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Well okay i have always wnated to know this like do guys like it more when you shave down there or not i am really confused please help D: (link)
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Hi,
for the most part, I don't think that guys really care one way or another if you shave. I mean some have a preference, but most of them just want to get down to business,lol
Good luck,
Ediemarie
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Okay. I've been with my boyfriend for over two years. Well my last period was 11/9. Well its now 12/9. So its only two days late, but I'm still kinda worried. I mean, mine are late bc I'm not on BC or anything. But I just I'm kinda freaked out. He said we used something everytime. I'm trying not to worry bc I know that can make it late too. I looked up signs and symptoms and everyone I have, (sour breast, tiredness, and late period)it says that other reasons are stress and your about to start. I have only 3 out of 25 signs, so I'm thinking things are on my side. Which stress is true, because its basketball season and I always stress about it, haha. And I also could be starting. I think I'm having cramps but idk.
any help maybe? (link)
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Hi,
since you used birth control, I wouldn't worry just yet. However, time is winding down. Keep track of it and see your doctor if you don't get it. There could be a number of other reason why you haven't started yet. I hope it works out for you.
Good luck,
Ediemarie
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17/f
I want to have attractive friends. Not all of them but.. I just do. What's with me? I want to have good looking friends that I can go out and have fun with. Friends that I can attract guys with, go shopping with, and take photos with. I don't know if I need some sense talked into me or if this is fine. I'm self confident and not afraid to be seen with the friends I have now but I'd just like a change. Please help. :) (link)
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Hi,
I don't think what you're feeling is too uncommon, but like you said, it is pretty shallow. Just because you're pretty on the outside doesn't mean you're pretty on the inside. When all of the pictures have been taken and the shopping has been done, do you have a genuine friend left on the inside.
More times than not, the pretty one is the one who is going to steal that man you're trying to attract. Think about it.
Good luck,
Ediemarie
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ok so i had sex for the first time about 5 days ago, he didnt cum inside me but i no that there is a chance of getting prego from the pre-cum. anyway im just really scared that i might be pregnant, last night i started getting small crmps like i usually do before my period and i have them again tonight, do you think they could be an early sign that im prego? please help asap (link)
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Hi,
I really don't think that the cramping is a sign of early pregnancy. It's also a little to soon to tell if you're pregnant. There's always a chance of pregnancy since you didn't mention birth control, but I really doubt it. Next time just protect yourself. Give yourself some time and try not to worry.
Good luck to you,
Ediemarie
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I have a little problem i will go see the doctor soon but my oppointment is not till the 19th.i recently lost my virginty around the month of november i had sex about 7 times never bleed all the first times till the last time .while we were doing towards the end i felt a sharp pain and stopped (we were doing it a bit rough)I went home and woke up and saw about two little drops of blood didnt freak out but two days later theres been blood comming out not heavy but brown blood it comes once in a while im not sure whats that about still happening after a week. (link)
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Hi,
I think you're right. The best thing you can do is go to your doctor. It could be a number of things. It could be an infection. I don't know what kind of birth control you are on, but it could be related to that or your hormones. How close are you to starting your period? That could also be related.
I'm sure it's not anything serious, but be sure to check it out. I wish you nothing but the best of luck.
Ediemarie
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To all you girls out there, I have a question/scenario. Here is your chance to give some good advice to a confused man. I had been dating this girl for about 4 months. Everything thing was going FANTASTIC! I played it cool - didn’t rush anything - Just had the most amazing time together. I came over a couple of days ago and she did a complete 180 on me and said it was not working for her anymore. That’s fine, we all go through it – Here is my question: She also told me that when she realized that she loved me - she realized that she could not be in a committed relationship. How do you take that? What do you do about it? Should you do anything? She said she was in basic panic mode and felt uncomfortable in any relationship. She had been single for 6 yrs before she met me. Any advice here is good and appreciated. Thanks! (link)
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Hi,
this is a good question. I think your ex got into a relationship with you thinking that it was going to be no different than any other relationship that she had been in. That was until she fell in love with you. She's probably scared to death. People back out of relationships when they get scared.
The fact that she had not been in a relationship for 6 years before you tells me that maybe she was hurt before. If this is the case, you may want to take more time with her and find out what's going on in her mind and in her heart.
