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Hey- i'm Emily. I love my friends and most ask for my help with various situations... so I guess i'm good at giving advice lol. I am a freshman, i love the band, and i am somewhat outgoing. Ask me anything and i'll do my best to help. :)
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i just found out my best friend is pregent, she is about 5 to 6 months along and is due in january and she is going to make the kid call me aunt because we are so close, like sisters. i feel totally shocked because she is only 17 while she is gonna marry the guy, i know its gonna be hard for her, and im just not sure what to do for her right now, i just need some ideas because i am completely in shock.
Since you are so close the best you can do is be a great support system. That is what she probably needs right now. Just be there for her when she needs help. Tell her you are there for her and thats the best you can do. She probably isn't expecting you to do something huge so don't worry about it.
Ta- ems
*GIRLS ONLY*
umm my mom found some pads in my drawer and now she thinks i got my period. I havent gotten my period yhet and i only had those pads for justincase, but she wont believe me! what do i do?!?!?!
P.S. I rate
Explain to her that they were for just-in-case. She probably thinks that you are just embarrased. Think of some questions to ask her so she will believe you.
ems
What would be worse?
Straightening your hair alomost everday
or
Putting mousse,gel and hairspray in it almost everyday as well?
Straightening your hair everyday is VERY bad for it. It burns the hair and dries it out. Not a good thing.
Putting mousse, gel, and hairspray is worse though. It kills the hair and gives you major dandruff problems.
Try avoiding both- if you can.
ems
There is this one guy that me and him are pretty good friends. He's a year younger than me, so he just moved up to the jr/sr high school. I see him a lot now and talk to him a lot more than before. And I'm not sure why but it seems like he likes me. And the problem with that is he has a girlfriend. Earlier this week me and some other people were hanging out at a school basketball game and during his girlfriends game he came and sat in front of me to talk to me. And a lot of hims when he'd turn around he'd like put his arm or hand on my knee or leg. The other day his g.f got hurt in gym and had to leave school, he came and sat with my friends and I during lunch. And then last night at the football game (which his girlfriend was at...but they weren't hanging out that much.) it was like 50 or below degrees and I was freezing so he offered me his hoodie. And he walked to the near-by gas station with us to get coffee and stuff. So I'm just wondering do you think he likes me? Please no stupid anwsers I just want to know what other people think. Thanks
Yes he likes you! And he really likes your attention to...but the problem is he has a gf. (uh-oh)
Ok I have a boyfriend and everything and I am afraid that he will want to kiss me. I don't have a problem with that. Its just my mom. She is VERY protective and if he does kiss me I am afraid that someone will tell her and she will get really mad. So What can I do. I have already talked to her and she said I am too young. :(
13/f No Smartasses either!
Go talk to your bf. Explain your situation- if he really likes you he will understand. Ask your Mom WHEN she feels you are old enough to kiss. Then tell him how old you need to be. So now he has an idea of when he will be able to and you won't have to worry about him kissing you out of the blue.
*ems*
k you may get a lot of these i dunno.
So I liked one of my really good friends.. *jake*. Today my friend *amy*, his really really best friend told me that i liked him.. he said that he doesn't really want to have a girlfriend this year (which was not wat i was going for anyway... i just like him.. and i seriously dont care bout that), and he asked me if im okay and i said that i was and i was still smiling and stuff.. but when amy got off the bus he was all looking at me funny and i said "why are you looking at me funny?" and he said "first you were my best friend and now you like me and im never gonna look at you the same again." That bothered me. Mucho. So i said that i just liked him a little and (which i only DID like him a little)it wasn't an obsession (which is what a lot of boys tend to think)... then i had to get off the bus.
How do I get him to act normal around me again??
Also how do i get it through to him that i didn't like him that much.. basically i was leaning toward getting over him cuz i liked him last year more.
HOW DO I FIX THE SITUATION!! I REALLY WANT MY FRIEND BACK!!!
Help
Please!!
Well tell him you never wanted to like him that much and you were getting over him in the first place.
Even though you may tell him that, it probably won't change anything. Take it from his point of view: Imagine one of your friends thats a guy saying they like you. Would you look at them the same? Probably not. Sorry hon', but thats the truth.
But cheer up. Maaaaaaybe he will get over that in a few months. Maybe weeks, but more likely months. Hope I helped!
*ems*
What are some good study habits???
Don't put off studying the night before the test,use note cards to study imp facts and vocab words, and call a friend and quiz eachother!!!
Hope I helped.
*ems*
I have a friend and i count her as my best friend but i dont no if im her best friend she doesent tell wat do i do
When you are best friends with someone, you just know it alreday in your heart. I know that sounds cheesy but it is SO the truth. No words need to be said, because if you really are bff's then you should know it in your heart.
I need to go on a diet but I don't know what a healthy diet would be. My question is what kind of diet should I go on and how should I do it.
Note: I'm 130 pounds, so nothing to drastic, I want to get down to about 115 or maybe 110. I'm also exercising along with it. Thank you for any help you guys give.
I suggest eating healthier. For losing just 15-20 pounds you shouldnt diet... Try walking. If you have a dog you can power walk or run instead of just strolling along to the speed of your grandma. Lol Hope I helped!
