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My boyfriend and I have been dating for 7 months. We have both agreed to stay virgins until we are married .. but it seems like everytime we are together, we end up fooling around. I'm 16 and he's 17 .. but I'm worried that we are going to end up being so consumed with sexual things, that we won't be able to connect on the level that we used to. He is my best friend, and I love him very much - I plan on talking to him about this, I'm just not sure that I know what to say. Is this a problem? And if so, what do I say? I know he still loves me, and he'll be fine if we don't do sexual things, but it just HAPPENS.
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Dear u,
you should really tell him if it just happens that you will always stay frineds hope i helped
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Hi,
Its good that you are having a lot of fun, it isn't bad if you just happen to have sex its still as special as when you married x
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From my experience, the more you do, the harder it is to stop. Me and my last boyfriend both wanted to wait till marriage too, but we didn't realise how easy it was to get carried away... Try talking to him about it and setting yourself boundries.. as in when you get to a certain point, you'll stop, and both of you take responsibility for that, not just you. Its hard being the one who has to say no all the time. I've foudn when you have boundries, you always wana push them a little further though, and it gets harder and harder to wait... So just talk it through with your boyfriend, decide how important it is to you both to wait and how you can avoid situations where you might get tempted to go further than you want. Hope everything goes ok xxx
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You're coming to a point in your relationship where things become slightly sexual. After a while, there are certian levels in the relationship that need to met; it just happens natrually.
I would talk to him about it. But really, things will be fine. It's just time to connect a little differently.
good luck =]
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Being sexual isn't a bad thing. Taking it to far is a bad thing. You're not taking it too far. Waiting until marriage for intercourse is a great plan. People view sex negatively only to discourage people that have little self control from doing something stupid. It's actually very healthy and natural to express yourselves to each other sexually. There's nothing wrong with it at all. It's not going to affect how you connect. Just view sex as an activity that is totally separate from the emotional part of your relationship. Sure it may be tied to positive emotions, but sex isn't going to help you learn about each other and it's not going to help you grow together. It just feels good and nothing more. The best part is, that's okay. As long as you have good self control, which it seems you do, you will be just fine. Be sexual to your hearts content. :)
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hi! I know in what situation your passing by. I have your same age and it is being hard sayin that your are going to be virgin until you get married, but it itsn't impossible. With all the supprt of him both of you can stay virgin. You could be aware of all the disease you culd get by having sex, right? Theres AIDS ... You need to say No to sex beacause it's nmot moral to do this. You need to telll him that first you need to know each other doesn't you could experiment new topics that you've never touched an being real specific noyt having i thats not COOL HE will understand, If i was him i understan, but everyone get things differnt.
THNX
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Well. Actually, this is funny. Because I just went to a workshop on this topic this weekend (at a youth convention). What they told us was very simple. "stay Vertical". Don't lay down when you do things with him. When you lay down, it makes you think of sex more. Also, they told us that you shouldn't do things such as oral sex, or anything too far past making out. Once again, those things can really make you think of sex, and the more you do them, the more comfortable you will get with using those parts of your bodies, then sex might not seem so bad. So if you don't do them (or stop doing them) then that might also help. You just need to have a talk with him, and set some bounderies. By the way you talk about him, I'm sure he will be fine with it. If he's starting to want to have sex, tell him that sex is a bond, something that connects you to another person, like a piece of tape. What happens if you reuse tape? It loses it's stickyness. It no longer works. Reusing sex is the same thing. It will become defective. Let him know you love him, but this is very important to you. Good luck, I hope everything goes well.
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