If you agree and think this is the case as well, don't give up on her just yet. From the sounds of it, you were really into her.
She hasn't told you enough about why she called it off and you didn't ask enough questions.
If you want her, see it through 'til the end. I hope I helped and it works out for you the way you want it to.
Good luck,
Ediemarie
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Ok, I saw this thing on the tyra show about someone auctioning off her virginity and was wondering what is the big deal to a guy to sleep with a virgin?? And I was wondering if when a guy gets like turned on i guess and gets an erection but dosen't actually end up having sex, does it hurt for them? (link)
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Hi,
I don't really know what the big deal for a guy is other that wanting to be the first one to pop a girls cherry. For them, the older the girl the better. They figure no one else has hit it and it turns them on in some kind of weird way.
it doesn't hurt when a guy doesn't have sex after an erection, but he'll be so sexually frustrated he'll get blue balls; lol! I hope I helped.
Good luck,
Ediemarie
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I am not sure what category this goes under but, For starters My periods haven't been regular since I gave birth to my son. Although, July, August, Sep. I had a period and October I didnt. I thought I was pregnant. The pregnancy test i did take was wrong because it took 5 hours to develop an answer. I got in a car accident yesterday, walked away shook up and shaking but that was it my son and I were fine. My dad said the way we hit the car should of rolled a few thousand feet and we should have been in body bags but we were lucky. An hour and a half after that i had to go to work I was having sharp pains and stuff but didnt think anything of it. that night when i got home i went to the bathroom and it looked like a blood clot but it was hard. (not a lot of blood) then while sleeping i had some blood and its bright red usally i bleed dark. Im not really bleeding now except when i go to the bathroom when im done there is a little thats bright red on the toliet paper thats it... sorry for all the details i just need to know a answer? could i have had a miscarriage. a friend of mine told me she had a miscarriage the way i just told her. (link)
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Hi,
I'm not a doctor, so I can't be absolutely sure about what is happening to you, but I do think you could have very well had a miscarriage. It doesn't seem like you would have been that far along, so that amount of blood is not unheard of. Sharp pains are quite common right before a miscarriage.
To be sure and safe, please get it checked out by a gynecologist. If you did have a miscarriage, you want to make sure that your uterus is clear otherwise it could cause complications. I hope I helped and that you use this advice.
Good luck,
Edidmarie
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sorry i wrote my question to quick. so my ex and i broke up halloween night. we have been talking a lot to work things out. we are on a break. we are also in a long distance relationship. we are passed the break up and why we did it and all the problems. we are working on the problems right now. but when im talking or texting him, i get sad because i get memories of us and i want things to go back to the way they were. he is a great guy and i was and still am very happy with him, even just talking to him makes me happy. i knw its normal but how do i explain it to him. he thinks that i just get sad thinking of him so why try to work things out and be together again. sorry to have to ask you again. (link)
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Hi,
okay, I have a better understanding of what's going on with your situation now.
Tell him that he is not the reason that you are sad and that he is taking things the wrong way.
I think you explained your feelings to me perfectly. I would suggest that you do the same thing with him. Tell him how happy he makes you and you are so happy that you are working it out. He will understand perfectly what you are trying to say and I'm sure that that will put his mind at ease and make him very happy.
Sometimes it's good to bounce your feelings off someone else before you tell it to another person like you did with me.
You had the right answer all along. Just be honest with him sweetie and tell him how you feel. Everything will work out. Long distance relationships are hard from the jump. All you have is trust and the honesty to rely on. I hope I helped.
Ask me a question anytime here or on my personal advice column.
Good luck,
Ediemarie
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my ex and i broke up but we have been talking now to work things out. but i do get sad thinking about him. i knw its normal but how do i explain it to him. he thinks that i just get sad thinking of him so why try to work things out and be together again. any help would be appreciated. (link)
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Hi,
I'm glad you reached out to talk to me. Any type of break up is hard. I think you first have to reevaluate why you broke up in the first place. Are those issues still there? Are you happy being apart. I think the most important question would be are you sad because you miss him and want to get back together or are you sad because of the way things ended?
What I mean by this is do you think he is a good person, but because of certain situations, things just couldn't work out between the two of you.
I think once you answer that question, you can better explain the situation to him.
