your body with someone you love and someone who loves you back. your body is your's. and i don't think you sound ready. if you're still thinking about it, you're not ready (as my friends say, and i'm beginning to believe it).

good luck =]

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Has anyone else besides me noticed that the age of kids starting to have sex is dropping more and more. I mean the other day my friend told me she knew an 11 year old that had sex. I was like whoah thats messed up i'm 15 and i'm still a virgin and proud of it.lol. I mean serisouly what kind of a message is this sending to other countries?

So two questions...

Do you think Americas youth is way too sex oriented? yes or no?

If so what do you think is the cause for this? ex.tv music etc....


Thamx in advance

this is an advice site, not a forum.
thanks.

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18/F

Okay, my boyfriend and I have been together for 2 and a half years. I really want to lose my virginity to him. He is not a virgin but obviously I am.

I've talked to him about it and he says its my decision and he will stand behind which ever I make. (Wait or Not Wait)

Half of me wants to do something, then the other half is just like worried. I know I'm gonna spend the rest of my life with this man.

What do you guys thimk I should do?

Also, I heard you bleed a lot when you lose it. He has a rather large penis. So will I bleed heavy like on my period? Or just a little? And if I put my pants on afterwards, will I bleed threw my pants?

Thanks.

I was going through the same thing a few weeks ago. I'm worried about the consequences and it hurting and such, otherwise I feel ready, yet my friends are saying I'm not ready if I'm still thinking about it.

I truthfully believe no one is ever fully ready, but do what you feel is right. If you feel it is right for not only you, but both of you as a couple, then yeah, you may be ready.

I'm not going to to tell you whether or not you're ready, or if you should do it, but if you feel that it is right, then go for it. But if you have second thoughts, then it's just not meant at this very moment. Just wait a little while.


and i'm not sure about the bleeding, sorry. but i've heard that it varies from girl to girl. I suggest getting an old towel and having that under you when you have sex just incase.

Good luck! =]

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whats "pootang" mean?

anus

http://www.urbandictionary.com/define.php?term=pootang

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what do you wear when you sleep for your period? cause arnt you only suppost to keep tampons in for a sertain number of hours, though when i sleep in pads it gets all over

well i personally wear a pad when i sleep. but, you can wear a tampon, but because of the whole certian hours thing, maybe only do that on school nights when you know you'll only be sleeping for a certian number of hours.

i suggest Always pads. they have "wings" and i never usually have problem. just put a new pad on before you go to bed.

(sorry it took me so long to reply)

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