*emster*
Hey. I have this big pimple under my skin. Like it isn't on the surface but it is under, and it looks like I have a big bug bite on my chin, and it is huge. Now I normally wouldn't worry about this but I have to go to a viewing tomorrow, and I was wondering if there is away to bring it to the surface to pop it? Also please don't suggest to use make-up because it only makes it look worse the next day. Thanks :)
Most of the pimples you pop don't go away until after a day or two. So unless you want a big and bloody bump instead of a bug bite bump don't pop it!!!
I have no other ideas (sorry!) but just don't pop it!
*emster*
I am NOT fat but I'm not as skinny as I want to be. My mom says I'm getting a butt, what can I do to not add on pounds but not STARVE myself!?
Trade in your cheetos for those carrot sticks! Try cutting out junk food and eat healthier. While eating out look away from the Big Mac and get interested in those salads. They are actually pretty good- Try running. If you have a dog and regularly walk it, you can power walk or run.
*emster*
Every other week I babaysit these two kids. One is 10 years old and the other is like 7 or 8. All they ever do is want to swim. I'm not allowed to let them goign swimming in the hottest hours (i liv in tx) and that is from 1-3. I try and get them to do other things like watch movies (they have tivo) and sometimes I try and get them to play board games. They never are satisfied! What other things can I do to get them to have fun?!?!?!
Try asking their parents if you can walk to the park! Also ask if you can bake cookies. That is an everyone participates activity where rarely no one is left out.
Ask them what their main hobbies are. If they say coloring, reading, etc. get them coloring books and crayons or buy them some easy books...
You can play a game where you pour the crayons in a bag and pull 5 out for each kid. Tell them to draw a picture of something only using those.
Ask them what their fav movie is and download it on Tivo.
Good Luck!
*emster*
Alright so heres the whole story. 2 years ago there was this guy that just moved to our town in like- april. I liked him sooo much the DAY he got here. He was cute and just so sweet. Well, i'm a twin and my twin didn't really like him so i never really told her that i liked him. But he wasn't in any of my classes so i never got to talk to him much execept outside of school or in the hallways. But my twin was in ALL of his classes, and since he was new her math teacher paired her up with him when we had to get with parterns or something. They got really close. And he started to like my sister. A couple of days later he asked her out and of course she said yes! I was crushed. I still really liked him a lot. i never talked to her about it. but they broke up like 3 months later because he liked someone else. He sorta cheated on her with this other girl my sister hates now. My sister and him don't even talk to each other anymore. BUt me and him are really close. Well, we were last year. I can tell my sister hates it whenever she sees me talking to him. One day after school my sister told me that he called her my name. He thought that i was her and started to sit next to her. She told him it was her and i could tell he felt really embarassed. I still like him a lot. I can't help it. He always can make me laugh and he is the hottest guy i ever met in person. My twin isnt only my sister, she's my best friend. He is always on my mind and but i feel that im betraying my sister. And the worst new yet, is he's moving at teh end of this year! and i never had my chance, i no he will never like me and i don't even have a chance but i cant stop dreaming about him and thinking about him. All i hear is his name in the hallways. But now he doesn't even talk to me. Since school just started. We used to be so close i dont no why. I really need help!
Wow! Talk to your sister. Ask her if she still likes him. Let everything out in the open and tell her you like him to. Since you are both bff's then she should know the truth. If she is mad at least you have the guilt of not-telling-her-what-is-going-on off your back.
You also need to tell her that you really like him (include the fact you have liked him since the first few days he moved in) and you want a shot with him. That way if something happens b/w you and him she will already know you like him and not be freaking out.
Do you have any classes with him? If so, try talkign to him like you used to. If not, call him. Ask him what's up and ask him how he's been for the past few months.
I can't tell you what to do from there but talk to BOTH of them. Maybe the two of you will get close before he leaves.
Sorry so long- I hope I helped :)!
*emster*
what can i do to become less nervous.. my face tends to become red alot
Wow you have the same problem I do.
What I do is take deep breaths and try to realize no one really remembers if your face turns red two days later. The only person who really cares about it a lot is, well, you.
Hope I helped even though is really short!
*emster*
My Best Friend ( Katie ) just met this other girl. I totally don`t mind her hangin out with other people, but this girl does drugs and things like that. Katie is startign to hang out with Lauren more and more cause they both like the same "punk" music and they love doing goth-like things ( i dont like lables but thats just how they put it ) I`m more of the preppy, country music, shopping, french manicure type girl. Is it time for me and Katie to move on since were different? Or should I stay and watch her get herself into trouble and fight to keep her.
- need help please.
Talk to your friend. Tell her you care about her and you don't want to see her get hurt- ever. Tell her you will always be there for here no matter what and that you feel you are drifting apart. What did you do before that kept you so close together? Was it shopping- going skateboarding...? Ask her if she can hang out and you guys can do whatever it was.
Hope I Helped!