If however you are sad because the two of you aren't together and you are just anxious to figure it out so that the two of you can get a fresh start, by all means tell him that and go for it! I
I didn't have all of the ins and outs to your situation, but I hope I helped you in some way.
Good luck to you and him,
Ediemarie
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18 years old.
i've been on birth control for about two years now. i'm on ortho tri cyclen lo. well i've never had problems with my period since i've been on this. i got my period when i was suppose to and i had no spotting inbetween. well just a couple days ago i had a little brown disharge on my underwear and i didn't think anything of it really and then it got worse and worse and it was like i had my period. but i just had it not even two weeks ago? it's like red, but not that heavy but still like i have to wear a tampon. this has been going on for three days or so now. i don't know why this would happen? i got really horny last weekend and i usually dont and i'm not sexually active but i highly doubt getting horny would cause this to happen. i haven't missed a day or anything. does anyone know why this would happen or any possible causes? i am clueless, it came out of the blue! thanks (link)
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Hi,
most likely this has something to do with the birth control that you are on. I don't know too much about tri cyclen, but most affect your hormones. Just because this condition hasn't happened to you before doesn't mean it can't. Your body is always changing. It can mean so many things. I would suggest going to your gynecologist and state what your situation is and let them guide you to an informed solution. I hope I helped.
Good luck,
Ediemarie
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How do you know if your cherry has been popped?
Im 14-F
Still a virgin
Uses tampons
Because my boyfriends fingered me before but i've never bled down there from it and its never really "hurted" at all. But anyways Im afraid now that i'm not sure if its been popped maybe from a tampon???
So yeah, how can you tell?
Thanks! (link)
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Hi,
there are many ways that your hymen can be ruptured. These can including as you suggested, using a tampon, hitting yourself on a boy's bike, doing splits, riding a horse and so forth.
It's quite possible that it has been ruptured if you have no pain and there is no blood; although that doesn't have to mean anything.
Each woman is different. If you want an expert opinion and feel comfortable, talk to your doctor. I hope I helped.
Good luck,
Ediemarie
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well... me and this close freind of mine whenever we hang out we get really close and this one time we were at a party and watching a movie in the dark and he was like trying to lift my shirt and was tracing the line of my shorts ( low rise shorts) and like almost unbuttoning my shorts and i feel really uncomfortble like i really like him but im not sure if i want to go that far and im not sure even if he wants to so im kinda confused and im really shy like about showing my body to any guys but hes the one i would feel most comfortable around if i had to... and another question is it a turn on or a turn off to have hair (down there ) haha please help =/ (link)
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Hi,
I think that if you have to ask yourself that question, you are clearly not ready to move on to the next step. Take some time and get to know him a little better on that level.
It's normal to feel shy about your body. Open up the lines of communication and tell him that although you like him a lot, you are not quite ready to go any further. If he cares about you, he'll understand.
I think that having hair down there is a personal choice. Try both ways out and see which one you prefer. I hope I helped.
Good luck,
Edidmarie
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Okay, well I'm a virgin. But i like to try and get as much pleasure as i can from my guy. And we were together tonight, and he fingered me reallyyy hard. and gave me oral. And we do it all the time, and everythings okay. But when i got home, i was really uncomortable. and i went to the bathroom and looked down. and my left vagina lip was sooo swollen. I'd say like three times bigger than normal. This never happened to me before, I don't know what it could be? And it burns when i go to the bathroom, its really uncomfortable, and rubs up against my leg and really hurts. Its gross, and embarassing. Can anyone tell me what it is? thank you! (link)
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Hi,
I wouldn't worry too much. I think he was too rough for you. If anything that someone does hurts, you should always say so. Sex, for the most part is supposed to be pleasurable at all times. It doesn't seem like that was your experience.
Tell and show him what you want.
Your urethra is not that far from your clitoris. He might have irritated it causing the pain when you urinate. If that doesn't go away, talk to your doctor. I hope I helped.
Good luck,
Ediemarie
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(f-18)
Lately i've had a cold which has been making me think that i may be pregnant, i doupt that i am. but i've been getting bloated and slight sickness feeling that have been hanging around me for a week but their not gust in the morning the'll last all day or come after i eat, is it gust a sort of flue? because now it's affecting my nose and throat.
also my monthely is due next week could it be PMS symptoms? because i have had tht once before.
