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what does it mean if a boy flurts with me and a lot of other girls in my class but everyone thinks he likes a sirturn girl. (link)
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it means he is trolling for reactions, although he is likely doing it without much thought. he just knows that flirting gets girls to smile at him, which is always a nice thing. at the very least, his flurting with you means he feels a certain comfort level in talking to you. what that means and where things go from there is up to you.
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I have just recently discovered I have sexonmia, or sleep sex if you'd rather... It is so embarrassing to wake up on top of my boyfriend and the expression on his face is of pure curiosity, amazement and passion.
I feel weird that he doesn't wake me up. Also, I really hate waking up in the middle of sex.
Is there anything I can do/take to stop this??
17/F (link)
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the male perspective: you are embarassed? are you kidding me? you are every boy's fantasy come true!
you have nothing to be embarassed about. and no, your b/f is not going to wake you up, if for no other reason than the chance that it will freak you out (remember the old adage about not waking sleepwalkers?)
i agree with the geek's advice to seek out medical help if you really think this is a problem. However, you are only 17, this cannot have been going on that long and is likely just a temporary happenstance. trust me, by the time you have been married for a year, you won't be doing this.....
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this is going to be long lol
ok so i like this guy
he lives like 200 miles away though
i know him because he is my frends best frend (this frend likes me btw) and he comes down here to visit his dad every couple weeks so i get to hang out with him
for a while i got the vibe that he liked me a little or at least was interested in getting to know me and i got kinda excited cuz he's gorgeous and funny and not many guys like that like me
so i was really excited wen he came down over xmas break because his frend wasnt gunna be here so it wud just be me and him
but we only hung out once and after that it seemed like he was avoiding me because wen i treid to talk to him on im he wouldnt talk back and he kept making excuses about why he couldnt hang out with me
it totally broke my heart but im over it now
i just want to know what i did or what happend....i know hes popular and probably knows a lot of prettier and cooler girls but why would he avoid me like that? i know it cant be that he was creeped out because i never let a guy know i like him wen i do...ah im just so confused
i dont even like him anymore it just bothers me because i dont want him to have misunderstood something or hate me (link)
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the male perspective: huh?
I can guarantee you that this guy has not spent one tenth of the time it took you to write your note thinking deeply about the same events you describe. Actually, we boys are not complicated, which seems to be the most confusing things to girls. There are a million potential reasons for why he was quiet with you and why he could not hang out, most of which have nothing to do with you.
Try not to over-analyze every little aspect of things, it is totally wasted energy. If you want to pursue the guy, call him or tell your friend you want him to call. Then the key to success: RELAX and BE YOURSELF without any of the mind-wrenching, anxiety-inducing emotional contortions.
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My man says if I love him I will give him head, what should I do (link)
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a view from the male side: give him head and he will love you forever.......(yeah, right, lol).
Guys will say, do, promise ANYTHING to get head. It's the testosterone clouding our brains.
Stooping to this tired old line is an indication that you two have a problem in your relationship you need to talk out. This is the male way of asking "where is this relationship going?". If you are married and mismatched sexually, this is going to be an ongoing issue that you need to address. If you are just dating, then you need to agree on expectations.
When kids are around 4-5 years old they often say something like "if you give me your candy i will be your friend". This is about the emotional maturity of "your man".
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I'm 15 and female...Ok, so out of all the guys I've met at my school, almost ALL are perverted. There are about 2 that i've met that are actually decent (atleast around me) and 1 has recently changed that virtue. I'm tired of it and I dont want to hear about who got laid last night, or who wants to get laid, or who did what in a school bathroom!!!! are ALL GUYS LIKE THIS??? or is it just a phase right now? (link)
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a male perspective: what you are experiencing is the different way males and females communicate, especially at this age, and especially with respect to relationships.
The bottom line: 15 year-old females typically take relationships and discussions about sex much more seriously than 15 year-old males.
Girls by this point typically have had years of discussions about boys, attracting boys, relationships, social etiquette, etc.
Boys at this point have typically not had any serious discussion about girls and are pretty clueless. Conversational dynamics among boys are primarily about who can make the funniest or most outrageous statement to spark a collective laugh. Sex is the perfect subejct because: 1) you can make a sexual comment about just about anything; and 2) you can evoke a reaction. the more outrageous the statement, the better. Few if any of these comments have any emotional content or deep thought behind them. strange as it may seem, if a guy can get a girl to react by going "ewww! gross!", he often thinks it was a successful comment because he got your attention.
