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are ALL GUYS LIKE THIS?
I'm 15 and female...Ok, so out of all the guys I've met at my school, almost ALL are perverted. There are about 2 that i've met that are actually decent (atleast around me) and 1 has recently changed that virtue. I'm tired of it and I dont want to hear about who got laid last night, or who wants to get laid, or who did what in a school bathroom!!!! are ALL GUYS LIKE THIS??? or is it just a phase right now?
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a male perspective: what you are experiencing is the different way males and females communicate, especially at this age, and especially with respect to relationships.
The bottom line: 15 year-old females typically take relationships and discussions about sex much more seriously than 15 year-old males.
Girls by this point typically have had years of discussions about boys, attracting boys, relationships, social etiquette, etc.
Boys at this point have typically not had any serious discussion about girls and are pretty clueless. Conversational dynamics among boys are primarily about who can make the funniest or most outrageous statement to spark a collective laugh. Sex is the perfect subejct because: 1) you can make a sexual comment about just about anything; and 2) you can evoke a reaction. the more outrageous the statement, the better. Few if any of these comments have any emotional content or deep thought behind them. strange as it may seem, if a guy can get a girl to react by going "ewww! gross!", he often thinks it was a successful comment because he got your attention.
The best approach: lighten up. What you are feeling is exactly what guys feel when they see girls giggling amongst themselves. You can choose to let it bother you, or just let it go. Your reaction is the only thing under your control.
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In some ways, yeah, it's a phase. As they get older, they'll grow out of it a little or at least learn to hide it better. Some will grow up, some won't.
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all guys think and talk about sex -- always. so no, that part is not a phase. however, the way they talk about it is a phase. as they get older they'll actually start to care about these girls or one girl and they'll be more mature about what they say and how they say it, simply out of respect, but that will take time. some guys though, will stay perverted forever. stay away from them :)
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