XxEmsterxX
Warning this is going to be long. OK well I really need advice. Im 13-f and I have a boyfriend that I dont really like anymore but hes like crazy over me and I like these two other guys one is in my science class and hes really funny and he flirts somtimes and then the guy in my student council class is really nice and funny too. So what I want to know is how can I break up with my boyfriend if im really sensitive and who to pick of who I really like more so please help and please no mean coments like this doesnt make any sense or learn how to spell if I spelled anything wrong so someone please give me a serious answer!!! Thanx!
Just tell your bf the truth- the sooner you end it the sooner you can get it off your back. Sry I'm not too good at those things lol.
Just be yourself around the two. The one you really will want to choose will probably become obvious in a few days/weeks. Which one flirts with you more? Which one can you see youself ina relationship with? Whichever one seems best to you..
Haha- the word 'doesn't' has a apostrophe in it lol JK! JK!
*emster*
hey umm i was just wondering how ur friends made the filing cabinet or mailbox costumes??? thanks bunches..just looking around for some ideas!
One of them had a long rectangular box that was in their garage and had no use. We were at her house wondering what we could be and we were like, "Hey- that looks like a filing cabinet!" so we painted it to look like a filing cabinet and cut one of the 'drawers' out for her head. the she put it over her head and cut huge holes for her arms.
Mailbox: This was kind of a weird looking mailbox. We bent posterboard over my friends head and took duck tape and taped it over her head leaving it not completely folded in order for it to look like (gasp!) a MAILBOX! lol...
Then she taped a red flag to the side... Does that make any sense? Sry...
ANOTHER IDEA: MAILMAN!
I'm 14 and a Freshman in high school.
Last year at my 8th grade end of the year formal dance, I slow danced a few dances with this guy i knew named John. According to rumor he liked me. in the days after the dance i was very confused as to weather i liked him or not (now i know i didnt really like him, but the fact that he liked me made me think i liked him... werid i know) my friends took charge telling me i liked him and made me invite him to my "8th grade graduation party" There it was a little awkard... cuz he's the shyer type and i was with all my friends and stuff as well... but nothing really happened there. In about three days... he asked me out (my friends arranged it, so when he asked me to meet him at the park i knew what it was for) he brought me a rose and everything and it was really sweet. I said yes. It was summer, so in the days following he left for vacation and later so did i. we talked on the phone alot, but i always felt awkard talking to him... it never seemed like our conversations flowed smoothly or anything. when i finally got home from vacation.. i pretty much avoided him for a couple weeks. Using my broken ankle as an excuse (it really was broken). Then i finally got up the courage to break up with him.he just said "ok" and we didnt talk for the rest of the summer. when school started again (we're going to the same high school) i was friendly and stuff, but no biggie. at the back to school dance he asked me to dance during the last song of the night. ... i retunctantly said ok. then my friends saved me "you're dad is here!" lol
that was a month ago.... now we wave and say hi when we see each other, which isnt often. i've heard he still likes me, and the other day he called me... and i missed his call, but he didnt leave a message so i never called him back. (i had heard that he was going to ask me to go to the dance with him) Homecoming Dance is tonight and i'm afraid that he's going to ask me to dance... and well i want to say no. But how can i do it without hurting his feelings too bad?? and being polite and nice and stuff
Wow- that was long...Lol
Just tell him you don't think you two would make a cute couple and you were planning on going with your friends. Make sure you tell them (your friends) that you don't want to go with him so they don't set anyhting up. If his feelings get hurt and he shows it at least you ended it and didnt let him keep asking you and asking you and getting turned down over and over. If he kept getting turned down it would probabky hurt him more.
i babysit one 5 year old girl and one 7 year old boy every tuesday, and i dont know what to do with them. they only can watch tv or play video games for a total of 1 hour and 30 minits. the girl always wants to play barbies or computer games with me and i can tell the boy gets kind of bored. could someone help me come up with some crafts or games i can play with both of them? thanx i rate high
Ask parents if you can: bake cookies, go to the park, roller skate in the driveway...
You could bring them coloring books, buy crayons. You can play this game where you dump all of the crayons into a lunch sack and pull out 5 for each kid. Let them draw youa picture using only those colors.
You can bring a deck of cards and play go fish. Play easy games like Hide and Go Seek, Tag in the backyard, freeze tag, Cartoon tag (person about to be tagged can save themselves by touching the ground and saying a cartoon before you tag them), and TV tag(same thing).
Sorry so short- Hope I helped!
*emster*
i'm going to be 15 october 3rd, and i've never had a boyfriend, a kiss, anything close to a boyfriend. i have a TON of guy friends, i'd like to think i'm pretty popular, i have gorgeous friends, i think i'm pretty well-liked...but i'm just not that pretty. i'm a 'prep' (in other words, i wear american eagle, aero, etc...i straighten my hair and do my makeup) but i wear like a size 12-14. guys think i'm 'cute' and they like me as a friend. i really want to get a boyfriend before formal which is january 19th. what to do???
Just be yourself. Guys will come around and see how great you are. Lots of girls I know have never had a bf, kiss, date, etc and one of them is 16!
Be yourself- remember if you put on an act just to have a guy like you they will not really know the real you and don't you just wanna be yourself all of the time??
Guys arent everything...
Sorry so short but I hoped I helped a little.
*emster*