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I'm.. shallow?
17/f
I want to have attractive friends. Not all of them but.. I just do. What's with me? I want to have good looking friends that I can go out and have fun with. Friends that I can attract guys with, go shopping with, and take photos with. I don't know if I need some sense talked into me or if this is fine. I'm self confident and not afraid to be seen with the friends I have now but I'd just like a change. Please help. :)
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I haven't read what other people have posted, so I'm sorry if any of this has already been said!
It's COMPLETELY NORMAL for people to want attractive friends! It's usually because you want to be noticed, and it's so easy to attract attention when you have awesome friends! I know that when I see a group of pretty girls, I'll classify them in my mind as popular, and probably on the rich side, and they most likely have really great lives!! And since you're confident, I'm sure that you wouldn't have trouble making friends with 'attractive' people!
It may seem really important (if you can't tell, it was important to me for a while) I realized that you can have just as much fun (if not more!) with the friends you have now!
Hope I Helped!
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In a sense, you already understand that how you feel about this is shallow. We've all heard this a thousand times before, but really, it's what's on the inside that counts. Trust me, if you go out with any group of friends, whether they're "attractive" or not, you're probably going to attract guys one way or another. And your view or anyone else's view of what is considered attractive is entirely subjective; one man's beauty queen is another man's beast, and vice-versa.
I honestly feel that the best thing to do is to try getting these thoughts out of your mind and stick to those you admire and value the most. I do understand how you feel- lots of us want to be the one who attracts the men/guys. But to actively seek out attractive friends is not the best way to go about things.
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I think lots of people feel that way; although it is shallow. I also think it will acheive exactly the opposite of your goal.
If you want to attract guys, make sure you are in the top two lookers in the group. Lucille Ball had it in her I love lucy contract that "Ethel" had to remain 10 pounds heavier than lucille ball.
I think that that may be how you should do it.
Make sure the girls in your group are attractive , just not as attractive as you.
Also make sure they are heavier than you.
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Hi,
I don't think what you're feeling is too uncommon, but like you said, it is pretty shallow. Just because you're pretty on the outside doesn't mean you're pretty on the inside. When all of the pictures have been taken and the shopping has been done, do you have a genuine friend left on the inside.
More times than not, the pretty one is the one who is going to steal that man you're trying to attract. Think about it.
Good luck,
Ediemarie
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