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Do you usually use pads or tampons? Do you know any brands that work good? (link)
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Hello! Here's the introduction: 17 (almost 18)/female and my boyfriend is the same... except male...
So, we have a real problem. With lots of little problems interspersed. My boyfriend and I have been together for just under a year and we believe we truly are in love. We have a very stable relationship and have tons of fun. However, as it is being in most relationships, we want to have sex. We've had sex twice before and it was AMAZING! Better than either of us expected, lol... but now... Now we can never ever seem to find the time/privacy to do it. There are so many problems that prevent us from doing it!
1. My parents work from home so they're basically ALWAYS home.
2. His parents don't trust us to be in a room alone when they're in the house, much less when they're gone.
3. He has a 4 little brothers that follow us around everywhere. I adore them... but they never leave us alone!
4. I drive, but I don't have a car and my boyfriend doesn't drive because of an accident he had when he was 15.
See?! Everything that could prevent us is put into play. It's so messed up. The two times we had sex were under fluke circumstances that probably can never be created again. What do we do? I don't think we can wait til we're in college because that's still about 6 months away... (link)
Well the only solution I can think of is get a bus to a hotel and say your going to your friends you could do it someone remote if you can't find a hotel or just do it in the toilet of a shoppingcentre


I was married back last June to my wonderful husband. We dated for a couple of years and everything was just like the perfect fairytales you hear about. I know fairytales aren't true though...

My problem is that I have no sexual desire or drive. I don't really care if we have sex or not. I'm fulfilled in all ways without sexual interaction. I don't "get horny" and I've never had ANY desire to even masturbate. We've had sex before but it's not pleasurable for me at all (it isn't painful or anyting either).

My husband is concerned as to why we never have sex. We've been married all of this time and we've had sex just a handful of times (maybe 4 times total). I know that he desires sex and I want him to be fulfilled but it's strange for me.

How do I tell my husband that I don't have sexual feelings? I need to explain to him that the reason I'm never turned-on is because I simply don't GET turned-on by anything at all, ever. He deserves to know why I never desire sex with him, I understand, but I don't know how to tell him this without sounding like a freak. It really isn't him at all, it's me.

We've had a few slight arguments about sex recently because of my disinterest. Since I never think of it, I cannot predict when he might be interested in it. It isn't that I'm not attracted to him either...I think he's a wonderful man inside and out. I just...don't care about sex? I don't want it, really? Should I see a doctor about this because surely it isn't normal, right? Help? (link)
Well if you have no desire to have sex then just tell him straight.However you should have some sort of sex drive.Try watching some movies on sex to turn yourself omypu can watch clips for free on the Internet


Is sex during pregnancy safe or not? Should we have sex during pregnancy or not?
I'm pregnant for the first time and I'm concerned about the effects of having sex while pregnant. What is safe and what isn't? Will it hurt my baby if I have sex with my partner? Will I lose my baby if we have sex? (link)
Sex is completly safe during pregnancy.Some people may find or comfortable though.


Well, being honest, I am 16 years old/M my girlfriend is 17/Fm. Any who we've have sex twice now both our first times. The first time we had sex she skipped her period for over month, This time shes late, or at least I think she is. Shes getting a "very light period" so she says, I'm curious if she may be pregnant being as though it took so long for her period to start. I'm not really worried at all, but she is, (She was also worried the first time we had sex.) (Yes we use condoms) But anyway she is like I said earlier getting a light period and I think that means shes not pregnant. She also says, its never been this light before? Help me out so I can put her at ease please? :( Its been around 16 days since sex, and her period skips around a lot. (link)
This doesn't seem like she is pregnent.Her periods could still be changing since she will still be going through puberty.If you used a condom she deffently shouldn't be pregnant unless the condom split.Check the after use in the future.


I'm curious. When a man pulls out, where does he cum? For example, do you have a towel ready or does he cum on you? thank you! (link)
Usually around your viginia and if your into blowjobs he may pit it into your mouth when he's nearly ready to come but it's generally around your viginia.


So I am ready to begin a relationship with a new boy after getting out of a bad relationship. What was so bad about it? Well, I am a virgin. The boy I was dating said he was a virgin. The six girls he has had sex with say otherwise. :-(

So let me ask you this: how do you tell if a guy is a virgin? I mean for real is there some kind of test? I don't intend to give my virginity to somebody who's going to load me up with a bunch of STDs so I am waiting till marriage. I guess your wedding night would be a really bad time to find out that your husband isn't a virgin and lied to you the whole time you have been together.

I know some of you are probably thinking that I just need to trust that the guy is a virgin because he says so, and you are right, but I trusted this last guy... Imagine my surprise when a cell phone video of him having sex with two girls at the same time showed up on just about everybody's phone at school including mine.

All serious answers will receive a rating. I promise. (link)
Well there is no definate way to tell if a boy is a virgin sometimes the hymen which is a skin will come of during intercourse but there are other ways for this to open.You can tell by the way he approaches having sex.If your just worried about getting diseases you can always use a condom.


so i just recently lost my virginity, and i dont feel anything. I didnt like it or dislike it. It just felt like a casual thing. I'm not in a relationship with this guy. I've barely seen him, but we have talked for a long time. I dont feel any regret or sadness or anger.. i dont feel anything.
Is this good or bad? And why do i feel like this? (link)
It may seem strange that you've got nothing from loosing your virginity since some people feel it should be with someone you really like however that's not the case with everyone and later in life youmay find someone that feels like love when you have sex but untill then have fun experimenting




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