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boys are so complicated....
this is going to be long lol
ok so i like this guy
he lives like 200 miles away though
i know him because he is my frends best frend (this frend likes me btw) and he comes down here to visit his dad every couple weeks so i get to hang out with him
for a while i got the vibe that he liked me a little or at least was interested in getting to know me and i got kinda excited cuz he's gorgeous and funny and not many guys like that like me
so i was really excited wen he came down over xmas break because his frend wasnt gunna be here so it wud just be me and him
but we only hung out once and after that it seemed like he was avoiding me because wen i treid to talk to him on im he wouldnt talk back and he kept making excuses about why he couldnt hang out with me
it totally broke my heart but im over it now
i just want to know what i did or what happend....i know hes popular and probably knows a lot of prettier and cooler girls but why would he avoid me like that? i know it cant be that he was creeped out because i never let a guy know i like him wen i do...ah im just so confused
i dont even like him anymore it just bothers me because i dont want him to have misunderstood something or hate me
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the male perspective: huh?
I can guarantee you that this guy has not spent one tenth of the time it took you to write your note thinking deeply about the same events you describe. Actually, we boys are not complicated, which seems to be the most confusing things to girls. There are a million potential reasons for why he was quiet with you and why he could not hang out, most of which have nothing to do with you.
Try not to over-analyze every little aspect of things, it is totally wasted energy. If you want to pursue the guy, call him or tell your friend you want him to call. Then the key to success: RELAX and BE YOURSELF without any of the mind-wrenching, anxiety-inducing emotional contortions.
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He's a boy. Sometimes boys change their minds. As you grow older you're going to find that sometimes guys give you all the right signals and then back off at the last minute for some reason. It just happens. And guess what? You'll change your mind like that too as you grow and change. Try not to think of it as having anything to do with you. You liked him, so I understand that it hurt you, but if you take a step back and look at it without emotion maybe you can understand that he's just a young guy who just changed his mind. It was all him, not you. I'm willing to bet you didn't do or say anything that turned him off. Can you think of a time you thought you liked someone then changed your mind? Its probably just like that. Don't beat yourself up. This is just one of those things. Back off this one and just chalk it up to a lesson learned. And give yourself a break! I'm sure you're a wonderful girl and you're going to find someone awesome who likes you as much as you like them.
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