Thanks for helping :) (link)
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Hi,
I don't think that you are pregnant. However, you didn't give a lot of information like did you miss a period, did you have unprotected sex? I wouldn't worry about it if none of those thing are true. The flu can make you feel pretty bad. I hope I helped.
Good luck,
Edidmarie
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So im 15/f. i had a great friend, and we started liking each other, we were bf and gf for like... 2 weeks. but we NEVER held hands, hugged, or kissed. we told each other we love each other, but only over texting.
So he goes to my school and stuff, and he's not in any of my classes. so we always called each other. so. yea. well anyways, i was thinking alot one day, and i figured i do love him, but more as a friend, than anything else. and i told him that. and he's like ok. and he said he would talk to me tomorrow, and we havent spoken since (thats like.....2-6 weeks... im not good at timeee.)
And i want to talk, but im thinking if he wanted to talk to me, he would have. we have a similar friend (who's my best friend, whos a guy, and is kinda my ex's friend) so anyways, he told me that my ex said he was sad, and that it was probably for the better.
But this guy just WONT talk to me! we run into each other in the hall and he just looks away.
i dont know. I hate knowing we could be great friends, and that we arent.
What should i do?!
Im sorry its a long question, and thank you for helping me! (link)
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Hi,
I commend you on knowing that a romantic relationship was not the right choice for the two of you. That was very mature. However, no one likes rejection. Although the two or you were very good friends, he wanted to take things further and the fact that you didn't is kind of embarrassing. You can understand that. He probably just has a hard time facing you right now. Give him some time to get over it. If he values your friendship which I'm sure he does, he'll come around. I hope I helped.
Good luck,
Ediemarie
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i'm a sophomore in high school and for my english class i have to write a short story about anything i want. it may sound easy but for me i'm not good at writing fiction stuff. the rough draft is due tomorrow but i really don't care as long as i have the final due. so i have MAJOR writers blocks..how do you writers out there get over it?
thanks a ton!! (link)
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Hi,
the best think you can do is clear your mind and just start writing. There are so many things going on in the world around us. Everywhere you turn, there is a story.
Choose something that is funny, sad, scary, anything that interests you and just expand on that. You could also think of something that you would like to happen. That might also help. Once you have a beginning and start writing, the rest should come naturally. I hope I helped.
Good luck,
Ediemarie
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Ok so i have been going out wit this guy for like almost 3 weeks. and we talk, he holds me and stuff like tht but we havent kissed NOT once. and our faces r always close to eachother but we just havent kissed i reallly want to cus i love him. but how can i make him kiss me??? (link)
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Hi,
I agree with the previous columnist. Sometimes guys can be a little shy. Just go for it. Pull him in and kiss him! Hope I helped
Good luck,
Ediemarie
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Well I talked to my gf and told her what I saw and how I feel about it and she told me that, she wasn't debating about who she wanted 2 be with nor was she thinking about who she would be better off with. She said that its just somethin she does, she said she does that with all the people she went with just to see what it sounds like but I don't believe that. What do you think?(18 and a male) (link)
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Hi again:)
I'm glad you took my advice and talked with her about your feelings. I'm with you on this one. That doesn't make sense to me. Who does that? I remember being younger and when I was really into someone, I would doodle like that and fantasize about what it would look like to have that person's last name. Young women do that all the time, but not with more that one person especially if they're not with that person anymore. I think she just got busted and she's trying to lye her way out of it. I could be wrong. You know her better than I do, but that's what it looks like to me. Go with your instincts on this one. If you feel something is going on, it usually is. I hope I helped again. Let me know how it works out.
Good luck,
Ediemarie
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he like beat me up, and my mom is mad at me cause its my fault according to her, and now she like hates me and told me she wishes she would have had an abortion instead of having me, and that she hates me and etc.
what do i do? (link)
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Hi,
I think that's awful. I really don't know what to say to that except it seems like your whole family needs some family counseling.
Your mother must be going through something for her to say that to you. I'm sure she probably doesn't mean that. She's probably frustrated with the situation. A lot of mothers say that when they are extremely angry. Have you tried to talk to her about how much she is hurting you? I hope I helped.
I wish you the best of luck,
Ediemarie
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