The best approach: lighten up. What you are feeling is exactly what guys feel when they see girls giggling amongst themselves. You can choose to let it bother you, or just let it go. Your reaction is the only thing under your control.
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so im a 19/f and i was talking to this guy. it all started at school one day in the lunch line. after that i added him on faceboook. and we didn't really talk til he messaged me and asked me about my name. well we were talking & then he asked me for my number but i didn't give it to him because i didn't really know him that well. well we started talking more & then i finally gave my number to him. & we started talking on the phone and texting. but our conversations always seemed to be about sex. like how many times he masturbated, & we had phone sex. after that he blocked me on facebook & stopped texting/caling me. and then last night he texted me randomly & i didn't know who it was. he said no one, but i told him to tell me who he was and then said who didn't want to tell me because he thought i would get mad, but i wasn't. then he started telling me how he got nervous to be in a relationship with me so thats why he ignored me. & then he told me it was because he onl wanted to have sex with me. he told me how sorry he was etc. and i asked him if he still wanted to be with me & he told me he wasn't sure. and i told him that im not going to pressure him to be with me. he said he felt bad for just talking to me about sex & then ignoring me all these months. & i told him that i thought he was sweet but im not sure if talking to him still is a good idea. help? (link)
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A 19 year-old male is obsessed with sex and this surprises you? 8)
Seriously, males at 19 are nowhere nearly into the emotional side of relationships as females. however, if sex is the only thing that a guy is after, then looking for more than that out of him is a waste of time.
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This is going to be the first anniversary of the death of my best friend. I know, it is really sad and I should be down about it, but I am having a really hard time dealing with this. His death was very unexpected and there was no time to say goodbye or anything like that so sometimes I feel like he is still here.
I know I'm not the only person to ever deal with this so does anybody else have some motivational quotes to help me get through this quotes about losing a loved one especially quotes having to do with the anniversary of the death?
I really appreciate anything you can come up with and you can be sure I will rate each and every one of you. Thank you. (link)
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First of all, don't "should on yourself". Whatever you are feeling is real and valid.
Death anniversaries are known to be potentially difficult times for survivors, especially the first one.
There are a lot of grief support websites. For example: http://www.counselingforloss.com/
There are grief support groups that can help in many ways. Mayo Clinic has a place to start:
http://www.mayoclinic.org/support-groups/
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so i just recently lost my virginity, and i dont feel anything. I didnt like it or dislike it. It just felt like a casual thing. I'm not in a relationship with this guy. I've barely seen him, but we have talked for a long time. I dont feel any regret or sadness or anger.. i dont feel anything.
Is this good or bad? And why do i feel like this? (link)
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Typically the emotional relationship between the people involved will mirror emotions surrounding sex. The physical aspect of the act can vary of course, but if you have no real emotional attachment to the guy, having sex will not magically create one. It seems like you are ambivalent about your relationship, so it makes sense that your opinion of the sex is also ambivalent.
In short, no worries, smile.
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Okay so I am a 23-year-old female who has never had a guy go down on her. It isn't that there haven't been offers, I guess the thought just terrifies me!
I have all the usual fears that girls have about these things, you know like smells and tastes... things like that. I am about to get married to a man who says he wants to go down on me, but I am more terrified of that than I am of getting married!
Should I just relax and let it happen? Is it everything that they say it is? (link)
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Since the three other answers were from females, i thought you might appreciate a male's perspective.
Simple answer: relax, enjoy, this is for you.
Longer answer: in going down on a woman, a guy is just as nervous as you, and with more reason. first, he is THRILLED to be down there so he is all excited. Second, his job/goal is to please you, so the pressure is on, because each woman is different as to her likes and dislikes. Third, most guys are pretty clueless about the female anatomy, think the clit is a push button, and so fear of messing up is an issue. Finally, at this point his testosterone-loaded brain will be going "WOOHOO!" so any minor unique smells, tastes, looks, textures you might have are just awesome to him. So relax, lie back and enjoy, he has the hard part to do.
TIP: you want to make the experience even more awesome? Tell him clearly whenever something feels good or not so good. guys are not subtle in their communication. if you squirm because somethng hurts, he might think you like it, so talk to him as he explores your playplace, smile.
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